Keeleigh R

05 July 2011

Story written 2011

Keeleigh was diagnosed at age 2 with kidney and liver disease. We were told that she would need a combined kidney and liver transplant by the time that she reached age 8. She shocked all the specialists and continued to do really well. We have now reached the point, age 12, where she needs her combined kidney/liver transplant. She is on the transplant list and we are just hoping that the call comes soon.

Keeleigh is a very strong willed person and always has the attitude of not letting her illness beat her. She is fully aware of what is happening and what is going to happen and still all she says is ‘Mummy, I’m going to get through this as I love you, Daddy and Klaiton so much, I don’t want to see you all worry anymore and when I’m better I’m going to be the best daughter and big sister in the world.’

I know my little girl is a fighter and she will beat this. Her kidneys are only functioning at 16% now and yet she still hasn’t started dialysis. Fingers crossed her transplant comes before she needs to start dialysis.

Update 2nd December 2015

Keeleigh had an appointment yesterday at Birmingham children’s hospital, they are pleased with her, but her liver bloods have risen to double the normal level, we are now waiting for a call back to see what happens next. She’s really down about it, its 1 year since she had liver rejection, so we’re all quite scared. Her brother Klaiton is doing ok, full of cold and off school but hopefully he’ll be back on track next week. I will let you know what Birmingham decide.

Update 15th October 2015

No changes, Keeleigh has been very tired lately as her medication has changed, we are Back to Birmingham  on Dec 1, for bloods and check up, will update when we’ve been.
Many thanks to you all for your continued support.

Update 15th July 2015

Keeleigh was at Birmingham children’s hospital on Tuesday. We’re waiting on blood results now and they want her to have a 24 hour blood pressure monitor, as her blood pressure is trending a little high.

We travel to Newcastle in 2 week’s time for the transplant games which she’s really looking forward to.

Update 11th June 2015

Keeleigh is struggling a little at the moment, as she’s having pain and has now been constantly bleeding for 11 weeks. They’ve just started her on another new medicine to try and stop it and fingers crossed it works. She’s back at Birmingham in July and I will let you know how we get on with the new medicine.

Klaiton has been suffering badly with his asthma recently and we also found out he is allergic to tea tree and eucalyptus.

Update 1st May 2015

We have had a phone call to let us know that Keeleigh’s repeated bloods show an improvement in kidney function, but no change in liver. We’re now waiting to see what they want to do next, as some liver bloods went up, some down, and one stayed the same.

Thank you for all Keeleigh and Klaiton’s post, and for Klaiton’s birthday cards.

Update 16th April 2015

Keeleigh went to Birmingham children’s on Tuesday for clinic. Her liver bloods and kidney bloods have come back quite high and they want to re do them next Friday. If there’s no improvement then they want to do an ultrasound to see what’s going on.

Update 10th November 2014

Keeleigh is being discharged tomorrow. The doctors confirmed it was liver rejection and we’re not in the clear yet, but she’s a lot better. They’ve altered her meds and bloods are heading in the right direction. She’s got bloods again in a week to keep a close eye on things.

Update 7th November 2014

Keeleigh is back in Birmingham children’s hospital and she had a biopsy today. She has some liver rejection and they have started her on a 3 day course of iv steroids. They will review on Monday and if needed she will have another 3 day course.

Update 6th November 2014

We’re now on our way to Birmingham and they’re operating tomorrow.

Update 5th November 2014

Keeleigh’s liver function has deteriorated further and we’re now waiting for a call from Birmingham children’s to admit her when they have a bed on the liver unit. They’re going to do biopsies then hopefully treat whatever is going wrong. We don’t know how long she’ll be in yet and she’s very down at the moment.

Update 24th October 2014

Keeleigh’s bloods have come back, her kidney is doing fine but her liver bloods are abnormal. They are majorly high and they want repeat bloods done on Thursday. If there’s no improvement they will admit her to Birmingham for biopsy, so fingers crossed they improve by Thursday. She’s very scared and feeling down about it.

Update 21st October 2014

Keeleigh hasn’t been too well and she’s still not back in school. We were at Birmingham children’s hospital today and everything seems to be going ok, but she’s bleeding a little heavy so we have to do a seven day blood pressure observation and wait for blood results.

Klaiton is going through a rough time too as he’s just been diagnosed with scoliosis.

Update 27th August 2014

Keeleigh’s doing ok at the moment. She went to the transplant games in Bolton and brought back a gold, silver and 2 bronze!

They are still sorting out her starting medical tuition at the moment as the doctor says she’s not fit enough to attend mainstream school. Fingers crossed she’ll be back in education very soon.

Update 31st July 2014

Keeleigh’s appointment went quite well. We’re still waiting for blood results and will hopefully get them in the next few days.

Klaiton isn’t having a good time at the moment as he’s had another bad fall and has an open fracture of his knee. They’ve put him on antibiotics for the infection risk and the x-ray shows evidence of blood around the joint, so we have to go to fracture clinic on Tuesday to see what they’re going to do. He’s in a wheelchair and has a rigid splint on it. What a start to the school holidays!

Update 21st July 2014

Keeleigh is still very down. We are back at Birmingham children’s hospital on 23rd July and are hoping they might be able to help. She is not in school anymore and they are sorting out medical tuition for September with support.

Klaiton has also been unwell. They’re worrying about his joints a lot and he is waiting for splints and special boots.

Update 1st May 2014

Keeleigh has had a rough few days and couldn’t keep anything down, but she’s managed to have a few biscuits today. The doctors are happy for her not to be admitted as long as she keeps improving. I have to check her blood pressure and temperature twice a day for the next week.

Keeleigh has also been worried as her dad was in hospital but has now been discharged and must rest. He has broken 3 ribs and dislodged cartilage behind the ribs.

Update 11th April 2014

Keeleigh is still bleeding badly and they’ve started her on a new drug. They think she’s got some bowel involvement now so she’s having ongoing tests to see what’s wrong. She’s having a lot of anxiety and panic attacks, but her bloods are fairly stable and being re checked next week.

Update 5th February 2014

Keeleigh is having a really having a rough time at the moment. They’ve now found a problem with her bowel and she’s having panic attacks with depression. We’re waiting on more tests and she has been started on 2 new meds.

Update 2nd December 2013

Keeleigh’s bloods weren’t too good so we had them done again on Friday and are waiting for results. She’s been a little up and down the last week and we are back to Birmingham children’s hospital next Tuesday (10th), liver clinic on the 11th, and kidney clinic on the 12th. Fingers crossed bloods will be a bit better by then.

Update 11th November 2013

Keeleigh is struggling emotionally to come to terms with her transplant and what she has been through the past few years. Post seems to be the one thing that makes her smile.

She hasn’t been feeling very well for the past couple of weeks and her bloods are a bit low but ok. Klaiton is having tests to see if he has Juvenile Arthritis.

Thank you to everyone who has sent cards and letters, Keeleigh loves them and thank you to everyone who sent Halloween things. Thank you for all your support.

Update 23rd December 2012

Keeleigh is doing really well at the moment. She is now 12 months post transplant and has just had biopsies and scans done which we are awaiting results of. She has at last started to grow a little too.

We have had numerous ups and downs over the last 12 months. She had her stent removed earlier in the year and this caused a few problems as it was left in situ a little too long and had embedded itself into the kidney. She picked up an infection from this and it resulted in a hospital stay. She (once again) ended up in hospital two weeks ago for a urine infection and had iv antibiotics, then she then was admitted to Birmingham children’s hospital for her biopsy etc. I will update you when we have had the results of the biopsy.

She has recently started at a new school as she was being bullied for being ”different” but thankfully she loves the new school and is getting on really well.

We have had bloods go funny too over the 12 months, but thankfully with a bit of adjustment on meds they have sorted themselves out.

We have also had Klaiton quite poorly and the doctors have discovered that he is highly allergic to eggs. He ended up having an anaphylactic shock after having the flu jab. He is struggling to walk now too as the arches of his feet are collapsing.

Thank you for your continued support and we all wish you a wonderful Christmas and New Year.

Update 21st February 2012

Keeleigh went to theatre today and all went well. She’s back on the ward eating and drinking. She did have a bit of a wobble but is fine now and hoping to be home in the next few days if the bloods and scan is better tomorrow.

Update 19th February 2012

Keeleigh is back in hospital; the stent that was fitted during transplant has slipped and is causing some swelling inside the kidney. She has also picked up an infection and so she is going to theatre tomorrow to have the stent removed and they are hoping this will improve the kidney function. The infection is slowly working itself out and they hope to see her white blood cells improve over the next few days as they are very low. If they don’t see any improvements in the next few days they will be transferring her back to Birmingham. She is feeling very down at the moment and fed up as she is on strict isolation due to infection risk.

Update December 2011

Keeleigh has had her transplant! She is now back home but the recovery is a long road.

Update 16th May 2011

Keeleigh has been back to the hospital today and we have been told that she will go live on the transplant list for kidney/liver today. They hope that we won’t be waiting too long (they say around 12 weeks is the average). I will keep you all updated and thank you for her cards that have been making her smile.

Update 12th May 2011

Keeleigh went to the hospital again yesterday, she had bloods done and her kidney function has deteriorated further. She is going to Birmingham children’s hospital on Monday so hopefully there will be no further decline. Keeleigh was also taken to hospital this afternoon after having a nasty fall. They are unsure if she has broken her nose as she has a black eye and a lot of bruising to her forehead and cheek bone. They said they can’t tell if she’s broken it until the swelling goes down. She is feeling very down now as they have advised me to keep her off school.

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Kerry F

05 July 2011

Story written 2008

Kerry was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumour in august 2007. She had to have an operation which lasted 12 hours. Unfortunately she ended up with a condition called poste fossa which only happens to 8% of children who have tumour removed. She also has a shunt in which helps to drain the fluid as she had a large pressure build up as a result of the tumour. She is now in a wheelchair which she finds frustrating because her sisters are running around outside with their friends but she still manages to smile.

She has such determination. So far she has had 3 months of chemo, followed by 6 weeks of radiotherapy, and now she is on more chemo until July. She was in hospital for 6 months following her operation and made friends with many of the nurses.

Kerry has to have regular MRI scans but at the moment she is in remission. She will need a lot of rehabilitation to help to regain some of her abilities. She has not been to school since July 2007.

Please include your address when you write as Kerry would like to reply when possible.

Update 29th March 2013

Kerry is now moving on from Post Pals. Thank you for sending Kerry and her sisters post over the years and we wish her well.

Update 9th February 2012

It has been a poorly time in our household with chest infections/colds going round and it’s the second time Kerry’s sisters have also been hit badly this year with it. They have been at home off school for 3 weeks now and are getting bored so cards or letters to the girls would be great! I (mum) have now got a chest infection as well as we all suffer from asthma. I can’t understand it because it was colder last year and we weren’t as ill!

The cards and letters still mean as much to the girls as they did when we first signed up to Post Pals. When the post hits the mat, the girls all still charge to the door, so thank you.

Update 7th August 2011

Kerry is good at present. She is still staying strong on her walker and hates the wheelchair and will only sit in it at meal times. She does get tired on her walker but this does not stop her. She remembers being able to walk and run and wants to again.

We tried to take her out in the wheelchair one day so she could see more, but she was unhappy the whole time so I don’t think I am going to try that again for a while. We’re very limited to what we can do with the walker though as a family because Kerry tires easily. Her sisters get frustrated not been able to go far or do things other families can do.

Update March 2011

Kerry has to start growth hormones and steroid medication long term. She also has surgery on her spine in May which I fear.

We are going to have a special Easter together. Thank you for the nice journal Kerry recently received too.

Update 17th January 2011

Sorry I have not updated as I have been ill myself recently.

Just to let you know that Kerry is good. She has gone back to school after having a cold.

Unfortunately she needs more surgery on her spine in May/June time.

Thanks for the cards and gifts before Christmas, especially the Sylvanian families, ballet mosaic, cats paint by numbers, light and a few others.

Update 28th November 2010

Kerry is doing well at moment but gets tired easily.

She has great news though – she is going to be Mary in the nativity play at school.

Update 1st October 2010

Kerry is good at the moment. We are still having some reflux issues though which is unpleasant for her.

Thanks for lovely red dog, bracelets and lovely gift box we received recently that had lots of little gifts that the girls shared amongst the 3 of them. Kerry’s sisters are enjoying having pen pals too.

Update 4th July 2010

Kerry is good at present and looking forward to doing her play at school which is Charlie and the chocolate factory.

There is no need for a lumbar puncture at the moment as Kerry is currently stronger on the walker.

We are going to a 4th July celebration today – it’s a street party so the girls are busy baking cupcakes.

Thank you for necklace with starfish this month and thank you for lovely fairy set. Kerry’s sister really liked this as well.

Update 1st June 2010

Kerry’s arm and leg have deteriorated recently which means she does not get on her practice walker as much. She has also been very tired. So far the doctors have done a scan but cannot see anything different on there. We are monitoring the situation before the doctors do any more tests. Sometimes with the body been so complicated they cannot always get the answers. They may do a lumbar puncture on the spine to see why motor skills are not so effective. We are hoping it is a blip and she will come through in time. Since Kerry has not been as strong on her walker, she has been very low about being in a wheelchair and wants to walk again like she used to. She still remembers being able to walk and run. Kerry would like some more friends to come to her house because she misses her old friends from school.

I have updated the girls’ interests (see info box above) and Kerry is sitting with me now and insists that I write ‘walking’ for interests.

Update June 2010

Kerry has rejoined Post Pals.

Update 24th October 2009

Kerry had a 14 hour spinal fusion operation and is now recovering. Once again she has been very brave indeed – braver than mum would have been. She now has to do head exercises everyday to help and strengthen her neck muscles. It is just another part of Kerry’s journey.

Update 28th September 2009

Kerry is going in to hospital for major spinal surgery this week. Lots of prayers are needed this week and cards would be appreciated.

Update 27th July 2009

Kerry is well at the moment and looking forward to going to special school in September that mum and dad have fought for for over a year. Hopefully she will get a chance to do hydrotherapy, which she has talked about for a long time, because she used to love swimming before this happened to her, but unfortunately she cannot go into normal pools because it is to cold for her circulation.

On the down side, Kerry now has a kink in the top of her spine (may be a result of radiation damage) that is going to need major surgery in the future, otherwise she will be unable to keep her neck up and she will lose quality of life. We are going to Great Ormond Street in September to see a consultant regarding this latest problem.

I’m sorry i have not updated but we have been up to our eyes in a tribunal for special school which has now finished. The letters and cards still mean a lot to Kerry.

Update 5th April 2009

Kerry has returned part time to her mainstream school she attended before her operation. She is finding the pace and the setting too difficult so mum and dad are working hard to get her into a special school so she can gain all the therapies she needs. So far we have not achieved this because LEA are making it as difficult as possible.

We all continue to try and get her to Tadworth because her consultant feels this is the way ahead but we are still being turned down for that by the PCT. Unfortunately, there may also be another operation on the horizon (on her neck) due to a thickening.

On the positive side, she likes to go on her practice walker and still has a sense of humour despite all she has been through.

Sorry Kerry does not get much time to reply to letters but she still loves to receive them and Post Pals is still a very big part of her life. Thank you for the birthday gifts the girls received too.

Unfortunately, Kerry has not kept any of her friends since she became ill and does not have a chance to meet children like herself because she is not at a special school and there is nothing for her in the community where she lives.

Update 1st November 2008

Kerry has now had some complications with thyroid as a result of radiation treatment. This is making her very tired. She has also been sicker since been on the mediation prescribed. She is hoping to go to school for 2 hours for a couple of mornings but at the moment I do not know how she is going to cope with this.

Kerry is now becoming much more aware of what has happened to her – and is getting more upset about not been able to go upstairs with her sisters to play. She is beginning to miss the freedom she once had when she was able-bodied and gets down about it sometimes. She is also aware that she forgets things sometimes and that she is unable to write as well as she used to.

Kerry needs a lot of cheering up at the moment, so lots of cards would be appreciated at present. Post Pals is such a big part of Kerry’s life now – she has a special box where she keeps all the letters and cards she has been sent.

I hope as a mum that Kerry becomes stronger one day because some days I feel heart broken seeing her sitting in the chair compared to what she used to be like. She used to have so much love and energy for life. She is worried about going back to school because she feels the children will not treat her the same.

I also feel disappointed she was turned down by the PCT for the Tadworth Trust because I feel it would have helped her so much.

Update 31st August 2008

Kerry finished her chemo last month, but unfortunately we were not able to get to Disneyland Paris because Kerry became neutropenic again and is still very tired. We did not feel she would enjoy the trip when she was so tired. However, she did have a ride out one day on her trike which she enjoyed, but we have not had many sunny days to get out as much as we would have liked over the summer. Her sisters are back to on school on Tuesday.

We have another scan in the middle of September, so wish us luck.

Kerry is currently learning to write again. She is my little star. Thank you for Kerry’s post, receiving letters gives Kerry a lot of joy.

Update 31st July 2008

Kerry has been in hospital several times this month with a temperature. Her chemo was delayed by a week due to this, but last Saturday Kerry had her last chemo session (26th July 2008) which is the end of her treatment. Her scan showed some thickening near the brain lining where she had her operation and she still needs a lot of physio to try and build her muscles up.

At the moment she is happy and well and as a family those are the times we look forward to when she is her cheeky self and full of mischief.

We are going to try and get to Disney in Paris in September as we have never been before and the girls have always wanted to go.

Thank you for all cards and letters this month. They really bring joy into Kerry’s life. Are there any sisters out there who would like to write to Kerry’s sisters? Sometimes they feel left out when Kerry receives mail. Thank you for the lovely painting set, dr who set, and lots of lovely stickers and snick snacks.

I think Post Pals is a lovely idea and we have had some lovely letters during some very difficult times.

Update 1st June 2008

A big thank you to Jane for her nice letter about her poodles and to Laura H for the cuddly dog that actually barks – Kerry loves it.

Kerry had chemo on Monday and Friday last week, and may need blood transfusions on Saturday as she is now low on counts. So at present she is tired but still manages to smile and have a laugh. She is currently waiting for an MRI scan that is due.

Kerry loves opening her post; it brings joy to her life when she has been through so much. She often talks about walking and asks what it feels like to stand up. She used to love her ballet classes before her operation.

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Xander G

04 July 2011

Story written 2010

Xander was diagnosed with X-linked agammaglobulinaemia (XLA) at 18 months old.

He had always been sick as a baby and always had a cough and cold. When he was just over 12 months old, Xander got cellulitis in his hand which travelled up his arm and into his blood stream within 24 hours. He was given antibiotics which didn’t work so had to be admitted to hospital for IV antibiotics.

He was only out of hospital for a short while when he became very sick one night, so we took him to A+E where they found he was neutropenic. They transferred him by ambulance to a specialist hospital where they did a bone marrow test, but the doctors still didn’t know why he was so ill.

Xander then had 6 weeks worth of blood tests and was finally diagnosed with XLA. Since diagnosis, Xander has had an abscess on his neck that he had to have surgery on twice, and the cause of this was a flesh eating bug called necrotising lymphadenitis.

Xander has to have blood plasma twice a week which is infused into his leg and the amount will get more with age. It takes 3 hours each time to infuse the blood plasma. He will have to have this medicine for the rest of his life as Xander’s condition is not only life threatening but incurable. He has to have a lot of antibiotics too, some long term. We also have to keep everything extremely clean to stop him getting germs.

Update January 2014

We have decided that although Xander’s condition is incurable and the future is uncertain as to how his illness will progress, that it is time to let someone else take Xanders place with Post Pals and enjoy all the lovely cards, letters, postcards and gifts that he has received over the last few years.

We would like to thank everyone who made Xander smile over the years and you will be remembered and we will always be grateful for everything that Post Pals and the volunteers have done. So ‘goodbye’ and ‘thank you’.

Update 27th December 2013

December was quite a quiet time for us as a family, we had a peaceful Christmas with no journeys to the hospital etc which is always a bonus, and because of family commitments this year there was only the five of us celebrating Christmas.

The boys got lots of lovely letters from the ‘reindeers’ and some lovely presents from the ‘elves’ along with lots of goodies from Santa.

Xander got lots of Lego which some still hasn’t been built yet and Killian got a mobile which he thinks makes him a big boy now as he’s going to high school this year, which is frightening. However Santa didn’t bring everything they wanted as they both put dogs on their list, Xander wanted a Husky and Killian wanted a golden retriever. I had to explain that santa doesn’t bring animals.

We would like to thank all the reindeers and elves for their lovely letters and presents, Marty, Christine, Dolores, Jake, Millie and Fly, Hitchhiker, Jenny, Sarah, Elizabeth, Shofner and Amelia. I apologise if I haven’t mentioned someone but hopefully I have remembered you all.

Update 15th December 2013

Earlier in the year we had a phone call from a charity called ‘Childflight’ who said we had been nominated for a holiday to Florida by Xander’s immunology nurse. We had to fill in lots of forms and wait to see if we were accepted, but the short story is that we were accepted. So on the 29th October we flew out of Manchester Airport with 55 other families to enjoy 10 days in the sunshine and do the Disney parks and Universal Studios etc. We were accompanied by doctors, nurses, and everything was paid for and the charity made us all feel very special, especially Xander. We had a lovely time and the boys met lots of the Disney characters and went on lots of rides and of course bought lots of Lego from the biggest Lego store I have ever seen.

Generally, while we were away everything went smoothly, apart from Xander cutting all his knee and leg in three places which had to be cleaned daily and bandaged up, so that kept him out of the pool. On our last Disney trip which was to Magic Kingdom Xander had been feeling a bit rough for most of the day but by the evening he was screaming in agony and wanted to go away from everyone, so while everyone else was enjoying the fireworks and seeing tinkerbell fly we were sat near the entrance/exit away from the crowds. I was in the wheelchair that we had for him and Xander was wrapped up in a blanket on my knee and I was trying to keep him comfortable.

The team doctor and one of the organisers wanted to get Xander back to the apartments to get him checked over so we left the park early and were taken back in the team car rather than wait for the coach. We think that he had picked up a bug which wiped him out for a few days and we also started him on some antibiotics incase he had something bacterial going on.

We all had an amazing time and have some treasured memories, the boys were so looked after and made to feel so special.

Since we have been back Xander has been generally well. We’ve had a few moments where we’ve seen every hour in the night with Xander in pain with his stomach and he’s not really eating. Everyday his lunch box comes back from school untouched and I just wish that they would do some more investigations as to why he is always in pain with his stomach.

Killian still hasn’t been seen by an OT yet and I’m getting nowhere fast with them but I keep trying.

The boys finish school next week for Christmas and I’m looking forward to spending time with them and having a lovely family Christmas together.

I would like to thank everyone who sent the boys some post/gifts etc this month, including, Marty, Natashja, Pia, Gabe, Karen, Kay, Calam, Jake, Kerry and Mark, Jenny, Meg, Michael and Maria, the students at Nottingham University, Santas reindeers and Elves and also to Christine for the lovely Manchester United vintage shirt that she had made for Xander (he loves it and wears it as often as he can), and lastly to the Post Pals team who I received a lovely box of chocolates from this month which was very kind.

Thank you to everyone who has been so kind to my boys this year and I hope you all have a lovely Christmas and a very Happy New Year.

Update 17th October 2013

We had Xander’s appointment with his immunologist this month. He is still concerned about Xander’s stomach problems and the fact that he’s not really gaining any weight (he’s 22kg). He suggested that we stop his brown preventative inhaler and his antibiotics to see if his stomach issues stop. Up to now I have seen a small improvement in the fact he’s complaining less about his stomach, but then on the other hand he’s hardly eating, which isn’t good regarding how little he weighs already and the fact that he looks so gaunt at the moment as he seems to have lost more weight.

He is going to be having a long course of his medicine on Friday 25th which will last three weeks instead of the weekly doses. This is just a one off, so I wait to see how that affects him.

Killian seems to be starting to go through ‘teenage years’ early and his attitude is becoming quite a handful some days. He seems to have gone backwards on some of the things that me, the school, and his OT, have got him to do over the years, such as writing etc, not helped by the fact that his OT has gone on maternity (third OT to go on maternity in as many years) and that no other OT has been assigned to him. I’m having to fight to try and sort it out.

The boys have had some lovely cards, postcards, magazines and gifts this month. Would like to thank Maria, Toni and Karen, Lotus, Jake and Jordan, Zach and Rhodes for their post/gifts this month. The boys really do appreciate it.

Update 11th September 2013

Well it was school holidays this month (August) and we had a relatively quiet time. We took the boys out to Chester Zoo as they love all things animal related – especially Killian who loves to find out all the information he can regarding animals, the more dangerous they are the better! We went to the pictures each week and did bowling numerous times as well as the parks and visited relatives. We try to keep things simple with Killian not liking change too much due to being Autistic.

Both the boys were generally well during the holidays, apart from the usual puzzling stomach complaint that Xander has and his throat which is always sore – staph infections that Xander suffers from a lot. We are at Xander’s 4 month appointment next week so we will see how his blood levels and his immunity is then.

The kids went back to school this month – Xander in to year 3, Killian in to year 6 and Louis started sixth form (boy, am i feeling old). Xander’s teacher has said to me what a lovely boy he is, that he’s hard working, cooperative and has the patience of a saint, which I put down to all the years of having to settle for 1-2 hours at a time, twice a week, whilst he has his medicine. Killian is in his last year now of primary school which is very daunting as it is so hard to choose a school for him and I’m worried how he will cope with high school as he’s struggling at below the level he should be now.

We had a surprise recently, we were contacted by ‘Child flight’ charity to say that Xander had been nominated by his immunology nurse to go to the USA to Disneyland etc. Well, he got a place, so the whole family will be going there for 13 days at some point this year.

For those of you who have noticed that I have posted about not being well lately, well I have been diagnosed as having epilepsy, so some of my problems have been down to that, but I also had to undergo an operation recently and possibly another one at the end of the year/start of next year, depending on the outcome of the last operation (not epilepsy related). I would like to thank those of you who sent me cards saying ‘thinking of you’ as it was nice to know that people actually care.

I would like to thank those of you who have sent my boys post this month, with all that has been going on lately they very much appreciate it. Special thank yous to Lisa, Sam, Sami(Karen), Jordan, Christine, Sarah G, Natashja, Derville, Martin, Maria and Michael. Apologies if I have missed anyone out but the boys have muddled all their post up so I had to try to work out which post came this month.

Update 15th July 2013

Apologies for the late update but I have been struggling with illnesses lately and somedays find it hard to be on the computer without it making the illness worse.

Xander has had a fairly good run of good health, we’ve had the usual complaints about his stomach which the hospital don’t seem to be able to get to the bottom of, but hopefully one day we will find out what is causing him the pain.

The good weather is a double edged sword for him as well as it helps to keep some of the bugs at bay and he always seems not as bad in the sun (apart from air-conditioning which is actually very bad for him), but it also wipes him out so by 7pm every night he is snoring (if not earlier).

He has been enjoying some time in the garden as we bought a large pool for the boys to play in, but we haven’t really been anywhere recently due to me being so ill, although both boys have been asking to go to see Despicable Me 2 soIi will have to find some energy to take them to see it.

Killian has been quite well, he has had some problems with his feet in that his osteo chondroma has been playing up and hurting so somedays he can’t even get his shoes on, that and ingrown toenails again, apparently down to the shape of his toes they think down to his hypermobility. He is also finally seeing the Occupational Therapist again, and his paediatrician wants him back at physio for his joint.

I know that Louis is too old for Post Pals now but I thought you might like to know that he recently finished school and that he has also just come back from a football tour in Holland where his team had 3 matches against local teams and they won all 3, scoring 47 goals over the 3 matches and conceded non – I am a very proud mum.

On to the thank yous, I would like to thank everyone who took the time to write to my boys, they enjoy reading about your lives and especially different countries from around the world. Last month we had cards/letters from China, USA (numerous states), Australia, Spain, Ireland, Singapore, Germany and of course the UK. Also, thank you Nathan and ‘Meadows First School’ for his lovely card.

Update 2nd May 2013

After Xanders admission to hospital at the end of last month he has been up and down. He has been very tired and not really eaten very much which isn’t great as he is extremely skinny anyway. This morning he also woke up complaining of sore underarms and on investigation his lymph nodes were swollen, so at the moment we are waiting to see if he develops something or whether it will pass without infection. With all the talk of measles about at the moment it is quite a worrying time as Xander hasn’t had any of his vaccinations as he is not allowed any. We are hoping that he doesn’t come into contact with anyone who has it, or that it doesn’t come into the local area as if it does we will have to keep him house bound and away from school which will be a shame as he loves school.

Killian had a lovely birthday at the end of April for which he got lots of Lego and a Moshi Monsters cake which took me ages to make as he doesn’t like shop bought cakes. He has been having some soreness in his joints again so we have an appointment to see his paediatrician this month regarding it.

I would like to thank everyone for their lovely cards, letters and gifts, that they sent this month, including – Kati from Finland, Ms C Brown, Natashja, Claudine, Lawrence Family, Sarah G, Karen (sami), Maria and Michael, Samantha from Australia and Teresa. Xander was also sent a diamond brothers book and a Moshi Monsters t-shirt which he opened at his Nana’s house and unfortunately they didn’t keep the packaging so I don’t know who they are from to say thank you for them, so apologies, but thank you very much for the items.

Update 8th April 2013

Apologies for the late update but I’ve been ill lately. Xander has had an up and down month in March. It started off quite well and he was doing okay and then half term arrived and he became quite ill and ended up in hospital. Luckily he was released on Easter Sunday, not that he likes chocolate anyway.

He seem to be over the worse now but he is still very up and down, that much that we haven’t really done anything for the school holidays, although hopefully i will get to take him and Killian to see the Croods before they go back to school.

Killian has been fine this month enjoying his time away from school, and enjoying his Easter eggs, hes very much an ‘at home’ child who likes to just stay at home all the time if you let him and he doesn’t like being where there are lots of people.

I would like to say a big thank you to everyone who took the time to write to the boys or send them something, they appreciate every piece of post they get.

Update 22nd February 2013

Xander has been up and down this month. He seems not too bad in himself but he has had a few infections and is plagued with mouth ulcers at the moment which isn’t great as it is putting him off eating and there is nothing to him as it is. We couldn’t make his appointment at the hospital last month so up to now there’s no change in his medication or dosage, but I am wondering with all the illnesses and infections he has been getting if it is time for an increase.

Killian has had a good month health wise. The hospital confirmed that he doesn’t have XLA (the same as Xander) but what I was hoping for was that the hospital checked all his immune system and not just the bit that doesn’t work for Xander. However, it will have to wait until we see Xander’s doctor in April.

I would like to thank everyone who wrote and/or sent the boys something, they appreciate all that they receive and have had some lovely post this month. Thank you.

Update 5th January 2013

Sorry for not updating recently but it has been extremely hectic and I’ve not had time for anything lately.

Xander has had a few complaints since last time I updated. We’ve had chest infections and the staph is back in his nose again which makes him poorly, and he is on antibiotics again, though I am thankful that we managed to get through Christmas without anything major. He is still suffering from daily problems with his stomach and the medicine from the hospital isn’t working so we’re kind of stuck at the moment as the doctors are baffled. His feet are just the same at the moment but we have to go back in April for another review.

Killian has had lots more problems since my last update, he had an infection in his toes and had to keeping going back and forth to the podiatrist as he had a dressing on them and antibiotics, he couldn’t walk and they were extremely sore. He also got more abscesses in his mouth and was really poorly with them. He had his bloods taken and we are awaiting the results to see if he has an immune problem. He is also about to start a course of Occupational Therapy on Tuesday to help with his coordination etc.

Christmas was hectic due to some personal problems so everything had to be done last minute, but the boys enjoyed themselves and got lots of lovely presents, their best being Nintendo 3DS XL which they take everywhere with them. They also got lots of Lego which is everywhere as there is nowhere to put it – there is that much! The kids love Lego though.

Many thanks for all the Christmas cards that the boys received, they were all stuck on to my fireplace and were read over and over. Also, thank you to all the Reindeers!! They loved the letters! And last but not least, thank you to the Elves for their lovely presents, they loved them all.

Update 12th November 2012

Xander has had a relative good month in October, his stomach problems are ongoing but we do have more medication from the hospital to help relieve the pain. No news has come through as yet regarding his foot (tumours) so i am going to chase it this week just incase they have forgotten about ringing with the results.

It was his birthday in October so we went to Nandos for his birthday and he got lots of lego which he loves building at the moment. In his room we have had to add another two shelves just to put his models on. He received lots of cards from his Post Pals friends which was lovely and they were all over the living room. He also received lots of handmade cards from Student Union, university of Nottingham, which was lovely that they took the time to make them for him and were all brilliant, so thank you. I would also like to thank Rissy, Harry, Lola, Dottie, Natasja, Tracy, Jenny, David Chatterton, Catherine, Amy, Bev, Andre, Kate and Sarah. Hopefully i haven’t missed anyone, thank you for all your letters and gifts this month as they mean a lot to my boys.

Update 19th October 2012

Well, we went to Xander’s appointment about the MRI results, but the radiographer hasn’t done the results yet – apparently there are over 300 pictures for him to study and the hospital said they will ring me when the results are in, so in my mind, no news is good news.

He had his ultrasound and nothing major was found, but the day they did it he had no stomach problems! He’s still having the stomach issues and the doctors want a few more tests done – they are considering at the moment that it might be some kind of anxiety causing the problem and since Xander has a real issue with death it may be the cause, but we have to rule out everything else first before they can come to that conclusion.

Killian hasn’t been back to have his bloods done yet but I am hoping that it will be in the next week or two as I would like some results sooner rather than later.

Xander had his birthday yesterday. Unfortunately it was a school day, but we managed to have a nice meal at Nandos and i made him a moshi monsters birthday cake.

Louis was at his open evening as well ready for college next year (I can’t believe how fast time is flying). It doesn’t seem 5 minutes since he was a toddler causing mayhem and now he’s 16 and towers over me and is so grown up.

I would like to thank everyone who took the time to send post to my children this month, including Teresa, Laura, Dottie, Claire, Harriet and S.T.O.M.P dance group who sent some lovely cards and a dvd of their dance routine. All the post is very much appreciated.

Update 26th September 2012

August has been an up and down month. Xander went to clinic to see how his Osteo Chondroma (benign bone tumours) on his feet are going, however rather than hearing ‘everything is the same so come back in a years time’, this time we had a problem. One of the tumours looked like it has grown and Xander needed an Mri to find out what was going on, so we have just had that this week and the results are in about 2 weeks time.

He has also been suffering with stomach issues lately as well which is being monitored, but we were told if continues for the next couple of weeks he will require an ultrasound to see if they can find a cause. Bloods have been taken this week as well.

Killian is also under investigation for an immune problem, bloods were done but the labs didn’t do all the tests so he needs to have more bloods done to test other areas of his blood.

Amongst all the illness, we did however manage to have a coupe of trips out as we couldn’t go away on holiday this year. We had a day at Blackpool Zoo and then into Blackpool itself which was nice and we also went to visit a castle which the little ones enjoyed.

The kids got some lovely post this month, lots of postcards from lots of different people, and some nice gifts for all three from Natajsa and Claudia, thank you.

Update 12th August 2012

Xander has had an up and down month with some illnesses keeping him off school again but luckily nothing too serious. Killian had had some illnesses as well requiring antibiotics again so they have decided to check whether he has the same illness as Xander. We don’t have any results yet though.

In terms of medication we seem to have taken 3 steps backwards as Xander is having a hard time accepting his illness again and is fighting his medicine and trying not to have it (screaming, shouting etc), but unfortunately he has to have it so we are having to be forceful again.

I would like to say a big thank you to everyone who took the time to write to the boys this month, they appreciate every bit of post.

Update 18th April 2012

It has been a bad month for us this month. Firstly, I was admitted to hospital and spent over a week in there having lots of tests done and on lots of medication, some that wipe me out completely, so I’ve been having to rest ever since. My hubby had to take 4 weeks off work to look after me and the kiddies.

Whilst I was in hospital Louis was taken into A&E after having an allergic reaction to some tablets the GP had given him, then Killian got Slapped Cheek and was ill with that and a cough. Then Xander came down with Croup and a chest infection and a cough which (two lots of antibiotics later) has nearly cleared up now, so the Easter Holidays off school have been a bit of a downer for us.

We did manage to get a nice easy day at Chester Zoo using some vouchers that Killian won last year, with Xander well wrapped and sat in Killian’s maclaren major buggy that he has for when he has pains in his legs.

I would like to say a big thank you to Rachel, Kim, Yvaine, John (from Whittington school), Charlie Baker, Emma Turner, Sandra, Libby, Debbie Turner and lastly Teresa, who always cheers Killian up with her post. All your post is read numerous times and cheers the boys up.

Update 14th March 2012

It has been a relatively quiet month for the kids this month, all the health issues have been with me this month so its been hard going as I’ve spent the best part of nearly two weeks in bed suffering with a stomach ulcer.

Xander got some lovely cards and gifts from people this month, including a lovely elephant picture, a cars colouring set and also a wall chart.

The younger boys have been having their room done up this month as they wanted  something a bit more grown up apparently than Disney’s Cars, so they have opted for a big map of the world and four clocks which we have written different countries underneath so they know what time it is in different places. I’m just trying to find some flags stickers and they will be happy as they like to learn about places around the world.

Killian started swimming this month with school and we were unsure about whether he would get into the water as he has a fear of water, but with some coaching he has got in and has managed to try to swim which is a big step for him.

Xander still is having problems with his fear of death and has now stopped sleeping in the dark so we have to leave the light on (something that he’s not had since a baby) just hoping that he will grow out of it.

I would like to thank Teresa for her lovely post that she sends Killian, he loves all the letters and gifts that he gets, also thanks to Rachel, Rebecca, Dottie, Heather (in Cyprus) and the person who sent the Mr maker set for Louis and Killian, i have searched for a letter etc for a name but i don’t know if one of the kids threw it away with the packaging, so apologies.

Update 12th February 2012

Xander has had his ups and downs in January. We started the year positively, then he developed a bad stomach and was sickly for a while, then he got a urine infection, and then we had a trip to A&E with a suspected broken finger. Luckily it wasn’t broken but his older brother Louis has been warned not to kick the ball at his brother so hard. It doesn’t help with the weather being so cold at the moment as xander feels the cold a lot more than the rest of us and gets a lot of joint pain when it is cold.

We have had his school report this month and it was mostly positive except for his attendance – he apparently has persistent time off and local authorities have been informed. Unfortunately, like the other parents on Post Pals, we can’t help our children being ill and having more time off than others, we certainly wish our children were well enough to attend school all the time.

Xander has also developed a fear of death at the moment and it doesn’t matter what you say to him, he thinks he’s going to die all the time and he doesn’t want to grow up. We’re treading carefully at the moment with him as I think that this might be the start of him actually coming to terms with his illness. We’ve never hidden anything about his illness from him and he is informed of everything that goes on regarding his illnesses’, so we will just have to see and hope that it’s a passing phase.

Killian and Louis have both been well in January and I hope that continues this month as well.

Well we’re at the start of the half term so hopefully the weather will be good enough for us to get out and have some fun.

I would like to thank everyone who took the time to send a card/letter or gift to my 3 boys, including Dottie Dalmatian, Teresa for all the lovely cards and gifts that she sends to Killian (he enjoyed making and eating the cakes by the way), and Louise M for the card and colouring pictures for Xander.

Update 31st December 2011

Well, Xander has been generally well this past month which i have put down to the unusually warm December that we’re having and the daily antibiotics that he’s on at the moment.

We managed to get to the pantomime and to see Father Christmas this year, something that we hadn’t managed last year due to one illness or another.

We also had a quiet Christmas day which was nice. We visited Xander’s grandparents as his granddad had just had an operation and couldn’t come to us, then we came home for Christmas dinner and a quiet afternoons playing with the toys. His favourite was his CD player as he has really got into music at the moment. Killian only wanted books and dvds so that was mostly what he got and Louis wanted an ipod touch so Father Christmas got that as well.

Well, to the thank you’s… firstly i would like to thank the Post Pals team for their hard work this year, to Maltby Academy for all the lovely gifts and cards that the pupils and teachers sent the boys (you really are a truly wonderful school and you should be very proud of yourselves), Xander also loved Percy the Penguin and we’ve been to the build a bear for more clothes for him since. I’ve never seen the boys so surprised when they opened the boxes. Also, a big thank you to the ‘elves’ and the ‘reindeers’, the kids are still racing the reindeers as i type. Anther big thank you to Jenny, Sarah, Teresa, Dottie, Gill, Elske and Linda and to everyone else who took the time to send the boys a letter or card or a lovely gift. You all make my boys smile which is what this charity is all about.

Hope you all had a lovely Christmas and hope you have a wonderful New Year.

Update 8th October 2011

Xander has been generally up and down with his health this last month; he has had a week off school and been to A&E already since being back at school.

We had to see his immunologist last week as the antibiotics that he has don’t seem to be working anymore and he was getting repeated infections, so we are now trying a different antibiotic which, fingers crossed, works for him. He is only to take it for 3 days out of 7 as it’s a long lasting antibiotic, but the first week I haven’t seen any change in his infections though I am trying to be optimistic.

He’s enjoying being back at school with his friends and he really wants to learn all the time and loves books. He misses his friends a lot when he can’t go into school.

Killian has recovered from his broken arm, although he did fall on it the other day and I was concerned as he refused to use his arm for a couple of days, but he’s back to using it ok now – luckily. We’ve seen the doctor about the lumps on Killiian’s feet and now we are just waiting for the ultrasound of them which is to be done in December.

I would like to say a big thank you to everyone who took the time to write to my boys, including Sarah G, Dottie Dalmatian, Teresa, Rachel, Tashi. The boys have received some birthday cards but they haven’t opened them yet so I will send big thank you’s your way next month.

Update 5th September 2011

Well we managed to get away at the beginning of August; two weeks in sunny Tenerife were definably what the doctor ordered. Xander was well for most of the holiday, but the air conditioning in the apartment made him chesty and gave him a cough. We had taken the precaution of taking antibiotics with us, along with all the rest of his medication, which makes for fun when getting through security.

Xander saw the specialist about his bone tumours this month and she was pleased that they haven’t grown into the bone, that no more had appeared, and that the ones that are there have not got any bigger. We have to go back next year for repeat tests unless we notice any difference with them.

Unfortunately the same doctor who diagnosed Xander wants to see Killian’s feet as he has lumps on his feet. It may be a coincidence but it may mean that its hereditary and that both boys have osteochondoroma.

Killian’s arm is much better after he broke it. It has mended well and the physio that he was seeing for his legs and stomach muscles is now seeing him for his arm as well, which is good.

We also took Killian to see Jenson Button in Manchester city centre last week and he absolutely loved it, he is cars mad so F1 is right up his street.

Both boys were back to school today and already Xander has come home telling me he doesn’t feel well. He is very whiny and I’m just hoping that its tiredness and not something starting already. We had this last year where he spent most of the autumn and winter off through illness.

We’re at the PIA meeting (primary immune deficiency) on Saturday to hear how they are progressing with finding cures for illnesses like Xanders. Although some are already curable through bone marrow or stem cell, Xander’s condition is a long way off being cured as they haven’t found a way in lab studies yet, but we’re hoping they might have some more information on the subject for us.

On to the thank yous. I would like to say thank you to all those people who took the time to send my boys post/gift, they appreciate every piece of post they get and look forward to receiving it. Also a big thank you to Post Pals for the large box of gifts that the boys received, they have made scary aliens, and dug up the dinosaur bones already, and it kept them quiet for the afternoon.

Update 29th June 2011

Xander has had some more diagnoses this month to go with his illness. He was diagnosed at the start of the month as having Osteochondoroma which is benign tumours – at present he has 5 but some of them have only just appeared so he could potentially get quite a few. Apparently they don’t stop growing or coming until he’s about 16, so time will tell if he gets any more, how big they will get, and if he will need any removing. He was also diagnosed with having Asthma which he is on a preventer for twice a day.

He’s not been that great in himself so we’re back on the antibiotics (strong ones) for two weeks and then he’s got to have some others for months to try and keep him from getting infections.

Xander attended the Post Pals party and enjoyed himself, especially on the inflatable slide and the bouncy castle. He also won three raffle prizes which was nice.

We’re going to see the new Transformers movie this weekend and have lunch out as long as he’s okay, so it will be nice to go out as a family.

Thanks to all those who sent Xander and his brothers post this month, it is much appreciated.

Update 5th May 2011

Xander underwent his operation on his foot which they thought was a cyst; however the operation didn’t go according to plan. Since the op he has had to have an ultrasound scan to see if it could throw some light on the situation. It turns out that the lumps on his foot as caused by the cartilage expanding in certain places and he now has 3 lumps on one foot and two on the other. We have to wait to see the specialist but we have been told it could be very likely he has a condition which means the cartilage in his body expands and can cause him a lot of problems. So we are waiting to here what the doctor has to say on the matter.

He’s at the hospital for his quarterly year check up next month and they are going to check him over as he keeps on getting bruises on his stomach and back. Hopefully it’s nothing too serious though.

He has also had the staph infection back in his nose so he’s been on the strong antibiotics again; just wish it didn’t keep on returning every few weeks.

Killian has started school this week. He is only going a couple of times a week for starters as they are not sure how his autism is going to affect him in class, but he seems to be enjoying it though. He also had his birthday at the end of April and had a pool party in the back garden with his cousins. The weather was great and they enjoyed it.

