Story written 2008

William was born prematurely and went home with chronic lung disease, requiring oxygen 24 hours a day. His condition worsened rather than showing signs of improvement and he was diagnosed with ‘presumed cystic fibrosis’ (CF). He underwent vigorous treatment for this, including frequent hospital stays for IV antibiotics and an operation to insert a port-a-cath. His health was deteriorating more rapidly than expected for a baby with CF.

He had his first birthday in hospital and was back just a few weeks later. During this admission he had several tests. These revealed that he had very severe reflux and problems swallowing so a tube was inserted through his nose, through his stomach and straight into his intestines. We waited in hospital for an emergency Nissen Fundoplication, a procedure to prevent stomach contents from escaping up into the gullet and lungs, and a gastrostomy so William could be fed straight into his stomach until he was old enough to learn to co-ordinate his swallow. William spent time in PICU following the operation and was then transferred to the high dependency unit before going back onto the ward. We were expecting to be home within a few weeks of the surgery but things did not progress well. It became clear that William’s main problems were to do with his stomach and intestines rather than his lungs. He was in intestinal failure. Nothing was moving along or being absorbed so it was flowing back into his stomach and refluxing into his lungs, causing damage and frequent infections.

After three months in The Royal Brompton Hospital, William was transferred down the road toChelsea and Westminster Hospital where they have a specialist gastroenterology team. They diagnosed that he has intestinal failure and is unable to tolerate any feed or drink. Instead, he is fed by an intravenous feed called TPN (total parenteral nutrition) given direct into his blood stream, through a Hickman Line in his chest. He is on his drip 20 hours a day. William continues to have frequent hospital stays due to very sudden and life threatening infections in his line. He can be playing happily and critically ill with septicemia within five minutes as the bugs in his intestines leak into his blood stream and infect his line. To help with this, he had further surgery this year to create an illeostomy so the fluid that accumulates in his intestines can drain out through his stomach into a bag. However, he has continued to have frequent and dangerous infections and is now showing early signs of liver disease. His future is very uncertain and his condition is considered to be life limiting with immediate threat to life because of the infections. We are currently waiting to go to Birmingham Children’s Hospital so William can be assessed for a small bowel transplant.

William needs a lot of care at home. We have appointments most weeks and William can be admitted to hospital in a life threatening condition very suddenly. Hospital stays often stretch from days to months. All this puts a huge amount of pressure on the family, especially for Hope and Ellie.

William also has cerebral palsy, affecting his legs, and uses a wheelchair when out and about. He is about to get a powered chair to help him gain independence as he grows older.

Update 31st December 2021

Hi this is William M, I am writing to request that I be removed as a pal. I’m very grateful for all that you have done for me at my most difficult years and I appreciate everyone who has kindly sent me mail that has helped cheer me up when needed. However, since I’m seventeen years old and in good health, I believe it is inappropriate for me to continue being a pal, as there are many more children who are way more in need of the post than I am. Once again I with to truly thank you all for everything

Best Wishes,

William

Update 30th November 2021

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Please DON’T send food to Rowan or any of his siblings, and NO LATEX i.e. balloons, rubber masks etc, as Cameron is severely allergic to latex, so please do not send anything containing it to the whole family.

Story written 2012

Rowan was born at home unexpected but on time. Apart from being told we were having a girl (and he was a boy) and he was cold due to being born in the bathroom with the windows open, the midwife said to his daddy that all was “normal”.

For the first six weeks of Rowan’s life it was a whirlwind of no feeding, force feed, trialling formulas, projectile vomiting and screaming, along with a complete lack of weight gain. This carried on for 18 months. They tried an ng tube, force feeding, an nj tube, surgical jejunostomy, solid foods, ANYTHING to get Rowan to gain weight and nothing worked. Rowan was under GOSH as well as our local hospital and no one knew what to do. At 18 months old and weighing just 9lb12oz, Rowan was admitted to GOSH and we were told to “expect the worst”.

The next 8 months GOSH was home, full of ups and downs. Rowan had a Hickman line inserted and started TPN. For the first time ever Rowan began to gain weight consistently and went from strength to strength. As this happened a lot more medical problems began to arise. Rowan had to undergo a huge number of tests to get to the root of his weight problem and these tests are still ongoing. Our biggest battle will always be with his calorie requirement. The average child needs 90 calories per kg. Rowan needs a minimum of 240 calories per kg. He has the same number of calories as a fully grown man.