I would like to thank all those who take the time to write to my boys as they love receiving letters.

Update 8th March 2011

Well, where do I start with this month‚ its been hectic with appointments, some weeks I had appointments with the kids every day, and we also had the ashes ceremony for their granddad this month at Old Trafford. The kids have had some minor illnesses between them (me included) but nothing major to report.

Xander has started getting some bruises in some places, like his back etc, so we are having to monitor them at the moment as it should be that his blood isn’t binding properly, or it could be something completely different. We will wait and see, but if he gets more they want to do some blood tests on him just to rule anything nasty out.

The kids had a quiet week off school, we went to the pictures to see Yogi Bear but didn’t really do very much else, though I did get some professional pictures done of the kids too which are due to be collected this month.

Xanders run of illnesses is spreading itself out now that the weather is starting to pick up, so fingers crossed that it stays that way.

March is going to be a busy month. We have Killian’s appeal for school (fingers crossed that we win), Xander has to have the cysts on his foot removed on the 21st so he will be having a general on that day, Louis has started a chef academy program each Saturday where he’s learning the basics of becoming a chef (that’s what he wants to do), and the disabled facilities grant people are starting work on Thursday to put a toilet downstairs for Killian, which will be messy as they are having to dig down a few feet in the hallway for the pipes etc. We’re just hoping that all the muck and dirt doesn’t cause Xander too many problems.

Last but not least, I would like to thank everyone who took the time to write to my children this month as it is welcomed with big smiles and read over and over with such joy, so thank you.

Update 30th January 2011

Well the start of the year didn’t go too well for us with Killian being admitted to hospital after his face blew up on New Years Eve caused by his abscess. The second lot of antibiotics brought it under control, but he now has to have his tooth removed as the abscess is deep in the jaw. The tooth is actually okay it’s just that they need to remove it to clean the abscess out and he will have to go under a general to have it done.

Then on the 12th January Killian again became unwell and after a visit to the GP’s they sent him straight to the hospital where it was discovered that he had viral meningitis. It was only a mild case, so after a day in hospital he was allowed home to rest. The symptoms lasted about 11 days before he was back to normal again.

Then on the 21st we were told that Killian has Autism with development delay and speech and language delay. To be honest we already knew, it was just getting a diagnosis that was the problem, as he had already been told ‘maybe’ by one place, so we went to a different centre who did some more testing with Killian and they came back with ‘Yes, he is Autistic’. We are due next month to discuss everything and how the future will look and how to handle Killian with the specialists at the centre.

However, Xander has had a good month this month, apart from his cold returning again, and a few sicky nights. Nothing major this month for Xander, but we are in with his consultant next month so we will wait for what he has to say – should have been this month but his consultant got stuck in Germany due to the bad weather.

On the 24th though we did get some more bad news in that their Grandad (who lives in Spain) had died. So all in all we have had a shocking start to the year, that has been incredibly busy with an appointment of some sort nearly every day and lots of bad news – including that my credit card had been hacked, so if there ever was a time when you want to rewind the year and start again then this month has been that time. Roll on next month and hopefully we can put all this bad news behind us.

I just want to add a thank you to all those people who took the time to send my children some post. They loved the aeroplanes and the flying bugs and the car crashes dvd, and Killian has taken all the pictures on the Ben 10 camera sent to him as part of the memories theme and we just need to get them developed. The cake mix is about to be done today as we’re having a baking day, so thanks to everyone as my kids really need to be cheered up at this moment as it has been a bad month all round.

Update 11th January 2011

Firstly, to start the year off, I would like to wish every one of you a very Happy New Year.

Xander had his ups and downs last month, but luckily we managed to get him sorted after trying out a couple of different antibiotics. He wasn’t very happy or very well at times but by the end of the year he had got over the worst of it. We had a lovely quiet (well kind of) Christmas, the boys were up at 7am and ripped open their presents. All of them were well so I couldn’t have asked for more.

After Christmas, Killian started with a sore mouth which turned out to be an abscess in his jaw (quite deep). It took two lots of antibiotics and a trip to A&E on New Years Eve (after his neck and face ballooned) but the antibiotics worked eventually. However, he has to go into hospital to be put under general to have his tooth removed and his abscess taken care of which we should hear about in the next two weeks.

Since the New Year we have had an appointment for something or other everyday (once we got the bank holiday out of the way) and some days two, so it has been quite an eventful month already.

Killian has finished his assessment at the Autism centre and we will get the results back on the 21st January. I’m not sure what result I would like the most as although I don’t wish Killian to be autistic, I would like some answers for the way he behaves and the mannerisms and the reasons he does those quirky little things he does. So, what will be will be.

Now to the thank you’s. As always I would like to thank the people who send my boys post on a regular basis and to let you know that it is very much appreciated, so a big thanks to Teresa, Rachel, Mandi, Sarah G, Dottie Dalmatian and Naomi. I would also like to say a big thank you to Maltby Academy in Rotherham who made some lovely cards and sent some gifts to xander, he truly loved each and every card and they took pride of place on our wall, along with all the other cards sent by the friends of Post Pals. We have never had so many cards and we ended up with 10 lines of cards around our living room.

I would also like to say a big thank you to the person who sent the remote control mini for Xander – we’re not sure if it came from Cadburys (the frank mark on the front of the box had Cadburys, Bornville written on it), but as there was no letter/card in the box we weren’t sure who exactly the car came from.

To every one else who took the time to write, including all the ‘Reindeers’, I would have liked to thank each and every one of you personally, but as he received over 50 letters, cards and gifts, I don’t think I would have enough space for Xander‚Äôs update. However, you know who you are and THANK YOU. You are all lovely kind hearted people.

Update 3rd November 2010

October hasn’t been a great month for Xander, what with numerous appointments, including one for surgery on his foot which he has been scheduled in for, but also put on their emergency list incase they get a space in theatre. He’s also had a nasal infection which isn’t pleasant for him and he was put on antibiotics for it. This then led to an upset stomach and you can gather what it caused him to have for nearly a week, not good when he’s already very skinny. He then went on to develop a cold which then turned into croup. This isn’t great for him as there is the risk of it turning into pneumonia, so the decision was made to take him into hospital with it.

At hospital they could only monitor him as he can’t have steroids due to his immune system problems and he was already on antibiotics, so monitoring him was all they could do for him. Luckily it cleared up in about 5 days but then it passed on to his brother Killian, so we’ve had a germ infested house for a good few weeks now.

Apart from the above, everything else has been okay. He had a quiet birthday for which he got a vtec camera and he has taken loads of photos with it.

I want to thank everybody for the lovely birthday cards which he received; they all took pride of place on our cabinet in the living room. I also want to thank everyone who has sent Xander and his brothers some lovely letters, cards and gifts, which include the Halloween goodie bag, Ben 10 doll, dvd, Toy Story pencils, socks and chocolate eyeballs, a scary bouncing egg, a Lamborghini poster with Killian’s name on the number plate (he loves it), lots of jokes handwritten (the kids think they are hilarious and keep on telling everyone them) and the bracelets that were made for them.

You all are wonderful people and make my kids smile with every piece of post that arrives. They all have their own special Post Pals box which they keep their post in and it really does help, especially when my children are unwell, so thank you.

Update 8th October 2010

Firstly I would like to say a big thank you to everyone who sends my 3 children post as it really keeps them smiling. Thanks especially to Teresa, Samantha, Mandie, Sarah, Rachel, Liz (it was very kind of you to knit the red dinosaur and it sits proudly on his bed), and not forgetting Dottie Dalmatian. Hopefully I haven’t missed anyone out.

Xander has started school since my last update and is loving it. He has to have his little bottle of antibacterial gel strapped to his side and is constantly washing his hands but luckily we have managed to ward off any nasty germs affecting him as yet, though I do dread the winter months. We had a close call when my nephew developed shingles a couple of days after us visiting him, but luckily Xander was okay as the spots hadn’t appeared whilst we were there.

We had a problem last week with Xander’s infusions as he is on blood plasma infused over 2-3 hours twice a week, but unfortunately the needle didn’t want to go into his skin and when it did managed to he was in immense pain, so we had to give up and try again another day. This isn’t good because the longer between infusions the more likely he will catch something. We’re hoping it is a one off but we think he might have to start using a different part of his body for infusions soon to give his legs a break as the skin is hardening, but it is trying to find a suitable place for the infusions as Xander is really skinny and the needle really needs to go into a fatty part of his body.

We’ve got quite a few appointments this month between Xander and his brother Killian, as Xander’s got the appointment we have been waiting for about surgery for the cysts he has got on his foot – I do hope they remove them soon as they do cause him a lot of pain, mostly at night. Killian’s got genetics and autism testing and back to physio again this month as he has lots of things wrong with him but the doctors would like to find out if there is a link and a diagnosis for him. Take last week – he couldn’t walk for a couple of days after popping his knee joint out (that’s hyper-mobility for you) and his dyspraxia makes life difficult for him anyway, but he grins and bears it and gets on with life.

Louis is doing really well at school this year, he’s earned loads of merits already and is set to sit some of his GCSE’s this year, so it is hectic for him but I think he’s up to it.

Anyway, just to end with a big thank you once again to everyone – it is very much appreciated.

Update 9th September 2010

Xander has been generally well this month, though he’s had quite a few bangs, cuts etc to have to deal with. Though he has woken up this morning with a rough cough and dribbling nose so I’m hoping that it is not going to turn into anything nasty (as very often happens when Xander gets coughs and colds).
We’re still waiting to see the hospital specialist about his foot as there was a mix-up and they sent us to the wrong surgeon, so the next available appointment is the 18th October though they are trying to reduce this to an earlier date.

Good news this month is that he has got a place at primary school on appeal (it was a worrying time not knowing), so he should start next week after we have had a meeting with the head and put some measures into place regarding Xander’s health.

Killian hasn’t been too great this month after catching a bug that he can’t shift, but apart from that he’s okay. Louis went back to school this week, think he was glad to see the end of the 6 week holidays as he was missing his mates. Good news is that he’s in the top set for his subjects and apparently they can now take their GCSE’s in year 9 if they’re in the top set, though I’m not too sure of this.

Well on to the Thank you list and there is a lot! Big thanks to Teresa, Arlene, Charlotte, Maria and Michael, Dottie Dalmatian for letting us have a pup (he’s been named Dougie), Alison, Rachel, Samantha, Murphy the Gnome, Kim, Sheelagh, Else and Mandie. Sorry if I’ve missed anyone out, but thank you to each and every one of you for putting a smile on my childrens’ faces, it is very much appreciated.

Update 8th August 2010

Xander has been mostly well this month with only a few little hiccups, but nothing too bad that we couldn’t handle. We had his 6 monthly review at the hospital and all seems well. His medicine dose hasn’t been increased just yet so this is good for him, though he has got some cysts on his left foot that have been causing him real pain, especially in an evening once his body starts relaxing. He can scream for hours and calpol and ibuprofen doesn’t do a great deal but we try massaging the area as well which does seem to help a lot. We are to see the surgeon on Friday 13th to see what he thinks and to talk about having them removed, which will be good in once sense but he takes longer than average to heal and an open wound isn’t the greatest thing for him to have, but it needs to be done.

We had a bit of bad news as well this month, as having heard nothing from the schools admissions, I rang to find out what was happening and was told they were sorry that we hadn’t been told anything as there was a computer error and some people didn’t get the letters, but Xander had been turned down for a place at our chosen school and that he was 32nd on the waiting list, so we have to go to appeal on the 3rd of September, but it doesn’t look good (fingers crossed though). What gets me is that Xander needs a school where I can be confident in the staffs abilities to be able to deal with Xander quickly as even getting a cut dirty can be serious for him. We also need the school to be not too far from home or too far from his hospital. The only other school they offered as an alternative is two bus rides away and in the opposite direction from his hospital, so it may be that he has to be home educated like his brother Killian for the time being until they have a place for him.

On a good note, we’ve been away to Center Parcs this month which the kids love. We didn’t get too wet either and had just one day of rain. The two youngest even had a go at kids crossbow which was good fun to watch and I got talked into going horse riding which wasn’t as bad as I expected. We also went out on a double canoe on the lake which was a laugh and we were singing this tune to Hawaii five-o whilst rowing.

Killian’s Maclaren Major buggy arrived at last as he has very hyper mobile joints, low tone, dyspraxia and a few other things wrong with him as well as his learning difficulties, so we can now put him in the buggy when we go out as his legs hurt very quickly once he starts walking around. He’s even got a transformers seat cover for it as well.

Xander and the boys have had a good deal of post from Post Pals buddies this month which are greatly appreciated and the boys look forward to the post being brought to them, so thank you to all of you. We’d like to thank everyone who sent Xander and his brothers some post this month; you are all very kind and thoughtful people. This includes S.R Gilligan, Rachel, Jodie (he loved the Phineas and Ferb stickers and the colouring set), Sarah G for her numerous letters and postcards, Lauren and Phil for your talented handmade cards which were fab, Susan, Percy the dog (who knew dogs could type!!), Kim, Betty Graham whose card and stickers came all the way from Australia and he hasn’t opened the stickers as he says they’re special as they have come from another place far far away and wants to keep them, Margaret Baldwin, Teresa, and I’m really sorry about this but not sure whether the name is Jake or Jane who sent the pictures from their farm of the baby lamb. I really hope I haven’t missed anyone out, but if I have, a big thank you to everyone.

Post Pals has been wonderful for Xander and his brothers, the thoughtfulness and kindness of complete strangers who take some of their precious time to put a smile on my sons’ faces is amazing. Words can’t thank you all enough.

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William S

04 July 2011

Please do not send Halloween themed post to this family 

Story written 2009

William has been poorly since he was 2 months old. It started with what the doctors said was Bronchiolitis but unbeknown to us something a lot more sinister was going on with our little boy.

At 17 weeks William had a barium swallow done to see if he had an opening in the oesophagus and milk was going into his lungs. This was to see if this was causing all his recurrent chest infections and pneumonias. It showed us that William had in fact got malrotation of the gut (meaning his stomach and intestines were the wrong way round). He was whipped to Alder Hey Children’s Hospital in Liverpool the same day and was operated on that evening.

William plodded on for a few more weeks but was still vomiting and not eating, so we had to tube feed him all the time. On the next stay in hospital I asked a consultant for a scan on his heart and this is where normal life ended as we knew it.

William’s scan showed that his mitral valve was leaking quite badly and he would need to have an operation as soon as possible. He had his first ohs (open heart surgery) when he was 7 months old to try and repair his valve. That was the scariest 4 weeks of my life, or so I thought.

Ten weeks after William’s first ohs, he started to become very unwell again and we went back to Birmingham Children’s Hospital to have him reviewed. They told us that the last operation had not been successful and William would need a valve replacement, so William was admitted and he had his second ohs, exactly 2 months after his first. We took William to theatre and I felt at ease because we had been through this before, but this was worse than ever as William was an extremely poorly boy after this surgery and the doctors were telling us to take minute by minute, not day by day at this stage.

Thankfully William pulled through this surgery, but during the operation William’s coronary artery got damaged. It has left his heart very impaired and he has very little function on the left pumping chamber, which has resulted in our little man needing a heart transplant.

This is where we are at the moment – just waiting until we get our call to give William the gift of life.

Update 30th June 2023

William is turning 18 in September, so I thought it was time to move on. William is almost a year post transplant and we are going to have a party for him. His latest tests show is donor heart is well.

I’m so grateful for everything you have done and are still doing for new families.

Update 10th July 2023

Last week William received his call. William received his new heart and is doing well. Today he had a biopsy but the results aren’t back yet. After the results, it will be decided on whether William is able to go home or not. 

Update 26th October 2022

William is still waiting for his transplant and still going down to London every 3 months for check ups. William is going into GOSH on November 13th for just over a weeks for some tests and checks

Update 13th August 2021

William is doing well at the moment after his op almost 2 years ago he is thriving. His heart will never be “better” but the pressure from the valve has dropped from 20 to 12 , the normal range is between 3-4 but the doctors are happy as they have said William will never be anywhere near this again. Since his op he has had a funny heart rhythm which at the moment is not giving him any issues but it is something we have to be aware of.

They also said that if he was to go into complete heart failure they could now consider a heart transplant again, but at the moment he is loving life, putting weight on growing tall too. We thank you for all his mail; it makes us smile knowing people are thinking of him.

Update 26th September 2020

Firstly I’d like to thank everyone for their continuous support for Will and us all as a family. William is now 1 year post valve replacement, the new valve is slowly doing what they hoped it would do and that is to decrease the pressures from within his heart and lungs. He had an appointment down in GOSH and they are happy with the progress so far. They have told us that his heart function will never get any better, but if and when it starts to fail further, the possibility of not being able to receive a heart transplant, it is now viable again. William is still a social butterfly and loves life to his limits.

 

Update 2nd January 2020

William is doing ok at the moment, although his operation to replace his mitral valve went really well, his heart function has not really changed much so he is still struggling and getting out of breath and tired when walking and going up and downstairs.

We should shortly be having an extension to the side of the house for a bedroom and wet room for him. A huge thank you to everyone that has sent post to him and his brothers, it means a lot to us.

Update 8th October 2019

William had surgery on the 19/08/19 to replace his mitral valve. Today we went for his first check up and they were happy with his progress. His pressures have lowered slightly, but his heart function is still very impaired, hopefully in time his lung pressures will continue to decrease meaning he could be relisted for transplant if the need arises.

Update 20th August 2019

William had a really settled day, they managed to close his chest, they left all his meds up high for a few hours after and they have now stopped his paralytic drug and started reducing his sedation drugs too so we may have a boy a little more awake in the morning. This is the part i cant wait for but actually not looking forward to as I don’t want him anxious or upset.

Update 19th August 2019

A quick update on our fantastic super star boy, William came back onto ITU around 3:30pm ECMO free may I add. He’s been testing them a little since, dropping his blood pressure slightly but on a whole, without actually speaking to the surgeon himself all went pretty successfully. I think even the doctors were surprised with him not needing the echo, they have left his chest open to let things settle and any swelling to go down so they will keep him rested and sedated for a few days before they close it and then start waking him up.

Update 10th August 2019

On a whole William has being doing quite well, no hospital admissions, INR has been in range which has been good for William. On his last two check ups his echoes have shown that his valve/lung pressures have become significantly worse, so it was decided after some in-depth tests that they should do something about them.

So next Friday the 16/08/19 William will be admitted into GOSH to change from warfarin to heparin ready for valve replacement surgery on the 19th August, we are praying that this is successful, but the doctors have said they are worried about him and have spoke to us about the possibility of mechanical assistance after (heart ware).

As you can gather we have a worrying few months ahead of us, but receiving your cards and gifts helps a lot 

Update 5th April 2019

William had been having a good run with his heart. He started high school last September and has settled in well. He enjoys most subjects, his favourite being RE. He has a really good relationship with his peers and his teachers adore him. Since starting high school William’s heart has started to deteriorate slightly where the right side of his heart is beginning to struggle a little too now due to the high pressures going to the lungs. William has an appointment in GOSH on Tuesday this coming week to discuss treatment/surgical interventions to try and relieve the high pressures.

Update 17th November 2017

Things are pretty much the same, we were at Gosh in October, all went ok, not much change on his echo which to us is a bonus , but he still remains classed as in heart failure because of the poor function.

Update 16th June 2017

Before I update everyone a huge thank for all the post he and his brothers receive.

Well, where do we start? Although William’s health remains quite stable we have had quite a few hospital admissions lately due to his clotting levels being far too low, and we have really struggled to find a reason for this. Well, this week we have been in again all week and it has come to light that when William has been given his meds he has decided not to take them. His reasoning for this is that he is fed up of taking medication all the time when his friends don’t. He says he does not want to be different he wants to be the same as his friends. So the doctors and nurses on the wards have had a chat with him, me and dad have also spoken to him and we are organising some counselling for him with the therapist at the hospice we attend.

Update 15th February 2017

Thank you once again to everyone that sends post to William and his brothers ,

William has just had his first year free from being on the active transplant list, as always he is coping really well and has a relatively healthy winter so far , he had a few hospital admissions during December this was to go with his clotting levels being out of range. We still get seen every 3 months be either Birmingham or gosh and they are happy with the way he is managing with his heart issues, we know eventually he will begin to decline and have to be listed for heart and lung transplantation,once again thank you for all your kind cards letters and gifts from mum.

Update 7th November 2016

William has been quite well this year, the odd cough and cold but nothing to worry about. William still remains OFF the transplant list and being seen every 3 months in the cardiac centres. William’s last appointment in London went ok. His scans showed slight decline, which is what they expected. Hopefully the decline will be slow and steady. The highlight of William’s summer was the fab Chessington trip, so a huge thank you to everyone that made this happen. And a huge thank you to Vikki.

Update 6th August 2016

William on a whole is doing really well. Sadly he was taken off the active transplant list due to the pressure in his lungs being too high, this means that a healthy heart would not be able to cope with the pressure of the blood coming from Williams lungs. We now just have to wait for him to become sicker and when his quality of life is not great then he will be listed for a heart and lung transplant. It’s a scary thing to try and accept but this now is our only option.

Update 11th February 2016

Thank you for all the support we get from Post Pals.

Last week William had his 6 monthly tests and we were called down this week without William for an important meeting at GOSH.

After 7 years on the transplant list, William is no longer viable for heart transplant. If they put a healthy heart in William the heart would not be able to cope with the pressures coming from his lungs. He will now need a heart and lung transplant which carries a much bigger risk. Due to this, he won’t be listed until his quality of life significantly deteriorates. For now he will no longer be on the transplant list.

Although we are gutted, we had already resigned ourselves to being listed for heart and lungs so this is ok at the moment. We were worried they would want to try and operate, so are ok with the decision that’s been made.

We have not told William about going onto have heart and lungs as I think the enormity of it may worry him.

Update 5th January 2016

Just a quick update to say a huge thank you for all post sent over the last 12 months. William has another big appointment coming up in Great Ormond Street at the end of this month. All our love and thanks to you all.

Update 13th October 2015

William has had a good summer. Thank you for all the letters and cards. He has just had a short stay in hospital and has a couple of big appointments coming up, so I will do a big update after them.

Update 23rd July 2015

William is not doing too bad cardiac wise and we are just plodding on taking every day as it comes. However William is really struggling at the moment with eczema. He has always had dry skin but this past month it has really broken out and flared up. It has been awful for him scratching all the time, even in his sleep.

Well, the school holidays are upon us again and we’re trying to find things to do and keep the boys busy. Today we went for a walk in to the woods beside us, but unfortunately William got tired half way round so mummy had to pop him on her shoulders.

We have also just come back from a weekend in Scotland and William really enjoyed it.

I want to say a huge thank you for our paper cuts as they were just stunning. A big thank you for all the cards, letters and monthly projects too, as the boys really enjoy them.

Update 31st May 2015

William has had his 6 monthly check at Great Ormond Street this month and all went well. His pressures in his lungs have risen slightly and they are going to share all his information with Freemans in Newcastle upon Tyne to see if they think we should be trying anything else.

We’d like to say thank you for the post the boys have received this month.

We also have had a lovely day out thanks to Post Pals and Staff Sargent Julie Jolley at DMS Whittington Barracks. William and his brothers were soldiers for the day, starting off at the Staffordshire Regiment Museum learning about what the soldiers in the First World War wore and going in to the trenches there. We then were taken round to the barracks and were shown around what the soldiers of today do in the day. We were lucky to see the field gun run practice and some parades. He learnt all about the soldiers kit that they take with them when out on the front line when they go into action. This was such a lovely day for us all as a family and we would like to say a huge thank you to all involved.

Update 1st May 2015

William has had a good run of late with no sick days from school. We had a recent appointment in Birmingham and all seemed ok. We were due in London this week but it got cancelled, so we are awaiting another one soon.

William is doing his first Holy Communion on the 9th of May and is very excited for this so he can become an altar server with his dad. He wants to be a Deacon when he grows up, bless him.

I would like to say thank you to everyone for all the cards for William and his brothers as they mean a lot.

Update 21st January 2015

Happy new year everyone. I’d like to start by saying thank you for all the cards and the elf parcels the boys received.

William has been having quite a good run lately despite the typical winter bugs. He is doing well at school and he started swimming with school last week which he finds very exciting. He is also preparing in school for his first holy communion in May, which is a day I never dared to get to excited about when he was so poorly all the time. He is so excited because once he does receive communion it means he can become an altar server at church with his dad.

William has a check up in April with his cardiologist in Birmingham and then hopefully in May his big check up in London.

Once again, thank you very much.

Update 19th October 2014

Things have been quite good lately. William had a hospital appointment at Birmingham children’s hospital and the doctor there seems quite happy with him. He has a big check up next month in London too.

A big thank you for all the post the boys continue to receive.

Update 5th September 2014

William has had a great 6 week break from school. He goes to Birmingham children’s on Thursday (11th) and is due in GOSH in November for his next round of big tests.

He turned 8 on the 1st September and loved the cards he recieved from Post Pals. Thank you so much.

Update 9th August 2014

William is doing ok in himself and we are not having too many hospital appointments for him which is great. Last time William went to Great Ormand Street the news was not as good as we’d hoped for. The pressures in William’s heart and lungs have risen again so this is twice in a row now. The doctors seemed a little more concerned this time about the time frame for his transplant, because if they keep rising then he may not be well enough for transplant. We are due to go to Birmingham in September for a check up and are back in GOSH in November – we are praying the pressures have not risen again.

As a family, we would like to thank each and every one of you who reads William’s profile and takes time to send him and his brothers mail.

Update 8th March 2014

William has had a good and relatively healthy couple of months and we are praying it will continue.

He had his 3 monthly check at Birmingham on Tuesday and they are happy with him. There is no improvement but on the good side no major decline either, so we can relax for a while now until his next big appointment in London which is in May/June time.

William and his brothers really enjoy all their post they receive, I have been trying to get them to reply but anything to do with writing is proving hard work at moment, homework included!

Update 1st January 2014

William went to GOSH in December for his check ups. Although William has been quite well of late, his heart function has declined and his pressures have gone up and the baselines have almost doubled to what they were in March, so that was a little shock to us. Luckily when they pushed certain gases through they still responded well and came down, so he can stay on the transplant list, but the doctors have said he will need more check ups in-between and tests back to every 6 months.

We have had a lovely Christmas and would like to say a big thank you for all the cards and gifts sent for William and his brothers.

Update 28th November 2013

William is going to London on Sunday for a weeks stay in Great Ormand Street Hospital. Whilst there he will be having his transplant tests again to make sure all is as it should be and also having a new feeding tube put in.

On an exciting note, we have a man from the local hcpt (handicapped children’s pilgrimage trust) about taking William and his younger brother, Stephen, to Lourdes for the Easter pilgrimage. William will so love this opportunity.

Our boys had a lovely letter from Prancer the reindeer today, it came from Germany and inside was a Christmas card each for our boys with a mini advent calendar on them, they are so amazing.

Update 15th November 2013

We have had a good couple of months with William, we are due in Great Ormand Street on the 1st of December for his next lot of tests to make sure he is still doing well enough to stay on the transplant list.

Thank you to everyone for all William’s mail, I do mean to try and write back, but having 3 boys means my days are here and gone before I know it.

Update 5th July 2013

William has had quite a run of good health lately, although the poor fella had a fall and had a nasty bump on his head for a couple of weeks and black eyes to match.

William had checks recently in Birmingham Children’s Hospital and nothing much has changed, which we take as good news, although William has had blood tests taken for Noonans syndrome as this could be an answer to everything he has had happen to him.

Update 15th April 2013

William has had a great winter – one of the best he has ever had – with not too many colds and only a couple of hospital admissions (which were tests etc).

William is now his target weight and weighs 20kg, so this means he can go up to the next category for transplant and he is out of the infant group, so hopefully this means he will get a heart soon as there seems to be more bigger hearts available.

Thank you so much to everyone for the mail that both William and his brothers receive as they love getting it.

Update 14th January 2013

William is doing quite well at the moment, though he had a lengthy stay in hospital at the end of November, due to a nasty line infection that resulted in him going down to Great Ormand Street to have this removed and a temporary line put in.

We are currently awaiting a date to go back down for his big 6 monthly check up in which they do all the transplant tests again to see if he is still compatible for transplantation, so fingers crossed all will go well, but it means a week down in London for us all.

I would like to say a huge thank you to everyone that sent William and his brothers cards, gifts and letters, at Christmas (as well as the rest of the time too). There were so many that I would not like to name individually in case I forgot someone and hurt their feelings. So once again, I would just like to send a huge thanks to everyone that keeps sending mail and smiles to our boys.

Update 27th November 2012

Thank you everyone for all your support and mail that you have all kindly given to my son and us all as a family.

As you are all aware, William is awaiting a heart transplant and has been on the active list for a massive 3 and a half years now. It is hard for me and Chris waiting and watching William for changes in his condition.

Ordinarily William does quite well and copes with all that is thrown at him and his strength is unmeasurable. We draw inspiration from him to keep us going every day, because if he is strong enough to get through this then we can be strong enough to be beside him every step of the way.

We have just had a rough few weeks with William, as he grew a nasty bug in his hickman line which we use to get access for bloods and medication when needed. This resulted in a 3 day trip to London (GOSH) to have the infected line removed and a temporary one put in (a PICC). Hopefully this will last until we go back in January for his next big check up and he can have another hickman line put in.

I will updated soon to all who look at William’s page and we would like to wish you a Merry Christmas.

I am proud of our little man and I am proud to be his mummy.

Update 13th March 2012

We have had a rough couple of months with William; he seems to be picking up every virus going, so it has meant lots of antibiotics. On William’s last trip to GOSH they were concerned with his weight, so they have us feeding him through the day continuously until midnight now. They want us to try and get his weight above 20kg and say that once his weight does get above 20kg the spectrum for a new heart opens wider and the range is bigger as he will be able to receive an older child’s heart.

I would personally like to take this opportunity to say thank you for the post that the children receive, William and his brothers really enjoy getting post.

Update 8th October 2011

Sorry I’ve not updated for a while. William has not been great over the last few months with chest infections and general wheezing etc.

We had an admission again last week and we got to see the respiratory doctor who says that he feels Williams lungs are hyper inflated, meaning that he does not exhale properly and air is trapped in his lungs. He has ordered lung function tests and a ct scan on his lungs and started him on long term steroids to ease the narrowing of his airways too.

We are still on the active list for transplant.

Update 8th March 2011

Firstly, I’d like to say a big thank you to everyone who takes time to look at Williams’s page and also to those that send cards and treats to all of our boys. It means a lot to them. My husband and I also received a very thoughtful gift through the post from Dominic and Gethin’s mum which was a gift card for Pizza Hut, so a big thank you again to them.

William has had quite a few hospital admissions over this winter, not so much with chest infections but with very bad wheezy cough, which is causing him to de sat and work very hard with his breathing.

We went to Great Ormond Street at the end of January for his big 6 monthly transplant tests and they were quite pleased with him, but it did knock his coagulation off kilter and it took almost 10 days to get his blood within the desired range so as not to clot around his metal valve. We have to go back in April to see cardiac doctors and neurosurgeons to do with this syringomyelia that they found on his spine at the last check up.

Update 29th November 2010

Last week we went down to GOSH for a heart check up and they are really pleased with William and don’t want to see him now until we go down for the big tests again in April.

This cold weather is getting to William again already and we’re on our first treatment dose of antibiotics and I doubt it will be the last.

I would like to say a big thank you for all Williams post as he does enjoy receiving it.

Update 14th October 2010

William has had a pretty good couple of months. We took William on holiday in August to Wales and it was a lovely week.

The week after we went down to London for William’s big cardiac transplant tests, which all in all were quite good results. Not much had changed in the last 6 months, but unfortunately it was found that William has a new unrelated condition on his spine called SYRINGOMYELIA meaning that in time William will lose nerve sensations in his limbs, muscle weakness and deterioration and also loss of control over bowel and bladder. This was a bit of a shock for us but now it is just another part of William’s uniqueness.

A couple of weeks ago William was admitted to Birmingham children’s hospital as he was going to have a gastrostomy put in last week, but in the week leading up to the operation Williams clotting levels became too low and his artificial valve was at risk of becoming impaired, so they were worried about him and had him in on heparin in preparation for the operation. His operation went well but it did knock him for six, bless him. He was really sore and unwell for about 3 days.

William also started school in September and is currently doing Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays so as not to tire him out completely.

William would like to say thank for all his post he receives, he does enjoy it when cards and letters come through and we have been meaning to reply to them but it has been hard to keep up with everything over the last couple of months, what with hospital appointments and starting school.

Thank you also from a very grateful mummy and daddy. Your support means so much to us.

Update 24th August 2010

William went in to theathre yesterday for a few procedures. Today we are still in GOSH, as when they did the mri yesterday they saw an abnormality on his spine, so they want us to see a neurologist and a geneticist whilst down here.

I would like to thank everyone for their well wishes for William.

Update 30th June 2010

William is doing quite well this month. It started off a bit ropey with another hospital stay due to a chest infection, but he is doing much better now.

William has had a couple of big hospital appointments this month. One was to Great Ormand Street to see his cardiologist and they were petty happy with how his heart is coping, but want him down in the next month for the big 6 monthly tests again to see if lung pressure is still stable. If this continues to rise then William can no longer be considered for transplantation, so some prayers and well wishes would be great.

We also took William to Birmingham Children’s to see a surgeon about having a gastrostomy (peg) instead, as William’s ng tube was only ever supposed to be short term and that was 3 and a half years ago now. They agreed and said we just have to wait for a date, so hopefully it won’t be too long for that.

Update 15th June 2010

Yesterday we went down to GOSH for a check up appointment and in general there is not a great deal of difference from last time we had an echo. We have got to go back in the next few weeks for cardiac cath again to check pressures in his lungs to see if he still stable enough for transplant.

Update 22nd April 2010

William has had another good month health wise and we seem to have luck on our side this year. We are still waiting to hear about William having a gastrostomy and finally getting rid of the ng tube as the poor little man gets so upset having it re-passed. I have to pull it out for him on Friday morning just because it has been in 6 weeks and I hate putting him through this, but I suppose there is not a lot I can do about it until he has g-tube done.

Any way i would like to say a huge thank you for all the support, letters of encouragement, cards and gifts. It really makes Williams day to get something through the post and it makes me a happy mummy too. As for all the lovely emails I have received this week – I am going to try and reply to them all this week at some point.

William has also got his Make a Wish day on Thursday this week – he has had a playground done in our back garden, so hopefully I can get some new pictures of him on his equipment.

Update 7th February 2010

I just wanted to let everyone know that we heard from Great Ormand Street on Friday morning and they decided to put William back onto the list. They said that although it will be a very high risk transplant, they are willing to take the risk. So now we are just waiting for the call.

Update 3rd February 2010

William has been a little unwell recently with bad chest infections. We also had to cope with the transplant team making the decision to suspend him on the list until he had his catheter done in January.

We went down to London on the 19th for pre assessments to be done ahead of the cath being done on the 21st. All went well during this procedure, but the news was not as positive as we would have liked as William’s lung pressures have increased. The doctor came to discuss the results with us and said that although the pressures had increased, they did respond to the tests they did which was positive, but they were still about the same as they were 6 months ago. This means we were still borderline whether he could be considered for transplantation or not. The doctor said to us that he could not just put us active on the list again just like that as it would need discussing with all teams involved what the next option is. From what he was saying there could be four options now.

One would be to go back active on the transplant list and be aware that it would be what he called a high risk transplant. Two is maybe we could attempt another valve replacement to put in a bigger metal valve to see if it reduced pressure, but this too would be very risky and he may not pull through. Three is that they consider trying to put him on the artificial heart (the berlin heart) to see if this would relieve pressure until a heart became available, but this in itself would mean William being hospital bound in high dependency part of ward for maybe months on end. The fourth option is they do nothing and just play with his medication as his heart starts to fail.

This was all to be discussed last Thursday in a big meeting they had, but sadly one of the doctors got called away, so we won’t know what they think the right route for us to take would be yet. As soon as we know, I will let everyone know too.

William sends huge kisses to all who read his updates and continue to send him post.

Update 2nd December 2009

William has not been too well over the last 6 weeks, but the bad weather is here and it takes its toll on poor William, as he just does not have the reserve to fight off all the viruses flying around.
We have had a few hospital admissions too recently, the first one due to shortness of breath, and they were that worried about him that they actually sent us to our nearest cardiac hospital, which is Birmingham Children’s Hospital, to check and see how his heart function was doing. This was not the news we had hoped for really, the doctor told us that basically he is outgrowing his prosthetic valve now and it is resulting in his heart failing quicker than we’d all hoped. While we were in the hospital he had his swine flu vaccine and coped really well with it, bless him, he is a total darling and just takes it all in his stride.

We were home for 2 days and ended up in again with temps of 39.6 so they isolated us as they thought maybe he had contracted the swine flu just before he had the vaccine, but luckily he tested negative.

We are hoping to stay clear of the hospitals now so we can enjoy Christmas at home as a family because we don’t know what next year holds for us.

William has to go back down to Great Ormond Street in January and go through all his assessment for transplant tests done again. So it means another anesthetic and catheter done to check his lung pressure which we are praying has not changed, as last time he had them done they came back borderline, and if they go higher then we can not go forward for heart transplantation and will have to be considered for a heart and lung block, which is much more rare to come by, especially in children as small as William.

Anyway, on a lighter note, I would like to wish everyone involved in Post Pals and everyone who sends mails to all the deserving children on this site, a merry Christmas and a happy New Year. Post Pals is an amazing organization, keep up the hard work as it is so worth it.

Thank you for William’s cards, the smile on his face when he gets these just melt my heart. Thank you to Lokryn and Talek for your lovely card and teddy bear – he goes to bed with William every night.

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Tom S

04 July 2011

Story written 2008

Tom was diagnosed with Pulmonary Valve Stenosis and Juvenile Myelomonocytic Leukaemia at 11 weeks old. A few weeks later, it became clear that he had severe feeding problems, as the chemotherapy brought the leukaemia under control. He was also diagnosed with Noonans Syndrome.

When he was 6 months old, we brought him back to England from France, and were told by Great Ormond Street that he may not need a bone marrow transplant. We are very lucky that the leukaemia has stabilised and he is currently under no treatment.

He has had open heart surgery and will need ongoing surgical intervention as he grows older. He is tube fed via gastrostomy and now enjoys mummy’s home cooking through his tube. As a result his heath is much better than it was.

He is a happy, lively, wonderful little boy, but has huge problems with fatigue. He is dependant on his wheelchair and struggles to stay in school as viruses knock him down so easily. Pain at night in his legs and tummy stops him from sleeping well, but he is always chirpy in the morning. He is my little superstar!

Update 27th April 2013

For a while now, I have thought about moving Tom on from Post Pals. Not for any reason other than we know how much good this charity does not only to “sick kids”, but to their whole families. We know that the charity has grown from simple beginnings to offer many many schemes of post and little gifts to the Pals. As Post Pals is growing, so more and more families are in need of the smiles they bring.

We have had Post Pals in our lives for a long time now and I am not exaggerating when I say that many, many times, those little letters on the doorstep have got me from one end of the day to the other – seeing the smiles on the children’s faces, knowing that so many people out there in the universe have taken the time to think of us with love and kindness, has often been the support and encouragement I needed to take that next step.

My children are growing, and in terms of his medical problems, Tom is about as stable as he’s likely to get. Life is pretty good. Yes, we have continuing battles, but I suspect that will just keep going!!

I’d like to help my darling children learn to be as generous to others as you have all been to them. I’m hopeful that we will stay in touch with our “regulars”, if a little less frequently. I need to teach Tom that some gifts have to be earned, as well!

So we are moving on… not away. We have every intention of being a part of Post Pals but this time on the writing front. Of all the charities I have come across, Post Pals is wonderfully unique and it will stay very close to my heart for the rest of my life, I suspect. It’s no surprise that many Posties, Pals, and volunteers for Post Pals are also Facebook friends. This is a charity that is entirely about people, friendship, love and understanding, and we have been honoured to be the family of a Pal.

With much, much love, and thanks beyond measure to all of you who have ever written to us, or sent us anything at all, little or large… for now, we bid you goodbye and fare well. Take good care of each other and yourselves!

Update 29th January 2013

I’m so sorry this is a quick update. I want to say how amazing the gifts to all three children have been… they have brightened a difficult few weeks, as have the cards and letters.

We are continuing to battle the school system, which is wearing me down considerably.

Tom has officially been taken off growth hormone and the tube weaning program due to lack of growth. The doctors feel that his gut is not working properly, so we are waiting for a referral to gastro-enterology to find out more.  More tests, and more explanations to a little boy who is growing more aware of the invasive nature of these procedures…

His CT scan last December was normal, so we have an appointment to see what we do about his headaches on Thursday… lots of questions!

Kesia is being very brave and managing to go into school a little more with the support of a teaching assistant, but we are still all living under the shadow of her anxiety.

Zack is amazed and stunned at receiving parcels, and thrilled, thank you all so much!

Update 2nd December 2012

We’re heading for winter! The first sign is usually Tom getting styes! At the slightest sign of a cough I up his inhaler dosage to twice a day. We avoided a hospital stay last winter for the first time, so hopefully this year will be good too! I must go and check that the nebulizer works and I have supplies – it’s saved many a hospital trip! Ulcers are also showing us that his immune system is struggling a little bit. Not that Tom pays any attention to all that – he’s focussed on Christmas!

My big battle right now continues to be schooling. The psychologists came into school this month and seemed to realise how isolated Tom is. When asked if he was friendly, my little man thought a while, then answered that he was friendly with dogs… Their report is now apparently complete. As for when they will actually DO anything, I still don’t know. So I’ve hit the stage of calling the authority every few days. Hopefully they will move if only to get away from me!

Health wise, we continue to have some concerns about Tom. He has been losing weight for months now despite getting plenty of calories. The paediatrician feared it might be linked to his growth hormone treatment, but the specialist has pretty much ruled that out. The next port of call is the gastro-enterologist, so I’m waiting for a referral. It shouldn’t be too long since he has an open case with them, but hasn’t been seen for a few years. In the meantime he’s to undergo a CT scan of his head as he’s been getting almost daily headaches for nearly a year now. I have to say that there’s the thought of cancer at the back of my mind, but so far his blood work looks normal. Hopefully we will find out that it is a gut issue. I’ve talked to the docs for about two years now about my feeling that he does not process fat normally, and I wouldn’t be surprised to find that this is the problem (don’t panic is the name of the game I think!).

Other than the CT scan there are no appointments till January, so we’re all looking forward to Christmas. Zack will be rejoining the main family for Christmas week itself after three years of spending it with his grandparents – I put that down to his amazing school, and I’m looking forward to it! Nick has been working extremely long hours, but is now theoretically going to be around much more which will do all of us the world of good!

Lovely post this month. Thank you Becky especially for your letter to Kesia – it really rang true for her and she absolutely loved it. Maria and Michael, you started Tom’s Christmas, thank you so so much!!! The children were really sad to receive Dottie’s last letter – they will be much missed, but we have kept them all preciously so we will have to re-read them!!

Thank you to all of you at Post Pals. I often share your link and speak of you on my blog because I truly believe that of all the help we get, yours is probably the most far reaching.

Update 4th November 2012

October has gone by in a blur! Our big news with Tom was that we had to suspend the tube weaning program. Since then I’ve increased the amount of tube feed he gets in an effort to get him stabilised. I thought things were improving, but in the last week I find myself worried once more. We’re waiting for an urgent medical review, but the complexity and uniqueness of Tom means that a reliable review can only really be done by his main paediatrician… which would be all very well if her appointments schedule had a gap in it before March of next year. As it is, she is trying to fit him in somewhere, but that takes time so we wait. I’m fairly sure something’s wrong, and I’d be a little happier if I knew what!

School is still in limbo, but he’s looking forward to a trip next week to a Victorian school for the day. I made him a costume last week that I’m (and he is) very happy with.

Kesia continues to wobble along… not much news but a lot of stress around my little lady.

Zack was home for two weeks this month for his half term. He was thrilled to open his letters from Post Pals, and clearly appreciates the little notes… Wendy’s cards, as ever, are beautiful and all three children love to see the care that has gone into personalising each one. It’s been hard work having all three children home this week, and I’ll be glad to see a semblance of normality… sometime?

Tom has a few appointments in the coming weeks… cardiology, haemophilia, endocrinology, amongst more mundane things like physiotherapy etc… So I don’t know about normality – I’ve got to squeeze Christmas in there too!

Update 2nd October 2012

It’s a rocky time at the moment. School is in a period of major flux for Tom and Kesia in completely different ways. Tom has now been “classified” as having learning difficulties, and his timetable is so complicated that I’m not sure he spends much time in class. Between physiotherapy, rest breaks and relaxation, speech and language therapy, riding, hydrotherapy, tube feeds, one-to-one literacy and all the hospital appointments, it’s hard for him to access anything resembling a normal school day. So add in learning difficulties and it’s not surprising that he’s feeling overwhelmed and quite upset about the class work which he finds terribly difficult. He’s loving his one-to-one literacy lessons as he feels that he is achieving. We’re still waiting for the local authority to realise that he needs a special school, and hoping to keep him healthy in the meantime.

Health is an issue right now. He’s been losing weight over the last few months since we started the feeding therapy. Although he is eating much better than before, and in theory seems to have compensated with oral eating for the calories we removed from his tube feed, his body doesn’t seem to agree. He’s exhausted and gets headaches every day. And most upsetting, my Mum’s instinct is very jittery… So… I’m waiting for the nurse to get back to me, but it’s looking like a review at the local hospital soon, probably with blood tests. Needless to say, worry levels are a little high. As unlikely as it may be, we always have the fear of leukaemia lurking in the back of our minds. Hopefully next month’s update will have me feeling silly for being so worried…

Kesia is struggling due to her Asperger’s syndrome. She is managing a few hours a week at school, but spends much of her time at home as we await the process of getting a statement, and hopefully a place in an appropriate school next year. She’s loving the letters she gets from Post Pals, especially those which ask her plenty of questions or tell her things she doesn’t know.

And my eldest, Zack, is a little isolated right now. Some social issues have conspired to make him feel that Mummy is a “bad guy”, and as a result he’s been refusing to speak to me. From the distance of residential school, that’s difficult to fix!! Fortunately, school are being amazing and trying to get to the bottom of the problem. He really enjoys funny letters, and I am trying to get back into his mind as “happy Mummy” through mail… Fingers crossed!!!

All in all, it’s a tough time, but we’re working one day at a time. Dottie’s letter arrived today and will be opened at breakfast tomorrow, to the delight of both Kesia and Tom!! Thank you to all those wonderful people who have been writing to the children. They really love opening those letters, and any smile on their face lightens my load more than one can imagine!

Update 21st September 2012

We’ve had a busy summer – as ever!

So… Eldest Zack is doing well. He managed the best summer holiday ever, and really enjoyed opening a whole load of Post Pals mail that I had kept for him while he was at school (some I forward, but I’m not always as organised as I would like – as seen by my untimely updates!!). He’s now back at school and I’ve just heard that he has been chosen of all the boys in the school to pilot a scheme whereby he will have one to one music lessons due to his potential. I am SO proud of him.

Sweet girl Kesia now has an official diagnosis of Asperger’s syndrome, extreme anxiety and sensory modulation difficulties. She’s on medication which is helping calm her, and school are being amazing. She’s on an extremely reduced timetable at school but has managed three whole mornings at school this week. She loves receiving post, especially letters and loves learning about other people. As she’s getting older she’s also enjoying the act of answering, and slowly developing a dialogue with someone through letter writing.

Little man Tom… my official Pal. Well, he’s OK, though life is giving him some struggles. Health wise, we’re keeping things just about stable. The feeding therapy has hit a sticking point because although he’s eating amazingly well, he’s been losing weight, and certainly isn’t gaining any. The doctors are going to talk and think and try to come up with a plan. Autumn has hit with a vengeance this week and he has a stinking cold, following yet another ear infection. But he’s now an expert at administering his ear spray, and is taking charge of a good part of his health care.

School is tough. He’s working with a three year delay now and the gap between him and his peers is getting bigger. Staff at school are lovely and really helping, but we feel more and more strongly that he needs a specialist school environment. Cue battles with the authorities…

Tom loves the gifts he receives through Post Pals and we are working on thank you letters. Tom’s writing skills are limited, but he needs to learn how lucky he is to be in so many people’s thoughts… and he loves the special thank you paper we have to send our letters. He loves cards like the where’s Wally? ones, that have a lot to look at. He also loves receiving doggy news – Izzy and Dottie are great friends.

I wish I was more organised… I’ve tried so any systems to keep on top of the post we receive, to thank all those who write to the kids (and to me and Nick), and to fill out the stats for the wonderful girls at Post Pals who keep all this going. I haven’t succeeded yet…  but I’ll keep trying!!!

Thank you all so much. Sometimes when the kids are fighting because one got more post than the other I find myself wanting to throw the baby out with the bath water. But then one of them comes to show me a letter or card they received (that day, or a while ago), with a big smile: Tom because it’s made him laugh, Kesia because someone thought about her, Zack because something interested him; and I remember that Post Pals is quite quite wonderful and that it’s probably normal for my sweeties to squabble and argue.

Update 6th July 2012

It’s already the beginning of July and I’m painfully aware of the fact that I have not kept up to date with the wonderful people at Post Pals.

We have been so fortunate to receive such regular post and the schemes to have assigned people to write to the children has engendered a wonderful sense in them that they are cared for, deeply by strangers who are now becoming friends through their beautiful acts of writing and showing interest in them. This is amazingly precious to us as friendship is something we find difficult between Tom’s disabilities which tend to alienate children of his age and Kesia and Zack’s autism.

Life in the world of Tom S and family is rarely routine or particularly stable. Many of our challenges stem from having three children with special needs in the family and the rather strange dynamics that ensue, never mind the vast piles of paperwork that are generated by this situation.

This year it has become clear that Tom has a degree of learning disability and he has fallen increasingly far behind his peers. This combined with complex medical needs and a lack of social peer group (children quite understandably struggle to treat him in the same way as they do other 8 year olds as he looks and behaves far more like a 4 year old) has led us to request a change of school placement to a special school. Why this didn’t happen earlier is in large part due to the good support his current school have provided and the lack of appropriate schools. With a big effort put towards finding good provision, I eventually found a school and Tom was finally able to spend a day there a few months ago. Now comes the battle.

We are now in the unenviable position of having to focus everyone’s attention on all that is negative about Tom’s life. The review meeting was held, we walked out feeling utterly defeated and isolated. But we have picked ourselves up, put all the facts down on paper and are now living in limbo waiting for the LEA’s decision.

In the meantime, Tom’s health has remained fairly stable though there has been an increasing focus on trying to deal with his chronic fatigue and pain. After 8 years he was finally fully assessed by a physiotherapist and the importance of daily physio has been drummed into me as a matter of extreme importance… Now to get the support to enforce that program properly. The local physio has just put in place a block of 6 sessions with her which is clearly working his muscles very carefully and well. What happens after that 6 week block is much vaguer.

We have also begun a tube weaning program at GOSH. Fortnightly trips to see a lovely family therapist. The process is very very slow but it is a huge relief to finally have some support regarding Tom’s feeding problems. This week, Tom made it absolutely clear that he is fed up with the idea. He has no interest in eating more (though nor does he want his tube feeds), he does not want to do star charts anymore and is quite angry about the whole thing. The team are regrouping…

Occupational therapy are also finally becoming more involved in helping Tom, particularly by providing such aids as thumb splints to help him write and recommending rest breaks in his school day. Trying to get all of this incorporated into a mainstream school day is an enormous task and we end up once more at the conclusion that his needs are complex enough that only a special school can truly meet them.

This week also saw us at the endocrinologist’s door. A very short appointment this time. The doctor clearly isn’t sure that growth hormone is yet producing the results he would hope for so wants to have a serious talk in 6 months time.   At that point we will have a discussion about whether or not to continue with the treatment. I am telling myself to leave that thought process for the next few months but it lurks in the background nevertheless. I certainly wouldn’t miss the daily injections nor the bruises all over Tom’s legs. But it’s hard not to be happy for any growth, however slight…

Through all of this, Tom continues to love the post that lands on the doorstep… The mischievous rascal takes great pleasure in counting the letters and cards and gloating if he has more than his siblings. Of course, the strops that follow the reverse are quite monumental to behold!!! He especially likes cards with a few simple words that he can read himself, or ones that ask him to find something in the picture.

Kesia, our little princess attracts many writers, and she loves letters. I have to say I love the fact that she replies to them… I am remiss in not replying to more myself. She has had a tough few months and is finding school extremely difficult at the moment. We are pursuing help for her as well so are fighting battles on two fronts at the same time. Tired and stressed parents, but I have to keep reminding myself of the smiles that do keep coming!

Update 13th March 2012

How to thank the outstanding team at Post Pals?? These amazing ladies, most of whom are bed bound due to illness, nevertheless seem indefatigable in their efforts to make us smile. Thanks to them, the children bound to the door whenever there is a knock or the postman becomes visible. Not only do they work tirelessly to maintain Post Pals, but it seems that year after year they dream up yet another idea to make our children grin, smile and laugh.

In the last couple of months we have received around 18 cards and letters and four parcels!!! I especially love the scheme that pairs a volunteer with a child to ensure that regular post is received. Tom loves D’s letters and can’t wait to find out if she has been back to France as he is quite keen to hear more about the chickens there, and Kesia simply loves Emma (loves her letters too, but actually despite never having met, Emma is clearly a loved one). The Valentine’s cards were lovely, and my three were mesmerized by the question mark inside the Post Pals ones – a lovely sight. I cannot forget to mention the very literate doggies who write to Tom and Kesia. Percy the Poodle continues to enchant Kesia and Tom adores letters from Izzy – especially all the pictures! Dottie the Dalmatian is near and dear to our hearts, and we have a wall in the playroom dedicated to her beautiful cards.

And I cannot forget to mention our regulars: Wendy’s wonderful hand made cards always enchant as they picture the specific interests of each child, and Maria and Michael send lovely chatty letters. To top it all off, I just received a chocolate lollipop and a Mother’s Day card from the Post Pals team – my first of the year! I feel so cherished, thank you.

And so to update you all on my boy Tom! As ever, it is difficult to separate one child from the other, as my life bounces from one little crisis to another. Zack continues to do well at his residential school though Asperger’s syndrome lives with us daily – it’s always a challenge to keep up with his obsessions and imaginary worlds!! But I am more grateful than I can say that I no longer worry about him daily. My two little ones are a different matter – though we are rarely in acute situations, our daily life is coloured by illness and disability and the stresses of this show up in sometimes unforeseen ways!

Tom is back on growth hormone injections and is growing! His little legs are covered in bruises, and I continue to try and persuade him to use his bottom without success. His godfather (who is diabetic) did tell him that “the bum is best” and hurts least, but Tom remains unconvinced, leaving me with the unenviable task of finding an unbruised square centimeter of thigh… He is remarkably resilient and makes very little fuss so long as we keep our deal of a special bead onto his Beads of Courage string each Sunday. In fact, I think he finds his medication worse than the injections!!

He has been finding school increasingly tiring in the last few weeks and I suspect that he will need a few days off shortly. Treading that fine line between normality and care is something I find especially difficult to do with Tom as he tends to charge through life until he collapses. A recent assessment showed us that while his IQ is in the normal range, he has significant problems with working memory and processing speed, making learning difficult. School is an ongoing issue which I hope we will resolve in the next few months. We are extremely fortunate to have a school which takes very good care of its special needs pupils, so I’m sure we will reach a good result!

Feeding clinic starts tomorrow… I’m nervous, but quite confident that it is a good thing to embark on. I’ve been managing Tom’s feeding problems alone for five years now and it’s high time I had some support with it. Whether we will get him off the tube, I don’t know, but I can at least be certain that we are being helped by the right people.

My little girl continues to struggle with life. We are ending the psychotherapy as it really is not helping her in her daily life. The issues go on, and we need to pursue some kind of help for her, but clearly therapy was not right for her – at least not there and not now. I have to say I am relieved that these twice weekly trips will stop – they have been traumatic for quite some time now.

And then I suppose, there’s the parents. Due to a silly mix-up, Tom has not been to the respite centre for a couple of months now. It’s very much at this sort of time that I come to realise how badly we need that respite as a family. Nick (Dad) has long days at work, and the weekends need to feature at least some periods of calm and peace for him to be able to function both at work and as a Dad. Unfortunately, the lack of respite has led to very fractious children, neither of whom can control their reactions or emotions very well… leading to many many tantrums, and very fraught parents! I will be ever so happy when April comes round and normal fortnightly trips to Cherry Trees can resume for Tom – he does so well there, and Kesia and Nick can get that calm and peace they so desperately need! Not to mention my fortnightly guaranteed night’s sleep!

Update 20th January 2012

It’s been a busy month after Christmas! We had a whole load of appointments at GOSH, with more coming up in February. I think our biggest issue at the moment is Tom’s schooling. He has so much support where he is, but it’s becoming more and more clear that mainstream is not a great fit. He is falling behind his peers, and mostly his physical and medical needs are just beyond the experience of teachers who just don’t have the opportunity to train in some quite specialised areas of care. Luckily, we happened upon a great occupational therapist just before Christmas who suggested a school for children with physical and sensory issues.

Tom, Nona (my mum) and I went to visit at the beginning of January and it was a lovely school. So now we have thinking and planning to do. I particularly hate that the system requires that we show that his current school is not able to meet his needs. I’m so grateful for all that his school does, it seems awfully disloyal to present things in this way…

Medically, Tom is doing really well with his growth hormone injections each night. His Beads of Courage string is growing in length and I’m really proud of the matter of fact way he approaches them. His little legs are covered in bruises, thanks to his platelet dysfunction. There are days when finding a patch of clear skin is tough which is a little heartbreaking. True to form, Tom thinks this is all perfectly normal!

We’re beginning our year really well with Post Pals! We’ve decided to keep all our post on a beautiful red ribbon so that we can look at the cards and letters and I can do the updates better! Tom and Kesia have been really keen to answer their regular posters which is lovely. Tom especially is very limited in his ability to type or write, so I’m especially proud of him. He especially loves letters which refer to the picture on the card and we love Izzy and Percy, the dogs who write so well! I have to thank Post Pals again, as this is going to help his literacy no end!! Zack is doing really well in his school, and quite happy to be there until half term. Kesia is having a tough time of life, especially at school which she finds overwhelming and frightening. She loves receiving post and would love to answer more often. She tells me that she doesn’t know what to write, but does like to answer questions!!

Thank you to all of you who write to our children… those little smiles are worth the world! Thank you also to all the team who make Post Pals possible.

Update 5th December 2011

Oh my goodness, I had not realised I was so behind with Tom’s updates. I am so sorry because just last week, Kesia and Tom were saying how much they love receiving post from Post Pals.

It’s been a busy few months, for all the children really. Some of you may know that Zack, Tom’s older brother, has Asperger syndrome and is at residential school. He is doing well there, but home-time is always difficult. I forward any of his Post Pals mail and he absolutely loves it. Kesia is still struggling with extreme anxiety and difficulties around food and school. We need to pursue a statement of special educational needs for her to ensure that she can go to a secondary school that will allow her to thrive. That has taken a lot of our energy and we continue to do all we can to support her and give her opportunities to smile and feel happy.

So, our pal Tom!! Tom’s had quite a hard term so far. He suffered a very bad few weeks of croup and an ear infection that stopped him going to his beloved hydrotherapy… a very unhappy little boy! For a good six weeks he and I spent much of the nights awake with the nebulizer to try and avoid hospital. On the whole he did well, though we did have a couple of midnight trips to our local when his breathing got really bad.

His ear infection proved very resilient so we were seen by ENT a couple of weeks ago. That ear is slowly improving now, but we found out that he has glue ear in the other ear and medium hearing loss. Another thing to monitor…

Some really good news in the midst of all this fairly normal illness was his cardiology review. His heart continues to be stable and the doctor is very happy with him. We are therefore back on to growth hormone injections daily that Tom is managing amazingly well. His beads of courage help him enormously, and he has made a deal with me to earn a special bead once a week as well as his daily black bead (the black beads symbolise a needle). We see the endocrinologist at Christmas, and I am hoping that he will have sorted out the funding for the treatment which has as we speak been rescinded by the Trust… sigh.

Our biggest concern continues to be food and growth. Tom became very poorly while he was suffering with croup, and vomiting was a bad problem again. Luckily, we are being seen by the feeding clinic at GOSH this coming Friday. As nervous as I am to have our dysfunctional eating under scrutiny, I am hoping that some answers will eventually come out of it. I have to say I’m also hoping that they may be able to help Kesia who has very different problems with eating.

Post Pals keeps making us smile. The letters from around the world are a source of sheer joy, our regular posters warm my heart especially and the surprises from Post Pals (the balloons are still floating around) are wonderful. Thank you so so much.

Update 20th August 2011

Every time I write an update I expect things to quieten down. I feel so humbled each time I open the door to find more post for my kiddies – even me (thank you Wendy for the so regular hand made cards). I do not keep track well enough of the beautiful cards and letters people from all over the world and for that I am so sorry. Often, I find pen and paper and resolve to keep note of you all. So far, I have failed miserably, and can only convey in these updates the smiles you bring into my home. Words are too few and too poor to express how I feel about this.

As ever, life continues to be a journey of ups and downs and unexpected pot-holes… quite a bumpy road this life of mine!

The big news for Tom is that we attempted to make do without tube feeding. He became very unwell during the first half of the summer term, with a lot of vomiting that I haven’t seen for years. School was taking it all out of him, and between the exhaustion, vomiting and terrible temper, I became quite concerned. I did get an emergency appointment with his endocrinologist as the growth hormone treatment seemed the only new element. It was a good appointment – one of those doctors who listen to me and with whom I can have adult conversations.

On the growth hormone front, the treatment is working really well. Tom’s growth has been exceptional. Possibly this is the source of the problem… Despite this fantastic growth, and true bravery from a little boy who really does not like needles, I have been utterly unable to increase his food intake, be it through the tube or orally. So… more growth, but no more food. Kind of like trying to run a big truck on the fuel tank of a fiesta…

My concern was that the GH was affecting his heart – so we concluded that checking his heart before continuing would be wise. I’m still waiting for the appointment, but other things have taken my attention, so I am waiting rather than chasing. The plan is to start again, but at half the dose to see how he does.

The issue of tube feeding reared its ugly head once more at that appointment – how unusual it is to have a child of Tom’s age be tube fed, especially without clear cause.

So I went home, to a half term house with Zack and Kesia in full-blown stress mode: shouting, crying, screaming, running away from home. Not to mention Tom refusing food, both mouth and tube. And I had pretty much had enough. Of making feed, of having to fight with Tom each feed time, of doctors looking at me as though I were the one insisting on tube feeding needlessly. So I stopped.

I explained to Tom that we were going to see how well he could eat. And I watched. A long, painful 4 weeks short…

He did SO well. At first. The first three weeks went well. He didn’t eat loads, but it was regular, and he was drinking good amounts of milk. He even gained a little weight each week. And then, week 4, he just “couldn’t” eat anymore. I can’t explain it differently. He just wasn’t hungry at all; even giving him access to the kitchen at will was no good. He lost 5% of his body weight that week.

As much as I try to keep myself together, my emotions run very high where Tom and food are concerned. Watching him lose weight was hard. On the one hand, I have to show doctors that I am doing the best I can to get him off the tube. On the other, I have to be answerable to family members who see Tom getting skinny and pale and listless.

End of week 4 we started night feeds again. Tom chose to do that rather than day feeds. End of week 5 I had to start full feeds.

I’ve had to take him to the optician – he had some strange shadows on the white of his eye. She confirmed that it is a sign of malnutrition.

We’re back on track. It’s taking time to get him back to his version of full health. And it’s taking time for my heart to mend.

Update 1st March 2011

Well, February has been somewhat hectic!! After giving us a nasty scare, Tom spent the rest of the month at home convalescing and being a royal pain!! He has really loved the cards he received, especially the colourful one. Whether because of his difficulty reading, short attention span or being a boy, he isn’t too interested by the writing part of the letters he gets!! I am an ashamed Mummy!! He does LOVE any cards that give him plenty to look at, or count, or make stories about.

Half term went remarkably well, all things considered. Zack was home for the second half of the week and has been lovely. I wish I could convey what that means for us… I simply can’t. He always enjoys opening any cards that have come for him and loved Wendy’s  – thank you!

Kesia has just started swimming lessons and did a really good job of appearing normal during half term – she is looking forward to her therapy sessions resuming though, and that pretence has taken a lot of energy…

Daddy has been really present and helpful, but Tom’s stay in hospital took its toll, and as for me…! Well, as usual, crisis management is one of my strengths, but if life gives me a few days to gather myself I will no doubt have a good old cry! My sweet boy Tom is so alive and loud and (let’s face it) annoying these days – as any self respecting seven year old should be… that I feel I should be able to celebrate and accept that. But since the leukaemia, it really does feel like each day is a bonus, and seeing him so ill earlier this month brought all that back.

Update 10th February 2011

Tom was at Great Ormond Street last week for a fairly minor operation. As predicted, we got home Saturday evening, despite a fair amount of pain.

Unfortunately Tom spiked a fever on Sunday evening and I took him into our local hospital for a review Monday morning. He was admitted straight away and has been in since. Massive amounts of IV antibiotics seem to be getting the better of the generalised infection (of unknown origin or name), but one of his wounds is breaking down, and it now seems that a transfer back to GOS will be on the cards tomorrow if it is no better.

The uncertainty of the situation is getting the better of us all and we are trying to juggle Tom and Kesi’s needs as best we can. Zack, luckily, is blissfully ignorant – the joys of boarding school mean that we can afford to keep at least one child at peace!

I’d like to thank all those who wrote to us over Christmas and in the last couple of weeks. My brain is mush and I can’t remember for the life of me how many and who. We have wonderful regular writers: Maria and Michael, Wendy, Jane and Percy, are some names that come to mind. Thank you so so much!

Update 22nd November 2010

Our big news this month is that we finally have funding approval for Tom to start growth hormone treatment! It has been a long, hard battle – first to convince doctors to do testing, then all the communication needed to make sure that Tom was not likely to develop some nasty conditions as a result of the treatment, then the inevitable funding issue with the PCT. But, we got the OK, and last week I got the call from the homecare company. Tom’s first prescription will be home on Monday!

He’s looking forward to it, but there is some trepidation. We’ve avoided needles, but the pen that will deliver the daily dose is likely to bruise and hurt somewhat… so my boy needs to be brave!
The stoma is flaring up again. We’ve managed to keep the infection just about under control with thrush cream, but no longer… I’m waiting for the nurse to get back to me, and we are seeing the local pediatrician in a couple of weeks, but the poor boy is itching like mad and hurting.

In good news, Tom has started working in small groups for both numeracy and literacy and is a much much happier boy as a result. He’s learning, and achieving, and loves it. He’s also been promised some hydrotherapy by the local special school, so I’m looking forward to that for some pain relief for him. As far as pain goes, it’s clear that his medication works, but only if he is kept very calm and physically quiet in the day, which makes it difficult to help him build muscle tone and strength. That’s where riding comes in, and is such an amazing boost to him. He absolutely loves JimBob, and can’t wait to get on. His face simply beams as he reaches for the reigns, and it’s a joy to watch him steer his pony, get him going with a gently kick or stop him with a fabulous “whoooooaaaa!”.

On the whole, it’s been a good month for our little man. The other children are alright. Zack has been struggling at school, but we are realizing that he is comfortable enough there to be truly himself – and want to communicate without being able to well enough. Kesia’s therapist unfortunately suffered a family bereavement and has been away for three weeks which has had rather negative effects on her. Luckily they start again tomorrow!

As for Nick and I, we have booked our first holiday together in a very long time. My mother will be looking after Tom and Kesi, with the fabulous support of Cherry Trees. I’m looking forward to it very much, despite being very nervous at the thought of being away and relaxing!

Update 8th October 2010

Post Pals, as most of you should know by now is a small charity which does great work by encouraging everyday folk to do a simple thing – send a card to a sick child (and/or their siblings). It seems like a tiny gesture, and yet as a parent of children with health problems I can only try to say how important that gesture is. At the end of the day, when Tom is really tired from school and Kesia is struggling to be the “good” sister, the sight of a card or letter (even occasionally parcel) turns what could be a very long, miserable evening into one full of smiles.

And all they ask of me is that I update all those wonderful people… I missed my August update and all of a sudden here is the September one!

I’m going to summarise the summer. I think that the reason I didn’t update August is that it felt very long and very sad and sharing that was just too hard. I also had to keep a detailed account for Zack’s school and that just emptied me. We got through it without major incidents. I was able to avoid any hospital appointments with Tom, and Cherry Trees (www.cherry-trees.co.uk) and Challengers (www.disability-challengers.org) made life possible.

And so into September!! First, September was Childhood Cancer Awareness month. In my world that means a lot. Many of my Facebook friends are personally affected by childhood cancer, as I have been and continue to be, despite Tom’s good health in that regard. In the US, 46 children are diagnosed with cancer each day. Here in the UK, it’s 6. Six babies every day, whose parents are told, “Your baby has cancer”. That’s not rare. It’s simply not talked about.

Most of these children (amazing and normal at the same time) will undergo chemotherapy and lose their hair. They take this with enormous fortitude, as they do all the awful side effects of cancer treatment. And so last month, 46 Mommas in the states got together to raise money and to raise awareness! With many leading television channels in attendance they shaved their heads! What they did is awesome and I am full of wonder and love for them. www.46mommas.com

I am not that brave, but I want to do something!! Why am I so vain about my hair? Goodness knows! But one of those fabulous cancer mums suggested something that I can do, that feels big to me, and that I hope can help a child somewhere! I have very long hair and what I am hoping to do is cut it all off to donate. My hope is that my ponytail will contribute to making a wig for a child suffering from hair loss. Be it through cancer treatment or something else. My secret hope is that my hair could be part of a “happy wig” – maybe pink or glittery… something a little special for a special girl. So I’m looking, and I hope to get something sorted out sooner rather than later, especially in terms of fundraising. Again, I’m not sure where the money will go – but it needs to be helping raise awareness of childhood cancer. That’s where my heart is.

Phew! Now on to update you all about my Tom!!

We’ve had a busy month. Tom started school in the juniors which has been a tough transition. School have on the whole been really good, but it’s difficult to remember how hard he finds schoolwork when he engages so readily in the classroom. He’s been having a lot of nightmares and not been happy about going to school so I explored the possibility of special school. I’m really happy to report that as a result, the local special school is going to be working closely in partnership with the school. They are hoping to exchange students on a regular basis, exchange teaching methods and ideas which will directly help Tom with his literacy. What’s more, they are offering to give Tom some hydrotherapy which is fantastic as we are battling pain during the day as well as at night now.

Tom’s also started riding with the RDA (www.rda.org.uk) which he is loving and which I hope will strengthen him enough to alleviate some of that pain.

Feeding is a nightmare right now and I’m trying very hard not to let it bother me too much. The only thing he wants to eat is chips and with Kesia at home it’s very hard to justify making chips daily, only for him. Thank goodness once again for the tube, and for the blenderized diet! This week has been dominated by sardines and spinach, and he is looking nice and healthy! Small oily fish, that’s what I say!
We had some really good news last week as we went to Tom’s yearly cardiology check up. He was fantastic about the ECHO, and the Doctor is very happy with the state of his heart. As he says, his pulmonary valve is no longer there, so there is leakage, but his heart is doing really well, much the same as last year. That’s really good news, as surgery is therefore not on the horizon yet. Long may that last!!

We also saw the haemophilia doctor while we were there – another check up – who was very concerned to learn that a minor surgery was planned for Tom at our local hospital. She told me that although Tom was probably going to be fine, his bleeding disorder is such that the local hospital does not have the resources to deal with a possible bleed. I have to say, I’m quite pleased that this will now be done at GOSH because the local team had not given the bleeding issues any thought – I had had to remind them. It’s nothing huge – Tom just needs his man bits to be brought down where they belong!! Again, something I’ve been keeping an eye on for five years, knowing that it is a common issue in Noonan syndrome. At least it’s getting dealt with now!

In other news, Kesia has started psychotherapy and seems to be doing well on it. I’m tired as it takes a lot of time in the week but happy to be doing something proactive for her. She had a crazy week at the end of September when she attended a glitzy ceremony to collect her WellChild Award (for Caring Child) which I think will have left her with some amazing memories. It was truly moving to be able to focus so much time, appreciation and love on her and her alone.

One last piece of big news for those of you still reading this epic!! Together with a few friends, we are launching a new support group for people affected by Noonan Syndrome. It is called Noonan UK, and is a chapter of TNSSG (www.noonan-syndrome.org) who provide such amazing support in the states. We have a facebook page of the same name and will eventually look to becoming a charity once we are raising enough money. We’ve already had contact from new families and are hoping to get UK families together very soon.

Thank you all for those wonderful cards… Wendy whose homemade card are stunning, Dottie the Dalmatian who provides giggles galore, Jane and Percy as always, and all those of you who have sent cards, letters and gifts.

Thank you Post Pals!

Update 11th July 2010

A lot of the time, I find it really difficult to see Tom as a chronically ill child, and one with complex special needs. He is in a mainstream classroom, he has no communication difficulties, and he runs around, has friends, and shouts at Mum a lot.

Then he has sports day and I realise that I’m not the only one with this problem. Even his teachers find it hard to realise that he’s running too much, that his extra feed is really essential to his health, and that all the fussing I do about pacing, and feed, and all those other little things are the reason he is so healthy at the moment.

He’s had a couple of really nasty infections in his stoma for the past three years. Non stop. And yes, we’ve tried several different kinds of antibiotics, both oral and local, many different creams, bandages, steroids… but nothing works. So the infections become a new kind of normal. Because he’s such a stoic and happy little chap, the fact that he’s got the equivalent of an infected ear piercing (times by a lot) in his tummy and has to keep the “earring” in, is not something he complains about. He’ll squirm a bit, but on the whole, just gets on with his life.

On the day of his show (more on that in a little bit), I got a phone call from school to tell me that his G button had got pulled out. It’s not a life or death issue, but as soon as the button comes out, all those little cells say “here’s our chance to fix this hole that shouldn’t be here”. So we’re on a clock. I know how to put the button in of course, but no one at school does. Last week, I was twenty five minutes away, and Kesia was half way through a vital session of psychotherapy.

So as soon as she came out, my adrenalin went into overdrive (outdated fight or flight response – just annoying). My whole being was bent on getting to Tom as quickly and safely as possible. I got home to get the supplies I needed (no spare button, but I did find a wiggly – that is a PEG… like a button, but with an attached tube, so it dangles from the stoma), then rushed off to Sam’s house as she had taken Tom home.

Without the button in place, the poor lad’s infection was looking really horrid. So I was able to clean it all up as best I could – loads and loads of Betadine was, a bit of bonjela to numb the area before inserting the wiggly. Luck being on my side, the wiggly is much finer than his button, and the stoma hadn’t closed up too much, so insertion didn’t hurt. Bless Sam; she then fed both of them. Needless to say, Kesia had picked up on all my adrenaline filled anxiety without any of the calming words I was saying. I was not worried, simply knew I had a job to get done within a time limit.

The next step to that afternoon was to go and watch Tom’s show about a scarecrow – Tattybogle. Tom played a bug and did beautifully. But it is one of the times when I notice quite how different he is to his peers. So, so tiny! With the move to junior school happening, and many new children joining the school, Tom’s cocoon of understanding and helpful classmates is being breached. He is so comfortable that his awareness of these differences is very limited.

So just now, Tom feels like a very vulnerable little boy! He’s doing so well with his wiggly. I want to keep it in place because it’s easier to clean his stoma than with the button, and I’m hoping that as the stoma closes up around the thinner tube, some more healthy cells will help fight the infection. This is just me, a mum, talking, but the nurses and doctors haven’t got an answer either.

Finally, a huge thank you to all of you who sent post. Tom loved the letter from Maria and Michael. Jane, as ever, Percy’s letters continue to enchant Kesia, and I am forever grateful to the wiggly bags that are making their way here as we speak!!

Update 29th May 2010

It’s been a whirlwind of a month again! Tom is doing really well at the moment. His pain medication is working, so finally after six years, he is sleeping most nights (fingers kept tightly crossed). It seems that the small amount of growth hormone he was given in February did him a lot of good, so we’re just waiting for things to be set in motion so that the treatment can begin. I have to say that I have not yet told him that it means daily injections.

Unfortunately, his behaviour has exploded, and we’re trying to cope, Nick and I. Both Kesia and Tom are deeply angry and upset, which is making home-life tense. I’m really pleased to say that services are coming together for Kesi though, and she’s going to be getting psychotherapy to help her. As for Tom‚Ķ  back to basics and a lot of time-outs.

Zack is doing well at school. We don’t see him often but speak every couple of days!

Other than the daily ups and downs of Tom’s feeds and stoma infections, his health is more stable this year than ever before. Long may it last!

Thank you for our post and Wendy’s home made cards are simply beautiful! The pirate ship, blanket (now named blankie) and book was amazing!! Tom got to it so fast that I haven’t found out who it was from though.

Update 30th April 2010

Life just seems to go on! So, Tom has had a really good month! He’s learnt to feed himself using a syringe – no mean feat as it’s quite tricky to hold the syringe, pour the feed, unclamp the tube, plunge and repeat!!

Nights have been difficult as he’s been in quite a lot of pain, but we have at last seen the pain consultant and are upping his meds as well as putting some work in with a psychologist.

I’ve won the growth hormone battle!! There’s funding etc to put in place, but the consultant says he responded really well to the test, and his predicted adult height of 4’6 is such that it’s worth going for it. Tom doesn’t yet know it means an injection every day‚ I will let you know when we get started!

Tom has really enjoyed the post this month, and I am slowly beginning to catalogue it to say proper thank you’s. The fridge magnets were particularly successful!

As for the other honeys! Zack is doing well at school and we got through the holidays. Kesia had a good break in France with her grandmother, but the harsh reality of life is creeping back, so I’m really pleased that she is about to start some psychotherapy.

Nick (Daddy) is working hard and keeps a roof over our heads and food in the fridge. I think he wishes there were more smiles at home, but is often touched by the post from you all, so thank you.
Mummy (me) has had a hard month, with a bad flare up of fibromyalgia and depression, but today there is a glimmer of light.

Thank you all so much. It made my heart thrill to see Vikki on telly with Russell Howard – we need more of that!!

Update 5th April 2010

This is a much delayed update, for which I am truly sorry. Not least because Post Pals has allowed us to get through the last few months.

So… quick update before I go into more details. Tom, my official little Pal is doing fairly well at the moment. He’s had to undergo a lot of tests lately to determine why he isn’t growing. They were done at my insistence, which is tough. He has so many ongoing issues that the doctors don’t think of growth too much, but I have to think about his future and how I will answer him if he asks me why he is so short.

So he’s had lots of injections and blood tests which are his least favourite things in the world. We’ve been using ‘Buzzy’, a little vibrator which helps with the pain, but it’s the anticipation that really upsets him. I suspect the results will be that there is nothing we can do to help him grow, but at least I will have done everything possible. (Little secret: he’s so gorgeous as he is, it’s a difficult call to consider treatment which would make him shoot up!)

Tom loves the cards, especially the ones that have bright colours and pictures, or things to count. He also loves stickers, and the passion for little cars is still very much alive. He’s brilliant at pretending games, so a piece of string and a cardboard box and he’s happy.

On an aside, I’ve finally cracked the huge problems he was having with reading!! We’re reading Peter and Jane ladybird books, and he’s doing really well, even enjoying books at last.

Next chronologically is my darling girl, Kesia. She has had a very hard time lately, and I have to thank Jane and Percy the Poodle for being such steadfast friends. Zack’s departure to residential school has been tough on her, and she is sinking. In February, after already struggling with food, she suddenly stopped eating altogether. This was extremely worrying, and went on for three weeks during which we were happy if she ate a slice of bread each day. It’s taken us a lot of work, tears and banging on doors, but she finally has an appointment with a psychotherapist at the end of April. She’s also found school very frightening, and her whole world seems to be falling apart. Although she rarely says much, I know that receiving letters from Post Pals is a real lifeline for her. I find the letters all over the house, and they move around as she reads them and leaves them for later. Should one not be where she left it, she becomes distraught!! Maybe one day I will be able to teach her that she should keep them somewhere safe!

Then of course we have my oldest little man, Zack. He is not a Pal, but often feels like one as his special needs have dominated our family in the last year. Today was a very emotional moment as I opened a parcel addressed to him (understandably, I do check parcels before passing them on). I was astounded to find the most beautiful handmade quilt. And not an ordinary quilt: a weighted one. The detail of the work is phenomenal, and I cannot begin to imagine the time spent on making this. I had tears in my eyes as I laid it on his bed in his brand new bedroom. For reasons of safety, we have had to go up into the loft and create a small bedroom for him during the holidays. It just wasn’t safe for any of the children to share. So he has a lovely new room, with this stunning quilt. He will be coming home this afternoon for the Easter holidays, and I am quite sure he will love it. I will be posting a photo as soon as he is here.

Talking of photos, I must explain Tom’s recent photo. Given our family, we have chosen to be very open about the boys’ conditions. Not long ago, Tom asked for a t-shirt. He wanted it to include his name and that he has ‘Nrome’. It took me a few days, but I finally realised he meant Noonan syndrome! He looked very exasperated at the length of time it took me to understand!! Having posted this on Facebook, proud Mummy of a little boy who accepts himself faults and all, imagine my surprise when a few days later, a t-shirt matching the exact description arrived at home, thanks to my mother!

It’s been a hard few months, but right now, life feels ok. Long may that last!!

Update 27th November 2009

Big changes! Zack is settling in well at school. It’s up and down over there, but at least home life can settle a little. Zack has really loved the Post Pals letters, especially one from an elf!

Kesia has been struggling quite a lot since big brother left, and the cards from the reindeers have helped her a lot – she was so excited to know that she and her brothers were on the good list!

Tom has been quite poorly this month. His legs and arms are hurting more, and often during the day now which is upsetting him quite a lot. He really likes getting post, especially when there are pictures as his reading is very limited. We are trying to find out why he hurts, and mostly a way of managing the pain, but without luck so far. In December he will be going for a growth hormone test to find out whether or not we can try growth hormone treatment which could help his appetite and pain as well as his height. He is tired, so not eating much at all, and trying to fight off the winter bugs.

On the whole though, things are better, but little Tom is finding life a little too painful for his liking!

Huge thanks to Jane, and to the reindeers and elves.

Update 31st October 2009

What a very strange month!! Zack started residential school at the beginning of the month and we had two weeks of strange peace and quiet. He has now been back for a two week half term and we are all feeling the stress and sadness – none more so than Tom and Kesia. He goes back to school next Tuesday, and in a strange way, all of us including Zack will be happier.

So Tom… He is as hyperactive as ever, growing more exhausted as the term goes on, but absolutely denies being tired!! The pain at night is testament to my little boy’s character being greater than his body’s strength! His eating is not very good, but I had a great appointment with a dietician who at long last supports the home made blended food I use when tube feeding.

We are still trying to address the pain issues, but until Zack has been away from home for a while, the doctors feel that they cannot do anything. Another big battle is the issue of growth and growth hormone. I am trying to gather strength for this battle, as Tom is so incredibly tiny and already very aware of his height.

We have so far avoided flu and other nasties of the winter – the mild weather has been really good for Tom, and even his asthma hasn’t reared its head yet. He will be on the list for the swine flu vaccine I’m told so I hope he will avoid the bug.

Mum and Dad have crashed… We are trying to keep going, or at least not crash together, but it’s a bit tough!!

Thank you so much to Post Pals. Kesia in particular really benefits from it. Although this is more of a sideline, in our family it has proved critical. For such a little girl, she has much to bear, and does it with remarkable fortitude. Once Mum and Dad have dealt with the two boys, there just isn’t enough energy to dedicate time to her… receiving letters and cards really do make a difference. Thank you.

Particular thanks to Jane and Percy the Poodle. Kesia cherishes this relationship far more than her words are able to say.

Update 29th September 2009

I think that the end is in sight! This last year has been traumatic at best, but I think that all the tears and hard work have come to a good conclusion. Zack is about to start school at a wonderful residential special school for boys with Asperger’s Syndrome. It’s been a hard battle, but the fact that he is looking forward to Friday is a joy to behold.

So… that said, our little Tom comes to the fore once more! Following his week long stay at hospital this summer, I am seeing his consultant this week and will update soon! We are also seeing the cardiologist next week for his yearly check-up. That’s always a time when the reality of Tom’s condition is thrust upon us a little more.

He has been very tired since school started, and the difficulties at home mean that he often feels very angry without knowing why. I hope that this will settle once Zack is at school. A big breakthrough is that we are now using Widgit symbols to help him read, and he is loving that – finally he can access books like the other children!

I’m happy to be able to concentrate a little more on him, as he has been suffering a lot of leg pain at night. Long may this last!

A big thank you to Wendy for her beautiful cards, and also to our faithful friends, Jane and Percy. Apologies to anyone I may have forgotten!

Update 30th August 2009

Well, summer is over and we survived it!! We’ve had lots of help from social services, and thanks to that, the summer has been a lot better than expected.

Tom has had a week in hospital to try and figure out why his legs hurt. The nurses noted that he was indeed in pain and did not want attention. Unfortunately that’s as far as we got, and in the meantime, he’s suffering a lot of pain even in the daytime. It’s wearing him down a bit and he’s very tired. We have a lot of hospital appointments in the next few months.

Kesia still really loves hearing from Percy the Poodle. She has just spent a couple of weeks in France with her grandparents, flying all by herself for the first time.

Zack has done well this summer, although his anxiety levels are rising as term approaches. Although the LEA has approved funding for his new school, the school itself is waiting for September to be able to assess him. Fingers crossed that he’ll be able to start soon.

I’m glad to say that this month has been better than the last few. We’re not out of the woods yet, but the light seems to be at the end of the tunnel!

Update 3rd August 2009

Another eventful month here! Tom, being our little Pal here, should go first!

Tom had a wonderful if tiring end of term. He loved his school trip and the school had made sure that he could have a seat in the coach and take his wheelchair. He sang beautifully in his end of term show and said great goodbyes to his teacher. We’re really thrilled that he will be keeping his LSA at school and has a lovely new teacher to look forward to in year 2.

His health is up and down and I’ve noticed that he’s more reliant on his wheelchair. Whether that is because of his medical condition or because he wants to do more as he gets older, I don’t know.

He’s eating really well – he tried omelette and liked it, and has tried peas and carrot, so I’m very proud of him. Unfortunately, I’ve slightly reduced his tube feeds as a result, and he has lost weight!

He’ll be spending next week at Epsom General Hospital, so any post would be really lovely the week of the 10th. I can take it to him easily. He’s in for observation as he’s in a lot of pain at night, as ever.

Kesia is doing well and loves the regular correspondence she receives from Percy the Poodle and Jane!

Zack is not doing well at all. We are still waiting to hear from the school that the LEA finally approved. Unfortunately, his violence towards me has increased, and the police are now involved with our family – very kindly I might add. He’s such a confused little boy and has so much rage in him, it’s a heart breaking situation to be in, as his rage and behaviour put us at risk.

Mum and Dad are surviving. Not much more than that, but hoping that a school decision will help us all.

Huge thanks this month to Jane and Percy the Poodle, regular as ever! Kesia is getting lots of post, but Tom and Zack very little. I love that people realise life as a sibling is hard sometimes. Tom really loves getting cards – simple ones are great since he doesn’t read. Zack also likes cards, but more for the pictures than the text – unless there’s a joke or scientific fact in there!

Update 30th June 2009

Tom’s had a tough time this month. He’s had bruises all over, so had to have a blood test to check that his leukaemia wasn’t starting again. He hates bloods, so that was a difficult day. Luckily that’s ok. We think that his platelets just aren’t working very well.

Although he had been eating really well, he’s found that harder again, so we’re more dependent on the tube once more. Infections in his stoma have made that sore, particularly at night when he has a feed all night. More leg pains again too, so the poor thing has been sleeping really badly.

On bigger news, we’re looking into growth hormone to help him grow. That’s going to involve some nasty tests, so I will let you know when he is due in hospital for those.

Family-wise, things broke down quite badly a couple of months ago. We’ve had a lot of intervention from social services, and Zack is now at the respite centre every week day. We are expecting a decision about a special residential school for him in the next few days.

A huge thank you for all our post and special thanks from Kesia to Percy the Poodle as she loves his cards and letters!

Update 30th April 2009

It’s been a difficult month for Tom. He’s very stressed by the home situation. Big brother Zack continues to ignore him or to be very aggressive towards him. That’s affected his fatigue and pain, so he’s not doing very well.

The normal bugs around have hit him particularly hard, and a bad attack of croup led to a trip in an ambulance to hospital. Luckily he wasn’t admitted, but we now have a nebulizer at home. Our big problem is getting food into him. Even with the tube, his little body is just saying no, so he’s vomiting a lot.

He keeps smiling though and tells his Mummy he loves her about a hundred times a day!

Home life continues to be difficult. I had a breakdown about six weeks ago and finally social services are stepping up. But it means Zack has to be in respite nearly every day and is really struggling to understand what is happening. Kesia has been his primary carer for over a month now and is a remarkable little girl.

We love receiving cards from Post Pals – it really makes the difference between a good and a bad day. A big and continued thanks to Jane and Percy for keeping such regular contact with Kesia.

Update 28th February 2009

I’m sorry I didn’t do the update in January. It was a difficult month, but made so much easier and brighter by Post Pals – there was something new on the threshold every morning! I’d especially like to thank everyone for paying as much attention to Kesia and Zack as to Tom. While Tom has a lot of medical issues to deal with, we often think of Zack as our most needy child with his autism, as it affects all the family. And Kesia who is stuck in the middle copes as best she can.

Post Pals is teaching Zack to share, which is the most amazing sight in the world. He received a parcel one morning this month (mystery sender, thank you!) and immediately, of his own accord, proceeded to divide it into 3 equal parts!!

Tom has been getting very tired this month and struggling a little with school. On the up side, he’s been using his power chair, which makes him feel and act far more grown-up. He crashed into a lamppost yesterday morning and hurt his foot though! We think he’s OK, but we’re keeping an eye on it. Although we’ve had half term, the school year is obviously becoming hard work for him physically and he’s coming down with a lot of little bugs which roll into one another. Mum’s getting better though – slowly!