Rowan emerged from GOSH almost twice the child he was when he went in. Rowan has a lot more energy, a huge personality, and is making huge leaps in all areas. As I write, Rowan is awaiting more tests at GOSH and his calorie requirement has increased. Rowan may be the size of an 6 month old, but he has defied the odds, fighting his way through life with a very cheeky grin and a little bit of attitude!

Update 12th September 2019

Rowan had his central line removed yesterday, and a port inserted.  He’s no longer on TPN.  And while he’s still ‘poorly’ and in pain etc quite a lot, we have had lots of conversations, and decided there are children much poorlier than him, and he’s decided to move on from post pals and allow another child the delight of happy post.  He’s sad he’ll be moving on, but he knows it’s the right decision to make.

Thank you to everyone for all the memories, all the opportunities, all the parties, projects, letters, cards, pictures and the amazing opportunity to stay at chessington.  We’ll be sad to go, but happy someone else will be able to have the opportunity to smile when it feels like there is nothing to smile about!

A special thank you to Bev, Kim and Stevie, Marty Longo and Sarah and Fudge, for just being awesome!

Update 7th November 2018

Sorry it’s taken so long to update on Rowan, time goes by so quickly sometimes! On the whole Rowan has been quite well. Rowan is now on hydrocortisone as he has added Multiple Pituitary Hormone Deficiency (MPHD) into his list of ‘issues to contend with’ and will be on steroids for the rest of his life, it’s just another risk to manage. We have been back in hospital more recently to check that the level he is on is correct.

We have had a couple of other admissions around central line infections, infections around the various ‘holes’ in his body, and we are currently battling with one of those right now. Rowan is colonised with Staph Aureus, however that has now become MRSA. He’s struggling a lot with pain and fatigue, and it’s hard to know if this is deterioration in his management, due to the infection, or if we need an increase in meds, as he’s finally growing like a weed!

Behaviourally and emotionally however, we are finding things very difficult. Rowan has seen a psychologist and we are trying to work with him, however it looks like he is emotionally ‘stuck’ at a 3 year old stage. Imagine toddler tantrums in a 9 year old, he has a lot more weapons in his armoury than a 3 year old though unfortunately! This has also meant, that despite not being developmentally delayed in any way, he is torn between playing with younger children’s toys, and age appropriate toys. He seems to currently have a real liking for toys where you press a button and it lights up/makes a noise. He also is very attached to his baby Michael.

Thank you to those who have sent Rowan post, I know we don’t post as many pictures as we usually do, things are just particularly difficult at home at the moment, especially with Ayden, possibly struggling with ADHD/ASD, we are waiting for assessments. He has a habit of running off, with no consideration for danger, so it’s particularly difficult. We want to say a massive thank you to Sarah and Fudge the cat, who always sends the BEST monthly projects!! Also to WendyWoo for the fantastic drainage bag covers! Rowan loves having such a wide range of choices now! Also, to Marty Longo, Rowan loves the consistancy of receiving cards from you, from such a long way away! Rowan has also been receiving letters from a little girl who goes to ‘pen pal’ club at school, and he has written back to her, and received another letter! We are hoping to write another letter to her over the weekend. It’s nice to see him excited to write to another child of a similar age! Thank you post pals for everything you do for all the children.

Update 15th October 2017

Generally Rowan is doing ok!  Since the stoma prolapsed in June we have had lots of issues with controlling his sodium levels and his output being really high and of not great consistency.  Literally this week his sodium levels are FINALLY where they are meant to be, we had to increase the sodium in his TPN twice to get it to work, giving him sodium supplements through his tube seemed to do nothing.  I was more than a bit gutted as I thought we could start weaning down the TPN a bit soon, but I don’t think that’s going to be happening for a little while.

Rowan also appears to be colonised with a fungal infection, Candida and no matter what we treat it with, it’s not going away.  The risk is that this translocates to his Hickman line, and Candida is one of the worst bugs to treat :(.  So he had a specialist swab done to see exactly what we can use to treat the infections, as he has more than one strain of the bug, and go from there hopefully!