Thank you all so much for all you do. We all really appreciate the support and love that comes through our door so frequently. I’ve been a little better and have started trying to keep track of everything, but I’m not up to speed yet. Percy the Poodle deserves huge thanks for his letters to Kesia though!

Update 1st January 2009

The last month has been very difficult for the whole family. Tom’s health has been reasonably stable, although he has been very tired at school. Unfortunately, he’s been ill throughout the Christmas holiday, with lots of coughing veering to asthma, vomiting and now a tummy bug. This is quite typical of Tom when he’s tired. Big brother Zack has had a hard December, as always, with all the changes. His autism makes the holidays especially difficult, but he’s done well over Christmas.

Tom’s sister, Kesia, is really struggling. She received cards from the Reindeers this year, oh my goodness thank you! I’d read about the scheme, but was thrilled to see that she was the one receiving them. It was as if the Reindeers knew how sad she is. She is deeply unhappy, and is refusing to eat and drink which is causing us a lot of worry. Zack’s community nurse has started working with her, but we anticipate the need for psychiatric help sooner rather than later. One of the few things that make her smile are her cards from Post Pals, so THANK YOU all!

Mum collapsed with all of this going on, so December was bad. Social services are not yet responding despite professionals telling everyone that we are heading for family breakdown (awful words to hear). Tom sleeps very badly due to pain, and this has been worse with the end of term, so my sleep is very disturbed, causing complete exhaustion.

Ooh, this sounds like such a moan, I’m sorry! My main update is that this has been a tough month for us, and Post Pals more than anything or anyone else has made us smile and feel less alone. I cannot thank you all enough.

Due to my ill health and general collapse, I wasn’t able to prepare Christmas at all. Luckily we spent the holiday itself with grandparents, but we had no tree or cards or decorations. Thank goodness for Post Pals. There was a card or gift for one or other of the children nearly every day. I am so so grateful!! The extra cards came at just the right time for us – thank you. I can’t put into words the gratitude I feel for all those who sent things to the children. They shared everything between themselves, in some really wonderful moments. Thank you for giving them Christmas in a difficult month.

Update 7th December 2008

Tom is doing fairly well at the moment. With the winter on its way he’s fighting lots of infection, especially in his stoma, which means a lot of antibiotics. His recent cardiology appointment went well, so it’ll be another year before we go back.

He has really struggled with fatigue this term and is very dependent on his wheelchair. Last week, he took out his new power chair for the first time. It was donated by CHIPS and is changing his life. He drives it on his own, and is playing around with his brother and sister, independent for the first time. He is being very cheeky, and behaving more like a five year old than he has before.

Tom took his Post Pals box into school for show and tell on Friday and was so proud to show off his special letters. Thank you everyone! Thank you to Tina for her handmade card to all three children and to Julie for being our first poster. Thank you for the cards from Tasmania, Finland, America and all over the UK. Thanks also to Graham, what an amazing gift. Tom loves the remote control card and all three children have really enjoyed the colouring. It was so thoughtful to include batteries! We all hope you’re doing well yourself. Tom also loved the Halloween spider he received!

Post Pals puts a smile on Tom’s face, and Zack and Kesia also look forward to the postman coming every day now. This has been a very tough few weeks for me, and every time I see a letter addressed to Tom, I smile. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

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Tie D

04 July 2011

Story written 2009

Tie was born with skin missing from his lower legs and feet. Within hours his tiny body had become covered in blisters and skin had torn off his left hand. Even his mouth was blistered inside after nurses tried to feed him a bottle of infant milk. No one knew what was wrong with Tie until a week or so later. A diagnosis of severe EB was made whilst at Alder Hey Hospital in Liverpool. Tie was transferred back to our local hospital in Gwynedd where it was found he had worsened to the point where we were told he would likely die. We chose to bring him home to at least be amongst his family.

After round the clock nursing the plucky little fighter turned a corner and his temperature dropped and he recovered. It still wasn’t known how long Tie had to live as only a basic diagnosis of Severe EB had been made and a skin biopsy result was needed to tell how severe. The worst form of EB gives only a life expectancy of 1 year. After a painful wait we were finally told that we would have Tie a little longer! He had the second worse form. All of his bodies’ linings are missing the hooks that hold them in place (skin, eyes, mouth, oesophagus etc). Any friction against a lining causes it to detach in part or wholly, leaving either blisters that have to be drained as they appear, or an open wound. When eyes blister, Tie has to spend his time in a darkened environment until they have healed. His prognosis is one of constant wound dressing that we do each day, his fingers and toes will web and fuse together as a result of repeat damage, and contractures will also add to his disability. He is (and will always be) administered morphine, paracetamol and iron until an effective treatment is found. Fluid loss and wound infections pose a constant threat and he always has to be handled extremely carefully so as not to de-skin him. Because of scarring and narrowing of the oesophagus due to repeated damage, he will eventually find eating difficult, which often leads to a gastric tube being fitted in infancy to aid nutrition and administration of painkillers and medicines. Eventually aggressive cancer will set in as his skin loses its self healing power and beings to breakdown. This is likely to happen in his late teens, but children often pass younger from other complications. Tie’s life expectancy is 30 years.

So we do what we can to make his life as happy as possible and also everything we can do to help Debra charity fund the research that we pray will one day save Tie and end his pain.

Every day he lifts our hearts and amazes us with his smiles and determination.

Update 3rd March 2016

Tie has had a cold this month. Unfortunately he had sore eyes to go with the cold and had to stay in his bedroom in the dark for a few days. He is a lot better now, the cold has now passed over to his brother and baby sister who also have the same condition.

Update 12th February 2016

Tie has been doing well and nothing has really changed with him. But Calvin had an operation to have all his teeth removed and he has recovered well.

Update 26th January 2016

Tie would like to wish everyone a happy new year and thank everyone who sent out letters, gifts and cards. They mean a lot. He loves receiving them as it brightens his days.

Tie is currently still being taught at home by a tutor. Tie is doing very well, but unfortunately Calvin will be going into Birmingham Children’s Hospital for an operation. They will be taking out his teeth as they are rotting away due to the condition.

Both boys are looking forward to having their bedroom redecorated with a blue theme with glitter wallpaper.

Will let everyone know how Calvin is next month.

Update 5th December 2015

Tie is well. He can’t wait until Christmas. He’s had a good month. He, Calvin and Princess all had their hospital check up and all is well.

Update 22nd October 2015

Tie has been well. He enjoyed his birthday and got lots of large Star Wars figures. I now home tutor Tie and Calvin due to an incident at school. Hopefully after Christmas he will be going to a different school with his siblings. Tie doesn’t mind, as he loves being at home with his baby sister who is now 6 months old. But he also gets spoilt! Having the boys at home means they have less bumps and knocks, which is good for them and means less open wounds so they’re less likely to get cancer in their late teens.

Update 6th August 2015

Tie is looking forward to his birthday as I am doing a build a teddy party for him with some of his friends at Teddy Wishes.

Tie is wearing less dressings on his feet and legs now as he doesn’t sweat as much.

So far he has had a good summer with it not being too hot.

Tie has enjoyed receiving all the items through the post and he thanks everyone who has sent him them.

Update 4th July 2015

Tie and Calvin (his younger brother who also has EB) have been to Birmingham children’s hospital for their yearly check and all is well and they seem happy with them. They are concerned about the boys’ hands as the skin has crept up their fingers, so the hospital is arranging splints for the boys.

Both boys were able to enjoy my birthday (mum) at Chester Zoo last month. Tie and Calvin will also be going on a school trip to GreenWood this month which they are looking forward to. Unfortunately we won’t be going to Alton Towers now, but will be going to the Blue Planet Aquarium instead. All the children are looking forward to it.

Tie and Calvin’s health has been good this last month. Calvin did have an accident in school and was sent home, but he’s recovering well.

Thank you for the paper cutting art work we received this month.

Update 31st May 2015

Tie had a stomach bug during this half term and had infected eyes, along with his brother Calvin. They are much better now.

We went to Gulliver World on Friday where Tie and his siblings really enjoyed themselves. Tie and Calvin found it a bit tiring but still enjoyed it. We will be going to Chester Zoo next weekend and Tie is really looking forward to seeing all the animals.

Tie and his siblings would like to thank everyone who sent them post.

Update 14th May 2015

Tie is doing very well. Unfortunately with the weather getting warmer he is suffering with more blisters and infections, and he also has a nasty cold at the moment, but is still able to attend school. Tie is doing well at school and is now in Year 3 in Juniors which he is enjoying. He goes with his class swimming every week, but is unable to go swimming himself due to his condition. Tie has started to play some sports in school which he is enjoying but has blistered his hands doing games. He loves doing arts and crafts which he does both in school and at home.

Tie is eating a lot better, he has put on weight and has started to try different foods. He still has his fortisips to help with his weight though. We also still have to attend appointments once a year at Birmingham, however they are really pleased with him lately.

Tie is looking forward to this summer as we will be taking him to Alton Towers and Gulliver’s World.

Five weeks ago, Tie’s new baby sister, Sapphire, was born. Sapphire has the same condition as Tie and Calvin. Tie loves his new sister and plays with her a lot as he is able to calm her down if she is crying.

Update 19th September 2014

Tie and his younger brother Calvin had a good summer! Not too bad with extra sores/damages etc brought on by the skin and body’s membranes becoming irritated by the warmth. Saying that, Tie had suffered from an extreme flushing from around June/July time, which we think was just some leftover from a virus that didn’t want to shift. It cleared up over the holidays thankfully.

Both boys had been booked in for their 6 month MOT at Birmingham children’s hospital at the end of August, but a few days before both of them developed temperatures and BCH advised that it would be best to re-arrange the appointment. A day later and Calvin came up with what could only be chickenpox spots… they didn’t look like chickenpox, but symptoms and how they appeared made us suspect chickenpox. The boys skin alters the look of somethings like chickenpox sometimes. The doctor confirmed that he felt it was chickenpox too, but gave a course of antibiotics for Calvin, just to be safe as he couldn’t make a proper diagnosis. Tie had chickenpox when he was younger and did not develop anything apart from a fever this time. Within a week both boys were back on the mend.

Both young men have gained weight over the summer, but are now finding the heat very weary. Tie often just leans over his desk in school as he is so worn out by the heat there. The school have set up a fan by him, as his classroom has no air conditioning.

They sleep well as their bedroom has air conditioning installed and in this weather it gives them a well earned break.

Like I say, both boys are doing well. We are hopeful for them and their futures and are keeping that shield held up firmly in front of us, blocking out all that could potentially go wrong. We are concentrating on the positives and they are gaining weight, which is a first for Tie.

Thank you all for your support and best wishes to you all. It really makes the children smile when they receive post.

Update 17th June 2014

Tie has been suffering with a recurrence of sore eyes/blistered eyes since temperatures started to rise. On good days he has been attending school, but has often had to attend only half a day due to tiredness and getting upset. On the whole he is doing quite well I suppose for a boy with his troubles, but he does find it hard going when he is tired.

As with his brother, their best aid in a good nights sleep is alimemazane, which does help them both settle. The main problem at night now is the heat, but we do chill their room down to 18 degrees celsius before bedtime and that helps them too. We have to chill it down before bedtime, as they can’t stand having the air con running all night as it dries out their throats too much!

Again, the warm weather is having the usual affect on the boys wounds and blisters as they are getting more of them, from sweating and being uncomfortable and itching.

Appetite wise, the heat makes them feel like eating less and as they are already really at the bottom of the weight charts, it is not helping! There is a good chance that they both may end up on gastric tubes to assist their nutrition, but we are still hopeful that we can avoid that outcome.

Both boys are still anaemic and receive iron every day to help them.

It’s all work for the boys at the moment, even if it is just with healing and getting better! But we hope when the summer holidays arrive we will be able to give them one or two fun family days out to lighten their lives.

Thank you all for your cards, letters and kind gifts. It all helps brighten their days, especially the sore eyes days, when we live inside with the curtains closed to keep the house dark for them because the light hurts their eyes.

Thank you all and best wishes from us.

Update 22nd May 2014

Tie’s major concern at the moment is his weight, or lack of, I should say. Gaining weight is always an issue with severe forms of EB! If it is not a sore, ulcerated and ripped mouth/tongue, it is a sore damaged throat or constipation!  We have movical which helps toileting difficulties quite well, but sadly it doesn’t taste too nice to Tie, so he tends to wait until he has an issue before he will accept the movical!

Weight gain is such an problem for these butterfly children, most have gastric tubes fitted to aid them get to a better level of nutrition. Tie and his brother Calvin are both likely to need such a tube in the future, but neither want one and it is only the thought of having a tube fitted that drives Tie on to eat a little more than he wants to.

Another problem is sickness. We all go off our food a little when we are ill, and sadly our boys have been suffering with a viral illness of some type for the last couple of weeks, so we are just trying to keep them eating something. It is strange how they always manage to eat chocolate!!

With the warm weather starting the boys have had a few extra unsettled nights, so we have been using alimemazane a little more frequently than usual to help counter the warmth (which makes them feel sweaty and uncomfortable). The alimemazane is a anti histamine, prescribed officially to reduce their itching of dry and damaged skin, but unofficially it works more as a sedative than anything else. At least it gives them a couple of hours of proper rest each night. We do have an in built aircon unit in their double room, but we can’t run it overnight as it dries out their throats too much and in the morning they are choking. The best thing we have found is to run it on an evening to chill down their room before bed, which helps a lot, so long as one of the kids doesn’t go and leave their bedroom door open.

Calvin and Tie have both had sore eye days too recently when they have slept in late and then we have to close the blinds and curtains in every room to ease their suffering, as their eyes become very sensitive to light when they are sore from blistering.

Tie is enjoying school, but is missing a lot of school too. He and Calvin are both home at the moment as they are still recovering from viral illness.

Tie loved the Disneyland letter, as we went to Disneyland Paris in 2012. He got to meet Stitch in an interactive show, so Stitch is now one of Tie’s special friends from another planet and he loves hearing about Disneyland and keeps asking us when he can go there again! We hope to go again in the future, but for the moment our holidays will be a bit closer to home.

Jessica is now 16 and has asked me to say a big thank you to everyone who has sent her post since Tie has been a Pal. She has loved the letters and pictures sent through to her, not to mention the vampy gifts. So thank you very much.

Next week is half term here, so we hope that Tie and Calvin will be fine soon and enjoy the holiday from school and then be fit and well to start school again after the break.

Update 14th January 2014

Both Tie and Calvin are currently doing well. They did have a bad patch after receiving the flu immunisation spray and they suffered for a couple of months with every bug and illness they could pick up after it, but came through it all fighting. We knew the flu spray would hit them hard, but we also knew that the alternative was even worse. If anyone saw Children In Need last year you may recall two brothers who suffered from the worst form of EB who passed on within a couple of weeks of each other after catching the flu. So, we knew we had to get our boys treated.

Tie has been working with physio after we found one leg to be about a cm smaller than his other. It is so minor that ordinarily it would be overlooked, but with reduced ability, it is highlighted, especially when the damage to his foot from walking shows up where the pressure is being placed. He is progressing well with it.

We are also working on separating his toes. Surgery was refused when his feet got to the stage when he could hardly walk on them as his toes were pinned to his sole and therefore scrunched up! So we knew we had to take charge and started placing straps of dressing and soft ones between each toe (well in some instances on the skin were the gaps should be between the toes) and after two months of doing this every morning and night, the toes are nearly all back! They are still pinned to an extent so his toes are curled over a bit, but they are individual toes, where they had been webbed. The light pressure we applied with the straps was enough to stretch the webbing away! So we feel like one more little battle is nearly won there. However they are little battles, the war overall is still on and we aren’t quitting!

The boys had a illness free Christmas, well almost anyway. They loved it and all the cards and kind gifts. We have been very busy since before Christmas as we have gone back to work, so our apologies for a lack of personal replies to everyone, but your efforts are appreciated and hep put a smile on our boys faces – and thats priceless. Calvin has avoided a lot of pitfalls of his condition as we have been prepared for them thanks to learning through Tie’s experiences, so he is doing well. He eats well too, but does sometimes get a sore throat and then chokes on everything (except chocolate strangely – how do they always manage to eat chocolate? It is truly a miracle food!) but each time he has a bad patch he gets over it.

Of course, now the cold weather is here their condition eases a little… how can i put it? If you came to them now without any previous knowledge/experience, it would be too bad and too much to handle/cope with, but as a seasoned carer you have the knowledge that in summer the condition gets ten times worse (hence the air-conditioned bedroom, which in summer is a life saver).

To sum up, both boys are continuing their battles but mostly with smiles. Plus our new toothpaste has kept their teeth in good condition for over a years checkups now so we are happy!

Thank you every one for your support.

Update 2nd April 2013

Tie would like to thank everyone who has sent him and his siblings things.

Tie has had a lovely Easter holiday with plenty of eggs. He really enjoyed his Easter egg hunt at home which I made for him and his siblings.

Update 2nd March 2013

Tie is having a bad weekend, his eyes have blistered once again, so he is having to sit on the sofa in pitch black. Hopefully he will be better by Monday for school.

Tie celebrated Saint David’s day last Friday with his school where he enjoyed a disco, while Jamie-Anne sang with the school choir at our local Asda.

Update 3rd February 2013

Tie has had a good month so far, he has been back at school and has handled it very well and only had 2 days off due to tiredness.

Calvin had his routine hospital appointment which we had to travel all the way down to Birmingham for and when we got back I had loads and loads of hugs from Tie.

Update 14th January 2013

Tie has had a wonderful Christmas and we would like to thank everyone who sent cards and presents. Tie and his siblings love their post and they hope that everyone had a wonderful Christmas and New Year too.

We would especially like to thank Doncaster’s computer company for giving Tie a brand new windows 8 laptop – he loves it to bits and constantly plays on it. Thank you so much.

Update 9th December 2012

Once again, Tie would like to thank everyone for their generosity. To everyone who has sent Tie or his siblings an item and has put their address on – we will be sending a Christmas card to you. Thank you all for your kind letters, cards and gifts, they are well appreciated.

Christmas is just around the corner and Tie has already made his list. He is really looking forward to santa popping in and leaving a few gifts – poor santa, it is not going to be cheap!

Tie will be in his school play – he’s only a sheep, as he’s been missing a lot of school due to a nasty cold which has caused him to weaken. When Tie gets weak he tends to fall a lot, but while he has been at home poorly he’s only been chilling on the sofa. Unfortunately, Tie doesn’t like doing the Christmas show as the music is too loud for his delicate ears – we’re hoping to put extra soft earphones on him.

Have a good Christmas and a happy New Year.

Update 12th November 2012

Tie and his siblings would like to thank everyone who sent halloween items. Tie and his siblings had a halloween party which they all enjoyed. Tie was dressed as a skeleton and Calvin as a wizard. They danced to music with friends and enjoyed loads of food.

Calvin would like to thank the very nice lady who bought him the polar bear items, he really loves them.

Tie and Calvin have both recently had very poorly eyes where they have rubbed them in the night and they have blistered. Tie had sore eyes a week ago and Calvin has them today, he sat on the sofa all day unable to open his eyes, so he kept on drifting in and out of sleep.

Mercedes and Harriet would like to thank everyone who has sent out birthday cards for their birthdays this Tuesday and Thursday. Mercedes will be 5 on Tuesday and Harriet 9 on Thursday.

Tie can’t wait for Christmas, in school they are starting to rehearse for the school play and he has already made a list for Santa.

Update 5th October 2012

Tie is doing well, he has had a good month with not many blisters or open wounds. He is doing very well in school and is using a special pen and pencil were he doesn’t need to press when writing. Tie’s teeth are also starting to come through so he can eat better now.

Last week Tie was very upset as we had to put 3 of our rabbits down due to a nasty illness, but Tie is happy as the baby rabbits are doing well and are now 5 weeks old.

Tie can’t wait for Santa to come, he has already started making his Christmas list!

Once again, Tie would like to thank everyone who has generously sent post to him. Jade would like to thank the very kind children for her gifts, she loves them loads. Thanks for the children’s post.

Update 16th September 2012

Tie just recently had his 6th birthday on the 2nd September – we bought him Lego star wars, and transformers, and a vintage star wars ship with people, which he loves to bits.

Tie had an operation back in July where he had all his teeth removed (apart from 4 front bottoms ones). Two months on and four front adult teeth have finally come through, so he is able to eat a bit better now.

Tie started in year 1 of school, he has settled down very quickly and is enjoying every minute of school. Instead of P.E. he does his special exercises to help his skin stretch. Unfortunately Tie is unable to run around with his friends and can’t play outside with them at playtime, so he stays indoors where he won’t get knocked accidently by other children. He finds it hard as he wants to play with his friends, but is scared to as his friends don’t understand properly that they have to be very careful around him.

Due to Tie’s condition, he can only write for a little while as the friction of the paper on his hand will cause his skin to rip off or blister. He can hold a pen and write well, but doesn’t have the strength the average child has. School says he is doing very well and they are pleased with the amount of work he can do though.

Tie would like to thanks everyone who send him things, he loves receiving post.

Update 23rd June 2012

Tie is waiting to go into hospital for a operation to extract 6 teeth. He is also really enjoying school and loves taking part in school sports.

We also had a little girl two months ago and Tie loves spending time after school with his new baby sister, Sweetpea.

Tie hasn’t had many accidents recently, which is good, but Calvin has been having accidents instead.

Tie is looking forward to having loads of days out in the school holidays and can’t wait to celebrate his 6th birthday in September, as he has requested a Mickey mouse theme.

Tie would like to show everyone a photo of his new little sister, so here she is!

Update 29th February 2012

Tie has been suffering a lot in the past month with sore blistered inner eye lids. He has managed to put on a bit of weight though and looks a little chubby in the face. Tie has also been restless at night and has managed on several occasions to rip open his legs in the middle of the night. He is coming down with a cold, which is why he has been restless, but the last couple of nights he has slept quite well thankfully.

Tie would like to thanks everyone for the generosity; he really loves receiving all letters, cards and gifts through the post.

Update 12th February 2012

We have found a product that is working well to keep Tie’s skin moisturised, it’s called Allano Hand and Body lotion. It is something that we now sell ourselves as it’s that good – it has helped one of our girls with an eczema problem and a couple of friends have told us that their psoriasis has been eased a whole lot too. We are promoting this with other parents of Eb sufferers and really think it could be of great help to many people.

Tie is now gaining weight well, which is a first. He is still really light, but we are making repeated steady progress so that is looking good for him and his skin is looking better – although he has had some infected patches, they are healing gradually.

Update 13th January 2012

Tie and siblings had a wonderful Christmas. Tie’s best present was a trip to Disneyland Paris, thanks to the Starlight charity. Tie really enjoyed meeting Mickey Mouse and friends, Stitch, Woody and loads of other characters and had photos taken with some of them. We spent two wonderful days at one of the hotels and had a wonderful time in the parks.

Since being back Tie has been poorly with his eyes – he has had them closed for the last 2 days with blisters on the inside of his eye lids. Unfortunately he has become worse today as he has come down with a stomach bug too.

We would like to thank everyone who sent cards, letters, postcards and gifts. Tie and his siblings really enjoy receiving post. We also would like to wish everyone a happy new year.

Update 5th September 2011

Tie started school full time last Friday on his 5th birthday. His class sang happy birthday to him and his teacher got him a cake. Tie is really enjoying school.

Tie misses receiving items from Betty in Australia, as she used to send Thomas books. We hope she is ok. He loves receiving postcards and gifts and letters. We would like to thank everyone who has sent Tie or his siblings something.

Tie really enjoyed the summer holidays as we went to the local farm and forest park and the beach (he loves making big sandcastles with large moats).

Tie loves having ice cream at the moment, but he can’t have it in a cone as his tongue is restricted due to all the scaring in his mouth, so he has to have it in a bowl with a spoon. Tie is now on nutritional drinks to help him put on weight too.

Update 4th March 2011

We would like to thank everyone who sent post to our kids this month; we are very grateful for your generosity.

Update 4th February 2011

Tie underwent an operation to dilate a stricture in his throat towards the end of January. He enjoyed creating Thomas the Tank Engine badges whilst he bided his time until the operation. With some trepidation he allowed an echo scan of his heart to be carried out, which showed his heart to be nearly 100% ok, which was nice to hear. Once the all clear came back on the echo scan he was booked in for the operation the following day. Tie understandably got a little upset before the operation, but it went well and the surgeon found that the stricture in his throat broke quite easily as it had been caught early. His throat was very raw after the operation and his tongue quite blistered, but once he had had a cuddle and a bit of a rest the bleeding eased and he slowly started drinking a little. By evening he was enjoying a strawberry mousse and the next day he was back to himself. Since the surgery his eating has improved a little, but this improvement has been slowed by several days of blistered eyes, which always leads him to sleep more and only snack a little.

Update 18th January 2011

Tie went through Christmas day and Boxing Day with his eyes closed, as he had blistered an eye and found opening them too painful. He felt all his presents with the help of his sisters, only to rediscover them 3 days later when he was able to open his eyes.

Tie was due to have an operation on his throat to widen it in December, but unfortunately he fell ill the day before forcing the operation to be postponed. The new date is at the end of January, so hopefully we will have some positive news to report on that soon.

Tie loved receiving lots of Christmas cards and he had many reindeer friends who wrote him lovely letters. I would like to thank everyone for their considerate gifts for Tie and his siblings; they have given them great pleasure.

Update 5th December 2010

Tie had a good month in November, with only one week away from school with a cold. We did see a few days when he had blistering on the inside of his eyelids, causing him to have a few days with his eyes closed, but on the whole it was a good month.

Update 11th November 2010

Tie had a very tiring trip to Birmingham children’s hospital this month and underwent a barium test to x-ray his throat for signs of narrowing. Initial results seemed positive but further scrutiny by the team at Birmingham found that his throat has narrowed and they are now looking to book Tie in for an operation on his throat to widen it. He also had his eyes tested! They found that he has 20:20 vision, but he also has scratches on his eyes from previous blistering. Only time will tell us how his eyes will continue to cope with his condition, but it is a possibility that repeated damage may lead to blindness. His belly has been hurting a little more this month, but his special milkshakes (containing Movicol) have helped in preventing further internal damage. It took Tie a week to recover from his trip, but now he is back to his old self.

We received tickets to Legoland from Post Pals and in half term we all visited the park. Despite the chilly weather everybody loved the day out and had lots of fun. Thank you Post Pals.
I would like to thank everyone for thinking of Tie and his siblings and for always putting a smile on their faces!

Update 10th October 2010

On a short weekend break in August (the first in four years) Tie suffered a fall down some steps and opened up his left side, hand, side, knee, leg. But after an hour of fixing him up, a rather more tired Tie was back on his feet with a smile on his face.

Tie had his 4th birthday on the 2nd October and also started 2 hours a morning at nursery. He has a carer that accompanies him each day and he is enjoying his time there. He did have a small accident that saw him blister both hands and knees by falling over, but after 5 minutes he was up and about again. It looks as though Tie will be having a further test in October to check to see if his throat has narrowed with scarring as the last test was inconclusive.

We are very grateful for all the kind letters and cards, Tie and his siblings love reading them, and thank you for the gifts too. Special thanks to Marjolijn from the Netherlands, everybody loved your kind gifts.

Update 19th August 2010

July started off not too badly for Tie, with the mild summer and our three air conditioners cooling the house. However, a weight drop had been picked up and his appetite was hindered by episodes of choking on food when feeding. So the month turned in to a battle to stop the weight loss and we just about managed it with the help of chocolate doughnuts! In August Tie is booked in to have a Barium meal to see how his throat is, they suspect that it may have narrowed over the last few years with scaring and that Tie may need an operation to widen it! The test will show if this is the case.

Thank you to Sarah, Henry, Mai & Christine for their fantastic cards. Many thanks to Betty, Susan and everyone for their lovely letters. Special thanks to Alison, Cat, Samantha, Jayne, Jack & Erin, for their very thoughtful gifts which helped Tie through some difficult days and also put smiles on the faces of his sisters.

Update 10th July 2010

Tie has had a bit of a rough month with stubborn infections on his legs, which we now hope are finally healing. He also had some nasty damage to his left hand one day when out walking with his dad – he tripped over and sadly as his dad was holding his hand at the time, the skin of his hand was traumatised severely as his hand slipped leaving his skin behind. After many brave minutes, his dad had replaced as much of the original skin as possible and wrapped up his hand in dressings to protect it. I am happy to report that Tie’s hand is now almost completely healed and has retained full function , in fact, his specialist nurse commented this month that his hands appear to have less webbing between the fingers than before – which is good news.

Of course there is always some bad to balance out life, and sadly Tie has continued to choke on his food more and more frequently. This really upsets his throat and causes him to bring up blood. Due to the worry that his throat may have narrowed due to damage, his nurse will now arrange for him have a barium test performed to see if his throat has narrowed. If it turns out that it has been narrowed, then we have been reassured that there is an operation they can do to expand his throat, by basically inflating a balloon in it! With no great surprise, this news of his increased choking also comes with news of a weight loss of 3lbs. So, we are once again focused on increasing his nutrition levels and food intake.

On the 23rd of June, coinciding with our 12th wedding anniversary, Tie’s baby brother, Calvin, was born. Calvin has EB too, but thanks to the lessons Tie has taught us along with the co-operation of the midwife team at the hospital, Calvin was born with damage limited to his left foot and of a good weight. Since birth, he has continued to do well with little damage occurring – he has certainly had the best start to life that we could have prayed for. We had always said that we would have no further children with EB, due to the extensive affect this severe form of the condition has on them, but as diagnosis was not made until very late in the pregnancy, after much heartache and tears over what may be, we chose to make plans on how to manage the situation to the best of our abilities and feel we have been truly blessed with our second brave soldier.

Tie had a very busy month with also visiting the school that he will be attending for two hours a day come September. He found it a little overwhelming with so many other children about and tired quickly. However, we feel that due to the interest the school has taken in how to provide the best support for him and the fact that he will have his own carer watching over him whilst he is in school, that he will be ok and settle in nicely come September.

Many thanks to everyone for the gifts received this month, Tie and the girls loved playing with all the craft items and toys.

Post Pals provides such a boost for our son, even on days when he cannot open his eyes, he still has a big smile on his face when the postman brings a letter for him. He absolutely loves opening his letters and cards and looking at the pictures. He can’t read yet, but loves us to read them out to him. Thank you all for caring so very much.

Update 11th June 2010

Tie has had a good month on the whole. He only had a couple of days with eye troubles. He has suffered a bit with a sore throat, but it hasn’t impacted on his diet too badly and it hasn’t developed into anything too dire for him. He has had more blistering with the heat and a couple of weeks of colds made his skin more prone to damage – but the air conditioning stopped the heat from affecting him too badly.

Many thanks to everyone who sent a special gift for Tie or one of his siblings this month, especially to Betty and also to all the children at Letham Nursery.

Update 19th May 2010

Tie has really enjoyed receiving his special post this month. With suffering from a stomach bug throughout, he has been very tired and often very sore – even on days when he couldn’t open his eyes he was very happy to hold his post and have them read to him.

A big thank you to everyone who has sent a card to Tie, he really loves receiving them, especially when he is feeling low. Many thanks to everyone, especially Megan from Horndale County Infant & Nursery School, for her letter and picture – Tie really liked your picture.

Update 8th April 2010

Tie has had a reasonable month, with no major injury. He has suffered a few days in the dark with his eyes closed and sore though and also had a few tummy troubles which did reduce his diet a little at the time. He is currently fighting off a couple of infected wounds on his legs which have been hindering their healing, but they seem to be getting better slightly, so we hope they will continue to improve and heal soon.

A big thank you to everyone who has sent a card to Tie, he really loves receiving them – especially when he is feeling low. A very big thank you especially to Jessica and Jade for all the books we received last month. Everyone really loved their books.

Update 12th March 2010

Tie has been fairly ok in the last month. He has had a damaged throat on occasion making swallowing anything an impossibility which caused him great distress, but each occasion settled down within a couple of days. He suffered a minor accident which left him with no skin on two toes and damaged/blistered skin around the area on his foot. The incident really shook him up and he was shaking with the shock of it, but once we had dealt with the damage as best we could, he calmed down and made some craft pictures with us, which really took his mind off his foot.

A recent day trip to hospital for review has showed that he is still gaining weight and currently doing well – we are waiting for blood tests to come back to see if any increase in iron or any other medication is needed.

We would like to thank everyone for the gifts they have sent. Everyone has been thrilled with the books they received in February and Jessica and Jade in particular have enjoyed their gifts and Tie has had a lot of new stories read to him each night. Thank you all very much for letting Tie and his sisters into your hearts.

Update 10th February 2010

Tie has been having a little trouble eating lately, his appetite has been a little shaky, not of great concern, but he has hurt his throat swallowing food a few times and it has led him to eat less as his throat healed each time. It is a worry to us as most kids with Tie’s form of EB have gastric tubes fitted in infancy, as throats tend to narrow with blistering and scar tissue making swallowing difficult. We hope that Tie won’t need one but only time will tell. His weight is still quite reasonable and we hope he will regain his appetite soon.

I would like to thank everyone who sent a smile package to my girls, they loved them very much. It seemed like everyone had really taken their time in thinking what our girls would like and got the packages just right, making big smiles appear. Many thanks.

Update 10th January 2010

Tie had a fall from a dining room chair on the Monday before Christmas, so the brave little fella went through Christmas with a sore face and some internal blisters, but he didn’t let them slow him down much and enjoyed himself. When he fell he damaged the skin on his forehead, causing blistering across it. He also took the skin off his chin and his nose and blistered his hands, elbows and knees!

He has healed up now and has started 2010 with a good appetite and a reasonable weight. As usual we are hoping for the best for Tie, and even though we know that 2010 will be a busy year for him full of new challenges like starting nursery in September, we know that he will face each challenge with a smile and a determination like no other. We are very proud of him.

We were absolutely amazed by how many people remembered us on their Christmas card list and many thanks to everyone who sent a card. Again, a big thank you to everyone who remembered Tie and his sisters this Christmas by sending post. We have never seen so many gifts come via post before and Tie and his sisters absolutely loved opening them all. Many thanks.

Update 3rd December 2009

Tie has had a good month, with no major injuries and only a few days with his eyes closed.

The kids will absolutely love their gumball machine when they unwrap it at Christmas , thank you!

Post Pals is fantastic, there is nothing that lifts your heart like seeing your child have a smile on their face!

Update 31st October 2009

Tie had another month of eye sores/infections that often left him with closed eyes a lot of the time. He has also had a number of skin rips and blisters all over. At the moment we are waiting for his current bout of blistering to ease off to give him a better chance of healing up.

He absolutely loves his post, many thanks to all his post friends. Tie loved his Iggle Piggle Doodle toy, he won’t put it down and he even doodles on it when his eyes are blistered and he can’t see! Everyone loved the Halloween toys that came through too.

Update 30th August 2009

Tie has had a better month this month as his eyes have been far better, suffering a lot less blistering thankfully. He has suffered a bit more than usual with blistering on his feet, and his lower back has remained raw, but the worst time he had was in mid August when he asked us to lance a blister or,”bubble” as Tie calls them, and when we looked at his belly where he was pointing there was no sign of any damage – the blister was internal in his bowels i guess, and that caused him a lot of pain over a couple of days. At the moment he is fairly ok and thrilled that his 3rd birthday is just around the corner on the 2nd September!

Thank you to everyone, it is nice to hear from people that care. A big thank you to those who remembered Jade’s and Adelle’s birthdays and it was really nice that everyone received a gift this month , they all loved their special lollipops! Thank you.

Update 3rd August 2009

A lot of this past month has seen Tie passing his days with his eyes closed and in a darkened environment for days at a time, whilst blisters on his eyes and the inside of eyelids healed. Touch wood he has had a few days without eye blisters now and it is feeling like he is over them for a while, or until he rubs his eyes again!

He is still eating okay and receiving post has been putting such a smile on his face! Many thanks to everyone, especially for the party goody bag and the Roary book that was sent, he absolutely loves it!

Update 11th July 2009

Sorry we couldn’t make the Post Pals party, but Tie has been finding it hard going with the heat and the trip would have proved too much for him. Thank you for sending him a goody bag though.

I would just like to thank all of Tie’s friends for cheering him up this last month. He has had a lot of blisters, injuries, painful insides, and has been stuck in the dark a lot of the time with eye blisters. Even when he can’t see though, he still loves holding and feeling his post. Thank you everyone for helping the postman put a smile on my boy’s face.

Update 30th June 2009

Tie has had a few quite bad days this month. He fell over whilst holding a spoon in his hand and it ripped off the skin from his left hand, and an hour later he fell again and took the skin off his left knee. These wounds have healed now though and he is back on his feet, but he is finding the heat a little much and tiring, so he is spending most of his time in the house in front of the air conditioning unit. He has had a change of antihistamine to Vallegan syrup for relief of his night-time itching and he has just had a stronger painkiller prescribed for his dressing changes (I’m not sure of the name, but I think it is called Midazolam). It is theatre medicine and we are waiting for the prescription to come though.

Many thanks to all of Tie’s post pals. Tie especially loved the cars card that he received and the Bob the Builder pop up card. He also loved the cuddly koala bear that turned up one day. Post Pals is fantastic and it brightens Tie’s mood when something nice turns up in the post for him.

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Seren S

01 July 2011

Story written 2007

Seren was suspected to have Cystic Fibrosis from 22 weeks of pregnancy, as her bowel was echogenic on ultrasounds. At birth, a blood sample was taken to test her for Cystic Fibrosis genes and she was found to have CF. Her treatment started the following day at the hospital. She was started on prophylactic antibiotics, Flucloxacillin, Creon capsules to digest her milk for her, and daily supplements of a multivitamin and extra Vitamin E. At four weeks old she began a thrice daily regime of chest physiotherapy to clear the sticky mucus from her lungs. At sixteen days old, I had to stop breastfeeding and start giving Seren SMA Gold formula, as she was drastically losing weight. She took well to this and did start to gain weight, but by 7 weeks old, she had dropped from the 50th centile at birth, to the 9th centile, so she had to start SMA High Energy, which worked wonders. In her first year she had a lot of throat infections which made her poorly and then at 13 months, she grew her first bug on a cough swab, Haemophilus Influenzae, which she received a course of extra antibiotics for.

She then had a much better second year, and stayed healthy with good weight gain until around her second birthday, when we had to wean her off the SMA High Energy and onto cow’s milk. This caused her weight to drop and we struggled to get her weight up. Then at 23 months, she grew a bug called Pseudomonas and had to start some very strong oral antibiotics which made her ill, and a nebulised antibiotic as well. The treatment worked and she cleared the bug well and hasn’t grown another bug on cough swabs since.

She finally, for the first time in her life, discovered an appetite in autumn of 2004. She finally started gaining weight nicely and since then, her weight has usually been good. We have to work hard though to keep it at an acceptable level, frying as much of her food as we can, making sure she eats lots of high fat foods such as crisps and chocolate, and trying to get her to drink plenty of milk.

From Christmas 2004 to April 2006, her health was very good. Her CF was very well controlled and apart from the occasional constipation, she had no real problems. Then in April she started full time school and her asthma, which had previously been very mild, needing inhalers only once a month or so, suddenly went haywire. Through the summer and autumn, Seren started needing inhalers more and more frequently and so in October, she was started on a Becotide inhaler in addition to her Ventolin. This still wasn’t enough and so the Becotide dose was doubled last week and she has been struggling to come to terms with having asthma as well as Cystic Fibrosis and hates her constant cough.

At the moment, her medications are as follows: Ventolin inhaler, 4 to 6 puffs as necessary. Becotide inhaler, 4 puffs twice a day. Fish oil capsules, 2 per day. Vitamin capsules, 1 per day. Vitamin E liquid, 1 ml per day. Flucloxacillin capsules, 2 per day, Creon capsules, 3 with snacks, 4 with meals, Nasonex spray, 1 puff in each nostril once a day. At the moment, on an average day, Seren takes 22 tablets and has at least 8 puffs of inhalers, hence her struggle to adjust.

Update January 2014

Seren is now in High School and seems to be settling in well. She is going through a period of transition, shedding her childhood persona and discovering the ‘new her’. Moving up to High School has been challenging for her, but she has made friends and the school are very supportive of her CF needs, and have given her great support in her numeracy struggles. She auditioned for the school Christmas production and was rewarded with a solo to sing! She did an amazing job and was the youngest soloist to perform.

Seren is still struggling with compliance issues with her CF treatments and is currently under the weather, but the High School are keen to help out and support her by doing treatments in school with her if needed, and she has access to a CF Psychologist who is working with her.

Her gastrostomy, which was fitted 22 months ago, has made a huge difference to her nutrition and general health, and she has grown a lot in that time.

Seren has grown and changed so much during her 6 1/2 years with Post Pals and it has been quite a journey. We are so grateful to all those who have supported her (and us) along the way, with cards, postcards, letters and gifts. You have made some difficult years a little easier to muddle through, and we are so touched that you have all supported her and invested in her journey, willing her onwards, encouraging her. She is keen to develop her independence even further in the future. Thank you to everyone who has supported Seren. We wish you all the very best for the future.

Update 16th July 2013

Seren has had a fairly stable few months. There have been a few ups and downs, like the bad cough which she had through most of April, which required a three week course of Ciprofloxacin, and caused her lung function to drop to just 59%. She gradually picked up over the three week course and her lung function climbed to a high of 79%. By mid-May her cough was back and she was reviewed at the hospital, but we were relieved to find that her lung function had only dropped to 76%. She was prescribed a high dose course of Augmentin, two tablets three times a day, and this seemed to help eventually after a couple of weeks. Seren had CF Clinic on 7th June and her lung function had dropped a little to 75%, due to particularly poor compliance with her CF treatments, so she had to have a chat with the CF Team psychologist, to try and encourage her to try a little harder to keep herself well. Apart from that, the doctors were pleased with her, as she has grown a lot recently, taking her up to the 75th centile for her height. She has also gained some weight, going up to 35.2 kgs, but because of her gain in height, she’s only on the 25th centile for her BMI, so we need to get some more weight on her. On 20th June, she had her first ever glucose tolerance test, to check for diabetes mellitus (a complication of CF) and she passed with flying colours. On 27th June, she had her chest x-ray and abdominal ultrasound, ready for her Annual Review which is coming up on 2nd August. We will receive the results of those tests on the Annual Review day.

Seren has also enjoyed a sleepover at church, and we were very grateful to the church leaders for taking on Seren’s medications and overnight feed for us, to enable her to take part. She also attended a two night school trip to Ringsfield Hall in early July and although the teachers didn’t feel comfortable to take on the overnight feed (so she skipped 2 nights) they did all her daily treatments and medications for us, to enable her to take part. She has also enjoyed Sports Day, performed as narrator in her school production of Oliver, passed her SATS with a Level 4 in Maths and Science and a Level 5 in English, and received a glowing school report.

She started July with a bad cold and cough, but she seems to have mostly shaken that off now, and is enjoying spending a week at High School, in preparation for her move to high school in September. She’s settling in well and is happy with her new school. She also enjoyed celebrating her 11th birthday last week, with a meal at Harvester, a shopping trip with her grandparents, and a trip to a local theme park with her school friend and Dylan.

Here’s hoping for a happy, healthy summer!

Thank you to everyone who has sent Seren a card or a postcard recently. She very much appreciated all the Easter cards, birthday cards and general cards. She’s loved receiving some fantastic Dr Who postcards too! In particular, she would like to thank the children from Nottingham who sent 24 handmade cards for her birthday, she was very touched! Thank you to Gill, Libby Snow, Neve, Jasmin, Georgia, Harriet, Jules, Valerie, Audrey, Georgia-Mari, Wendy, Sian, Tabitha, Maria & Michael, and Northwold Primary School for all the great letters! Seren loves reading them! Thank you to whoever sent the horse book (it came from Sutton Coldfield), thank you to Kitty for the colouring book and sweets, thank you to Lisa W for the sunflower seeds, thank you to Denise C for the Jacqueline Wilson activity set, thank you to Lisa for the recorder, glow stick bracelets, bubble gum water pistol, bath gel and chocolate, thank you to Harriet for the horse facts book, thank you to Lisa for the bead bracelet, thank you to whoever sent the pewter horse necklace, thank you to Danielle W for the beanie owl, thank you to Jenny for the stickers and magnets, thank you to Becci W for the cat novel, thank you to Summer for the 1 Direction keyring, thank you to Natashja for the stickers, thank you to June for the stickers, sticky notes and holographic card, thank you to Mary Kayetlin for the toy horse, thank you to Ruth, Davina, Melissa and Simone for the medal, thank you to Sasha and Aisha for the bracelet, thank you to whoever sent the Chinese lantern kit, and thank you to Natashja for the horse drawings tips book.

Update 10th April 2013

Seren had a pretty good December, apart from finishing off the month with a bad cold, but it didn’t stop her enjoying spending post-Christmas and New Year time in Wales with my family! She didn’t eat much though, she certainly didn’t over-indulge at Christmas! Her appetite didn’t improve in early January and she was pretty naughty too! She didn’t want to do her CF treatments and so by the time she got to CF Clinic on 14th January, she had an intermittent cough. At CF Clinic, her weight was stable, despite her poor appetite, thanks to her gastrostomy feed, but her lung function had dropped. Her FVC was 85% and her FEV1 was 76%, down from 83%. Her FEF50 was 63%. The doctor wasn’t happy with her nutrition levels or her effort at taking care of herself, so they gave her a big talking to. They also agreed to her having a mask for her nebuliser, rather than a mouthpiece, to encourage compliance. February was a better month, healthwise, she was pretty stable apart from a migraine mid-month. She also made huge leaps in her maths work at school, jumping from her old level of 2B up to a 4C!

On 1st March, she went back to CF Clinic and she had grown 1 cm and put on nearly a kilogram and her lung function had improved. Her FVC was 100%, her FEV1 was 79%, and her FEF50 was 74%. The doctor was very pleased to hear that she had been more compliant in her treatments and the results showed in her lung function tests. Her nasal polyp which they discovered in November was much improved and so the doctor reduced her Nasonex to once per day and reduced her Colomycin nebuliser to once per day as well, in order to make the mornings easier for her.

We then had some more bad behaviour and non-compliance from her during the rest of March, but her behaviour had improved by Easter, and she very much enjoyed spending Easter in Wales with my family and then we headed Eastwards to Spring Harvest at Butlins. While we were there, she seemed tired, and didn’t eat too well, but it was only when we were traveling home on Sunday that we realised why.

She developed a sore throat and was very tired and had a poor appetite on Sunday evening and then overnight she developed a chesty cough. This got worse through Monday, and again, she had a very poor appetite and was lethargic. When she hadn’t improved on Tuesday, I called her CF Nurse and arranged a review on Children’s Ward. She was weighed and had lost half a kilogram and when she did her lung function, her FVC had dropped to 76%, her FEV1 had dropped to 59%, and her FEF50 had dropped to 54%. By far her lowest results ever. The CF Nurse gave her a drink and let her rest and then she tried again about half an hour later and managed to improve her FEV1 to 65%, but that is still much lower than her previous lowest of 72%. She was then seen by the doctor, who said her chest didn’t sound too bad, but he ordered a cough swab done, sent her for a chest x-ray and started her on some extra antibiotics (on top of her regular Augmentin and nebulised Colomycin) to treat the infection.

This morning, he called to say that the x-ray showed no major changes from her last x-ray (last summer) which had shown decline from the year before. Her cough swab won’t be back until at least Friday, and the CF Nurse has arranged to re-check her lung function on Monday to see if it has started coming back up. Today she is feeling pretty poorly, her cough is horrible and she’s feeling quite breathless and it’s making her tearful. She’s got lots of revision to do for her SATS though, which are coming up in 5 weeks time, so she’s trying to revise today and rest. Hopefully the new antibiotics will kick in soon.

Thank you very much to Gillian for the lovely Christmas card! Thank you to Andrea, Rob & Jaiden, 1st Brantham Brownies, whoever sent the Valentines cards, Natashja, Izzy P & Sayaka, Alison, Karen (Sami), Sophie, Becci Willetts, Hanna R, Rissy & family, Julia Daisy & Daniel, Maria, Kirsten, Chester & Wendy, and Annie for the fabulous cards! Thank you to Lyndsay, Kati & Ronja, Bron, Becky Rideout, Viks, Dee, and Wendy & Chester for the lovely postcards! Thank you to Sophie, Natashja, Izzy P & Sayaka, Isla Ramsay, and Kati for the lovely letters! Thank you to Claire Connon, Tez, Sarah Sweeney, Kati K, Lorraine B, Helen T, Vickie, Jenny Mathiasson, Kate Dalton, Anastasia, and Dawn Smith for the lovely Christmas presents you sent for Seren. She absolutely loved them. Thank you also to whoever sent the fairy book nameplates and the horse necklace. Thank you to Andrea, Rob & Jaiden for the nail art kit. Seren has been having great fun with this! Thank you to the 1st Brantham Brownies for all the pictures you drew. Thank you to someone who sent Seren a picture. Thank you to Natashja for the horse necklace. Thank you to Izzy P and Sayaka for the pictures. Thank you to whoever sent Seren the horse pin badge. Thank you to Julia, Daisy & Daniel for ‘The Horse Road’ book. Thank you to Kati & Ronja for the photos and picture. Thank you to Becci Willetts for the strawberry charm. Thank you to Hanna R for the pins kit. Thank you to Isla Ramsay for the ‘How To Draw Horses’ book and picture. Thank you to Rissy & family for the bracelet. Thank you to Becky Butler for ‘The Summer Riders’ book. Thank you to Annie for the stickers. Thank you to whoever sent the pampering kit with massage oil etc, Seren loves it!

Update 1st December 2012

Seren has had a fairly settled few months. She had her yearly CF review in early July, and she was 138.5 cms tall, weighed 31.3 kgs, putting her BMI on the 41st centile, her SATS were 97% and her cough swab was clear. Her FEV1 lung function was 83% in May, so we were hopeful that it would have climbed even higher by July, but unfortunately, it had dropped to 74%, and her FVC was 84%. The doctors were concerned by her x-ray which showed lots of ‘tramlines’ in the bottom of her right lung, the top left lung still showed an area of sticky consolidated gunk, and there were lots of ‘significant obvious bronchiectatic changes’. Her ear nose and throat examination was okay apart from inflammation of the nostrils, and her abdominal examination was fine, as were her blood results and abdominal ultrasound, but the consultant was very concerned about the state of her chest and her low lung function. She admitted to not co-operating with her chest physiotherapy or her daily nebulisers, or wanting to cough much, so the doctor agreed to take her off the hated hypertonic saline nebulisers and put her onto nebulised Colomycin, an antibiotic mixed with normal saline instead, which would hopefully clear her chest a bit and prevent so many IVs being needed. He said she would also benefit from Mannitol when it comes out in this country, a dry inhaled powder which clears the lungs.

On 8th of July, Seren came out in a cold, and on 9th July, she started with a chesty cough, with chest pain as well, and so we took her to the hospital for a check up after giving her painkillers and inhalers. Her chest x-ray showed no improvement from the previous one, so the nurses supervised her test dose of Colomycin and used that to treat the chest infection along with a course of Clarithromycin. She tolerated the new nebuliser very well, which was a huge relief.

On 12th July, Seren was still very tired and tearful thanks to the chest infection, and unfortunately, her Clarithromycin dose blocked her gastrostomy tube, so she had to have it replaced on 13th July, which she wasn’t very happy about, as she finds tube changes rather painful thanks to persistent over granulation around her tube site. She didn’t eat much on the 13th, and was still tired, but she was determined to have fun, as she celebrated her 10th birthday on 11th July and on 13th, she took two friends bowling and had them over for a sleepover afterwards. Needless to say, we had a very tired, chesty girl on 14th July! She was still tired by Sunday 15th July, so she missed church and a dance performance she was to have taken part in as well.

On 22nd July, she fell and hurt her wrist, and when it was still very painful two days later, we took her to A&E for an xray. Thankfully, it was just soft tissue damage and it healed eventually. On 30th July, Seren enjoyed spending the week at Holiday Bible Club at church, and then on 3rd August, we travelled to Wales to stay with my family, and on 4th August, Seren had the great honour of being bridesmaid at my friend’s wedding! She had a beautiful outfit to wear on the day, and had a great time enjoying the day’s celebrations.

On 12th August, Seren went back to horse riding for the first time since her gastrostomy operation! She really enjoyed it, although sadly, we haven’t been able to afford too many lessons or rides for her this year, as money has been very tight. On 13th August, Seren had her physiotherapy annual review and passed her exercise test easily. On 20th August Seren went crabbing for the first time and really enjoyed it, and then at the end of August Donna’s Dream House treated us to an amazing holiday in Blackpool. If you’d like to see what we got up to, feel free to watch our photo slideshow at … http://www.onetruemedia.com/otm_site/view_shared?p=118a3e3c3a1b6c29fbbc718&skin_id=701&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url

On 5th September, Seren went back to school, to start Year 6, and unfortunately, went to school full of a cold. By 7th September her cold had turned into a nasty cough, but at CF Clinic, she had grown 1.3 cms, gained half a kg, her SATS were 98%, and her FVC had climbed to 91% while her FEV1 had climbed to 80%, so the consultant was pleased and made no changes to her treatments. By 9th September, she still had her nasty cough, and on 11th September, Seren was sent home with a very nasty cough and a bad migraine, which I had to give her Imigran for. We went for a review at the hospital the following day, but the consultant didn’t make any changes to her treatments.

On 15th September, Seren and I signed up to do a 2.5 km run for the CF Trust, and we started our three times a week running training on 17th September. It was very hard, but we did it!

On 28th September, Seren still had a very wet cough in the mornings each day, so she had a swab done, but it didn’t grow anything, so we were still unsure as to what was causing her cough. I asked for her to be reviewed again on 3rd October when she was still coughing badly each morning, and her lung function had dropped again to an FEV1 of 72%, so her consultant decided to increase her Augmentin tablets from twice to three times a day. I wasn’t happy at how laid back her local consultant seemed to be about her poor lung function, and so I asked to be referred to the specialist from Cambridge in the near future.

Her cough didn’t improve through early October, but we were able to continue with our training, and on 13th October we spent the day at Legoland, and then on 14th October, Seren and I ran 2.5 kms for the CF Trust!!! She did a great job! However, her overnight and morning cough were incredibly wet, which was a great concern to us.

On 16th October, Seren had her flu jab, and then on 19th October, I had to go into school for a big talk with her teacher because she was still being very uncooperative for her CF treatments every morning, which was making everyone else late and causing lots of disagreements. Her teacher suggested having a tick off check list in the mornings for Seren to follow to make sure she does everything she is supposed to.

Seren was seen again at the CF Clinic on 22nd October, her FEV1 had increased to 84%, her highest score this year so far, but she had crackles in her lower left lung, and so the consultant diagnosed her overnight and morning cough as the start of a chest infection, and prescribed three weeks of Ciprofloxacin tablets.

Late October and early November were fun times, with a school trip to Gressenhall for a Victorian day, carving pumpkins with Dylan and Dad, and going to see some fireworks on the sea front.

By early November, we were seeing the extra maths classes she has been taking at school starting to pay off! Seren is VERY behind in her maths skills (but is way ahead in all other subjects) and has been receiving intensive intervention for a month or so, and she is finally starting to make progress! She is able to tackle more and more maths problems, and is starting to cope better with the stress of having maths homework to do at home!

On 12th November, Seren saw the CF Specialist from Cambridge, as even with three weeks of Ciprofloxacin, her overnight and morning cough wasn’t improving. Her lung function was stable at 83%, which was good, but the specialist found a massive polyp obstructing her left nostril, which is probably causing her overnight cough and morning cough by giving her post nasal drip, so he prescribed Nasonex nasal sprays for her nostrils. He also prescribed 3% saline for her to nebulise before each physio session, as he said her poor drinking habits (she rarely drinks much in the day at all, her overnight feed of 500 mls is usually most of her daily fluid intake) are causing her to still suffer a little constipation and will be making her lungs very dry and causing the gunk to be too sticky to cough up, so she really needs to get fluid in there. She tolerates it better than the hypertonic saline though, so it’s a start!

Seren is very excited that we’re now into December, and is looking forward to putting the Christmas decorations up, opening her advent calendar, and had a great time seeing the Coca Cola Truck at our local Asda the other day. Here’s hoping for a healthy December, as the last few months have been absolutely exhausting!

Thank you so much to everyone who has been kind enough to send cards and postcards to Seren over the past few months, she very much enjoys receiving them, opening them and reading them! Thank you to everyone who has sent Seren a letter or note over the past few months, she loves to hear what is going on in other people’s lives! Thank you so much to everyone who has sent Seren such lovely gifts, in particularly the gorgeous quilt which she always sleeps under, and her amazing signed Stacy Gregg books! She emailed Stacy to say thank you and received an email back as well, which made her day!

Update 1st July 2012

Seren had a tough time around the time of her operation.  She had over two weeks of IV antibiotics before her operation, due to a nasty chest infection and poor lung function, which hadn’t improved over the course of the IVs. Just before being admitted to hospital for her operation, one of her cough swabs came back growing the fungus Aspergillus, so she had some anti-fungal tablets for that, which did seem to help her chest a little.

The day of her operation, 21st March, she was incredibly brave. We checked into the hospital in the morning and she went down to theatre around lunchtime to have her gastrostomy fitted. She came back up to the ward at around 4pm, after spending quite a while in recovery, because she was struggling to hold her oxygen levels on her own. Initially when she came around from the anaesthetic she was okay on 5l of oxygen, and then when they stopped it and prepared to move her back up to the ward, her SATS (oxygen levels) dropped significantly, and they had to put her back on 2l of oxygen to transport her up to the ward. She was quite groggy and seemed to be in quite a bit of pain.

Every time we tried to take the oxygen off her over the next four or five hours, her SATS dropped straight back down, but eventually, by bedtime, she was holding her own without extra oxygen. She was a little hungry in the evening, and so she sucked a few chocolate buttons and had some sips of water. They started using her tube that evening for small boluses of water, and then small boluses of feed, and all went well.

The following day, she kept her SATS up nicely, but REALLY struggled with managing her pain. The nurses encouraged her to get out of bed and use the bathroom, but that made her operation site leak a lot, which got very messy, and she would sometimes get ‘stuck’, in so much pain that she couldn’t move an inch.  In the end, paracetamol and nurofen weren’t enough and they had to give her a dose of morphine, which helped eventually. They also gave her a daytime tube feed, as she wasn’t eating anything. That evening, she had a little bit of a sandwich, and had her first overnight tube feed too.

Friday, the following day, she was supposed to have been discharged, and the surgical team were happy with her progress and happy to discharge her, but the CF team weren’t, because she wasn’t managing her pain very well, was barely mobile, and chest physiotherapy was way too painful for her, but her chest was very, very noisy and congested. So the CF Consultant decided to keep her on the IVs over the weekend and review her chest symptoms and mobility on the Monday evening.

Seren was so brave, it was her first operation, and she ended up spending six days/five nights in the hospital, and absolutely everything was a challenge for her; learning to cope with her gastrostomy and it leaking all the time all over her clothes, the lack of privacy, eating, drinking, all the extra medicines, all the pain, the physiotherapists who did their best to push her into walking further, mobilising more and having some forms of chest physio, and being away from her family and friends. I stayed in with her, of course, and Adrian and Dylan visited each evening, as did other family members, but she missed everyone terribly.

Thankfully, she was able to be discharged on the Monday evening, and things improved quickly after that. Her pain was far more easily managed after about ten days and she gradually got more and more mobile, and her appearance quickly became more healthier as she had more and more overnight feeds. She managed to go on her Make A Wish trip to London just before Easter, and she looked like a different child by the time Easter actually came, and just after Easter, she was strong enough for a trip to York with me, and she walked EVERYWHERE! Before her operation, just walking to school was too much for her!

By the May CF Clinic, she had gained 3.5 kgs, and had gone from the 7th centile for her BMI, up to the 28th! In just six weeks! The doctors were so pleased, as she had also stopped needing any form of laxatives, no senna, no lactulose, nothing, thanks to her fibre-filled overnight feeds! We were hoping her lung function would also have increased, along with everything else, but unfortunately, it had dropped to 78% from a post-op 83%. We have no explanation for the decrease, but by the end of May, it had risen slightly to 83%. We are hoping to get it up nearer to 100% again in the future, but for now we’re doing all we can.

And now, Seren is doing really well most of the time. She has gained at least 5 kgs, and is up to at least the 42nd centile for her BMI. She is looking so much healthier, and her face is full of colour. She still has the odd chesty cough or episode of chest pain, but she hasn’t had any tummy problems since a few days after her operation, and she has got SO much energy! She is doing PE at school, charging about at parks, and going to her dance class regularly. She hasn’t quite gone back to horse riding, because of having to wear her chest protector over her gastrostomy, which she has experienced some problems with due to over-granulation, but we hope that she will be able to go back to horse riding very soon.

Seren has her Annual Review/MOT on Friday, so I’ll be able to update more on her current health after that. Fingers crossed for good news! We should get the results of all her blood tests, her x-ray analysis, her abdominal ultrasound results, plus her current height, weight and lung function stats, as well as cough swab results.

Thank you to all the lovely people who have sent Seren cards and postcards recently, she has loved them all! They either sit on the mantelpiece, or on the shelves in her bedroom, or on her pinboard! Thank you for all the get well cards she received during her hospital stay and while she was recovering from her operation. We pinned up those we received during her hospital stay on her pinboard in her hospital room, and they really brightened the room up! Thank you to everyone who takes the time to write a letter to Seren, she loves to curl up and read them, to hear your stories. Thank you to everyone who has sent Seren gifts recently. She has enjoyed receiving each and every one of them! Recent highlights include the fabulous mechanical monkey from Kim, and the Odd book from Vickie, which she is currently reading. More specific thank you’s are a bit tricky, as she likes to take her parcels and letters up to her room to open them now she’s older, and she isn’t the best at keeping notes of what she’s received from whom! But thank you to everyone, she very much appreciates all her post.

Update 13th March 2012

Seren has had a difficult few months. In December she had a 16 day course of IVs for a nasty chest infection, during which her weight dropped from 27.5 kgs at the beginning of the month, to 26.7 kgs at the end of the month. She also had an allergic reaction to one of the IV antibiotics, Ceftazidime, halfway through the course, which was unpleasant for her. When she was reviewed at the end of the course, her lung function had improved, going back up to around 91% I believe, but her weight was very poor and despite her lungs having improved, she didn’t feel any better in herself. So it was suggested that as she was finding it so very difficult to eat, and to gain weight, that she have a gastrostomy fitted to feed her overnight.

Seren struggled through Christmas and New Year, feeling very tired and lethargic, struggling to eat and struggling to cope with all her CF treatments. Everything was getting on top of her. And so in mid-January, the decision was made to refer her to the paediatric surgeon for a gastrostomy. She had CF Clinic again in early February and her weight was back up to 27.5 kgs, but her bowel was very blocked, and although her lungs sounded clear her lung function was down to 79% again.

Seren saw the gastrostomy surgeon on 7th February and thanks to double doses of lactulose clearing some of the blockages in her bowel, her weight had dropped again to 26.8 kgs. The surgeon agreed to fit a mickey button gastrostomy for her over the next couple of months. We were originally given a date of 4th April. Through February, Seren’s health declined even further and she stopped going to her weekly dance classes and was always too tired for her riding lessons at the weekend. She also began to develop a wet cough again.

By late February, she was really struggling with a lot of chest pain, stomach pains, and feeling generally unwell. She was sent home from school one day with severe stomach and chest pains, and although a hot water bottle and some pain relief got rid of her stomach pain, her chest pain continued to be a problem, and she was recessing on her right side. We took her to the hospital, where her weight was 27.0 kgs, her bowel was blocked again, and because of the chest pain and recession, they were concerned she might have a pneumothorax (air leak in her lung) or another chest infection. She had an x-ray which was fairly inconclusive, so they put her on oral Clarithromycin for 7 days and prescribed Senna as well as the Lactulose for her bowels.

After 7 days her lung function was down to 77%, her weight was 27.5 kgs, her bowel was still very full, and she was still getting a lot of chest pain and coughing up yellow gunk. By day 11, her weight had dropped again to 26.7 kgs, and she was feeling awful with tight, heavy lungs, chest pain and feeling generally unwell. So the local hospital started Seren on some IV antibiotics again, Meropenem and TOBI.

She is still on the IVs at the moment and although her chest pain is improving, her chest is a little crackly and the bottom of her right lung is very dull-sounding. Last week we got a call from the hospital to say that her gastrostomy operation has been moved forwards to 21st March, one week’s time, and we are very relieved. Her poor weight and appetite and nutrition is not only affecting her quality of life and causing her to feel so tired, it is directly affecting her lung health and her chest muscles and her ability to cough effectively.

Her weight is still sitting at 26.7 kgs at the moment and she’s having some trouble with her TOBI IVs, the levels of drug in her blood came back too high today, so they have to tweak her doses a little to avoid damaging her kidneys or her hearing. She is very much looking forward to having her operation and getting her gastrostomy fitted, getting stronger and feeling better and getting some quality of life back. The past few months have been so very tough for her, and for us, as her parents, to watch her become a shadow of her former self and to see her have to stop doing all the things she loved to do.

Once she has her operation and gets her overnight feeds up and running, she will be better hydrated, better nourished, have more energy, put weight on, be stronger, and be healthier. And we can’t wait.

However, the recovery from the operation will have a few hurdles. She will have stitches in for the first week and they will be stitched into her stomach muscles, so every time she moves they will pull, which will be very painful for her. She may also experience tube leaks where feed or stomach contents may leak onto her clothes/bedding, which would be distressing for her. She will also have a small wound in her belly button after the surgery, and they will be performing a bronchial lavage (filling each lung with saline, one at a time, and performing chest physiotherapy, then hoovering out all the gunk) during the anaesthetic, which should hopefully provide some bacterial answers, as she is awful at coughing effectively and so we have no idea what bugs may be lurking in the base of her right lung causing havoc.

Once she is out of hospital though, we have some fun times planned. Her Make A Wish trip is taking place from 31st March to 2nd April and then we are traveling to Wales to see my family at Easter, and then I have planned a very special trip for 10th to 12th April for just me and Seren, which will have a special surprise involved! So she needs to recover quickly and get strong to enjoy all the good times coming up.

Any prayers or good wishes for her current IV course, which will continue until after her surgery, or for her operation and recovery, are much appreciated. Hopefully her next update will be a much more positive one.

Thank you to all you lovely people who have sent Seren cards and postcards over the past few months. She has loved opening them. She had absolutely loads of Christmas cards, and our front room door was filled with them, back and front! Seren loves getting cards, particularly handmade ones or ones with pictures of cats/horses on them. Thank you very much to everyone who has sent Seren letters over the past few months. She loves getting letters and hearing about other people’s lives, and she likes when people have the same interests as her. She reads every letter, and I only have to help out when she can’t make out handwritten notes in ‘joined up’ writing! A big thank you to Dottie the Dalmatian, Seren loves all her paw print post! Thank you to everyone who has sent Seren gifts over the past few months, they have all been treasured and enjoyed. She received some lovely gifts at Christmas, and some lovely treats during early 2012, and they have gone some way to cheering her up through a difficult few months. A BIG thank you to you all for making my lovely girl feel special!

Update 5th December 2011

Seren has had an up and down few months since the summer. In September she had her annual review/MOT, and her routine chest x-ray showed up bronchial wall thickening and early bronchiectasis for the first time, which was an unpleasant surprise. It also showed up a large area of consolidation (big plug of mucus blocking an area of her lung) in her left lung, which we really needed to clear. To remedy this, she was started on daily hypertonic saline nebulisers, which soon had her coughing up lots and lots of horrible dark yellow gunk. They also found that she is seriously low on Vitamin K and so she started a vitamin K supplement. She was not happy about having extra medications to take each day!

We also had to request to take her back off her Pizotifen tablets, as we just couldn’t cope with her behaviour and mood swings while she was on it. It was agreed that she should come off the tablets and that if her migraines returned, she would have an alternative medication to treat it. For a while, she coped without any migraine prevention medication, but towards the end of October she had a nasty migraine which came on gradually over a few days and then got worse quickly. She was prescribed Imigran for this, a reliever rather than preventer medication, as the only other preventer medication constricts the airways, which is not good for someone with CF and asthma! The Imigran was very effective however, and within 24 hours she was feeling much better. So far, she has not had another migraine.

At the end of November, Seren accompanied her brother Dylan on a Make a Wish Foundation UK trip to Disneyland Paris and we all had an amazing time. She loved riding all the different rides and meeting all the characters, particularly Pluto, however, she came out in a heavy cold while on our trip, which compounded an already brewing chest infection we were up to then unaware of, and so by the time she got back home and got to CF Clinic on 2nd December, the bases of both of her lungs were sounding horrible, and so the CF Consultant put her on IV antibiotics the following day.

And wow, Seren has been SO brave for them so far!!! She is feeling pretty rotten and her cough is horrible, but she didn’t even flinch when they fitted her cannula on Saturday afternoon, and she coped amazingly well with her finger prick test (which was performed incorrectly twice and so she had to have three pierced fingers!), which was a huge improvement on her last IV course two years ago. Her cannula, which has been named Carrie, is starting to become painful on use but she is managing to keep going with it so far, and I have been able to do home IVs for the past 24 hours which has meant she has been able to come home from hospital. This means a lot with it being so close to Christmas. There is the possibility of her being readmitted if I can’t manage with both Seren and her brother Dylan being on home IVs at the moment (lots of juggling!) or if she can’t cope with the home IVs, or if she has a lot of problems with cannulas, but for the moment, she is home, and able to go into school for a few hours as well, so she’s fairly happy. Her IVs are due to finish on 17th December, as long as sufficient improvement has been made by then, and so hopefully by Christmas she will be feeling much better and her lungs will be in better shape!

Update 25th August 2011

Seren has had an up and down few months. She had a chest infection in June, which required antibiotics and extra nebulisers and physiotherapy to shift, but her chest is currently pretty good. She had a good report at CF Clinic, lung-wise, but she has been put back on her Pizotifen tablets, because she was continuing to feel nauseous and complaining of frequent headaches. She saw a specialist gastro-enterologist last month who diagnosed her with childhood migraines, which are now being pretty well controlled by the Pizotifen, although she still has the occasional headache.

The Pizotifen has had the happy side effect of increasing her weight to a lovely healthy weight, but it has had a much more negative effect on her behaviour and moods. There is little we can do about this, except work with her about it, and make sure she has regular access to the CF psychologist and the family support worker from the hospice.

She is also being tested for ADD, as we wonder whether this may explain her increasing behaviour and concentration problems which have been growing more and more noticeable over the past few years. The CF psychologist feels she may have short term memory issues and/or concentration issues, but this could also be caused by her finding it difficult to settle off to sleep.

She has recently discovered that she likes Coca Cola and Pepsi, and she sometimes drinks apple juice or blackcurrant squash again, as well as cups of tea, so her fluid intake has finally improved a little.

She has her annual review coming up on the 15th September, when we should know more about how her CF is currently affecting her. She is looking forward to celebrating Dylan’s birthday with him in just over a week and also to an upcoming hospice stay before going back to school. She’ll be going into Year 5 this year!

Thank you to Nicola Jane, Tracy (Bristol), Helen T, Karen (Sami), Kelsey, Claire, Glad, Emma, Libby, Nicole, H, Anne & Kaitlin G, Jocelyn, Karin, Shannon & Elsa, Liz, Louise Melissa & Sophie, Ruby, Samantha, Helen Brierley, Dottie, Denise, Adam & Hannah, Jenny, Melanie, Erica Durante, June, Jenny O, Kay, MJ, Lisa W, Susan, Kathryn, Claire C, Wendy, Claire, Jane and Tez for the fantastic cards! Thank you to Nicky, Despina, Mrs Hill, Libby, Dottie, Heli, Sarah G, Julia & Daisy and Tez for the lovely postcards! Thank you Maria S, Marie, Sofia, Wendy & Chester, Maria & Michael, Amani, Libby, Nicky, Julia Daisy & Daniel, Nicole, Anne & Kaitlin G, MJ, Sarah G, Lisa W, Shannon & Elsa, Georgia, Jordan, Becky, Dottie the Dalmatian, Kerry F, Amanda, Lisa, Vickie and Kelsey for the great letters and notes! Seren loves reading them! Thank you very much to Maria S for the stickers; to whoever sent the toy horse, notebook and ring; to Nicola Jane for the horse paper; to the lovely Libby for the many lovely parcels, including a ring, a necklace, make your own friendship beads, hairband and book! Thank you to Becky Butler for the Jinny book; to Julia, Daisy & Daniel for the horse sticker book; to Nicole for the puzzle book and pen; to Anne & Kaitlin G for the craft folder; to Lisa for the juggling balls; to Elizabeth B for the book on drawing horses; to Kelsey for the kitten stationery, the many lovely stickers and the bracelet; to Kate Dee & PP for the craft tub and horse book; to Jocelyn for the stickers; to Karin for the stickers and notelets; to Lisa W for the paint by numbers; to Shannon & Elsa for the bead kit, activity book, keyring, clay, magic slate and pencil; to Lisa W for the masks kit and sweets; to Anne for the book and CD; to Kay for the card kit; to MJ for the photos, sticky toy, sock purse, bath confetti, maltesers, magic worm and Saddle Club set; to Lisa W for the scrapbook and chocolate; to Jordan for the horse drawing; to Kim L for the cat jigsaw in a tin; to Kathryn for the face paints; to Claire C for the pencil case and stationery; to Amanda for the stickers; to whoever sent the necklace kit; to PP/Kim for the make your own fairy badge and art kit; to Tez for the dragon horns, horse notebook and pen, and horse sticker book; to Susan for the notelets in the tin, horse stationery kit, gel pens, pencil tin, pencils, notelets and envelopes; and thank you to Dottie for the party bag!

Update 30th April 2011

Seren has had an up and down few months. Her nausea gradually settled down through January and early February, and thanks to her new Pizotifen tablets, her appetite has increased even further, and fantastically, for the first time in years, she is actually gaining weight! What she’s eating is finally benefitting her! One of the side effects of the Pizotifen tablets is weight gain, and she is certainly getting that! Her weight has rocketed from a scary 23.9 kgs (11th centile for her BMI) in January, up to a fantastic 27.1 kgs (38th centile!!!) in March! And I think we’re going to have another pleasant weight-gain-related surprise at her upcoming clinic on 6th May too, as she’s looking a lovely healthy weight at the moment, thanks in part to her discovery of the deliciousness of doughnuts! She ate 10 doughnuts in about 4 days recently!

Seren had a nasty bout of tonsillitis with a horrible chest infection in early February and her chest was really noisy, with lots of thick gunk trying to choke her. We think the chest infection was viral, as an increase in her regular Augmentin tablets helped to sort it out, along with a FANTASTIC nebuliser medication – Nebusal! It’s 7% saline, aka hypertonic saline, and although Seren HATES having it, as it’s like inhaling sea water, horribly salty, it REALLY does the trick and shifts an absolute ton of yukky gunk. So Seren did have to have a few days off school thanks to the chest infection, but thankfully, the Nebusal speeded up her recovery and she was soon feeling much better without the need for IVs.

Since then, Seren has had a difficult few months with her emotions. In mid-February, she found out about the current CF average life expectancy of just 38 years and that upset her greatly. We talked about it to her as well as we could at the time, but it affected her sleeping, mood and behaviour over the next few weeks, and in March she burst into tears out of the blue and said that she couldn’t cope with the idea of her death hanging over her, it was all she could think about. She was also starting to refuse to take some of her medications.

So she had a talk with the CF Nurse, we began a ‘worry book’ for her to write her worries down and get them out of her head, and we bought her a ‘worry pup’ which lives under her pillow, who she can tell her worries to. She has also begun to receive counselling from the hospice where she receives her respite care, which we hope will also help. We are also trying to make her life as fun as possible, as she copes better when she has something in the not too distant future to look forward to, to keep herself positive; and she loves losing herself in a good book, her favourite authors are currently Jacqueline Wilson and Stacy Gregg. She doesn’t like to be alone with her thoughts for a second.

Here’s hoping for a great report from CF Clinic next week, and a happy, healthy summer.

Big thank you’s to December the Elf, Comet, Claire McCartney, Jodie, Ginny, Vickie, Claire, Becky Butler, Wendy, Lisa Sweeney, Quistis, Claire Connon, Libby, Susan Sweeney, Julia Daisy & Daniel, Jennifer Targhi, and Lynn for the beautiful cards! Thank you also to Claire, Liz, and Becky Butler for the lovely postcards! Thank you to Joko for the jigsaw letter! Thank you to Wendy, Mina, MJ, Maria & Michael for the lovely letters! Seren loves to read them! Thank you to Vickie for the bracelet kit; to Mina for the pictures and wordsearch; to Maria & Michael for the bracelet; to Lisa Sweeney for the sweet; to Post Pals for the talking hamster; to Susan Sweeney for the book and bookmark; to Julia, Daisy & Daniel for the photo and pencil case; to Sarah Devlin for the amazing Pony bookends!; to Jennifer Targhi for the beautiful Easter bag, stickers, egg stencil kit and mini eggs; to Lynn for the pony sticker book, DVD, Top Trumps and pumpkin seeds; to whoever sent the 2 iCarly dolls, Hannah Montana cushion, plasticine, Hello Kitty stickers and Hannah Montana game cards; to whoever sent the Hannah Montana sticker album; and to Becky Butler for the Saddle Club book!

Update 31st January 2011

Seren has had a good few months chest-wise, but she has been having a tough time since just before Christmas with a lot of nausea. In mid-December Seren got Norovirus, which didn’t hit her too hard at the time, but it seemed to flare her reflux symptoms up. So we brought the Domperidone and Gaviscon back and she started needing it more and more over Christmas, and by the time she got to CF Clinic at the beginning of January, her weight was down over a kilogram and the consultant couldn’t figure out why she was having such bad reflux symptoms despite being on a high dose of Omeprazole, along with regular doses of Domperidone and Gaviscon.

So the consultant started Seren on Pizotifen, an anti-migraine drug, to see if it helped to alleviate her symptoms, in case they were being caused by childhood migraines. He also ordered an abdominal ultrasound to check whether her liver is starting to have problems, or whether she has gall stones, as both these issues could cause nausea.

She’s had some issues with the new medication. It increases her appetite, which is fantastic, as she desperately needs to gain weight because the doctors are very concerned about her weight (or lack of it, rather). But it’s also made her very tired and she gets upset very easily. But of course, part of the getting upset easily is because she is trying to cope with her nausea symptoms and with all the rest of her CF stuff. But we’re doing our best to keep her going and calm her down and she still absolutely loves all her horse-riding stuff and is doing great in her swimming lessons and dance class too, so we’re trying to make her life as fun-filled as we can.

Her abdominal ultrasound is coming up on 10th February and we’re hoping that we’ll get some answers on some ways to help Seren and ease her reflux-style symptoms.

Thank you to the Prince Rupert School in Rinteln, Juno, Homberg family, Helen T, Kate Dee, Quistis, Claire, Charlee, Dana, Donder, Rudolph, Despina, Vixen, Deborah, Helen Brierley, Penny, Cupid, Tez, Dasher, and MJ for all the fantastic cards! Thank you to MJ, Prancer, Natsumi, Shion, and Blitzen for the pretty postcards! Thank you to Dottie the Dalmatian for all the amazing letters to us and Daisy Pipsqueak! And thank you to Sarah G, Dancer, Charlotte Pope, MJ, Vixen, Mandie, Lindsay, and Jenny for all the lovely letters and notes!

Thank you to Post Pals and Karen (Sami) for the Halloween goodie bags; to the Prince Rupert School in Rinteln for the stickers; to Anna for the picture; to Charlotte Pope for the horse, to Dana for the friendship bracelet; to Mandie for the iCarly book and the DVD; to Liz Ellis for the scraper art kit; to Lindsay for the jewel hairslide; to Helen Brierley for the Roald Dahl tape; to Jenny for the Hannah Montana pen and cuddly horse; to Tez for the dalmatian book and calendar; to our Elf for the Hello Kitty notepad, stationery, socks, stickers, flannel, cupcake, choc coins, nail kit, bangles, shower gel and face mask; to Sarah for the Heartland Horses book set; to Helen T for the jewellery set, the Claire’s Accessories gift card, choc coins, wooden horse kit, and High School Musical cards; to Quistis for the Animagic kitten; to Penny for the marshmallows and stickers; to Claire for the colouring sheets; to Mary O’Neill for the Hannah stocking; to Blitzen for the stickers; and to MJ for the Hello Kitty bracelet, Spongebob promise, stickers, Hello Kitty necklace, butterfly hairslide and mini show horse kit.

Update 28th October 2010

Seren has been pretty well over the last few months! She’s had the odd cold and did have a week in August where she had extremely high temperatures and totally lost her appetite (plus she’s had a few nasty chests), but they’ve cleared up relatively quickly with some extra Augmentin tablets and some saline nebulisers. She’s also had only minimal joint pain recently too, which is great.

She had her Annual Review in July, which was generally very positive. Her chest x-ray was really great! Her BMI was only on the 14th centile, and her lung function was only 89% and 91%, so not her best results, but she did have a wet cough for a few weeks around that time and had been coughing up yellow gunk. She also got put on long term Lactulose for persistent constipation, which has helped her a lot.

By her October CF Clinic appointment she had climbed up to the 26th centile for her BMI, which is fantastic, but her lung function was 93% and 80.8%, so even worse than last time. The doctors said that from the results, it looked as if she might be a little wheezy, so they said to try giving her some Ventolin, which didn’t help much, but she did develop a wet, chesty cough a few days later, which we shifted with some extra Augmentin tablets, extra saline nebulisers and plenty of physio, and her chest seems clear again now.

She just got her flu jab last Friday and at the moment doesn’t seem to have suffered any ill effects from it. She had her first proper eye test on Tuesday, after complaining of problems with her vision, and it was discovered that she is long sighted, so she has been prescribed some glasses to wear for close up work, which we will be picking up on Saturday. She’s really quite excited about getting them!
Here’s hoping for a healthy autumn and winter for her!

We have lots of thank you’s since our last update! Thank you to Elizabeth, Claire, Rosie, Mai, Elle M, Debbie & cats, Elle Lewis & George the cat, Quistis, Kim Lawrence, Vickie, Post Pals, Helen Brierley, Shahlaa, Julia & Roger, Mandie, Becky, Susanna, Maria S, Vicky S, Catherine and Kate Dee for the fantastic cards Seren has received lately! Thank you to Charlotte, Susan, Claire, Sarah G and MJ for the lovely postcards! Thank you to Jenny Orpwood, Claire, Kim Lee & Bridget, Postie Sarah, Maria & Michael, Kim & Kev, Samantha, Teresa, Tina, Tracy (Bristol), June Junko, Julie Emily & Daisy, Jenni, Jenny, Lynn S, Helen T, Jenny B and Beth for the beautiful birthday cards! Thank you to Vashti, Sophie & Emma, Naomi G, Amber, Aly Kehn, Rachel, Sarah, Claire, Karen Darren & Amelia, Claire McCartney, Lucy & Richard, Dottie the Dalmatian and MJ for the lovely letters, Seren loves to read them! Thank you to Sophie & Emma for the drawings; to Amber for the vouchers; to Rosie for the stickers; to Aly Kehn for the photo and stickers; to Postie Sarah for the Claire‚’s Accessories gift cards; to Teresa for the iron-on patches; to Mai for the notecards and envelopes; to Sheelagh Hawkins for the talking doorbell; to Elle M for the cat ring holder, ring, cat pencil topper and PDSA badge; to Claire for the Hannah Montana stamper customising set and keychain kit; to Debbie & cats for the cat postcards, and horse and cat stickers; to Elle, Lewis and George the cat for the cupcake candle and cat magnets; to Helen T for the Magic Ponies book, Pippa Funnell DS game and Net DS game; to Jenny B for the horse t-shirt; to Quistis for the cuddly cat; to Sarah for the photo; to whoever sent the notelets, postcards and paper; to Joanne for the cat drawing; to Maria & Michael for the Polly Pocket book; to Mandie Lowry for the Hello Kitty goodie bag, bubble gum, slides, stickers and iCarly keyring; to Karen, Darren & Amelia for the mini scraperfoil; to Helen T for the colouring book; to Penny Berrill for the Narnia Activity book; to Vickie for the cake pencil case and bracelets; to Claire McCartney for the High School Musical bookmark; to Lucy & Richard for the engraving art magnets and stickers; to Helen B for the High School Musical Top Trumps; to Shahlaa for the fairy stickers, hot chocolate sachet, Hello Kitty pencil case and lip gloss; to Dottie the Dalmatian for the lovely cuddly dog, which the children have named Daisy Pipsqueak; to Quistis for the cat charm and cat magnet; to Mandie for the butterfly clips, Pony in my Pocket and Narnia stickers; to Helen Brierley for the cat stickers; to Becky for the stickers, cat postcard and bunny; to Catherine for the sponge painters, foam stickers, craft pack, glitter and Holiday Things to Do book; to Margaret Howell for the cuddly doll; and to Vicky S for the fairy books and friendship bracelets.

Seren absolutely loves reading her own letters and cards, but sometimes can’t read small handwriting and decipher the letters. I read them out to her if this happens but she finds it more enjoyable to read herself. I hope that this may improve once she gets her first pair of glasses on Saturday but please could I ask if you write her a letter to write clearly for her. Thank you!

Update 22nd June 2010

Seren’s had a pretty rough couple of months really. She was pretty well until 24th April, when she started complaining of nausea. This continued into the next day, and the nausea was so strong that we had to leave Church, and Seren insisted that she wanted to go to the hospital to see if they could figure out what was making her feel sick. She was examined by a registrar on the ward, who said that it could be her gastro-oesophageal reflux flaring up, so he increased her Losec from 20mg per day to 30 mg per day, and he wanted Seren to submit a stool sample, to check whether her Creon dose needed increasing, as apparently too little Creon could cause fat to be left in her stomach undigested, which would inflame it and cause nausea.

Her symptoms didn’t improve over the next five days or so, and Seren had to sit out of class frequently during the day because of her nausea, and when the nausea hit, each time, she would need total silence to cope with it until it passed away again. She was also waking at night with nausea. It got to the stage where anything that went into her stomach, medications or food or drink, was making her feel incredibly sick, and it was REALLY making her miserable. She was also refusing to go to any of her after school clubs, or to Nanny and Grandad’s house, because she was always feeling sick.

At this point, her consultant prescribed her some Gaviscon to take regularly through the day every time she felt sick, but it didn’t help either. She barely ate anything all evening and had constant nausea and burning pain in her chest, and it took her until midnight to fall asleep, but then was awake again with nausea at 2am.

By the 30th April she was still refusing to eat or drink and I ended up having to take her to the hospital with dehydration. She was seen by her consultant, who examined her thoroughly and found that she’d lost 1.5 kgs in just five days, taking her BMI down to the 17th centile. He started her on oral rehydration, 5mls of Dioralyte every 5 minutes for an hour, which she managed to tolerate, and she had a cannula fitted and had blood taken to check her liver function, in case the nausea was caused by the start of CF-related liver disease.

The bloods came back okay and so the consultant said that the nausea and burning pain must be caused by her reflux, so he prescribed her a 3 day course of Ondansetron, a really strong anti-nausea drug. This worked within an hour and Seren was OVER THE MOON! For the three days she was on it, her nausea completely disappeared and she was eating and drinking normally and enjoying life.

However, because it’s such a strong drug, she was only allowed to take it for 3 days, and when the last dose wore off, her nausea and burning pain came straight back. She was so disappointed and the nausea was having a big effect on her life. She started refusing to sleep in her bed, or anywhere in the house, wouldn’t sleep with bedding on or pyjamas, panicked if she was ever on her own in a room, and was too scared of feeling sick to go to any of her after school clubs.

She was seen at CF Clinic on 7th May and although she’d started putting back on some of the weight she’d lost, her lung function had dropped to 80-odd%, and her consultant found that her bowel was badly blocked. We felt that this was caused by the Ondansetron, because prior to her having it, her bowel hadn’t been blocked, but the consultant felt that this had been missed and was the actual cause of the nausea. But either way, the blockage had to be cleared before Seren could start any new treatments for the nausea, so she started taking 10 mls Lactulose twice a day.

This cleared the blockage within a week, but Seren’s nausea and burning pains were just as bad as ever, so the consultant finally started Seren on Domperidone on 14th May, to empty her stomach more quickly, three times a day. This worked a treat, and completely changed her life. She was able to take the tablet 20 minutes before a meal, eat as much as she liked, and not feel sick afterwards! Snacks in between meals were still making her sick, so she had Gaviscon after her snacks, and that solved that last of the issue.

More recently, the increased dose of Losec seems to have taken effect, and her stomach seems to have healed and become less sensitive, and so at the moment, she’s not needing very many doses of Gaviscon or Domperidone, but we know what to do each time she does get symptoms – we bring out the Domperidone and the Gaviscon, and we sort it.

Seren also had a bit of a chest infection at the end of May and beginning of June, a viral one which started out as a cold and went onto her chest and had her coughing up thick chunks of yellow gunk. We increased her Augmentin tablets for a while as a precaution, and had her on lots of saline nebulisers and extra physio sessions, but she coped REALLY well with the infection and worked hard at clearing her lungs all the time.

She’s just about back to normal now after a rough couple of months, and fingers crossed she’ll have a good few months now. She has her Annual Review (MOT) coming up next month, and so she’s got to go have blood tests and a chest x-ray done tomorrow, in preparation for the MOT.

She’s also got her FIRST EVER hospice stay coming up next week, and lots of fun things planned at school, like Nature Club and Sports Day. And of course, in just 19 days, it’ll be Seren’s EIGHTH birthday!!! She’s incredibly excited!