Over the summer we spent 3 weeks in hospital with a very poorly Rowan, he had a line infection Klebsiella, and it was very scary for everyone.  He ended up in the critical care unit in Oxford as we transferred from the hospice.  From there we made it to our local hospital only for him to deteriorate again :(.  Rowan was really upset, as were his brothers, as it meant our days away had to be cancelled, again.  So it wasn’t a particularly great summer, but we made the most of it where we could!

Following this particular bug, it was noted by the hospital that Rowan has some really bizarre issues with Tachycardia that have developed.  We’re not sure what this is all about at the moment but we’re keeping an eye on it for now!

In the meantime Rowan is struggling more emotionally than physically.  He’s angry a LOT.  He’s struggling with his pain levels as he is not listening to his body, and his fatigue is also an issue as he’s refusing to rest.  He’s hating being small.  He doesn’t want TPN or feeds, or having to go to the hospital anymore, and he currently doesn’t like school.  Everything is a battle at the moment with lots of tears.  He’s even playing up in school.  We are waiting for play therapy but at the moment we won’t even seem to be on a waiting list anywhere.  Everything is so slow, and at the end of the day it’s only going to get worse if we leave it.

Thank you to those who send Rowan post, especially Sarah and Fudge, Kim and Stevie and Marty Longo, also thank you to Zara and Raffle pals for the amazing gluten and dairy free chocolate hamper!  It went down very well and caters to the boys dietary requirements really well.

Can people PLEASE not send food to us.  The boys ALL have food allergies, and I have had to confiscate a number of food/sweet items from them.  Can we also make sure NO LATEX is sent, this includes balloons (unless they are foil).

Update 15th February 2017

This month Rowan has been doing well. Lots of appointments over the last 6 weeks or so, endocrine say he is growing ok now he’s on growth hormone and even though he still isn’t on a centile for his height he’s in proportion with his weight and that’s the most important thing. We will see them again in six months as we’re having a few issues with his blood sugars dropping too low when he’s not on his TPN (he’s getting 5 hours break currently!) and him becoming extra tired and grumpy, but for now it’s a case of just watching and waiting.

We went to see the gastro team as planned and we really wanted them to reduce the amount of TPN Rowan is on, but it wasn’t to be. They have decided, this close to surgery, we need to just stay as we are, as he is currently stable and we don’t want to rock the boat, plus, it’s possible we will be back to 24 hour TPN temporarily and we know the amount he’s on currently keeps everything ticking over nicely.

Rowan is due to have Ileostomy surgery on the 1st March. He’ll be in Great Ormond Street for approximately 2 weeks. This is quite big surgery for Rowan, and the recovery time can be rough, as well as adjusting to a new way of life. However, we are hoping this will improve Rowan’s quality of life long term and the aim is to reduce the TPN, and hopefully one day, get him off TPN altogether.

Thank you so much to everyone who sends Rowan and his siblings post!! Especially Sarah and Fudge the Cat! If anyone has sent Rowan little Lego sets, or craft sets, we have saved them for when Rowan goes for surgery as these are perfect for those times when he is bored. During the recovery for the next surgery, I am hoping the post he receives will lift his spirits. Thank you to everyone for everything that is sent!!

Update 28th January 2017

Since the last update, Rowan was transferred to GOSH by blue light and was incredibly poorly. In the end they took his line out, and replaced it with a new one. Unfortunately due to a lack of central venous access they have had to use Rowan’s femoral vein. This also means he only has ONE vein left in which a Hickman line for TPN can be placed. This is not a good situation to be in. Rowan is currently dependent on a Hickman line to sustain his life.

Since September we have tried to carry on life as usual and not worry too much about the ‘what ifs’. We had a week at Helen House in December, which was rather more hard work than it should have been, and some of Rowan’s pain medications were adjusted to help him, however we had a lovely Christmas at home together which we are very grateful for, and thank you so much for the all fantastic elf parcels, reindeer letters, monthly projects and post that came. Rowan has also been trying an extra hour a week at school for enrichment time which he absolutely loves!! This takes our total up to 16 hours a week of school, the most he has ever been there!!

Since the beginning of the year we have been waiting on tenterhooks for a date for a large surgery for Rowan. Nothing can really change or move forwards until this surgery has been completed. He is having an Ileostomy placed. This is a step that hasn’t been taken lightly at all. Neither Rowan nor I are adjusting to the news very well. Surgery will now be in March, after a lot of messing about, we still don’t have an exact date. This will be a massive adjustment for Rowan, and he is currently finding the idea more than a little but upsetting. The admission to GOSH is likely to be 2 weeks. As always though, post pals post gives him something else to focus on, and to distract him from it all for a little while! So thank you!!