Thank you to Fiona, Kate Dee, Quistis, Postie Sarah, Helen Brierley, Kim, Martin Jackie & Jamie, Libby, Post Pals, Maria & Michael, Jon Paul O, Max, Liz in Manchester, Charlie & Lianne, Lucy, Liz, Lily at St Pauls Rainbows, Elizabeth Eckhardt, Claire, Sarah and Jenny for the beautiful cards! Thank you to Margret, Despina, and Claudia Meyer for the lovely post cards! Thank you to Caroline, Charlotte Poulter, Darren Shannon Daniel Owen Leah Matty & Missy, Karen Drew, CeeCee, Julie Deaves, Maria & Michael, Lydia, Stephanie Dominic Karen & family, Lindsay F, and Helen Brierley for the fantastic letters! Thank you to Fiona & Peter for the cuddly Little Miss Sunshine; to Helen Brierley for the seeds, the rabbit photos, the cat stamp and the letter and numbers stamps; to Post Pals for the organiser; to Maria & Michael for the make your own animal specs; to Jon Paul O for the knitted duck; to Caroline & Max for the chocolate chicks and bunnies; to Darren Shannon Daniel Owen Leah Matty & Missy for the skipping rope; to Karen Drew for the iCarly necklace and puppets; to whoever sent the fairies sticker and Polar book; to Kate Dee for the craft kit; to whoever sent the Hannah Montana purse; to Helen T for the grow your own fairy garden kit and fairy poster art kit; to Sheila for the hair dressing doll, Disney Princess card game, and design your own pencil case kit; to Postie Sarah for the Sylvanian Family village sweet shop and koala family, the Pony In My Pockets; to Joanna for the notepad and gel pens; to Lydia for the craft supplies; to Claudia Meyer for the Melinda book and bracelet; to Stephanie Dominic Karen & family for the knitted teddy, Bratz book, pencil and rubber and create your own diamante notebook; to Claire for the lucky dip gift; to Sarah for the mini monster; to whoever sent the dolls bedding; to Paul Stef & Keera for the cuddly dog; to Jenny for the booklet and make your own handbags kit; to Lindsay F for the knitted lion; to Post Pals for the bracelet, purse, make your own handbags, turtles and my sewing kit.

Update 27th March 2010

Seren had an incredibly difficult end to 2009. She became ill on 3rd December, and that was the last full day she spent at school that year. She had CF Clinic on 4th December, and her lung function was down to 80%, and she had a temperature and was tired and had a low appetite. By the following Wednesday, her lung function had declined even further (the CF Nurse wouldn’t even tell me the results, so it must have been bad!) and she was struggling with a horribly thick chesty cough. She had a chest x-ray and was started on Ciprofloxacin oral antibiotics.

By the 12th December, she was incredibly lethargic, refusing to eat or drink, coughing constantly and barely able to breathe on times, and so we took her back into hospital. She had lost over a kilogram and was started straight on IV antibiotics via a short long line in her arm. The line failed the following morning and so she had another cannula fitted, which quickly became incredibly painful to use. So another cannula was fitted, this time a baby cannula, the smallest available, and incredibly, it lasted the whole of the rest of the 14 day course!

The IVs slowly worked their magic on the infection, but Seren was very poorly, requiring 6 nights overnight stay at the hospital, numerous saline nebulisers, inhalers and tons of extra physio sessions because her cough was the worst I’ve ever heard it, and she found it so distressing. There were many times when mucus completely blocked her airways and she was unable to breathe while she struggled with her coughing fits and her chest was recessing the worst I’ve ever seen it.

Christmas was a very weird time with the twice-daily trips to the hospital for her IV doses and all her treatments, but she still managed to enjoy her day, and by the time the IVs finished on the 26th December, she had regained most of the weight she’d lost and her cough was much improved. But it still took her another few weeks to recover completely, to get her energy back and to stop coughing altogether. She was just about better in time to go back to school in early January.

Since then, she has been very well, with just the occasional cold, and she did have a day off school after the second half of her Swine Flu jab, as she had a high temperature, lethargy and loss of appetite.
She had an appointment with a CF Specialist earlier this month, and we were amazed when her lung function had gone up to an AMAZING 125%!!! The highest it’s ever EVER been! The specialist was really pleased and said that although late 2008 and all of 2009 were rough for Seren, she seems to have recovered really well and although her weight still needs a lot of work, she is generally doing well at the moment.

We know that she’ll get hit again by another nasty chest at some point in the future, and she does have a slight cough on times at the moment, but the specialist has given us some new weapons to use on the gunk when that does happen (such as steroids, different inhalers and hypertonic saline), and so for now, we’re enjoying this period of good health, as is Seren, although the fear of getting ill again is always there, in the back of her mind.

We are very much looking forward to the Easter holidays, as we are going to visit my family in South Wales for Easter, and then Seren has a 3 night Brownie sleepover when we get back and she can’t wait!
Fingers crossed for a healthy, happy Easter!

Thank you to whoever sent the reindeer cards and reindeer get well card! Thank you to Kathryn, Carole Sinclair, Gracie, Debbie & cats, Post Pals, Matilda Loughtman, Despina, Ruby & Mr & Mrs Nissen, Lucy, Daniel, Lynzie, Helen T & Adrian B, Catherine, Jane, Jennifer Jain & family, Karen (Sami), Tez, William S, Katie, Kim Ginger, Laura H, Rockferry High School, Brabourne & Smeeth Brownies, Sarah, Selina, Lynzie Elf, the Homberg Family, Helen Brierley, Prancer, Lucy Ashworth, Zoe, Lindsay, Becky Paulinyi, Beth Wendy & Doris, Emma Gray, Martin Jackie & Jamie, Estelle (Taunton), Sarah Kidd, Sarah G, Kate Dee, Natsuki, Estelle Graham Kate & Lauren, Daniel & Joseph, Lucie Shaun Daisy & Molly Willby, Emma & Jayden Barclay, and Postie Sarah for all the cards received in December 2009 – they were invaluable at keeping Seren occupied and upbeat during her hospital stay and long period of illness!

Thank you to Elizabeth Eckhardt, Kate Dee, Kim Ginger, Alexia, Postie Sarah, K, Jannah, Kate Dee, Lily, Sarah G and Alison for the fabulous cards Seren has received so far in 2010, and thank you to whoever sent the anonymous Valentines card. Thank you to Kim Ginger, Nina, and a ‘friend’ for the postcards! Also, thank you to Beth Wendy & Doris, Becky Paulinyi, and Lily for the cards for Adrian and me. Thank you to Mrs Claus, Al the elf, Snowberry, Beddy Bear and Maria & Michael for the lovely letters! And thank you to Sarah G for the notes!

Thank you to Debbie & the cats for the paper chains and sand art; thank you to Jaxsons Blankets for the blankie; thank you to Al the Elf for the fairy dust and elf hat; thank you to Post Pals for the Rock On necklace, selection box and snowball bath fizzers; thank you for the Littlest Pet Shop Pencil case; thank you to Jennifer Jain & family for the cat book; thank you to Kathryn for the sweets and stickers; thank you to Vickie for the lolly; thank you to Sarah for the make your own Christmas decorations; thank you to Beth & Wendy for the Shining Stars cat, Hannah Montana mug, cookie mix, hair accessories, scrapbook kit and Buttons; thank you to Doris for the Lady & The Tramp book and Bratz activity annual; thank you to Jess in Taunton for the Narnia colouring book; thank you to Natsuki for the origami; thank you to Daniel & Joseph for the cuddly Santa; thank you to Lucie Shaun Daisy & Molly Willby for the Bratz Pampered Petz; thank you to Jessica Bryce for the biscuits; thank you to Becky for the mini scrapbook; thank you to Jenny Bridger for the personalised jar of sweets and cat diary; thank you to Tez for the cat and dog bag; thank you to Helen T for the smiley faces, the solar butterfly, the Naughtiest Girl in the School books, the Buttons, the Bad Girls book, the DS bag and GAME gift card, the Illustrated Mum book and the High School Musical stamper customising set; thank you to Postie Sarah for the Sylvanian Family rabbit and chipmunks and star fairy pyjamas; thank you to Al the Elf for the knitted dog in a bag; thank you to R Gallimore for the marshmallows, Hello Kitty cafe and mosaics by numbers; thank you to Grace Caterham-Ashford for the nail varnishes, Sylvanian Family gift shop, Hannah Montana activity pad and pen, the Russian doll bobbles and clips and Sylvanian Family cat; thank you to Becky P for the bracelet, bobbles and dragonfly necklace; thank you to Kim Ginger for the cheerleader pom poms. All the presents made a difficult December almost bearable!

Thank you so much! And thank you to the lovely person who sent me the Boots fruit cocktail toiletries; to Helen T for the russian doll; to Jenny B for the bottlecap keyring; to Helen T for the GAME gift card for Adrian; and to Jenny B for the bottlecap keyring for Adrian!

Also thank you to Sarah Kidd for requesting an Angel for Hope; thank you to Alison for the Camp Rock book and cat bookmark, thank you to Elizabeth Eckhardt for the stickers; thank you to Lily from 2 Stray Cats for the very beautiful Purddy Cat; thank you to Nina Saustrup for the handmade cat; thank you to Rhiannon for the doorhanger kit; thank you to Post Pals for the duck to swan kit; thank to you Debbie & the cats for the audio book.

And thank you for the gorgeous box of treats I was sent for Mothers Day! I got a card, a ‘Favourite Prayers’ book, ‘God’s Little Book of Comfort’, a LUSH bath bomb, heart notecards and pen, a magnetic notebook and two more notebooks! :o)

Update 26th November 2009

Seren has had a pretty good couple of months, with a rough chest infection in the middle.

On 16th September, Seren started swimming lessons and is so far doing really well!

On 27th September Seren came out in a heavy cold and by the following day it had gone onto her chest and was quickly making her poorly, but she insisted on going back to school on the 29th. The following day, I discovered that she’d been trying to hide her chesty cough from me, so that she wouldn’t have to miss school, cheerleading or swimming, but although I let her do those things, she was exhausted and breathless by the end of the day. By the end of the following day, her cough was really nasty again.

On 2nd October, Seren had CF Clinic and they found that although her weight has gone up to 22.7 kgs and she’s now 124.5 cms tall, it puts her on the 27th centile for her BMI so she’s still got a long way to go to get to the 50th centile and her ideal CF-healthy weight for her height. Her SATS were okay, but the physio was concerned when she heard her nasty cough and wanted us to increase her physiotherapy to three times a day until her cough improved. And when she did her lung function, her FEV 1 was down to 80.3%, a drop of over 20% since July. Her consultant listened to her chest and there were a lot of crackles in her right lung as well, so he increased her antibiotics and said to make sure to increase her physio as well.

By Sunday, Seren’s chest had got much worse. She was too tired to go to Sunday School and she was so tired that she barely moved off the settee all day and her cough was absolutely disgusting. The gunk in her chest was so thick that she was choking frequently. It got so bad that she was refusing to cough or have her physio, and so we started up a physio reward chart, so that she could earn a Miley Cyrus doll by working hard with her physio, and that really helped to motivate her.

Seren insisted on going to school on Monday, so I spoke to the CF Nurse about having a saline nebuliser to help her to break down the mucus more easily. She agreed and so we picked it up at the end of the day and she tried it for the first time that night. It definitely made a difference, and although her cough was still very rattly, she was able to cough some bits up.

She insisted on going to school on the Tuesday as well, but because of all the mucus she was coughing up and swallowing after her morning dose of nebuliser, she vomited three times at school that morning and had to be sent home. When I got to school to pick her up, her face was greenish-grey and her chest was incredibly rattly. She sounded absolutely terrible, so I took her home and rang her CF Nurse and arranged for her to see Seren at the hospital.

When she was examined, her SATS were lower than usual, and although her FVC was in the 90s, her FEV 1 was down to only 36%. Part of that was a reluctance to blow hard enough, because she didn’t want to trigger coughing, but obviously, even allowing for that, her lung function was LOW. Her chest still sounded crackly and harsh, but as her swab results were clear, the consultant thought that it was probably some sort of viral infection. So he prescribed LOTS of physio, LOTS of saline nebulisers, LOTS of rest, increased her preventer and reliever inhalers, and wanted her to drink plenty of fluids to help thin the mucus.

So she was on a very intensive treatment regime, but it really helped in the end. She worked very hard with all her physio sessions and although she was choking on her mucus many times, she kept coughing until she’d cleared her chest for a while. She ended up having Wednesday, Thursday and Friday off school, and by the following Monday, she had recovered enough to go back to school.

On 24th October, Adrian (Seren’s Daddy) came out in suspected Swine Flu, and was put on Tamiflu. Because of Seren’s CF, she was given a 5 day course of Tamiflu as well, and despite all the horror stories about side effects from the Tamiflu, apart from complaining of mild nausea twice, she didn’t have any side effects at all! And thankfully, neither did she come out in Swine Flu!

On 5th November, Seren had her flu jab and she was very brave!

Since then Seren has stayed very well, without a hint of a cough or cold. Fingers crossed for a healthy December and a fun Christmas! Seren has her Swine Flu jab coming up on Friday and CF Clinic on the Friday after, 4th December. She’s already very much looking forward to Christmas, to putting up our tree, and to taking part in her school Christmas Play – she’s going to be The Narrator!

Thank you to Maria & Michael, Sarah, Tracy (Bristol), June Junko, Becky Paulinyi, Viks, Zoe Preston, Kate Dee, Kim Ginger, Sarah Gilligan, Jane, and Sarah for the lovely cards! Thank you to Sarah Gilligan, Lorna, and Tam from Japan for the postcards! Thank you to Claire McCartney, June Junko, Debbie Gray and Beddy Bear (aka S Gilligan) for all the letters and postcards! Thank you to Post Pals for the LEGO plane. Thank you to Maria & Michael for the skeleton straw. Thank you to Sarah for the Animal Hospital koala playset; and for the fish kit, caterpillar kit, popping candy, 2 bracelet kits, butterfly kit, 2 lollies, Princess Smartypants book, cat mask, needlepoint kit, dog mask, make your own jigsaw kit, cress kit, Rainbow Magic book, and Eco-Wolf book; and for the paper rabbit. Thank you to Post Pals for the flying lantern. Thank you to Viks for the chocolate bar. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the fairy activity book; and for the rub on stickers. Thank you to Jenny B for the Bratz runway game. Thank you to Debbie Gray for the cat game. Thank you to Post Pals for the Jonas Brothers book and the Wish Box. Thank you to Jane for the craft supplies. Thank you to Sarah for the ‘Puffa Pouch’!

Update 13th September 2009

Seren has had a great summer and taking her Calogen up to 30 mls per day has made a big difference to her appearance! She is starting to fill out and looks much healthier!

She has really enjoyed her summer, having her friend round to play at the house, going to the bowling alley, going to Pleasurewood Hills, going to the cinema, going to a play farm, going on holiday to West Wales, staying overnight with my parents, going to the park, going to Africa Alive, playing in the fountains, and helping Dylan to celebrate his 5th birthday, including bowling free hand for the whole hour!

On 25th August Seren’s physiotherapist came round and taught her how to use the PEP machine to do her morning physio. It is MUCH quicker than percussion physio, and involves blowing down a mouthpiece which has a resistor fitted to it, and each puff has to move the attached pressure gauge up by 10-20 bars. She has to do this ten times and then repeat it. She got the hang of it really quickly and it is a total life-saver in the busy mornings! In the evenings she still has her percussion physiotherapy on the physio bed.

On 26th August Seren had a GP appointment to see about her warts on her fingers and her frequent mouth ulcers. The GP put her name on a list to have her warts frozen off and gave her a prescription for a new paste to put on any future ulcers, apparently they are caused by her body being ‘run down’ by having CF. We walked back from the GPs and Seren’s joints were causing her a lot of pain, so she ended up having to go in the pushchair for half of the way home.

On 3rd September Seren started Year 3 at school and was VERY nervous about how she’d cope with the harder work, but has settled in beautifully now! On 7th September, Seren went to her first session of Brownies! She looked so beautiful in her new uniform and she really enjoyed herself there.

On 9th September Seren woke up with very sore hips, after a) her first PE session of the term the day before, and b) forgetting to put her insoles back in her shoes after PE for the rest of the day, and so she needed a dose of Ibuprofen, but it gradually improved and she was okay the next day.

Fingers crossed for a healthy autumn and winter!

Thank you to Brittanie Lark, Tina, Amy Singleton, Viks, Helen T, Liz, Kim Ginger, Hanna and Jenny B for the lovely cards! Thank you to Estelle, Kate & Lauren, Sarah Gilligan, and the Schauer family for the postcards. Thank you to Brittany Henderson, Alexis Schoonover, Kameesha for the notecards (and the wordsearches!). Thank you to whoever sent Seren the cat newsletter, she loved it! Thank you to Lydia for the party bag full of goodies! Thank you to Jenny B for the gorgeous Hannah Montana bag, bobbles and hairband! Thank you to Debbie & cats for the beaded frame kit. Thank you to Helen T for the Hannah Montana stickers. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the lovely books! Thank you for the flannel lollipop. Thank you to Post Pals for the lovely pillow, the cuddly poodle and the pirate chocs. Thank you to the Schauer family for the Turtle magazine and Barbie stickers.

Update 18th July 2009

Seren has had a tough few months. On 27th April she was complaining of hip pain, so she had to skip PE at school, and when I spoke to the physio on 30th April, she told me that because it was causing her so much pain, Seren would have to completely avoid trampolines and only have two minutes at a time on a bouncy castle. She said the best exercise for her would be walking, swimming or cycling. Seren was NOT happy!

On 11th May, Seren was saying that she hates having Hypermobility more than she hates having CF, and it was really starting to impact negatively on her life as she was getting pain most days and was struggling to cope with the limits it was putting on her lifestyle. I decided that we needed some more input from her physio about her hypermobility. On 13th May she was complaining of even more pain, and then on 17th May, Seren had a bit of a meltdown and was incredibly upset, saying that she hated CF, hated hypermobility, and just wanted to be normal and to have a normal brother.

On 19th May she had more hip pain and so I ended up giving her ibuprofen for it, which helped. On 20th May she finally saw the physio, who answered Seren’s questions about her hypermobility and re-assessed her joints (she scored 6 out of 9 on the Beighton Score, and her elbows, fingers, knees and ankles are her bendiest joints). The physio also picked up that Seren’s ankles bend in and aren’t supporting her legs properly, which is causing her knees and hips to twist, so when she’s walking it’s causing her lots of pain. To help with this, Seren needed to get some more supportive shoes, be fitted for insoles to re-train her ankles, and to start doing ankle exercises every day to strengthen her ankle muscles. She also said that Seren can try doing 5 minutes at a time on a bouncy castle and see how she copes. If she copes well, then she can increase it. As for other activities, such as a gymnastics class, she can try it and then see how much pain it causes and whether it’s within tolerable levels. We said that we’d noticed that just before Seren gets a bad episode with joint pain, she gets REALLY tired and grizzly, and apparently that can be common with hypermobility syndrome.

When I picked her up from school that afternoon, her teacher said that he wanted to refer her to the Parent Support Adviser, who could get her into some after school activities to improve her quality of life and to act as a kind of respite from coping with Dylan and his challenges, to have some time for herself.

On 24th May Seren started with a dry cough and wheezing and seemed tired with very little appetite. The next day her temperature shot up to 40 C, her cough got worse, and she still wasn’t eating. I took her to the hospital the next day when her cough was 40.4 C in the early hours of that morning and 39 C later in the morning. At the hospital, she was 22.1 kg and her sats were 97%, but while we were there her temperature shot back up to 40.1 C and she was very out of it, just zonked out on the hospital bed, and her face was a horrible red/grey colour. Her ears and throat were slightly red and one area of her lung wasn’t getting any air entry (like in March), and if it hadn’t been for the x-ray showing no serious infection and clear blood tests, they would have kept her in hospital and started her on IVs. As it was, they sent her home on oral Ciprofloxacin for a week, saying that it was probably some sort of viral infection.

When she got home that night her temperature was still high, but it broke overnight and stayed down after that. However, she was still incredibly pale and wasn’t eating or drinking much at all. By the 29th, Seren was still very tired, snuffly and coughing, but she did eat a bit. The next day she slept late and was still very tired and grumpy, and that didn’t improve over the next few days.

School started back after half term on 1st June, but Seren was still absolutely exhausted with no appetite. I did think her cough was starting to clear up, but that night she suddenly started with AWFUL coughing fits and a really nasty, thick, chesty cough. I tried doing a really intensive physio session that night but it didn’t really help, as Seren could feel how thick the cough was and didn’t want to cough!
She wanted to try going back to school the next day and so I dropped her off in the morning, but she was sent back home at 10.30 am because she was so exhausted, refusing to eat and coughing so much, and she was complaining of nausea. I rang the CF Nurse and she said that if Seren got worse before Friday’s CF Clinic, then we should take her to the hospital, but if possible, it would be best to wait until Friday. She had a really bad day and that evening was so so poorly, she couldn’t stop coughing, could barely breathe, her chest was recessing badly and physio just wasn’t shifting it.

She was just as bad the following morning, so I took her to the ward and she had dropped over a kilogram in a week, taking her down to only the 10th centile for BMI, and when the registrar listened, the same patch of her lung still wasn’t getting any air entry. She didn’t want to put her on Ivs though until she’d had her lung function done, so we had to wait until Friday and she prescribed Seren some Augmentin tablets to get her through til then.

Seren had awful coughing fits again for the rest of the day and for most of the next day, but around tea time, Seren FINALLY found some energy and found a bit of an appetite and said that her chest felt a little better!

The 5th June was CF Clinic and although her cough was still really nasty, she ate and drank better, and when she was weighed, she’d put on 1/2 a kg to take her back up to 21.5 kgs, which was 13th centile for BMI. The real bit that scared us was her lung function, which had dropped to 81%, and I dread to think what it had been a couple of days before that. However, she HAD managed to clear the dull patch in her lung! Her consultant diagnosed her as having the flu which had given her a secondary chest infection, but that because she had started to show some improvement, he wanted to hold off on the IVs and continue on the Augmentin. If her lung function hadn’t gone back up by her Annual Review in July though, she would have IVs. Due to her incredibly poor weight, her dietitian gave her Calogen supplements to try, 5 mls twice a day.

From 6-9th June, she had a slow and steady improvement and she was slowly regaining her appetite and energy, but her cough was still very wet and she was still sleeping an awful lot. On 10th June, she had her Annual Review bloods done and she was INCREDIBLY brave! When we saw her teacher that afternoon, he said that she definitely didn’t look well enough to go back to school.

She finally went back to school on 15th June, and on 17th June, I saw the Parent Support Adviser about extra-curricular activities, and she got her into a dance class on a Thursday night! She also said that when Dylan turns 5 in September, she can get him into extra-curricular stuff too! Woo hoo! Seren went to her first dance class on 25th June and she loved it and didn’t have any pain afterwards!

On 26th, Seren had her orthotics appointment to fit her for her insoles and she was very upset when the phsyio told her exactly what sort of shoes she’d have to wear once she got the insoles. They would have to be very sturdy t-bar shoes that she’d have to wear all day and she’d have to wear trainers instead of plimsolls for PE. She‚Äôd also have to get special trainers just for wearing indoors so that she could keep them on right up until she went to bed. She was NOT happy!

On 2nd July, Seren was complaining of lots of ankle pain because of all the practise they were doing at school for sports day and so she took her trainers into school to wear for PE to give her more support, which did help.

On 10th July, I did Seren’s annual review nose throat and cough swabs, and she had her birthday party, and a VERY good school report! She got all Level 2 and 2b’s, and in Reading and Science, she got Level 3! What a total star! Her teachers were SO pleased with her!

The 11th July was Seren’s 7th birthday and she opened her presents first thing, then we all went on the train to Norwich and had lunch at Frankie & Benny’s before Adrian took her to see High School Musical live show at the Theatre Royal.

The 13th July was Seren’s sports day and she tried her best. Then on 14th July, she met her new teacher and gave her a little book I’d written called ‘All About Me’, which was written from Seren’s perspective explaining about her CF, her astma and her hypermobility, and explaining about the problems she’s faced over the past year, which should help her new teacher to understand her and help her.
On 16th she had her Annual Review, and her weight had gone up by only 200g to 21.7 kgs, which only took her up to the 16th centile for her BMI. However, her bloods and swabs were clear, which was great. Her Vitamin E dose needed reducing from 1 ml to 0.5 ml per day because her vitamin E levels were too high, but all her other medications stayed the same. The consultant acknowledged that this has been by far her worst year health-wise and knows that it is directly related to her poor weight gain, so wanted the dietitian to get involved. He wants us to increase her calorie intake, push the Maxijul powder as much as we can, and to bump up her Calogen dose from 5 ml twice day to an initial 5 mls three times a day before building up to 10 mls three times a day eventually. He also said that if her weight centiles haven’t improved by this time next year, then we’ll need to start seriously thinking about a gastrostomy, which neither Seren nor we want, if we can avoid it. She was also seen by the physio, who fitted her new insoles and said that she’ll be teaching her a new form of physio over the summer, using the PEP machine, which Seren will be able to do by herself. This will be great!

The following day was her last day in Year 2 at school and her last day of Key Stage 1! Dylan was at the childrens hospice, so we went to the shoe shop and got Seren some Doodles and two pairs of trainers, one pair for indoors and one pair for outdoors, so she’s sorted now until school starts back.

Fingers crossed for a happy, healthy summer holidays!

Thank you this month to Martin, Jackie & Jamie, Catherine, Tracy (Bristol), Sarah, Michelle Kendel, Becky Butler, Kim Ginger, Kate Dee, Claire McCartney, Estelle & children, Helen T, Helen Brierley, Maria & Michael, Julie (Daisy’s Grandma), Debbie & cats, Charlee, Jack & Harry, Jenny Orpwood, and Linby for the lovely cards! Thank you to Maria & Michael and Despina for the postcards. Thank you to Nicky Walker, Helen T, Hayley, and Anne Gairn for the letters. Thank you to Margret Nagy for the note. Thank you to Helen T for the tray bake cake. Thank you to Tracy (Bristol) for the Clementine book. Thank you to Claire McCartney for the get well balloon, and the hair clips. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the paper butterflies and the inflatable guitar. Thank you to Estelle & children for the ‘Wheelie Girl’ book. Thank you to Anne Gairn for the make your own Address Book kit and Ella Courtney doll. Thank you to Anna for the Me To You Bear photo clip, bobbles and cuddly duck. Thank you Debbie Gray & cats for the furry cat. Thank you to Helen T for the Hannah Montana stickers, sticker book and 3D drawing pad. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the dressing up fairies book. Thank you to Charlee, Jack & Harry for the stickers.

Update 26th April 2009

Seren has had an up and down couple of months. On 16th February, Seren still had a wet cough, but she had a swab done on the 17th and it came back clear.

On 22nd February, Seren went to soft play and really wore herself out doing handstands and forward rolls and started complaining of joint pain. The next day, she was very very tired and didn’t want to go to Rainbows after school because she was so tired. On 24th, she started swimming lessons at school again, and afterwards, she was still complaining of joint pain, and was still exhausted. I put it down to all the exercise at first, thinking that it was her muscles which were painful, but on the 25th, she was STILL complaining of pain, and it was in her elbows and knees, not her muscles, and it moved to her hips and knees. Seren still had the joint pain in on the 27th March, but she managed to go to Rainbows that week. People had been suggesting that her joint pain could be caused by her hypermobility and so I rang her physiotherapist to ask her advice. She said that yes, it was her hypermobility and that she needed a week of total rest, no walking to school, no playing outside at play time, no swimming, and no PE. So she had a week of total rest, which she found VERY frustrating, but it did completely get rid of the pain.

A week later, when I picked Seren up from school, I noticed that she was developing a chesty cough, so over the weekend we gave her extra physio and inhalers and kept a close eye on her. The cough wasn’t any better by the Monday, so I took her into school and she had a lot of coughing fits on the way, so I asked her teacher whether he thought she was well enough to stay. We decided to let her try staying and she coped okay. Over the next few days, her cough kept getting worse, so she had a swab done again and we kept up the extra physio. The swab came back clear on the 29th March, but her cough was getting worse and she was starting to complain of stomach pains, and she had a restless night.

On 30th March, her temperature went up to 38.8 C, and she was still coughing and still had stomach pains. The CF Nurse came out to see her and said her chest sounded okay, but that if she was still unwell the next day, to get the GP to see her. Seren didn’t eat much all day and her cough just kept getting worse. By the end of the afternoon she was having really bad coughing fits and could hardly breathe and extra physio wasn’t helping.

We ended up taking her to hospital that night and when the doctors listened to her chest, there was a section of her lung which wasn’t getting any air entry and so they were concerned that she might have pneumonia, so they sent her for an x-ray. Her lungs looked okay on the x-ray, so the doctors thought it could either be an infection or a plug of mucus, so they said to keep up the extra physio, took another cough swab, and started her on some Augmentin antibiotic tablets.

The next day wasn’t much better, she still had no energy and was hardly eating, and her cough was really disgusting. She was still struggling on 1st April, so I rang her physio who came out and had Seren blowing bubbles and did her a physio session with huffing and vibrations, which shifted some gunk, and afterwards her chest sounded clearer. I tried her on walking to school to drop Dylan off and pick him up again and it tired her out and gave her coughing fits, but she managed it okay. The following day, there was a definite improvement, so we let her go back to school and she started coughing up chunks of thick, dark yellow gunk, proof that there was actually an infection in her lungs, but that because her symptoms were improving, the Augmentin seemed to be working.

On 3rd April she had CF Clinic and she’d put on a little weight and grown slightly, although her BMI centiles didn’t improve. The consultant was happy for her to continue the two week course of Augmentin without resorting to IV antibiotics. Phew!

On 24th, after a hula hooping PE session the day before, Seren was complaining of joint pain again and is still sore today, so I think this is going to become a problem for her now, as she’s so active and is getting more adventurous with what she’s doing and is triggering joint pain. She doesn’t like to have to tone down what she wants to do though, so it’s going to be tough finding the right balance of activity without causing pain.

Thank you to Michelle Kendel, Jill, S, Rachel Wheeler, Nicky W, Lisa, Julie Barrett, Kim Ginger, Post Pals, Helen Brierley for the cards. Thank you to Julie for the postcard.  Thank you to Debbie Gray for the card you sent for all of us. Thank you to Helen T for the letter and thank you to Tor for the note. Thank you to SOLAK for the beautiful cushion. Thank you to Michelle Kendel for the paper doll set. Thank you to Sarah for the Narnia postcards. Thank you to Helen T for the ‘Things to Make and Do’ tin! Thank you to Post Pals for the cuddly teddy. Thank you to Post Pals for the balloon modelling kit! Thank you to Kim Ginger for the finger puppet and High School Musical wall planner. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the Disney books and rabbit mask kit. Thank you to Julie B for the decorating eggs kit. Thank you to Post Pals for the puppet kit. Thank you to Tor for the fuse bead kit! Thank you to Post Pals for the Beatrix Potter notecards and envelopes. Thank you to Debbie Gray for our DVDs and Seren’s make your own hairband kit. Thank you to Post Pals for the growing eggs.

Update 15th February 2009

Seren’s had a reasonably good time of things lately with her health, except for the past couple of weeks. On 26th January Seren up came down with a cold that hit her full force and she was very grizzly, so she ended up having the next two days off school while she went through the worst of it, but was back at school by the 29th.

On 6th February, Seren and Dylan had CF Clinic, and she got on very well. Her sats were 98%, her lung function was over 100%, she’d grown 2cms and she’d put on 1/2 a kg. But because of her height gain, it dropped her BMI centile back down to the 20th centile, so she’s still got some hard work to do to get her weight up. Thanks to the Omeprazole tablets though, she’s eating like a horse, the most she’s ever eaten, so hopefully she’ll put some more weight on soon.

We’d like to say thank you to Post Pals for the Blitzen and Rudolph cards, Seren especially loved them! Thank you to Helen Brierley, Sue & Ethan B, Jessica, Helen Brierley, Julie B, Kate Dee, Helen Bale, June Junko, Vikki, Helen T, Anne Gairn and Maria & Michael for the cards.  And thank you to whoever sent the anonymous Valentines card. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the postcard. Thank you to Michelle Kendal and Vickie M, and Jess the cat for the letters.

Thank you to Helen T for the Pixel Chicks babysitter, shrinkies, glitter pens, piggy bank painting kit, dancing polly pocket, finger print drawing kit, and for the Disney Princess DVD. Thank you to Claire McCartney for the Winter Minnie Mouse, hair bobbles, clips, lip gloss and eyeshadow. Thank you to Anne Gamble for the notepaper and envelopes, card making kit, notebook and card making equipment. Thank you to Abbey and Alison for the Bratz doll and perfume, High School Musical handbag, knitted teddy and fairy activity set. Thank you to June Junko for the cat calendar. Thank you to Hilary & Muffin for the High School Musical t-shirt. There were a few other Christmas presents which Adrian opened with Seren and he wasn’t sure who they were from, but thank you to whoever sent Seren the fairy sticker book, the sand art, the pendant, the Santa 3 drawer gift set, the paper flower funpack, Bratz stickers, lip gloss and the Disney Princess cup. Thank you to Julie B for the Power Palz rabbit game and toy, and for the stickers. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the underwater sculpting sand. Thank you to Helen Bale for the cuddly horse. Thank you to Vikki for the cat necklace. Thank you to Anne Gairn for the photo, pencils with toppers, pencils, ruler rubber and sharpener set and notebook. Thank you to Kate Dee for the cuddly Minnie Mouse and the camera. Thank you to Jess the cat for the Narnia book and activity book and rabbit keyring. Thank you to Julie B for the colour art kit. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the pencil, lip whistle, notepad, rubbers, bracelet, sticker and sweets.

Update 19th December 2008

From 17th to 19th November Seren was off school with a cold. She lost her appetite and was quite tired, but she was back to school on the 20th. On 1st December, Seren was off school again because of a bad day with her asthma on the Sunday. But she was doing better by the afternoon, so I let her go to Rainbows, which she enjoyed.

On 5th December Seren had CF Clinic. She hasn’t grown in at least 6 months and is still 120 cms (well, technically, she measured at 19.7 cms and she was 20.7 kgs which is 1 kg heavier than when she started her IVs in September, but she’s still very thin and on the 26th centile for her BMI). Her lung function was 105%, and her SATS were 100%. The doctor was very pleased with Seren, her chest was clear, her bowels and liver felt fine, and she is doing well at school. She has been complaining of occasional nausea and stomach pain, so I raised the question that she might have a slight problem with acid reflux. It’s something that is common in CFers, and something Dylan is still being treated for since 3 months old. Seren had very bad reflux as a baby, but then grew out of it, but lately has been complaining of random stomach-aches and nausea, so the Dr thought that it would be best to start her on Omeprazole. Hopefully, not only will the Omeprazole work on her stomach-ache and nausea, it should help her Creon tablets to work more effectively and help her to gain some more weight.

On 7th December we had a fabulous day in London, thanks to Post Pals giving us tickets to see Santa at Harrods! We went to the Natural History Museum first and then to Harrods and then on to see the Christmas lights on Oxford Street before getting the train home again. It was a fabulous day!

On 15th December, I had a chat to Seren’s teacher, as she’s been getting a bit stressed and upset about school and didn’t seem as if she was settling into her new school as well as we’d thought. Her teacher explained that the most part of the problem is Seren seems under-confident, and self-conscious about her CF and the effects it’s having on her. It meant that she went into her new school on IVs in September, it means that she’s missed some school, it means that she’s underweight, and it means that her stomach is bloated from her digestive problems, so she doesn’t like that her stomach sticks out in her clothes. Her teacher said that it’s more about Seren becoming more comfortable with herself and more confident in her friend-making abilities, than it is other people around her not accepting her or liking her. So we’ve got to work on her confidence.

Since then, Seren has been off school with a cold and looks very pale and washed out, but I’m hopeful that she’ll be well enough to continue with the Christmas festivities. Autumn has been an awful season for her, health-wise, and she’s never missed so much schooling before, so I’m hopeful that the rest of winter and next spring will be better for her.

Thank you to Jessica B, Jenn, Maria & Michael, Despina, Diane, Helen T, Martin, Jackie & Jamie, Julie B, June Junko, Sarah Gilligan and Post Pals for the cards. Thank you to Karen (Sami) and Jenn for the postcards. Thank you to Post Pals for the cards from the reindeer. Thank you to Julie B for the ‘decorate a Christmas tree’ pack. Thank you to Post Pals for the Polly Pocket Race to the Mall game and the stocking kit! Thank you to June Junko, Anna Gamble, Post Pals, Helen T and Claire McCartney for the wrapped Christmas presents. They are currently sitting under our tree waiting to be opened on Christmas Day!

Update 16th November 2008

Seren had CF Clinic on 4th October and she’d put on 300 grams (taking her up to about the 17th centile) and her lung function had gone up a bit more to 96.1%. Her consultant was concerned to hear how difficult the past month had been for her and how badly she’d coped with it all. He said that some time needs to be spent on helping her to come to terms with it all, and in reassuring her that her health is much better again now. Of course, we have been doing that to the best of our ability, but he didn’t say whether he wanted to get the psychologist involved. He also said that if her residual cough doesn’t clear up, or the bug comes back, then she might need a preventative nebulised treatment, but he said that she might not need IVs again for a good few years, which is what we’re really hoping. Then we saw the dietician and he put her on Maxijul to help her weight gain. She doesn’t mind having that in drinks, soups, spaghetti etc, so fingers crossed it’ll help.

On 10th October Seren seemed very breathless on the way home and again once we got home. She kept stopping in the middle of sentences to suck in another huge breath and even when she was just playing her DS or watching tv, she was still really over breathing. I gave her 5 puffs of Ventolin which helped her breathing and seemed to enable her to cough up some gunk, but she really worried me because the gunk was YELLOW! That’s a first for either of our kids. I rang the CF Nurse for advice and she arranged a hospital review for Seren for the next day.

We were very chuffed to see that Seren’s lung function was up again to 101% and her oxygen levels were 98%! The consultant examined her and her chest was clear, so he said that he thought that the breathlessness (which she’s never really shifted since the IVs finished) was possibly due to her asthma, and that as her lung function is up and her chest is clear, maybe the yellow mucus was just a plug Seren needed to shift. They did another cough swab, just in case, but he thought it was more asthma-related. So she had 5 puffs of Ventolin 4 times a day for 4 days and he gave her a prescription for steroids for three days to use if her breathlessness got worse.

On 17th October, Seren and I travelled to Wales to spend some time with my parents, because my Dad’s end of chemo scan showed up a new tumour in his abdomen, so we went to stay with them before he started his new chemo regime. Seren’s asthma was bad while we were there and I had to give her very regular inhalers. I was also wishing I’d thought to bring the steroids with me!

On 24th October, she came out with a temperature and a sore throat, so I delayed starting the steroids in case the throat infection was causing her asthma symptoms. Thankfully she was much better by the 26th.

On 3rd November, Seren was coughing a lot and said that she felt that she had something in her lungs that she couldn’t shift, so when we got home I gave her some Ventolin which seemed to help. She looked very pale though, with dark shadows under her eyes, and was complaining of feeling very tired. Her cough was quite chesty and she was starting to get afraid to cough as well, like she was with her bad infection in September, so she was starting to freak me out a bit. I wondered if it could be asthma-related, or to do with her flu jab she had last Monday, but I still rang the CF nurse that night and requested a cough swab.

On 9th November, Seren’s cough was really nasty again. I phoned for her swab results and it was clear of bacteria. On 11th November, I started Seren on the steroids, and she found them a bit difficult to swallow, but they made a HUGE difference to her chest! It’s been the best it’s been since she started getting unwell in August!

Seren also had a good report from her teacher at parents evening that night, saying that she is ahead of target in reading, and on target in writing and maths! Since she moved schools in September, the improvement in her abilities has been incredible!

Thank you to Kim, Julie Barrett, June Junko, Cathe Garnett, Margaret Nagy, Marge, Jenn, Linda B, Maria Carney, Diane, Milly P, Briannah Bolton, Kate Dee, Helen Brierley and Karen (Sami) for the cards! Thank you to Julie Barrett for the letter, the pencil, and the witch model. Thank you to Cathe Garnett for the cat picture. Thank you to Marge for the ‘Bless You’ token. Thank you to Jenn, Julie Barrett, Maria Carney for the postcards. Thank you to Diane for the stickers. Thank you to Milly P for the Webkinz cat. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the beads, and the story books and tapes! Thank you to Karen (Sami) for the bat whistle, pumpkin whistle, skull straw, rubber, pencil, pumpkin lolly, skeleton, and spider. Thank you to Heather Bergman for the letters and two packs of stickers! Thank you to Francesca for the stickers, pencils, pencil toppers, crayons and lion.

Update 27th September 2008

Apologies for the late update, but Seren has had the worst month of her life to date. She enjoyed August very much, but she started to develop a cough, so we increased her inhalers, thinking it was asthma-related.

Then from 16th to 23rd August we went to West Wales for a holiday paid for by the CF Holiday Fund. While we were there Seren’s cough worsened and inhalers didn’t really seem to be helping, but she seemed well enough in herself, so we weren’t overly concerned.

When we got back, Seren’s cough wasn’t improving, so I arranged for her to have a cough swab, which came back clear.  On 29th August she had a really bad day with her cough and even though the swab came back clear, I was very concerned about her chest, as she just couldn’t stop coughing and was getting very distressed, and she had some chest recession. I gave her repeated doses of inhalers, but it didn’t help at all. So we took her to the hospital. The first Doctor said that she had mild tonsillitis, but that wouldn’t have caused her ‘nasty chesty cough’ and so he wanted her to have an x-ray. By the time she’d had the x-ray, the Doctors had changed shifts and an incompetent Doctor said her x-ray was fine, her throat was fine with NO tonsillitis, and she could have some Augmentin antibiotics and go home.  As we walked down the corridor from children’s ward on our way out, Seren almost choked on her own mucus during a very bad coughing fit.

On 2nd September it was Dylan’s birthday and Seren was very poorly again that day and it was clear that the Augmentin wasn’t making any difference at all. Dylan’s main present was a bouncy castle and she couldn’t even play on it with him. Each time she tried, she’d get awful coughing fits and have to come back off exhausted. That afternoon Seren was very unwell again at Dylan’s birthday party, she couldn’t even play at the soft play zone, and she had to sit most of it out next to me, coughing and coughing and coughing. Her CF Nurse had seen her at a care plan meeting that morning at their new school and been concerned that Seren looked very pale and thin and had a nasty cough.

The next day was her first day at her new school and she INSISTED on going, so I dropped her off in the morning. I then rang the CF Nurse and told her how awful she’d been the day before and the CF Nurse said we should go into hospital for 12.30 pm for a review and she thought there was a 90% chance that Seren would need her first course of intravenous antibiotics.

At the review her weight had gone down yet again to just 19.6 kgs (which is lighter than she was a year ago!) putting her BMI on the 7th centile. Her lung function results had dropped from 109.2% to 74.9%. So her consultant put her on her first course of IV antibiotics, Gentamicin and Ceftazidime, and ordered another cough swab. This was Wednesday 3rd September. She had her first long line put in that afternoon (from her left wrist to her shoulder) and found it incredibly traumatic, due to her needle phobia. This line lasted until Thursday evening and then they saw a red line tracking all the way up her arm, indicating that the line was infected, so it had to be removed after her evening dose of IVs.

Friday 5th September, Seren had her second long line fitted (from her right elbow to her heart) and that lasted 25 hours before it clotted badly. So they had to remove it on Saturday morning and fitted a cannula in her left hand. By Sunday morning, her cannula was getting painful, and her cough swab came back showing a heavy growth of Moraxella Catarrhalis. The first bug she’s grown in four years and it was hitting her hard.

On Monday morning, she had the cannula taken out, because she was finding even just flushes (let alone strong antibiotics) through her line so painful that she was screaming, jumping, throwing things and kicking out. Monday afternoon, they fitted her 3rd long line, from her left elbow to her shoulder. This line lasted until Day 13 of the IVs, the 16th September, when it started leaking. It was leaking very near the point where it entered her arm, so she had to have it removed again.

Her health was reviewed again, and it was found that her lung function had gone up again to 93.7%, and her oxygen saturations had climbed from their lowest at 93% to 98%, and she’d put on 1/2 a kg, taking her up to 20.1 kgs. So it was decided that she could stop the IVs and move onto Ciprofloxacin oral antibiotics. She was over the moon, as she found the IVs to be the most difficult thing she had ever experienced, and she didn’t cope very well at all, so it was a horrible two weeks for all of us.

She is still on the oral Ciprofloxacin until 30th September and she does still have a wet cough, but cough swabs taken on 16th and 22nd September have both come back clear, which is a good sign that she has hopefully cleared this bug. She’ll have another swab done when she finishes the oral antibiotics and fingers crossed that will be clear as well.

Thank you to Julie B, Bronte Hughes, Nicky W, Sheila, Helen Brierley, Helen T, William M and family, Jenny Bridger, Clair Fraser, Kate Dee, Shannon & Liam, Post Pals, Linda B, Claire and Jane for the cards!  Thank you to Helen Brierley for the Hunchback of Notre Dame talking book, bracelet and dangly fish! Thank you to Helen Turner for the two fairy books, the multi-coloured pen and the fabulous get well soon balloon bouquet! Thank you to William M and family for the cuddly polar bear. Thank you to Jenny Bridger for the Kinder egg, egg cup painting kit, bookmark, nail art kit, flapjack kit and badge! Thank you to Clair Fraser for the Bratz stamper set, the Bratz secrets book and gel pen, the Bratz Cloe doll and perfume, the Bratz Jade doll and perfume, and the four Bratz activity books! She opened your parcel and Jenny Bridger’s parcel on the same day and afterwards, even though she was so poorly, she said “I’m the luckiest girl in the school!” so a HUGE THANK YOU to both of you.

Thank you to Kate Dee for the beautiful Hello Kitty balloon bouquet! Thank you to Shannon & Liam for the lovely drawings. Thank you to Jenn for the notecards. Thank you to Vickie M for the letter and stickers. Thank you to Becky Butler for the note and stickers. Thank you to an anonymous person for the two glow sticks, Seren loved them! Thank you to Estelle Jackson and family for the hair slides and nail varnish. Thank you to Karen (Sami) for the bracelet, lion puppet and Pooh bear toy. I’d also like to thank Clair Fraser for the card for us and Estelle Jackson for the face mask and nail varnish for myself. Much appreciated!!

I am so very grateful to Post Pals! My daughter has been going through a very rough time, but Post Pals brings so many smiles to her face. You cheer her up when nothing else can! Thank you.

Update 7th August 2008

Seren has had an up and down month, somewhat unbeknownst to her. She had her CF Annual Review on the 8th of July, which she was very brave for. Apart from a full bowel, he was very pleased with her. Her chest was clear, she hasn’t grown a bug in over four years, her asthma seems well controlled at the moment, and she’s growing well. She’s lost a bit of weight, she’s down to exactly 20 kgs, but hopefully we can build that up again.

The 11th of July was Seren’s sixth birthday and she really enjoyed her day, and she had soooo many cards!!!

On the 31st of July, we had Seren’s annual review results back, and they weren’t as positive as we’d hoped. The doctor dropped a bombshell – her x-ray result showed bronchial wall thickening at the bases of her lungs, which was termed ‘the earliest sign of CF’.

It has been explained to me that a person’s chest is like an upside down tree. There’s the windpipe, which then splits into two tubes, which then split into hundreds and thousands of little tubes, which cover the person’s lungs. In Seren’s lungs, the tubes at the very bottom of her lungs have started to thicken, so they are not as flexible as they should be, and won’t work as they should. I asked if this was anything we could have prevented, or if Seren now needs extra physiotherapy, extra inhalers, extra antibiotics, nebulisers, or anything. But no, Seren’s problem isn’t caused by mucus in her lungs, her lungs were actually completely clear of mucus. The changes are irreversible, and there is nothing we can do to stop it progressing.

The physiotherapist said it’s nothing to do with how well or not she’s been, this is the normal progression of the CF disease in her body, and that she’s done well to get to six years old before showing any signs of it. We had always assumed that as Seren had always stayed so well chest-wise, that she was managing to escape the effects of CF in her lungs, but obviously not. Although we’ve always been open and honest with Seren about her CF and why she needs her treatments, this is one thing we’re going to be keeping from her for a long time to come.

Thank you to Julie B for the cards and for the Polly Pocket car and the ‘Create a Sticker’. Thank you to Jenn for the postcard, and cards, note and Buttons cake mix. Thank you to Kate Dee, Jennifer C AKA Queen Lucy, St Matthews Sunday School, Michael & Maria Carney, Linda B, Jenny Orpwood, Hilary and Muffin, Erin F‚Äôs grandparents, Helen Brierley, Amanda, Rachel Cridge, June Junko, Isobel, Tracy, Gerry & Emily, Karen (Sami), Post Pals, Hayley Thorn, Jennifer and Grace & Linds for the cards. Thank you to Kate Dee for the painting by numbers, the cuddly elephant, the candy glosses, and the stickers. Thank you to Hilary and Muffin for the presents. Thank you to Erin F’s grandparents for the WHSmiths voucher. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the magic money box. Thank you to Amanda for the charm. Thank you to Rachel Cridge for the stickers. Thank you to June Junko for the dolls picture. Thank you to Karen (Sami) for the pencil, foam stickers, Coke stickers and Pooh stickers. Thank you to Sarah, Hope, Ellie and William for the card and stickers. Thank you to Grace and Linds for the mermaid bookmark. Thank you to Claire for the letter.

Update 7th July 2008

Seren has had a good month, and has been out and about and enjoying herself!  She’s got some very fun things coming up in the next month too, but she’s not looking forward to her Annual CF Review at the hospital on 8th July, because it involves blood tests and she hates needles. It’s basically a total MOT of her entire body, so it takes a long time. Luckily Nanny is coming with us to keep the kids entertained while I’m talking to the doctors, nurses, physio and dietician.

Then the fun starts, as it’s her birthday on the 11th July, and we’ve got lots of fun things planned!

Thank you to Karen (Sami), Jenn, Post Pals, Kate W, Diane, Fiona, Hayley Thorn, for the cards. Thank you to Despina for the postcard. Thank you to Jennifer C for the Queen Lucy letter! Thank you to Hilary & Muffin for the letter and the stickers. Thank you to Vanessa Lomas for the letter and for the laminated poster, the nail art stickers and the Disney stickers.

Update 9th June 2008

Seren has had a good month! On 7th June it was CF Clinic and Seren got on well. She’s now 117.6 cm tall and weighs 20.4 kgs, which means her height is on the 75th centile and her weight is on the 50th centile. Those measurements mean her BMI is on the 36th centile. Ideally, her BMI should be above the 50th centile, so we need to get some more weight on her. She had her lung function done, and her FVC was 98.5 % and her FEV 1 was 91.9% which is great. Her oxygen levels were fine too.

She was seen by the consultant and he was very pleased to hear that she is very compliant for her physio and her medications now and her behaviour has generally improved. When he examined her stomach, he could feel that her bowel was very full again (they found this in February) and he actually showed me how to feel for this myself on her, which was weird. He said that if she didn’t open her bowels over the next couple of days, that we should give her a week of Lactulose to clear her out a bit. She didn’t go that night, or during the day on Saturday, and I felt her stomach again that night and could still feel it all in there, so we gave her some Lactulose Saturday night. Thankfully, she’s been to the loo today!

He also asked how she’s getting on at school and we had to say that she’s a little bit behind some of her peers and that she is taking part in the extra reading group and was doing an extra literacy course. I also said that they were keeping an eye on her about possible symptoms of dyslexia. He wanted to know exactly what they were doing to help and seemed satisfied by my responses.

The dietician was a bit disappointed to hear that Seren hasn’t done too well with her task he set her of eating breakfast every morning and drinking milk every morning. I did say that she is drinking a lot more milk than she was, and he was pleased about that, but he did want her to try hard to eat breakfast every day. I said that most of the time she just picks at bits and pieces during the day, and then stuffs herself in the evening. So he said to just go with the flow and try and feed her up at night, to get her weight gain up, and to just do our best during the day. It’s so weird, you can’t get food into her with a crowbar until she gets home from school at about 3.30 pm and then she just won’t stop eating!

Thank you to Kim Ginger for the card and for the ‘Werepuppy on Holiday’ book. Thanks to Jenn, Fiona, Kate Dee, Helen T, Karen and Isobel for the cards! Thank you to Kate Dee for the horse postcard, the handwriting book, the magic painting book and the Lazytown colouring book. Thank you very much to Jennifer C for the letter from Queen Lucy of Narnia!  Thank you to Anne Gairn for the Kitty in my Pockets and secret diary kit! Thank you to Post Pals for the two parcels full of little bits and bobs! Thank you to Helen T for the two packs of Cutie Cubes!

Update 7th May 2008

Seren’s had quite a good month, health wise. The 21st April was Seren’s Parents Evening at school and a few concerns were raised. She is still struggling with her literacy. Verbally, she’s very advanced for her age and very imaginative, but she struggles with writing her letters the right way round and reading and spelling. She’s still young yet, but she’s behind a lot of her peers.

She is in an extra reading group at school to boost her confidence and she’s just started an ELC to boost her literacy skills every day, but her teacher has recommended that if she is still struggling by September, then she should start the ball rolling for getting tested for dyslexia, as she has a lot of symptoms of it.

She’s now just getting over a heavy cold, but it didn’t set her asthma off too much and she’s coped well with it.

Thank you to Helen F, Fiona, Jenn, Helen T and Kate Dee for the cards. Thank you to Rachel and Poppy the Snail for the note card. Thank you to Rachel Cridge, Seren loved the pictures of Mickey and Minnie. Thank you to Jenn for the postcard. Thank you to Helen F for the stickers. Thank you to Rachel Cridge for the stickers. Thank you to Helen T for the sticker book. Thank you to Kate Dee for the parcel. Thank you to Kate for the pink jewelled clip!

Update 12th April 2008

Seren has had a pretty good month! On 10th March we went to see the CF Specialist from Cambridge at Norwich.  She hadn’t grown or put on much weight recently, and she’s down to the 30th centile on the BMI growth charts (the goal is 50th centile or over) so we need to feed her up a bit at the moment. Her SATS (oxygen levels in her blood) were fine though, and her lung function was her highest ever, at 99%!

She generally had a good report, except that he said that if the Seretide and Ventolin become insufficient to treat her asthma problems, then we can start her on Singulair (Montelukast) like Dylan. Also, he said that her nose is still very inflamed and she doesn’t have good air entry into her right nostril, so she has to start the Nasonex/Flixonase spray again which she’s not too happy about, but as we told her, it should help her to breathe more easily. It worked last time, but I think this time she’ll need to be on it much longer.

On Easter Sunday, she had quite a bad asthma attack and had a nasty cough for the rest of the day, but we kept up the inhalers all day, and so by Easter Monday her cough had cleared up.

Seren has got a trip to the dentist on Thursday, but there aren’t any scheduled hospital appointments coming up this month, so fingers crossed it’ll be quite a quiet month!

Thank you to Karen (Sami), Kate Dee, the girls at Georgie’s Fund, Kate Ware, Anne Gairn, Julie B, Jenn, Erin F’s grandparents, Michael & Maria, Julie, Martin, Jackie & Jamie, Post Pals team, Eloise, Chloe G and Fiona for the cards! Thank you to Vickie for the inflatable postcard with the sparkles, Seren loved it! Thank you for the Easter card from Israel, I’m sorry I couldn’t read the signature to say thank you properly. Thank you to Sarah for the note card. Thank you to Anne Gairn and Kate Dee for the postcards. Thank you very much to Anne Gairn for the Littlest Pet Shop rabbit. Thank you to Karen (Sami) for the notepad, badge and ball. Thank you to the girls at Georgie’s Fund for the Make Your Own Sequin Art and the Tinkerbelle cards! Thank you to Anne Gairn for the Polly Pocket Kerstie doll and accessories! Thank you to Julie B for the glitter stencil kit. Thank you to Julie for the play jewellery! Thank you to Kate Dee for the lovely poodle and bracelet! Thank you to Clare Bray for the beanie cat, Seren adored him! And thank you to Anne Gairn for the stickers and the Ella doll.

Update 5th March 2008

Seren has had quite a good month. She has needed extra inhalers now and then when her asthma’s played up, but she has been good for her twice daily chest physiotherapy and in taking all her tablets lately too. I’m sure Post Pals has helped her here! Her appetite has been mostly good, but I don’t know if she has put any weight on since her last clinic in January. She’s going with her brother Dylan to see the CF Specialist at Norwich on Monday, so hopefully we’ll know more then.

She’s very worried about her grandfather though, who we call Bampie. It’s my Dad, and he was diagnosed with a spinal cord lymphoma on 28th February. We only lost my grandfather to brain cancer last June, and so she’s very worried about my Dad. She isn’t sleeping properly and is quite unsettled, especially as I travelled to Wales last weekend to be with him and I’ll be going again this weekend, so she’s having a hard time with missing me as well. We’re hoping to all go visit him during the Easter holidays, but if he does have the chance of chemotherapy, I’m concerned about how Seren will cope with seeing her Bampie lose his hair.

Thank you to Kate Dee, Jenn, Post Pals, Maria Carney, Anne Gairn, Susanna for the cards, and to whoever sent the two anonymous Valentines cards! Thank you to Sarah for the postcard.  Thank you to Jade for the letter. Thank you to Anne Gairn for the Design a Mirror, Design a Picture Frame and the Polly Pocket and car; and for the painting by numbers pack and Disney Princess sticker book and stickers! Thank you to Kate Dee for the Bratz pens and crayon by numbers. Thank you to Jade for the doll and the crown hairclips!

Update 30th January 2008

Seren hasn’t had too bad a month. She has had a few problems with her asthma, but apart from that she’s been pretty good. She’s been doing well in school as well!  Her dietician is very concerned about her diet though, as her zinc intake is down to 40% of what it should be, her iron is down to 60% and her calcium 80%, so we are trying hard to boost her intake of these foods. It’s tough though, as she’s an incredibly picky eater, and just doesn’t like many foods that contain these nutrients, so if she’s still low on these in another couple of months, we’ll have to start her on supplements for them.
She has CF Clinic on Friday 1st Feb, and I want to bring up her recent hearing problems. She has been saying for the past few months that the tv needs turning up and up, and she finds it difficult to talk quietly lately too, she always seems to be shouting. CFers can be prone to glue ear, and I had it myself as a child (I don’t have CF myself, I’m just a carrier, as is Adrian) and I had similar symptoms, so I want to get her ears checked.
Thank you to Denise Workman, Kate Dee, and Julie Barrett for the cards! Thank you to Julie Barrett for the book! Thank you to Holly Hall for the letter and photo. Thank you to Anne Gairn for the two letters, the fluffy star pen and the bead jewellery set.

Update 5th January 2008

Seren very much enjoyed the run up to Christmas, as she REALLY loved getting all the cards and parcels from the lovely people who sent them through Post Pals, they made her feel really special, and she really loved getting the letters from the Reindeers.

On the 23rd, she came out in chickenpox, and was very poorly with it. Her temperature kept shooting up as high as 40.3 C and she was horribly itchy, and calamine lotion and anti-histamines didn’t really seem to help. Her torso was plastered in spots and they all grouped together and they were really sore as well as itchy. So she was really miserable on Christmas Day and Boxing Day, and she was so pale, she looked like a ghost, but opening her presents made her smile a bit. She’s now feeling much better, and her scabbed spots are starting to go.

She looks quite thin though, so we’re trying to feed her up a bit, but her appetite isn’t too great at the moment.

Her asthma has been well controlled over Christmas, but the test will be going back to school and starting PE lessons again. She will be seeing the CF Specialist at Norwich on the 14th January, so we’ll have more info then.

Thank you to Kate W, Despina, Helen T, Post Pals team, Julie, Sue and Alan Barrett, Becki, Laura H, Wend, Jenn, Jon Paul, and Martin, Jackie & Jamie for the Christmas cards they sent. Seren loved opening them! Thank you to the Post Pals team who sent the letters from the Reindeers, Seren LOVED having them read to her, and looked forward to getting them. Thank you to Emma Hoole for the letter and reindeer food. Huge thank you’s to Kate W, Helen T, Wend and an anonymous elf for being Seren’s elves. Also thank you’s to Julie Barrett, Louise Woodcock, Chloe G, and Emma Hoole for the Christmas presents they sent, Seren loved them all. She was poorly on Christmas Day and opening her presents was the only thing that could make her smile.

Update 8th December 2007

Seren had CF Clinic yesterday and her consultant changed her inhaler from 4 puffs of Becotide 50 twice a day, to 2 puffs of Seretide 50 twice a day, as he said having to take 4 puffs twice a day long term would get on her nerves and so his choices were to give her the 100 strength of Becotide or switch her to the stronger Seretide. He chose the Seretide, as apparently Becotide is being phased out in the near future.

When he examined her stomach, he found that her bowel is very full of faeces, which is the first time anyone has ever said that after examining her. If left, it could cause a blockage in her bowel (called Meconium Ileus Equivalent I think) so he has prescribed her 10 mls of Lactulose once a day for a while to clear her out. CFers can have problems with their bowels at times, due to the lack of lubrication in the bowel, making it easy for the bowel to block, but hopefully the Lactulose will draw more fluid into the bowel and clear her out.

The dieticians are also concerned about her nutrition, as she’s never been the world’s best eater, and lately her diet has really gone downhill. She hasn’t had any form of dairy produce in six months now and that really worries me, as people with CF are very prone to osteoporosis, and start having bone density scans at aged 10-12, so calcium is very important to them.

She is also low on iron, so we have been told to give her a substance called ‘Spatone’ to boost her iron intake and we have to complete a food diary to show exactly how little calcium she is having, so that they can prescribe her an adequate supplement of calcium.

She also hasn’t grown or put on any weight, in fact, she’s lost a bit of weight, so we need to try and feed her up over the Christmas period. Her asthma hasn’t been quite as bad lately as it had been, but exercise is still a problem trigger for her. She had sports club after school on Thursday and she needed quite a lot of Ventolin after it. It’s still better than it was though.

Last week, the Fantasy Charity Fund and the Family Fund paid for all of us to go to Disneyland Paris for 3 days, and it was an amazing experience! She has been exhausted since we got back though, as there was an awful lot of traveling and walking involved in the trip, and she’s still recovering!

Thank you SO much to the fabulous Elf Kate W, and to Helen Turner, both of whom sent Seren some very exciting-looking packages! They are currently waiting under the tree for her and she can’t wait to open them on Christmas Day!

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Seraphina I

01 July 2011

Seraphina has a phobia of music boxes and similar sounding music
Story written 2010

Seraphina was born by emergency section at only 25 weeks gestation and weighing a mere 760g. She fought hard and after 4 and a half months in Special Care she came home. The stay was short lived however, as after only 3 days she suffered a massive aspiration and was rushed to Intensive Care with an aspiration Pneumonia. It was there she was diagnosed with chronic Gastro-oesophageal Reflux. She was put on medication and fed by NJ tube but this didn’t help and so she had a fundoplication operation and a tube inserted a few months later. It was also discovered she needed supplemental oxygen. Since then she has put on weight nicely and developmentally progressed well mentally, but a lot more slowly physically. She was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy (spastic diplegic) just after she was one.

Things were fine until she was 18-21 months old when she stopped making progress and lost all her speech, she became withdrawn and avoided eye contact. She lost the ability to walk and then stand.

She was hospitalised for almost 3 months last November with a twisted bowel /bronchiolitis and Pneumonia. She ended up on a breathing machine over Christmas and New Year and once again we didn’t know if she would pull through. However, she surprised us, and after emergency bowel surgery and a period on TPN she was able to come home.

She is in and out of hospital quite a bit with chest infections and bowel problems which is something she finds really frightening and she is on lots of medication (currently about 25 doses a day).

Recently we have found the reason for Seraphina’s loss of skills. She has been diagnosed with Rett Syndrome – a horrible Genetic disorder which mainly affects girls. She cannot speak anymore but is beginning to communicate using eye-gaze and will let you know in no uncertain terms what she likes and dislikes. She also has a very infectious giggle and the most wonderful smile which lights up the room!

Update 23rd November 2022

Healthwise Seraphina is probably the most ‘unstable’ than she’s been for some time.Back in May she had exploratory surgery/ biopsies done to try and find a cause for her pain. This revealed that dispute immunosuppressive treatment and steroids, Seraphina’s bowel was full of bleeding ulcers. Clearly her treatment had stopped working. She has climbed the scale of pain medication & is now on pain patches, morphine and gabapentin to try and keep her comfortable.We also found out her scoliosis had progressed ( another source of pain).She was put on more steroids both oral and IV. Unfortunately a side effect of this was spending the next 2.5 months on IV antibiotics due to back to back infections and see sawing blood sugar levels which required trips to hospital.She’s also having investigations into her kidney function due to repeated Urine infections and it has been suggested that she may benefit from a permanent catheter.We also have an appointment at the beginning of December with the surgeons to discuss complete removal of her bowel as it’s thought the disease load is too much for her body to cope with and contributing to us not being able to get on top of her inflammatory bowel disease and arthritis. Currently we are having more fluids IV as she’s not tolerating full feeds and have been having issues with low potassium levels due to increased output from her stoma/ stomach.Today we found out that her IBD and Arthritis is affecting her eyes and is the cause of the redness/ soreness/ photophobia she’s been getting .She was due to have more steroids today to try and reduce inflammation but frustratingly the doctors have discovered she has another infection so she can’t have the steroids, instead it’s more IV antibiotics which means that instead of going somewhere nice for her birthday she will be stuck on IV’s. I’m so sad for her right now as we were so hoping to celebrate her 16th Birthday doing nice things.On a positive note her OT secured funding for a lovely electric reclining armchair which she has just had delivered and she calls it her ‘throne’… she says she’s a real Princess likes wearing tiaras/ crowns and thinks it’s funny when we call her ‘Your royal highness’ 😄

Seraphina now loves Encanto, collecting sparkly tiaras (she calls them princess crowns), the colour pink and hair accessories.

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to send Seraphina post. It really does make a huge difference to her and it’s so lovely that she is being thought of. 

Update 30th March 2022

.Seraphina has had a bit of a tough time the last few months with infections & arthritis flares.
Her inflammatory bowel disease isn’t well controlled either. Initially her morphine dose was increased to help with pain control from this.

She had a review of her scoliosis which once again has progressed, however only slightly so once again it’s a waiting game to see what happens in the next few months as she gets closer to 16. The knock on effect of a worsened curve is that her jejunostomy now sits in a ‘dip’ due to the way she sits and is constantly leaking/sore & gets repeated infections which isn’t fun for Seraphina. We do have dressings and cream to help with this. She also now has a moulded wheelchair to help support her in a better position.

In February her gastroenterologist whom she’d had since a few months old, left the trust so we now have a new one. Thankfully she seems lovely and on meeting Seraphina she ordered a whole list of tests which we are waiting on results for & has also referred her to the pain team as her morphine isn’t currently controlling the pain from her bowel (which has started bleeding again intermittently).
They are also considering switching her immunosuppressive treatments depending on these results. At the moment she is also on IV steroids but this isn’t something that can be considered long term.

The other thing Seraphina is currently struggling with is pressure sores… because she’s not been absorbing feed as she should, she has lost weight which means she developed sores on the base of her spine. We are currently treating them with cream and dressings but long term higher grade pressure relief is being looked into for her bed and chair.

One bit of good news is due to our new OT we have had funding agreed for a brand new specialist care cot for her.. she was even able to choose the colours for the padding… she’s gone for a rainbow theme with 10 different colours (one for each panel around the sides of her cot ). She’s a big fan of rainbows & things that sparkle so we’ve bought her a sparkling rainbow blanket to go with her cot when it arrives!

Thank you to everyone that has sent Seraphina post recently, she absolutely loves receiving it and it really does bring a smile to her face even on the toughest days! We have to sing the “we just got a letter “ song from Blues Clues each time post arrives!

Update 17th October 2021

Seraphina has found the pandemic situation extremely hard.. We started shielding at the beginning of March 2020 and due to her state of health & immunosupression we were advised to continue shielding until she has had all 3 vaccinations… currently she has had only one so trips outside even within our little estate are very few and always with a mask etc.

During the past year she has needed two surgeries one of these was during the first lockdown to replace her current central line with a bigger one.
We also now go into hospital every 4 weeks for an infusion of a stronger immunosuppressive treatment along with IV steroids to try and keep her inflammatory bowel & arthritis under control as well as her weekly injections at home.

She still experiences intermittent bleeding from her bowel & pain from her reflux and the hospital is aware that she needs another endoscopy/ colonoscopy but are holding off until it’s safer to do so. She is still having iron infusions when necessary.

She has had a spinal review which has shown her scoliosis has progressed and she has been cast for moulded seating to help with her positioning and hopefully make her more comfortable when sitting.

She has also had an orthopaedic review as there was some concern over whether her hips were in the sockets correctly, thankfully yes, they are. The pain she is experiencing is from arthritis in one of her hips.
Thankfully her morphine dose was increased at the beginning of this year to help her cope with the various causes of pain/ discomfort she has.
All this combined with being prone to repeated infections ( as I write this she has just been started on another course of IV antibiotics) has meant that at the moment she has become quite down at times despite our best efforts to keep her entertained & distracted.It can be very difficult getting her to understand her situation as she it in effect ( mentally) a 5-6 year old in an almost 15 year olds body!!

We have decided to rejoin Post Pals to give her a bit of a boost & so hopefully she realises she’s not on her own & people are thinking about her & hopefully make her feel a bit brighter.

Update 20th May 2019

Seraphina and family have taken the decision to move on from post pals.

Update 24th April 2019

Seraphina is still very much in and out of hospital with infections so life has been quite busy, although we are thankfully able to do IV antibiotics at home so she hasn’t stayed in longer than necessary as we can continue treatment at home.

She is currently feeling a bit sorry for herself as she needs a transfusion due to bleeding, but that is hopefully happening on Friday so she should perk up a bit after that.

 Her arthritis is still not well controlled and now neither is her inflammatory bowel, so once again on Friday we need a way to move forward with treatment. Her hands are particularly swollen at present.

We haven’t been able to go out and about much due to infection risks (we had a phone call to say her white cell count and neutrophils were too low), however we did bite the bullet and take her out on Easter Monday to a local Easter Egg hunt at a country park where she was able to find plastic eggs and then (thanks to a lovely lady in the bookshop ) exchange them for a story book of her choice instead of chocolate 🙂

Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to send Seraphina cards and gifts. She really does appreciate them!

Thanks to Wendywoo for the Easter bike bag holders, Nicola for the Easter decoration & Maya Palmer Green for writing Seraphina a little story.

Also special thanks to the Pencil genie for the lovely Chihuahua drawings! 🙂

And thanks to PostPals again for the musical hippo light show which is still put on EVERY night and in the daytime when she’s in pain even with sore fingers she can still switch it on 🙂

 

Update 17th September 2018

It’s been a very busy few months here. Seraphina has been backwards and forwards to hospital quite a bit with various infections (mostly UTI’s) and needed IV antibiotics. She also had some investigations done under anaesthetic as she had some bleeding from her oesophagus despite medications added in for suspected return of reflux.

The results of these were that yes she does have bad reflux again, however she has had 3 operations called ‘Fundoplications’ previously as well as multiple other surgeries so it was felt by the hospital to be far too risky to try and do another as her risk of rupture/other complications due to the fragility of her GI tract/scar tissue is very high. Her gastrostomy is now on drainage all the time to try and prevent aspiration, however despite this she is uncomfortable most days so we need a plan regarding this.

She has also been having a reaction to one of her immunosuppressants, and her arthritis isn’t at all well controlled at present (another cause of pain) so it has been decided to put her on steroids to try and get a handle on things and if things haven’t improved by the beginning of November we will have to discuss alternative treatments.

As a result of her being uncomfortable for various reasons she has unfortunately started to ‘self harm’ in the form of repeatedly scratching her palms/trying to bite, so we have been advised to have a referral to a specialist OT who can perhaps provide wrist splints to try and protect her hands a bit whilst we try and get on top of the discomfort.

In other news, Samuel has finally got help at school having got a diagnosis of Autism. This is a huge positive step as he has been struggling but school are being very good with him!

Thank you to everyone who has sent post to Seraphina, Samuel and Eve! Special thanks to Quangle Wangle for the beautiful bile bag holders & Beverley Rudd for the unicorn lights!

Update 16th March 2018

Since the new year quite a lot of time has been spent trying to transfer all her care over to our new area, not quite managed all of that yet as funding needs to be agreed for new syringe drivers etc but getting there slowly.
Of course in the midst of this Serapina decided that she woould scare myself and her sisters by suddenly losing consciousness in her bed and require an ambulance…. it was discovered that she is having issues maintaining her blood sugars, we already knew that she could drop her blood sugar quickly but now we are having high blood sugars as well. we now have a ketone monitor as well as a blood sugar monitor to help keep an eye on this while they work out the cause, she has had various tests including a scan of her pancreas.

Seraphina has had quite a few hospital trips monitoring her scolliosis… she has now slight rotation in her lower spine, her Arthritis ( one of her immunosuppressant has been doubled ) and her weight/gastro function.
Thank you to everyone who has sent her post especially Ellie Ewbank, she loves the girly parcels and the photo of the Labrador who had shredded a load of presents really made her giggle!

Thank you also to whoever sent Samuel the guiness book of records gamers edition.. that was a HUGE hit!

Big thanks to everyone who sent Eve post for her Birthday.. th Harry Potter stuff was an extra special treat and really helped as she is struggling to settle into her new school and misses her friends in her old school.

Thank you again to everyone who has sent smiles to our family.

Update 30th November 2017

Seraphina initially had a rough few weeks with gut issues & not feeling great. We are moving house in 2 weeks and so been liasing with local services to get them transferred to a new area. This has actually worked out well as her height and weight have been reviewed in light of her not being able to absorb as much feed and she’s been put on an additive which we put in her tube feed to help her gain weight & is on monthly ‘weigh in’s’ to keep track. Couldn’t quite believe that she is actually 5 foot tall now!, such a huge difference to the tiny 1 lb odd preemie who fitted in my hands!.

She’s also now got a new wheelchair with gel padding and memory foam in the seat & back to help protect her hips/ bottom & spine from pressure. She’s just celebrated her 11th Birthday, thank you so much to everyone who has sent her post. We are up in Sheffield again shortly to see the spinal surgeon again regarding her scoliosis so hoping it hasn’t progressed any further.

Update 31st July 2017

Seraphina has unfortunately lost most of her mobility now. She was assessed for a walker back in March but when it arrived in June she was no longer able to use it. Her legs have been splinted & she has special boots which we hoped would help along with extra straps on the walker to support her but it’s just too much for her and so she is now 100% wheelchair dependant.

She has also been unable to go horse riding which is something she has missed a lot but currently she isn’t strong enough from a trunk control point of view and her lack of mobility causes issues.

We’ve also had an increase in seizures & she has gone very thin. After discussing with one of her consultants he suggested it may be a progression of Rett syndrome as she begins to hit puberty. Increased seizure activity, muscle wasting & loss of mobility along with increased breathing abnormalities can be symptoms at this time.

She has been cast for a new improved ‘Sleep pod’ with gel cushion inlay along the base of her spine to help with the pressure sore issues associated with her being so much skinnier.

We also have an appointment to reassess her wheelchair as her lack of trunk control & scoliosis means that it’s no longer offering her enough support. We are hopeful that they will come up with something to make her more comfortable.

As we are still struggling with keeping Seraphina comfortable despite regular catheterisation she is now on antibiotics each day which should keep infections at bay. Unsure at the moment if she is on the correct one as she’s still quite uncomfortable at times but leaving it a bit longer and using regular pain relief to help.

Update 29th March 2017

Seraphina is generally doing ok from a gut point of view. We are managing her symptoms pretty well with her medications and iv’s. She has just had another transfusion to boost her iron levels which still regularly drop.

She is due to be admitted for an open ended/ long stay on 9th April under Urology/ surgeons as she is still having issues in this area & blood sugars , so we are gearing up as a family for having a period of time apart.

Seraphina’s condition is lifelong and will always have up and downs/ new developments and therefore after a lot of consideration we have decided to leave Postpals and give some of the sicker children like those with cancer that Postpals is more geared towards, a chance to benefit from everything that makes Post pals so special.

Thank you so much for all the cards/ post, love & support Seraphina and her siblings have received

Update 18th November 2016

Seraphina has been up and down to hospital a bit over the last couple of months with urine infections, gut flare up, urology investigations and more recently investigations into her adrenal gland function as there is a concern that it is no longer functioning as it should be and whether this is the cause of her sudden drops in blood sugars. We are waiting for the results of these tests.

She did manage to go on one of the fantastic Post Pals Chessington trips which she really enjoyed, especially seeing all the animals. Thank you to Nationwide Building Society in Northampton, Swindon and Bournemouth for Seraphina’s parcel of comics, cards etc and to Chayah Nechama Brontin for her lovely letters/cards.

Update 7th June 2016

The new drugs for Serphina’s arthritis seem to be working well and she is tolerating them without nasty side-effects which is great news.

Seraphina has been not doing great gut-wise, she has struggled with her intake of feed and has had two bowel bleeds which meant she had to go into hospital to have a transfusion. She has been very tired and wanting to spend a lot of time in bed again and has dropped a centile on her weight chart. Her blood sugars have also been erratic and the dietician /consultant believes she is ‘dumping’ her feed which means she sweats/blo0d sugar drops and she doesn’t absorb any of the calories/nutrients. She has been referred for investigation on her pancreatic function to see if her body is able to produce the right amount of insulin.
She is also having continuing problems with bladder and kidney function and it has been suggested that her bladder is behaving just as her colon did when it started to fail. She has been referred to a specialist urologist and has been on IV antibiotics and 24 hour IV fluids for the last week along with 2 opiates for pain relief.

Update 22nd January 2016

Unfortunately, Seraphina was poorly all over Christmas. We had an emergency consultation with her Rheumatologist on Christmas Eve, as Seraphina had had a line infection and urinary tract infection for which she had been on IV antibiotics and this had meant she couldn’t have her arthritis/gut injections. By Christmas Eve she was unable to stand as her joints had flared up badly and she was just lying in bed crying with pain. She was also unable to tolerate any feed at all so back on IV fluids and needing Glucogel/IV glucose to control her sugars. Thankfully, her Consultant suggested some tablets to help with her inflammation and pain and within 48 hours or so her pain was more manageable.

We were back in Sheffield at the beginning of January where she had an assessment by the whole team. Unfortunately, after this recent flare she has been left with restricted movement in both knees and both elbows.
From a feed point of view we continue to struggle to get her to tolerate enough and questions have been raised about putting her back on to full TPN. However, we are hopeful that once her new injection has had chance to take full effect she will tolerate more and regain some of the weight she has lost.
Her physio has been out and her sleep system has been sent away (and returned) after being made more comfortable and safer for her when spending extended periods lying down. Hopefully we won’t have any more pressure sores on her back.
Thankfully, she has started to make progress over the last week or so and we are having a bit more time out of bed again since restarting all her medications.
Thank you to everyone who has sent Seraphina happy post over the last month!

Update 29th November 2015

Seraphina has had a rough few months so is rejoining Post Pals. She had an emergency hospital admission in August with all the symptoms of an obstruction, which triggered her seizures. The hospital rehydrated her as she had lost a lot of fluid and she was discharged back on TPN (intravenous feeding which she has been on for 4 years). The consultant is querying whether it was another volvulus (intermittent twist in her bowel), but as yet we are unsure unless it reoccurs.

When Seraphina had recovered from the admission we tried tube feeding her again but she continued to struggle to tolerate enough calories and fluids. She had begun to have problems passing urine, so the decision was made to put extra fluids up intravenously each night.

Seraphina’s arthritis was also causing problems with her hip and lower back and investigations showed that she has crumbling arthritis in her hip and it is still active despite her injections.

As it currently stands, her gut is also flaring monthly so we now have glucose, potassium, etc., in intravenous bags to rehydrate her and give her gut a rest when she stops tolerating feed. She has also begun having more problems with suddenly dropping blood sugars, so we have Glucogel for these instances.

Two weeks ago we began trialling another drug (a biologic one) to further suppress her immune system and try and get a hold on the bowel and arthritis issues, as she had become too tired to horse ride. She only managed a couple of hours up out of bed each day before needing to go back to bed and lie down and rest. Unfortunately, just as the treatment started she developed an infection round her central line (the line which goes into her heart) and so she has been on IV fluids and 3 x 30 minute infusions of antibiotics each day to try and clear the infection. A side effect from this has been that she has not been able to have any of her immunosuppression/arthritis drugs and her tummy and joints have been particularly painful. She has had a few days of being rather upset.

We are hoping that once the antibiotics finish she will be able to restart her medications but, until then, she is requiring lots of pain relief.

Update 24th March 2015

Seraphina has made significant progress on enteral feeding since she had her ileostomy and fistula operation and is managing periods of tube feeding again. There is some concern about her managing to maintain her weight off TPN completely but she is being closely monitored. Unfortunately she has started having bowel flare ups again and her arthritis is not very well controlled, even though her colon is de-functioned, and we have had a couple of episodes of bleeding. The option of complete colectomy has been discussed again and may be something we have to consider, as is adding a biologic drug as well as her other drugs, to further suppress her immune system and control flares.

She has also got a back brace now as her scolliosis (spine curvature) has progressed. So far she’s not too impressed with wearing this.

Despite all that has been going on she has maintained her smiley, giggly outlook on life and is still doing her horse riding which is the highlight of her week. Home schooling is also going well. She now has her own eye gaze unit and is learning how to use this to communicate at home.

We have decided to move on from Post Pals now but want to say a big thank you to everyone who has sent Seraphina and her siblings post and created many smiles over the years.

Update 9th July 2014

As I type this update Seraphina is in theatre. She is having her bowel de- functioned as it no longer works. She is also having some procedures done on joints which still have active arthritis despite the many medications she is on.

Mobility-wise she has been miraculously back on her feet without the use of a gait-trainer and has even begun to do horse-riding with her wonderful Carer holding her on the saddle. She absolutely adores the ponies and anything to do with horses or ponies is a hit right now. She has also been learning how to use Tobii eye gaze technology and has such a lot to say! We are currently fundraising in association with The Sequel trust to raise enough to get one of her own.

We are praying this surgery works as it is her very last chance to be able to feed again.

Update 8th March 2014

Seraphina continues to have pain and problems with her bowel/sepsis including one very nasty episode at the very end of January which involved her being transferred from High Dependency in Coventry to Birmingham Childrens as she was too acute to transfer to Sheffield. The sepsis once again was found to originate in her bowel. She also suddenly lost the use of her right arm which also became very painful, so bad in fact that her morphine infusion had to be changed to Fentanyl and Ketamine just to try and keep on top of the pain. She was eventually diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis (sparked off due to her inflammatory bowel disease not being well controlled) and given IV steroids to bring down the swelling in her joints. This worked well until it was stopped and the effects wore off… then both her arms and legs, fingers, knees, etc, all swelled up and became painful. So strong anti-inflammatories were prescribed to try and bring it under control.

The last few weeks have been a balancing act to just keep her stable until her admission to Sheffield for multiple procedures on Sunday (9th March) with surgery on Monday. We are praying that all goes smoothly and we end up with a positive plan of action/way forward in her treatment both of her IBD and Arthritis.

Thank you to Kerry and Mark for Seraphina’s story books and bookplates especially the ”Tangle Fairy”… you must have seen Seraphina’s hair first thing in the morning!! Also thanks to Karen and Toni for the lovely Webkinz Koala.

Update 12th September 2013

Seraphina is still very much up and down and for the last few months has developed unexplained temperatures/repeated sepsis associated with her bowel. She has been in hospital several times with these and once ended up in HDU/ICU. She has had a lot of her medications increased and switched to an IV form as she wasn’t absorbing well through her gut.

We had a conversation with GOSH gastro consultant and a letter saying they were unable to treat Seraphina as they didn’t feel they could offer anything to improve things which was a big blow as we had pinned our hopes on GOSH ‘specialists’ being able to improve her quality of life. We are now waiting an admission to Sheffield Children’s to reassess her bowel and look at possible removal of her colon.

Meanwhile, her sister, Lydia, is having surgery on her legs on the 25th September. However, during the pre-op they found a problem with her heart which may need corrective surgery. We have an appointment about this on 17th September. Understandably Lydia is quite anxious about this and her operation.

Huge thanks to Kim Lawrence for Seraphina’s monthly projects and the wonderful cushion. Thanks to Karen (sami’s) friend for the little toy baby unicorn too.

Update 6th June 2013

Yesterday Seraphina was rushed to hospital with septicemia and placed in ICU. She had the night from hell with fits, heart rate of 180 asleep ,temp of 40.5 and struggling to breathe. They have decided to stop using her central line and cannulated at 3am. Temp now responding to paracetamol and lower. Slight technical hitch is she’s no longer weeing despite fluid boluses and blood pressure still low. So puffy she can’t open her eyes properly, bless her.

Update 10th May 2013

Seraphina is going through the mill a bit. She’s currently on 9 intravenous drugs a day. She is fighting a kidney infection and a staph infection/cellulitis around her line. She has had her morphine levels increased and now her bowel has started with a nasty flare up. Sheffield have started her on high dose steroids today to try and calm things down as she is having significant bleeding in her bowel. She is quite drained and fed up and teary today.

Meanwhile, her sister Lydia (who has scoliosis and syringomielia) has had her orthopaedic review and they have decided she needs something done surgically on her legs. There are two options for surgery but both involve being in plaster from hip to toe for about 8 weeks. Understandably Lydia is more than a little worried about this. Your prayers would be much appreciated for both girls. Thank you.

Update 8th May 2013

Seraphina has been very much up and down over the last couple of months. Some days have been brighter than others. At the end of March we went to Great Ormand Street hospital for an assessment. En route, Seraphina decided to stop breathing so we were ushered off the motorway and ended up being blue lighted to hospital with a police escort! The cause for this episode was found to be a urine infection, of all things, which triggered seizures. The assessment was very thorough, the consultant said they had seen only one other child like Seraphina. Unfortunately they had not managed to ‘fix’ the other child which was a bit of a blow. We are now waiting for an admission for further tests, although the general opinion is that colectomy is the way to go.

Sheffield have also seen her and due to increasing bowel pain they have increased her morphine and added in some other intravenous drugs. As I type this she is battling two infections… another urine infection and now an infection around her central line which we are hoping hasn’t spread into the line as well. The last couple of days she has been sleeping more and tiring much more quickly which she finds frustrating as she wants to do stuff but her body just won’t let her. We are praying for an improvement soon.

Thanks to the Lawrence family for the lovely Tiger who came to tea story sack.

Update 22nd January 2013

Seraphina had a good Christmas health-wise, she remained pretty stable and her Christmas present to us was her starting to walk (something we had been told she would never do). She is very wobbly but it is so fantastic to see.

Just now she is struggling again. Under the hospitals direction we decided to try and see if her body would accept blended food in very small amounts, with a view to reducing and eventually getting her off TPN. It seemed to go very well for a short while and her stomach emptied, but it seems that her bowel just doesn’t want to function and so in effect we just ‘fill it’ with food which doesn’t go anywhere. She then needs laxatives, gut medicine and suppositories to get it to come out the other end. Her Consultants are still wondering if she would be better off if they removed her colon but GOSH experience with Rett girls says that the bleeding etc just moves up to the small bowel and stomach in these cases, so it is difficult to know what to do for the best. She’s having increased gut pain requiring morphine and today bleeding again from her bowel, and she also has Ecoli in her urine which still hasn’t gone despite two courses of antibiotics.

We were also meant to go up to Sheffield for a transfusion but unfortunately this has had to be postponed due to the snow, with a result of Seraph being increasingly breathless and dizzy, so she’s not feeling great. She has cried on and off all day today which is definitely not her, so she must be feeling rubbish. Praying that a new date isn’t too far away.

Thank you so much to Seraphina and her siblings Christmas Elves. Your lovely presents and cards raised many smiles. Thank you also to the anonymous person who sent a parcel of crochet goodies including a black cat and a little rucksack. They are beautiful and must have taken so much time to do – so thoughtful.

Update 22nd June 2012

Seraphina is still waiting for admission to Great Ormond Street. Sheffield have said that there isn’t anything more they can do for her and so a second opinion has been sought from GOSH. Unfortunately GOSH have had a bed situation and Seraphina’s admission has been cancelled twice so far. She is still totally TPN fed. She is also now on IV medication twice a day as she has had problems with persistent hives and itching. She continues to have bleeding intermittently and she has had problems with pseudo-obstruction in her bowel, the periods of ‘stability’ are becoming shorter. It was decided a few weeks back that it was time to start morphine at home and so this has been the case. The Morphine has helped a lot with the increasing amounts of pain she is in when her bowel flares up.

From a motor skills point of view, she has learnt how to sit upright on the sofa aided and stand up from there too which is fantastic.

Seraphina still continues to amaze us with her love of life and smily disposition despite all she has to cope with.

Special thanks to Claudia from Germany for the Princess Lillifee stuff which really made Seraphina smile and to Rosie Montague-Vaughan for the box of birthday presents you sent for Seraphina’s siblings – that was such a sweet thing to do.

Update 19th June 2012

After a three month stay in hospital Seraphina is home. She loves being back home with her family and her ”coming home present’ was not one but two gorgeous Ragdoll Kittens called Cherub and Cupid… these little fellows raise a lot of smiles (especially when they are being naughty!).

She has now got confirmed chronic intestinal failure and is totally TPN dependent. We have had to learn how to do IV’s and take blood and urine samples weekly, sometimes more often. Seraphina continues to suffer from bleeding in her bowel, multiple infections and pain for which we have potent morphine based medicine. Unfortunately her iron level has dropped quite sharply again and so she has to have quite a long transfusion again next week (Tuesday). We’re praying that she is well enough to go to the Post pals party on the 30th June!!

Thank you for our Post Pals post and to Alex Stiles Welch for your lovely letters/cards and to Karen Winch for the bits for the Kittens.

Update 27th February 2012

Seraphina was admitted to hospital 9 days ago. When we got admitted Seraphina was in a poor state, she wasn’t tolerating feed or dioralyte, she had diahorrea and every nappy contained blood. She was sweating with pain and nobody really knew what was going on. She had bloods done and was out onto IV fluids via her port. After a chat with the consultant they went to book an endoscopy and colonoscopy for the 1st March. Once they realised how much pain she was in they decided to do it on Tuesday afternoon.

She went down to theatre and I got given the familiar pager which would go off when she was in recovery and they were ready for me.

When it went off I went down expecting to be called straight in to see her. I wasn’t though – instead I was called into a private room to talk to the surgeon who had carried out the colonoscopy. That’s when alarm bells went off.