Update 9th September 2016

Late last night Rowan was transferred to HDU. He was very poorly for most of yesterday, he drifted in and out of sleep until the middle of the afternoon. He wasn’t eating or drink or talking or even sitting up. He didn’t even have the energy to boss anyone around. Constantly spiking high temperatures despite IV paracetamol, and being on day 5 of antibiotics. Last night we did bloods, and they came back not looking good at all. Although he did manage 90 minutes of crafting in the activity centre and a few rounds of Mario Cart with the pink ladies before becoming overwhelmingly exhausted once again.

So, he was transferred to HDU where he had a fluid bolus as his Blood Pressure was too low, and he had his antibiotics changed a little bit. So rather than having ones that are once a day, he has 3 that are once a day, and 1 that is 4 times a day, he is on gentamicin, teicoplanin, micafungin and tazocin, all IV antibiotics. He has complained during the night of a bad headache, which tends to go with a line infection, although we don’t usually have that for more than a day or so.

So we are now on day 6 of the line infection saga, and he seems to be deteriorating, not improving. If he doesn’t start to improve in the next 24/48 hours, there is talk of transferring us to GOSH. Fingers crossed these new antibiotics help a lot more, and put him back on track so he can start bossing people around again.

Update 14th August 2016

Rowan is currently an inpatient at our local hospital and has now been in hospital for 2 weeks.  His central line broke inside his chest causing a great deal of pain.  This meant we were in hospital on IV fluids awaiting a line change.  This happened last Friday, it didn’t seem to go to plan, with much larger incisions than previously, a new exit site, and lots more bruising and discomfort. Since then he has spiked really high temperatures.  After a week of testing and waiting for results we have found he has a really, really bad infection in his various sites and wounds.  We thought putting him on the right antibiotics at a high dose would sort him out, and we were hoping to go home ASAP. However, 3 days into these high dose antibiotics and he is still spiking temperatures despite regular paracetamol and ibuprofen.  This is not a good sign.  To make matters more complicated, his brand new line won’t bleed back, so we can’t keep an eye on whether this has spread to his line or not, and previous bloods showed his liver was struggling too.  Rowan is becoming more and more frustrated and downhearted. This is the summer holidays, he is meant to be having fun, many days out have had to be cancelled unfortunately, and he is getting more and more upset as time goes by.  As he has got older he is far more aware of his difficulties and right now he is frustrated with himself and his body that he isn’t getting better.

All we can do right now is wait until the right doctors are available at GOSH to find out what the plan is.  Being in hospital this long, unplanned, is taking its toll on everyone, especially Cameron and Ayden, who are being farmed out wherever possible or spending hours and hours each day at the hospital, missing out on their summer holidays and all the fun things we had planned have had to be cancelled.  We are really hoping things are sorted this week, as we’re meant to be going to the hospice next week for a break, a bit of touristy stuff, and some R and R.  We haven’t been for such a long time and are really hoping for a turn around this week.

Update 8th June 2016

After our hospital admission we continue on our rollercoaster.  Rowan’s weight is up and down, as are his pain levels and fatigue.  His reflux is becoming more problematic too.  While we love the warmer weather it wreaks havoc on Rowan’s body.  He is extra pale and extra tired, so we are waiting to see if they want to give him more fluids in his TPN.  Unfortunately, we haven’t made much more progress with his feeds, some days are better than others.  Progress is painfully slow with lots of side steps, but we’re doing everything we can!

We heard this week that funding was approved for Rowan to re-start growth hormone treatment, so we are just waiting to hear from the company to arrange this.  We tried it before and it didn’t work, but the team decided it was worth another shot as the difference between him and his peers is really really obvious now, he is a perfectly proportioned 3 year old, only he is 7!

On that note, I just wanted to say a HUGE thank you to everyone who sent Rowan a birthday card. I honestly think that’s the most cards he has ever had!  He LOVED them!  We went to West Midland Safari Park for his birthday and he had an absolutely fantastic time, it is his favourite place ever!  We are spending quite a lot of time busying ourselves with some fantastic days out, travelling around the country and we can’t wait to continue them especially now the weather is warmer!

Update 25th January 2016

Thank you to everyone who sends post, whether it’s a one off or regularly, every letter really does count.