He explained that their findings had been extraordinary. Seraphina’s colon was visually like bubble wrap, so close together were the ulcers and sores and the surface of the colon which had bubbled with gas and inflammation. The surgeon was so concerned about doing a biopsy that he phoned the gastroenterologist to check he still wanted one given the state of her bowel. He did. Unfortunately when he took the biopsy he described it as ‘trying to biopsy cling film’ and her bowel perforated. He said that Seraphina’s bowel was so bad that it would never recover and she would not be able to be fed via tube again… it would be TPN only (which is feeding via a vein).

In the days that followed Seraphina required more and more morphine and other pain medication had to be added in. She bled out of her gastrostomy, her heart rate dropped very low, so low in fact that unknown to me then they had to call the resuscitation team who were sitting in a side room in case they were needed for a few hours.

Saturday was an exceptionally bad day… her bowel spontaneously perforated again and we were told it could happen again at any time. For safety’s sake she was already on multiple antibiotics.

Today has been better – she’s still on morphine but not needing as many boluses and has sat up in her chair for a while.

The plan is a long one. On the 22nd of March she will go back to theatre to see if the weeks on TPN has improved her bowel any. She will have an endoscopic evaluation, something called a wireless camera, which is a little capsule which will travel through her G I tract taking photos every 2 seconds (this is the only way they will be able to see her small bowel as it was too fragile to look at endoscopic), she will have a laperoscopy and CT scan to look at the outside of her bowel. Depending on the results of these tests it is thought she may well be better off without her colon and so she will have a colectomy and a stoma placed.

I can reel all this off quickly now but on Tuesday evening I was in shock… total shock. I was also so angry, having been told that the prognosis/ life expectancy was now poorer than we had thought before. If the cure for Rett was found tomorrow it would still be too late to reverse the damage it had ravaged on my little girls insides. So we are in another 3 weeks until surgery and then they have said around another 7 weeks afterwards… a loooonnnng time.

When she comes out she is going to be spoilt… she has wanted a cat for a while and so by hook or by crook I want to get her one. Bless her, even on the worst days when lying lethargic and worn out from pain, the nurse said to her “are you getting a kitten?’ and her eyes lit up and she smiled that captivating smile that only Rett girls seem to possess. Somehow we will find the money to buy her one. It’s the least we can do after all she’s going through.

Thank you for all the precious people who have supported us through this week. Thank you for all the prayers too… it’s so good to know that there is such a cry to heaven going on for my gorgeous girl.

Update 18th January 2012

Seraphina had a good Christmas and new year despite her tummy being poorly for part of it. We were all very glad to be home together.

Since then her tummy has been causing her more distress resulting in three bowel bleeds last week. The nurses have come out to see her regularly and believe its time we had morphine available at home to help her cope with out breaks of pain. It also seems her port-a-cath has stopped working. We were seen at Sheffield yesterday as a result of her bleeds and not being able to tolerate feeds again. She has been given more steroids and pain relief and we have signed consent for her to have a colonoscopy and endoscopy with biopsies and her port changed. They are also going to arrange for her teeth to be looked at under the same General Anaesthetic. We won’t know for definite until after the surgery but the Gastroenterologist believes that Seraphina’s residual colon is just not working any more and has mentioned that the best thing may be to remove it all together. However, this is a big operation and so we are understandably very anxious about this possibility. We have been told her surgery will be in the next 2-4 weeks and so are just waiting for the call now to go in.

A big thank you to the children’s’ Christmas Elves for making their Christmas extra special. Thank you also to Lydia’s Elf for the lovely fluffy socks and foam bath for me, both were put to good use!

Update 10th December 2011

Seraphina has been in and out of hospital a lot recently. She has been diagnosed with a type of inflammatory bowel disease which means that she has been bleeding in her bowel. She has had a blood transfusion and a little while being fed by TPN. Now she is tolerating half strength feed. She’s also on long term steroids and immunosuppressants to keep the inflammation in her bowel down, which at the moment require weekly blood tests. Despite this she has a lot of tummy pain and diarrhea episodes which leave her drained. She is also very susceptible to infection now which means we have to be very careful with her and if she gets a temperature take her to hospital straight away. She has also developed a hernia over a past bowel operation site and so will need that repaired in the New Year.

On a positive note, a couple of days ago Seraphina took some steps all on her own which we are really thrilled about as she lost the ability to walk at 18 months when she went through Rett syndrome regression phase… what a STAR!! 🙂

Update 9th October 2011

Seraphina’s pain has been well controlled most of today. The plan is bowel rest and iv meds and to try dioralyte again on Monday.

Update 7th October 2011

Seri is now on continuous pump of morphine as iv bolus did nothing. X-rays showed grossly distended bowel and what they think is a perforation. We have got to go for more x-rays.

Update 5th October 2011

Seraphina went to theatre, the consultant said her colon is grossly abnormal; her entire colon is inflamed, raw and bleeding. It looks like we are going to be in hospital for the long run.

Update 3rd October 2011

Seraphina was rushed to hospital; her HB is so low due to internal bleeding that she is in danger of a cardiac arrest. She is being admitted for emergency transfusions and investigations. She is extremely frightened and anxious to the point of being sick when anyone comes near her.

Update 21st June 2011

Seraphina has been home for a month now. We are still having ongoing issues with her gut. She has been diagnosed with chronic intestinal pseudo-obstruction and we now have a rectal tube that we have to use on a regular basis to ‘deflate’ her bowel. The long term plan is to have a third stoma placed in her bowel, but this is a big operation for her and so she needs to be a bit stronger before we do it. She is rather skinny and gets tired quickly at the moment but she is still smiling and that’s the main thing.

I have updated her blog now so apologies for those who were waiting for an update.

Update 11th May 2011

Seri is in theatre now as she has 3 twists in her bowel. Please say a prayer for her.

Update 10th May 2011

Seraphina is very poorly and on the list for emergency bowel surgery tomorrow.

Update 9th April 2011

I just want to say thank you to everyone who has been supporting Seraphina as we go through this bad patch in and out of hospital. The cards and bath ducks have really cheered her up even on the most poorly days.

We are at the Evelina children’s hospital next week in London. We’re just praying they have some good ideas about the next steps in treating Seraphina so that we can have her back to her lively bubbly self soon!

Update 10th January 2011

It has been a bit of an up and down month. Seraphina had her operation at the end of November (30th) and we had high hopes for the outcome, but unfortunately she had a lot of pain from the procedure which is unusual, and when the casts on her legs were changed she only had the new ones on for 48 hours before she was at the stage of needing Morphine for pain. We had to have the casts removed as her feet were swelling up and when they were removed we found that she had grade 3 pressure sores on the front of both ankles which were weeping and bleeding. We had to dress them and change the dressing every day which she found very sore. Then she unfortunately had an allergic reaction to one of the dressings which meant that she had hives all over the front of her ankle too which still haven’t quite gone. The operation was not successful and so unfortunately she is booked for another surgery (which they said should be this month) to cut through her Achilles tendons and also open up the back of each calf and cut through the muscles there. She will then be in plaster for 4-6 weeks. We are praying that this goes well and we don’t get any more pressure sores.

On the positive side, we all managed to spent Christmas together which was wonderful considering last year was spent in ICU. Seraphina even got the hang of using her hands to unwrap her Post Pals presents!!! We thought she would get a bit overwhelmed and so only gave her a couple to begin with, but she started screaming and when we asked her what was wrong she took my hand and pointed it in the direction of her Post Pals presents… so I said ”do you want more?” and she clapped! Clearly she was getting the hang of presents VERY quickly this year!

Thank you to the children’s Elves for making this Christmas extra special, particularly the person who bought Lyida’s Jacqueline Wilson collection, Sam’s RAF Elf (who according to Sam drives very fast planes!) for the Where’s Wally? books and slinky, Becs who made Aimee’s Christmas with all the card making gear and Seraphina’s posties/elves for the littlest pet shop toys, Peppa pig book, bath ducks etc etc, not forgetting the lovely woolly socks from Finland! Also a big thank you to MY elf for the lovely chocolate truffles! Definitely made my Christmas!

All thoughts and prayers would be appreciated for Seraphina’s upcoming surgery and also that she manages to get rid of the bad chest she has had for about 6 weeks now which makes sleeping difficult due to coughing/needing suction.

Update 25th November 2010

Seraphina has had a better month health wise and now we are trying to keep her fit for her surgery up in Sheffield on the 30th November.

We went to the Rett syndrome conference last Saturday with Seraphina. It was good to meet other children with Retts and learn more about Seraphina’s condition. Seraphina was parked in her wheelchair next to a large Christmas tree at one point and discovered a fascination with large shiny baubles which she was trying to kick into her wheelchair with her feet!! Both she and the few people that saw her thought it was very funny!

Her sister, Lydia, had her brain scan yesterday (24th) so we just have to wait for the results now. She has been very much cheered up by the couple of cards she had so thank you very much for those.

Thank you to Meri M from Slovenia for Seraphina’s story book, the people who have sent birthday cards ready for November 27th, and the children from the Army base in Riteln, Germany, for their hand made booklet with Peppa pig picture on.

Update 8th November 2010

Unfortunately we are going through a bit of a tough patch at the moment. Seraphina seems to be getting one bug after another and is getting really run down. She has caught another bug over the weekend and is very chesty and miserable and requiring a lot of suction.

We did make it to Sheffield – she had her chest drain attached and we saw the Orthopaedics consultant – the reason for the pain in her hip for the last few months is that it is partially dislocated! Her muscles and tendons in her legs are now extremely tight which is also causing her pain and so she is booked in for surgery and serial casting on her legs for 8 weeks. We should get the appointment through in a couple of days but he said it will be for sometime this month, so it looks like she will be in plaster for her birthday.

The other news we have is Lydia (who already has scoliosis and Syringomyelia) which causes a lot of pain, has to have a brain scan on the 24th November as her legs are also causing more problems and we finally got to see a neurologist who believes she has Cerebral Palsy!! This was quite a shock and Lydia is a bit tearful about it at the moment.

There are a few other heath issues going on with Seraphina too and to be honest we are struggling a bit so your thoughts and prayers would be appreciated.

Update 3rd October 2010

This month has ended better than it started. The first part of the month Seraphina had to be taken to hospital as she had seizures that wouldn’t stop and so had to be given a drug to stop them.

Unfortunately, she had a urine infection which triggered them off and while she was fitting she aspirated and so needed antibiotics to protect her from a chest infection. Her oxygen requirement doubled at this time which was quite scary for both of us. She also developed a different kind of seizure to add to her repertoire and had some sort of collapse and we are still waiting to see what the Consultant thinks may have caused it. She had only just got over the seizure episode when she needed to be checked over again, as she came down with a horrible tummy/fluey bug which meant that she couldn’t be tube fed her normal milk, but had to have dioralyte for a while and was really quite poorly with it. Thankfully she has all but got over it now but it has really knocked her health-wise so she is a little weak and wobbly at the moment. We are hoping that next month is a bit better health-wise for her.

Thoughts and prayers are appreciated for 21st October when she goes to see the neurologist and on the 25th when we are in a different children’s hospital for her to have a permanent chest drain valve fitted which hopefully should help with gas build up. Seraphina gets very very scared and upset about going to hospital now so all prayers are appreciated.

I am just in awe of Post Pals. The difference it has made to Seraphina (and me) is immeasurable. It is so lovely to see her little face light up when she sees an envelope, she is really getting the idea of this now and can’t wait for me to open the post for her. It was also lovely for Samuel to get a present as it is all too easy for siblings to feel a little left out at times when caring for a child with such complex needs, so thank you for making his day.

Thanks to Lilli, Isabella and Elouise for the lovely postcards from Hong Kong and also to Jane Fawcett for the postcard, what fantastic pictures of your cats! Thanks to Percy for telling us about his wonderful adventures and also to Sarah G for her wonderful letters that all the children look forward to me reading out! I’m afraid Seraphina did laugh quite a lot at you getting all wet and muddy though, especially when we kept repeating the word ‘splosh’ to her, she thought it was quite hilarious! A big thank you to Samantha for Samuel’s Helicopter craft kit, he loved it! And also a thank you to W. Krul for sending Seraphina the gorgeous yellow butterfly toy which she has become quite attached to!

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Poppy H

01 July 2011

Story written 2010

Poppy is a loving, smiling, happy little girl. She was born at 28 weeks and from birth she had inflammation of her bowel and started treatment for it at 3 months old. She was initially ng tube fed, then nj tube fed by 6 months, and her first operation was at 9 months old when she weighed just 8lb.

Over time, more and more things became apparent with Poppy. She had pseudo obstruction from 7 months old, hypoglycaemia caused by a rare condition called growth hormone resistance, and poppy has delayed gross motor skills and couldn’t sit until 18 months and didn’t walk until 2 and half years old. She used a walking frame and has special boots and orthotics. She also has Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome too.

Poppy has been tpn dependant since January 2010 and has suffered many line sepsis since November 2009, with 4 bouts of pneumonia, cellulitis, and with multiple bugs in her blood stream at one time. Her inflammation has got much worse along with the pseudo, and on many occasions we have nearly lost Poppy as she has been so ill. Somehow her little body fought hard and she is still battling on and always with a smile!

Poppy’s intestines are really struggling this past year and even though she’s on TPN she’s still not gaining weight or growing. She has a MRI booked for the 26th July 2010 of her bowel. In May she was put forward for small bowel transplant, but she is not a candidate as yet, so her battle continues and we can carry on giving her the best life we can when we’re not in hospital.

Update 30th March 2015

Well, what a year we have had. As you know, Poppy got her transplant call in September and she had a really rocky time. What with her abdomen being open and huge infection problems, gvhd and rejection, collapsed lungs and every complication possible, it was very tough.

However, Poppy’s finally turning that corner. She’s still needing iv fluid at night… but she’s off tpn and she is able to eat if she likes, but she gets her calories via her ng tube. Poppy’s open abdomen wound is getting there and we are hoping it will close within the next month. She’s almost 7 months post transplant so it’s been a long road for her with her wound and it’s been pretty difficult at times, so it will be amazing for her once healed. We also found the day of transplant that Poppy’s genetics came back as a defect gene, so we at least have some answers.

At the moment Poppy has a ileostomy stoma and a colostomy stoma too. In May, Poppy will have more surgery to close her ileostomy and her new colostomy bag will finally be in use. Our team are hoping that by doing this now Poppy’s colon will be less inflamed and cause less issues for her – it’s a right pain at the moment for her! They may revise her scar as it’s huge and possibly close her stomach muscles too… or this maybe done with the next surgery when they close the colostomy and reconnect her new colon. So there is a lot more surgery planned for poor Pops but she’s a little star and I’m sure she will bounce back!

Next month Poppy is seeing the cochlear implant team, as last year she became severe/profoundly deaf. It’s been really difficult all round and we are learning sign language, but she’s been assessed at Great Ormond Street for cochlear implant surgery, so possibly more surgery on the cards.

Poppy’s rejoined her class in school after nearly 3 years out of school, it’s just a few hours but it’s enough for her right now. She hates going but once there she seems happy.

Lots has changed for Poppy but mostly for the good. It was really tough in the years and months before transplant, and we honestly never thought she would make it through. Transplant has been a real journey, and by no means a cure, but whatever time we get we will live to the max… enjoying and making memories as much as possible.

I feel now is the right time to move the girls on from Post Pals. It’s been lovely and you guys are amazing, but I feel lots of children are more deserving right now. I’m sure in the future when Poppy needs re transplant we will be back as they only give you 3 or 4 years maximum with these organs, but for now we are doing well.

Thank you so much for all your help, post and smiles over the years. It’s been amazing and has made long stays in hospital so much more bearable for the girls, as you never forget Coral either. Thank you to everyone who has sent us post over the years, it really has been appreciated and helped us so much.

You can keep up to date with us on Poppy’s Facebook if you like ‘Poppy our fighter’. We intend to have lots of fun to share on there!

I have one more ask of you all… please think about organ donation, sign up, discuss it. Poppy is more than proof it’s worth it… if you have followed Poppy you will know her journey to here. Organ donation saves lives.

Update 11th November 2014

Pops is doing amazing! This super princess has definitely cracked it this time… go Pops! It’s about time… we are in our 10th week on picu/hdu. Maybe this week we might make the ward if we can get her bp more stable! Blood pressure is still being a pain, so she is still hooked up to infusion. The obstruction keeps causing pain but hopefully they’ll have a look with a camera this week and make a plan. Lots of resistant bugs as usual too so back to full gowning up for anyone visiting our room. Arrrgghh pesky bugs!

She is looking much better though – such a difference in just a few days. She is eating skips and sipping juice which is amazing as she has never eaten in her life! Keep it up Pops!

It is amazing what organ donation can do! Always so grateful and thinking of our donor family xx

Update 7th November 2014

Poppy had her transplant on 5th September (5 organs). Shes had a rocky time and still hasn’t left itu/hdu in the whole 9 weeks. She’s had lots of problems with the same infection bugs from before transplant and they are now in her open wound so has had a lot of sepsis. She had a 2 week period where we didn’t know what was wrong, 2 solid weeks of a high temp which wouldn’t come down and her needing bipap. She also had an awful rash and after a skin biopsy it showed Poppy has GVHD. This is where her donor cells within the new organs were attacking her tissues/organs making her very unwell. She has responded well to treatment so far but until she comes off the treatment we won’t know if it will return as it hasn’t fully gone from her skin yet. Her open abdomen is getting a little better but she has had problems with it going necrotic due to an underlying condition of connective tissue meaning that she doesn’t heal well. Poor thing.

Poppy has taken all this in her stride and has coped so well, but she’s really missing home now. We all are. Coral is at home and we are over a 500 mile round trip for a visit so it’s really tough all round. Pops is a fighter so we will get there… just got to keep the hope.

Update 14th September 2014

Day 8! Pops is finally off the oxygen!! Just need everything else to improve! Come on Pops!

Update 12th September 2014

Pops is the same really, no change. Blood pressure is still being a nightmare. Added in yet another infusion (9 pumps running!) so still in HDU and will be for a while yet. No feed this week now as the gut is not coping yet and the pain is still bad from her open abdomen, bless here She’s a little star!!

Update 10th September 2014

Pops is in HDU now. Her blood pressure will keep us here a long time as she’s on lots of drugs/infusions for it and it’s still not good. We knew this would be an issue as it’s one of her biggest problems. GOSH are helping with advice. Her pain is really bad due to the open abdomen, bless her. The pain team are amazing as always and trying their best. The biggest most amazing thing ever is we are running 5mls per hour dioralyte into her new bowel, bypassing the new stomach…WOW!! Keep praying as it is just day by day… hour by hour… she’s a little star!!

Update 8th September 2014

Pops is off the ventilator, on oxygen and still in ITU. Her blood pressure is still an issue and hard to manage but they are chucking everything at it, she always has issues with it so we expected this. She’s doing well and stable… all the expected problems but she’s fighting. The pain is awful for her as she’s still open and will be for a few weeks. Such a brave girl.

Update 6th September 2014

Pops is out of surgery. She had some complications but she’s doing ok. Now her journey of recovery starts so please keep praying. The surgery was just 8 and a half hours! I love our surgeons, they looked after my baby. Sadly they couldn’t close her abdomen though so she will still need more surgery in a few weeks.

Update 5th September 2014

Poppy got her call at 6am. Two ambulances and a helicopter later we arrived. It’s been a long hard day. Poppy is in theatre now (9pm) and it is the start of her new life.

Thinking of our donor family tonight with so much love for the life they’ve given. My baby is so brave… please keep praying.

Update 9th August 2014

I’m so sorry I’ve not update for a long while. Poppy has been in and out of ITU and ventilated a few times too this year, the poor girl is having a rough time.

Her transplant listing has now changed and sadly includes a liver too, so she is now on the list for 5 organs (full multivisceral-liver, small bowel, large bowel, stomach and pancreas). She has been 10 months active on the transplant list now!

She is still having ongoing infections and pancreatitis pain, so is on a lot of morphine and a huge dose for her patch. Since the increase she is definitely much more settled and happier but is still having a lot of pain.

Sadly, poor Pops has lost her hearing and is now profoundly deaf. She now wears hearing aids on both ears and this has affected her (and us as a family) hugely. Her behaviour can be difficult along with not being able to communicate well. It has been tough all round as it was very sudden but for poor Pops is must be so hard. She was very withdrawn but seems to be getting used to it now and we now need to learn to sign too.

Life is still pretty much on hold until she gets her call and a chance at life. She’s not been to school since the beginning of reception class (she would be Year 3 this September) and it’s so sad she’s missing out on all the primary years.

She’s still crazy as ever though and has acquired a ‘Disney channel’ attitude to boot, bless her. It’s amusing when she’s so teeny… you forget she’s 8 this year!

Poppy and Coral are loving the loom band craze… It keeps them busy, though it’s mainly Coral! Coral is doing fantastic in school and has done amazing with her reading and is way above her age, she’s a star! Poppy still enjoys her colouring in and anything pink!

Update 4th December 2013

Wow it has been a long time since we updated. Poppy is listed for a small bowel and pancreas transplant and we have spent nearly all year in hospital. Things just got worse and everything we have tried just made things worse. We really tried to get her gut feeding but she just can’t, bless her. She’s had 5 picu stays this past year where shes literally fought to stay with us. One of her worst was the encephalitis through which she sustained a brain injury with damage to a large area. She really did amazing and way better than her picu doctors thought she would, but it has left her with a left sided weakness, seizures, obsessive behaviour and needing splints on both legs, but she’s still a star! The ongoing pancreatitis is awful for her as she’s in a lot of pain which we are trying to control with a morphine patch plus added morphine and it does get her down at times. She gets very fed up but Pops being Pops, she is still as crazy as ever and still laughs like mad at silly things!

Coral has had a tough year and big changes for her due to Pops care being so much at home now with lots of iv drugs all day. She has so little time with me and we don’t get out or do fun stuff anymore, so she’s missing out a lot. However, she is doing brilliantly at school and is so helpful at home – I couldn’t manage without my little sidekick!

We just pray Pops gets her transplant call soon and she gets the princess life she deserves. I feel 2014 has to be better.

Thank you to everyone who sends post to both girls, it means a lot and cheers Pops up lots. We love our Post Pals family! Thank you Bev Higgins for the advents, what a fantastic idea! Poppy loves it, she can’t eat or drink so this cheers her up loads!

Update 21st September 2013

Poppy is awake and off the vent and most importantly is still herself. The neuro team are astounded by how bad her MRI is and how well she has pulled through!! What a star Pops is!!!! Literally improving by the hour, managing to do more and more things, as her brain creates new pathways. Go pops!!!!! Can honestly say we really truly are so lucky, she had amazing treatment in picu which all helped her and we are so so greatful and lucky to still have our girl.

Update 16th September 2013

Poppy has had an up and down time and after a stay at Kings it has been decided that Poppy will be listed for transplant. They were waiting for test results to decide which organs she needs in addition to a new bowel.

However, this week, Poppy took a turn for the worse yet again and was admitted to Manchester PICU and placed on a ventilator, as amongst other things she is having uncontrolled seizures.

Today came the very bad news that Poppy has a large area of her brain that is swollen and damaged, both from birth and now from this. The doctors need to keep her resting in PICU to let the swelling reduce before they can wake her to see how the damage has affected her. All we can do is hope and pray that Pops is still Pops when she wakes up and that we can control these seizures.

Update 30th July 2013

Poppy has lost at least 6 litres of fluid and is looking much more like her normal self. She is now breathing by herself (but on O2) and back on the main ward. Today she said a couple of words for the first time, this latest PICU stay has taken its toll on her.

Update 27th July 2013

Pops had a stable night, she has a high temperature again though and her liver is very big and her liver bloods are not good. The frusimide infusion and restricted fluids (1.4mls an hour of tpn!!) have helped as she has lost a lot of the fluid she had on her. She is amazing, bless her.

Update 26th July 2013

Last night Poppy was flown down to Great Ormond Street and spent the night in theatre.

Pops is stable today, but had a bit of a scare this morning as she needed bagging. Her chest isn’t good and she will be vented for another 3-4 days but I’m hoping she proves them wrong. She is on very restricted fluid due to her retention as she is so swollen, bless her. Bear hugger keeping her warm as she can’t regulate her temperature. They are doing a lot of juggling with her bloods to keep her stable. Amazing how much work these PICU nurses put into keeping her going. Fingers crossed she remains stable.

Update 25th July 2013

Poppy has been moved to ICU in Manchester to be ventilated as she is really not well, needs a chest drain put into her chest to drain her right lung, and the heart stents caused a superior vena cava obstruction as well as infection, causing her head to be hugely swollen. She is struggling bless her and is just so poorly.

Update 7th February 2013

Poppy has been admitted to GOSH and will be having surgery to remove her colon. We are hoping she might be able to be discharged by the summer but it will be a long stay away from home and Coral.

Update 27th October 2012

It has been a long time since i have updated and a lot has changed, but sadly not for the better.

In the last 6 months Poppy has deteriorated a lot. Not only is she tpn dependent but she is now dependent on IV fluids day and night too, meaning she is connected intravenously 24 hours a day. She’s pretty fed up with it all. She got a line infection after a bowel procedure in April and things have just gone from bad to worse.

She has had horrendous pain and she’s now on a range of pain medicines including nerve meds, morphine and codeine. She had to have emergency  surgery in Manchester children’s hospital in August due to a prolapsing bowel which ended up with her being in HDU. She then got septic and had to have her hickman line (which she gets her nutrition and her fluids through etc) removed due to the infection and how sick she was. She went to theatre and had a central line put in, but due to poor access she ended up with a line in her foot, which was very uncomfortable due to the vein being very inflamed.

Her bowel in the last 6 months has massively deteriorated and was so dilated and distended she was unable to sit, and was needing oxygen at times due to the pressure it was putting on her lungs and diaphragm. She couldn’t even sit up, and tests showed her small bowel had deteriorated and wasn’t working and flowing backwards into her stomach. So, she had more bowel surgery to form a ileostomy (this is a stoma) to help relieve the pressure.

This operation went a little wrong, meaning a day later she had to go back to theatre again to be reopened and have the stoma moved. They also had to sort out a mass of adhesions. Poor girl, by now she’d had enough and ended up in HDU in GOSH this time. Once again, she was septic after surgery and ended up needing oxygen and was poorly and I was living on a knifes edge not knowing what was next. It had been an awful few months previous to the surgeries, she had barely been to school since April, and when she did she needed morphine administered in school to help her pain.

She arrived home from GOSH on September 3rd, just in time for me to take Coral for her first day of school. Poor little Coral, she had been shuffled from pillow to post all summer.

Poppy still wasn’t at all right, and was still on iv antibiotics and iv antifungals – then a week after these finished she took a turn again. She was so poorly this time she ended up in PICU in Alderhay hospital. It was a very stressful time and brought back many memories for me losing my son Oliver in the same way. Lately, all her organs are under a great strain, so she’s retaining fluid massively, she has very high blood pressure despite meds, her heart rates racing all the time, her nervous system has become affected and she has shakes\tremors, she’s so swollen and puffy due to the fluid shifts, and this infection just overwhelmed her very quickly and she went in to septic shock very quickly. Its always a TPN mums biggest fear and we were living it. Luckily, Pops is a fighter and she came through, she had amazing care and we owe our local consultant her life for getting her onto isotropes and ventilated and transfered so quickly.

Since her bowel and general deterioration means she now can’t attend school, she’s pretty fed up. She’s been crying a lot and is very sad about things. Being connected to ivs 24 hours a day means no more swimming, which she loves to do, and in general we don’t really do much as a family anymore. She tires very easy and generally just feels unwell.

The plan for now is that she has been referred to Birmingham children’s hospital for bowel transplant assessment. We really don’t know how we feel about it, but the negativity about where we are at right now from everyone makes us feel like we have no where else to go. It is just very scary. We are currently waiting to hear if they are going to remove her colon too, as this is a great source of pain. She’s needing lot of pain relief and is having to be on so many strong immuno suppressions etc, to try to help her inflammation, plus she now has enemas which she hates. I just really feel for Pops in all this.

On a good note, Coral is really enjoying school, and is doing very well and is very bright – yay, go Coral!! Poppy is to start home tutoring after half term, so that will keep her busy, and hopefully it will be fun learning too. She’s getting very good on the laptop and is enjoying cbeebies, and now is a huge fan of moshi monsters – she tries to play online but it is quite hard, so i have to help and read it to her – she has a pink moshi online… always pink, still. We have a new amazing OT who has got her a new big comfy armchair for home which reclines and she spends most of her day in this and loves it. I would love one too! It reclines and is amazing! We have tried her in a fab new wheelchair too, which we find out on the 7th November if we get the funding for it. We really hope so as Poppy’s really looking forward to having a chair the same as her beloved Post Pal ‘Dominic B’… so watch this space!

Thank you to everyone who sends post and just thinks of us at our tough times. Post Pals is always a godsend when Poppy’s poorly and stuck in hospital and is for Coral too. To know people remember her too is great as siblings are often forgotten. Particular thank you to Emma (Isle of Man) and Nathalia. Thank you for the personalised stickers too as both girls loved them!

Update 8th June 2011

Poppy’s doing ok on this new Ivig treatment, she seems to have a little more energy, and has been off iv antibiotics now since the end of March when she had aseptic meningitis and pseudomonas line sepsis.

She’s been having lots of problems with her left ankle, it’s very stiff and painful, especially in the mornings, so she’s just got to exercise through it while we wait for X-ray and scan results, and wait for a podiatry/orthotic appointment as the left leg isn’t growing and is much shorter than the right.

Poppy starts big school in September and she got the school we wanted for her and they have been fab.

Thank you to everyone who sent Poppy and Coral Easter craft sets, they had great fun making things. They loved the tiny little pram and dolly that Libby sent coral too, she plays with it every day.

Post Pals is just fab, the girls love the postman now.

Update 15th April 2011

Poppy is in hospital as she turned blue/grey tonight.

Update 28th March 2011

February was not a bad month in all. Poppy had two chest infections needing iv antibiotics, but luckily we can do them at home. She was having masses of pain from her bowel so is now on new meds and they seem to be doing something but not fully working yet. Poppy had her educational psychologist assessment ready for school to see what help she’ll need for school in September.

We had a lovely weekend away just local to us in our caravan, but the weather was terrible and Coral fell face first in the mud. Poppy found this very amusing, bless her!

The great news is that Poppy has finally got funding for her IVIG treatment. GOSH are paying on a trial basis. We are very hopeful that this will help her immensely in the long run, and even a possibility it may help enough to get back onto tube feeds. Keep everything crossed please!

Thank you for Poppy’s letters from Rachel and Adam, Mandie and Rosie, Emma, Sarah G, and lots more. Poppy loved her build a bear outfit too, very cute! Thank you.

As usual, you guys do a fab job and always manage to bring a smile on the most hardest of days. It means the earth, thank you.

Update 18th March 2011

Poppy was in GOSH for an overnight TPN MOT on Monday and started her new treatment. Unfortunately she reacted to it and had aseptic meningitis and a bacterial sepsis. She’s on IV antibiotics and hopefully going home later this evening – as we do all her care we can manage her at home. Fingers crossed this treatment helps things but we are a bit worried about the next dose, although she will be pre-medicated this time.

Update 18th February 2011

Well it’s been an up and down winter for Poppy this year. She has pretty much been on IV antibiotics the whole winter. In December she was very unwell and they were talking about PICU, but miraculously, with a lot of iv’s and blood transfusion she picked up. She was in a lot of pain and needed morphine, her mouth was full of ulcers and very sore, and it was so upsetting. New Year she had flu, so it was more ivs, oxygen etc, and home on ivs. Her gut in that time was terrible causing proctitus flares. The winter has been bad due to her bloods not being good, her bone marrow very suppressed and neutropenia, meaning for 8 weeks we were housebound, even over Christmas.

Back in October, her immunologist at Great Ormond Street told us of a treatment that really could improve her life – intravenous immunoglobulin therapy – and she was applying for funding from the local PCT. We were excited at the prospect that within 6 months of being on it Poppy could come off tpn and back to jejunal tube feeds!! Amazing! However, the local PCT turned her funding down, unfairly. To cut a long story short, appeal process started, emails to MP’s flew back and forth etc and by now GOSH were realising we were not going to give up. On Valentines Day we got the call to say that GOSH were going to fund it. Yipppeee!! We’re very happy and hopeful that this will make a difference to her so keep your fingers crossed! 🙂

At the moment Pops is ok, no infections and no ivs. Her gut is up and down and we’re trying to combat dehydration at the moment but she’s not happy about being connected to either or another machine all day.

Sorry for the slow update but we’ve moved house and had no Internet!

Thank you to Sarah Marshall for the lovely elf box for Coral – she loved all the princess things, especially the dolly and she shared her box with Poppy too. Thank you Post Pals for the girls’ balloons! Poppy’s going to have her deflated Minnie mounted on her wall. Thank you Jenny for the stickers. The smile box from Germany was fab and they shared it all! Viks and Kate, thank you for the tea set as the girls love crafting and they play with the tea set all the time! I’m hoping I’ve not missed anyone but the internet has been off and I’m trying to catch up!

Post Pals is amazing and a whole new world for Poppy. Life for her can be strange living in Coral’s shoes, as in it is Coral’s nursery and Coral’s friends, Coral can eat and drink etc, but when she gets post sent to her from what she says are her friends, it really does light up her face with a smile. Thank you!

Update 16th November 2010

Poppy’s blood works are not good at the moment, her bone marrow is very suppressed, her liver is struggling at the moment, and she’s anaemic so it is making her feel up and down and very tired. They’ve stopped her immunosupression for a week and then they’ll reduce the dose to see if this helps, but it will possibly have an adverse effect on her gut. She’s not allowed out at the moment or to nursery etc, as infection risk is very high. We’re going to Disneyland Paris on the 23rd of this month, but we need Poppy well to be able to go. Her bloods need to be better or we won’t be going, but she’s still smiling, bless her.

Thank you Alison for the Halloween gifts and they also loved the flannels! Thanks to Post Pals for the Halloween bag too.

Update 27th October 2010

Poppy has been up and down recently. She’s home which is fab and with home TPN we are having much more time at home now. We’re still having lots of problems with bacterial overgrowth and diarrhoea and pain , she’s just finished yet another course of antibiotics. She has seen her immunologist at GOSH and they want her to try immunoglobulin therapy IV (IVIG). They’re hoping this will help her immune system and her inflammatory problem. It’s a 5 hour infusion every 3 weeks at GOSH and after 3 tries we can do this at home as we’re IV trained. So fingers crossed!!

We’ve had a lot of change of medication lately to try and help her gut, but not much change yet. Poppy is happy though and is now in nursery and enjoying it a lot! She’s also doing gymnastics too as it all helps with her physio programme; she finds it very tough and is exhausted after but is enjoying it.

We are going on holiday to Disneyland Paris in just 4 weeks time. As you know, Poppy is a massive Minnie Mouse fan, so she is extremely excited!

Thank you so much to Viks and Kate and all the Post Pals gang for running Post Pals. Poppy loves it! Thank you for Rosie and Mandy for Poppy’s gifts; I’m subjected to Mickey Mouse DVD all day now! Thank you to everyone who sends Pops cards and pictures and thanks Emma Stone for the pictures of badger. Thanks also to Dottie the Dalmatian – Poppy loves your adventure post! Thank you so much for Poppy’s DVD player as well, it is literally a life saver. She is in bed by 5pm most days exhausted and loves to watch her DVDs.

Update 13th August 2010

Poppy is currently in our local hospital in Blackpool with a line sepsis. Consultants are all very worried as her immune system is very poor at the moment and she’s not responding as she should. Her body’s not responding outwardly with the infection which is worse, so we’re hoping these new antibiotics kick in and that she improves.

Thank you all so much for your post as it really does cheer her up!

Update 29th June 2010

Poppy is home at last after 7 months in GOSH on TPN. She’s doing ok at home, but still having a lot of pain, her bowels are not good, and she is still losing weight despite being on TPN. She is pretty worn out, bless her, but very happy to be home. The bowel MRI is on 26th July at GOSH.

Thank you for Poppy’s cards this month. Viks sent a lovely hand made one, Emma Stone, lovely cards from the USA too. Poppy and Coral are very lucky girls! Also, thank you so much Post Pals as the girls had a huge parcel and loved their chair! They coloured the bean bag dogs in straight away too. Granny Ruth sent Poppy a Charlie and Lola magazine which she loves, she’s really into her magazines and books! Thank you to Louise for the Peppa Pig bags, Poppy now carries her feed pump in her one! Thank you to Alison L, she’s great! Thanks to Steph, Poppy loves her pink poodle. To everyone else who has sent post, thank you!

Post Pals is brill and has brought a new life to Poppy! She’s not really got any friends because she’s too poorly for nursery and is always in hospital, but now she has lots of friends who send her post and it has really brought a huge smile to her face when the postman knocks! So thank you!

Update 15th June 2010

The girls got their Post Pals parcel today and it was very unexpected! Thank you! They were so excited, giggling like mad! Apparently it’s a magic chair, it walks! The wind blew it along in the garden and they were wetting themselves with laughter! Brill! Definitely a much needed smile as Pops has been in a lot of pain again today. Thank you!

Update 7th June 2010

Hey all! We are home! Poppy is all connected to the TPN too.

Thank you all so much for the post you’ve sent Poppy and Coral! They just love receiving it. We had just arrived home tonight after a long journey (screaming, tired, bored, sore etc) and Poppy was grumpy and in pain, but it soon livened her up to come home to post!! We’ve decided to keep a notebook of addresses starting from now on so Poppy can write back, as she’s in bed early now at home because of the TPN and it’ll give her something to do. She’s had so much post it is hard to keep up!! Loads of love and thanks! You’re amazing people!

Update 21st May 2010

Well Pops is definitely on the mend; our doctor just said she’s a very lucky little girl to pull through. She was very very sick – 10 days she was fighting it and she’s very worn out. I feel so relived an grateful she’s still here! Nothing will stop me smiling! Now it’s just a long recovery.

Update 20th May 2010

Yet another bad night. PICU doctors wanted to do a CT scan over night as her head is swollen and morphine’s not touching the pain in her head and she can’t move. They reduced all her fluids because she’s so swollen, bless her. Just waiting for doctors now to see what’s next. MRI and echo and possibly CT scan needs doing. Poor little thing. We’re waiting on big news today for her. I will update when I know anything. I’m so tired it’s unbelievable! Little improvement today, but don’t want to count my chickens as when ever we have a sigh of relief that maybe she’s turning a corner, it goes wrong again.

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Phoebe M

01 July 2011

Story written 2011

We knew at the 24 week scan that Phoebe would be born with Chronic Renal Failure. Phoebe was induced one week early as there was no amniotic fluid and the first few hours were critical. Phoebe had a peritoneal dialysis catheter put in when she was 24 hours old and she has been on dialysis ever since. Phoebe spent nine weeks in the neo-natal unit before coming home.

In September 2008 Phoebe had her gastrostomy button put in so her NG tube could come out. Phoebe is fluid restricted due to no urine output and is fed special feed through her button. She does have some pureed food orally and likes licking and tasting.

In March 2009 Phoebe lost her sight due to pressure on the brain. She had a VP shunt put in due to hydrocephalus and was registered blind. She currently wears glasses to strengthen what sight is left.In April 2009 Phoebe got peritonitis and her peritoneal dialysis catheter had to be removed. She is now on heamo-dialysis and has two tubes in her chest, which run into her heart. Phoebe has dialysis on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays for three hours a time.

Phoebe’s Dad, Lee, is a good kidney match for her and we are awaiting results from various tests to see if a kidney transplant can go ahead.

Phoebe has had 28 operations to date and a recent bladder test showed that her bladder is too small so we know more operations are to come. Phoebe has a brilliant character and is always smiling.

Update 20th May 2014

Phoebe is now 2 years post transplant and she is ‘moving on’ from Post Pals. I’d like to say a huge thank you to everyone who has sent Phoebe and Libby (and even us parents) post and parcels. Each and every one has made us smile at how kind and generous people all over the world are. THANK YOU x

Update 17th March 2014

Thank you to everyone who writes to the girls and thanks for their special Valentine cards too.

Update 1st February 2014

Phoebe’s birthday is coming up and she has some cards and parcels that I have put by until the day. Thank you to all who write to Phoebe and send post.

Update 27th September 2013

Phoebe is now 20 months post transplant and from a kidney point of view all is going very well. I cannot believe the 10th January 2014 will be 2 years.

Phoebe was recently admitted due to a tummy bug that caused her tummy to be damaged and needed time to get better, it is improving but it’s just knowing what kind of things to avoid (sweets and cakes are a massive NO at the moment). We are trying hard to get phoebe drinking as she relies a lot on her button (gastro button) but she is not having any of it. She’s very stubborn not to drink.

We often get asked about our pets. We have a dog called Sandy who is very old, a cat called Toby who is 6 years old, a rabbit called Caramel who is 3 years old and we also have 2 fish.

Phoebes next lot of surgery will now be after Christmas as we are going on our summer holiday in October due to cancelling it from August after Phoebe was admitted. We all so need this holiday and are hoping we can get to go.

We would all like to say a massive thank you too all that send us all post and parcels.

Update 28th May 2013

Phoebe and Libby have a beautiful new baby sister, Trinity-Leigh, born on the 5th of May.

Phoebe is waiting for a date to go in for an operation to plumb her kidney to her bladder at last, but there are complications and risks that could jeopardize her transplanted kidney. This is due to happen around July.

Update 20th November 2012

Since Phoebe’s transplant from her dad, she has been doing much better – it has been 10 months now and she is eating properly and has LOTS of energy. We have to maintain her fluid to make sure she gets enough so she still has a gastrostomy button in, to which we are able to give her water boluses. She is trying very hard to drink this herself but it is a lot for her to drink. The hospital do want the button out so our next step is making her drink and also toilet training. We have had a few problems with this as Phoebe has an urostomy, meaning her urine comes out of a little stoma like hole on her skin, and we have recently had help with and started using bags, as she was getting wet and school was unable to control her amount of nappy changes needed. Over night the bags have helped, but it’s hard to keep stuck to her skin, so it’s still trial and error, although it has helped take some pressure off. We are still in conversations with hospital about eventually plumbing her kidney to her bladder.

Phoebe attends hospital every 3 weeks for routine check ups which means she has not missed school. This is good as she loves going and has started learning braille and is actually very clever with it – she has picked it up really easily and is willing to learn – she has become a very bright little lady.

I would like to thank everyone for their smiles in the post, Phoebe and Libby love receiving their letters and gifts.

Update 25th March 2012

Phoebe is doing very well with her new kidney. She is having her haemo dialysis catheter removed on the 2nd April so will spend a night or two in hospital.

Thank you to everyone that has sent us post.

Update 12th February 2012

Phoebe is now 5 weeks post kidney transplant from her dad Lee and they are doing extremely well. Phoebe now has a urostomy which she now urinates from. It is free flow as Phoebe has no bladder function and it comes straight from the kidney, which means later on (approx in 1 year) they will transform it into a mitrofanoff. So we’re now half way there at making Phoebe’s life a lot better.

We attend the hospital 4 mornings a week at the moment so they can do observations and bloods to keep an eye on her levels; as if there were signs of rejection they could do something sooner rather then later. So far so good though, but we have been warned the first year is the hardest. We have had concerns with Phoebe’s breathing at night so have been referred to ENT for adenoids and tonsils to be removed to help her breathing.

We’ve had some wonderful post, especially for her birthday. Thank you everyone! Thank you to the girls at the high school for all their drawings too – a beautiful idea. It’s an amazing feeling when Phoebe opens her post – she loves all the surprises.

Update 9th February 2012

Phoebe’s kidney transplant has been a success and things are going smoothly. Her dad is in more pain whereas phoebe is thriving off the new kidney. She is in hospital daily for blood tests but all is doing very well.

Thank you all for your amazing post! I love how some cards are hand made and Phoebe always feels them or the stickers on them etc. We have had some really beautiful cards!

Update 12th January 2012

Phoebe had transplant on the 10th January! Her dad, Lee, donated his kidney (they say often it takes longer for the person donating to recover than the one receiving) and then it was transplanted into Phoebe. Lee and Phoebe were both back on the ward the same day – they were tired and sore, but Phoebe was WEEING!

Lee is going home today and Phoebe is going for a scan as her urine isn’t flowing well, but it is to be expected due to the swelling.

I’m sure Phoebe would appreciate some cheery post!

Update 9th January 2012

Phoebe is having her transplant this week with a kidney donated by her dad.

Update 5th October 2011

Phoebe has been in hospital with heart problems and was on 48 hours monitoring.

Thank you to a young girl called Lilly who sent Phoebe a beautiful touchy feely card as it was lovely. Phoebe loves receiving her post and it brings smiles while she has her treatment.

Update 29th June 2011

Phoebe has been doing relatively well. We had a blood pressure problem which seems to have resolved itself now. She recently had to have more work up for transplant injections too which she was very brave for.

We are looking forward to our first family holiday at the beginning of August. It’s just a weekend but it will be a first.

Phoebe has been granted a wish to Paultons Park to see Peppa Pig World on the 14th July and both she and Libby are excited about it.

Thank you to everyone who has sent the girls post.

Update 29th April 2011

We had a slight scare with a clot blocking Phoebe’s line on Monday but thankfully it became free.We have had a lovely Easter weekend and Phoebe and Libby have received some beautiful parcels, letters, and drawings. Thank you Viks for the wonderful Easter egg game too as it was great fun.

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