Rowan just came home after almost 3 weeks in hospital.  It was a long, gruelling process, but we may be uncovering some more answers with Rowan’s gut.  We have successfully managed to reduce Rowan’s TPN hours to 20 a day, and with a small amount of feeds the other 4 hours.  It’s a huge achievement and I am so proud of Rowan. It does cause pain, and there is a lot of stomach distension and other issues, but we’re doing the best we can.

During this time the other children were in foster care and had a rough time too, but we are glad to all be back together. It will just take time and patience to adjust.

Post is instrumental for Rowan through the bad times of the week. It focuses his mind on something else for a few minutes, other than being uncomfortable and grumpy.  Thank you, again, for everything you do!

Update 25th July 2015

Rowan has been quite poorly but is finally over the worst of it. He still has a central line site infection which is driving us both insane! We have just got back from a 2 week admission at GOSH. We went for physio rehab and it was a very rough 2 weeks, but he has made some lovely friends and they bonded really well. However, apart from an improvement in his balance, I can’t see any noticeable difference in him. He also lost 1kg while we were there which was weight he didn’t have to lose! The gastro team have changed the plan to hopefully fatten him up again.

While we were away at GOSH, adaptations on our house began and in fact are almost finished. A ramp outside the front and a wet room have been installed. The through floor lift should be finished Monday, so I have been busy decorating Rowan’s bedroom and the bathroom… minions of course!

As always, Rowan likes to make life complicated. The theory behind him having no central access is that he has lots of little clots in his veins, preventing the access, which would also explain all his very prominent veins that have worsened over time on his chest/neck/face. He has also been suffering with headaches. All his blood work looked fine so it wasn’t dehydration or anything else. I decided to go and get his eyes checked, as sometimes it’s hard to remember the ‘normal’ things it could be when you have a child as complicated as Rowan! It showed that he has a small prescription but nothing worth worrying about. However, he has reduced 3D vision and his eye muscles are having to work extremely hard to focus, which is resulting in double vision when his eyes get tired. A referral to ophthalmology at the hospital is the result and I have to watch him on the stairs/kerbs/uneven ground.

As always, we try to live our lives to the fullest. We are going on holiday soon and I think we are all looking forward to it as it’s been a very rough few months!

Thank you to everyone who sends post. The post has been a fantastic distraction and a welcome reminder that someone out there is thinking of Rowan while he has been so poorly. It continues to be well received!

Update 4th July 2015

Thank you to everyone who has sent cards, letters and postcards to Rowan and his siblings. His favourites are Kim and Stevie, Sarah and Fudge, Marty Longo, and the ones he gets from various schools. Thank you to the amazing paper cutters out there who have provided us with 5 exceptional pieces of art! I can’t wait to get them hung on the walls!!

Rowan continues to battle infection after infection. He recently had to go to GOSH for an urgent line replacement, however this did not quite go as smoothly as it should have. Rowan is lacking central access, which in theory he shouldn’t be at all because he has only ever had 2 lines. This is another part of the Rowan Puzzle. Since then we have managed to clear the infection from his line, however we have a persistent line site infection. Rowan’s new line site is also infected and it’s extremely sore. The stitches had to be cut out over 5 weeks early due to the swelling and infection making the situation unbearable. This then makes him extremely tired and struggling to maintain his body temperature with him just wanting to constantly nap. He has now missed 4 weeks of school and he is getting very down and very sad and he just wants to go to school. Unfortunately he just isn’t well enough and the couple of times he has tried they are phoning me after an hour to go and get him again.

We have just arrived home from a few days at the hospice where Rowan had his nails painted, went in the spa bath, and generally caused chaos (as usual)! This meant that I could go out for my birthday – the first time I have been out in 2 years for a few hours. It was just in time as we are heading to GOSH on Sunday for 2 weeks intensive physio rehab where we are hoping to gain some strength and muscle tone. It means another 2 weeks off school, but he should be good for the last 2 days of term. He will be saying goodbye to the best teacher I think he could have ever wished for.

Update 2nd May 2015

The last 8 weeks or so Rowan has been really quite poorly. Something as simple as a bug evolved into bacterial tonsillitis, which then manifested as referred pain. He then had a line infection, which required 2 weeks of antibiotics, and an urgent blood transfusion.

Hopefully Rowan is now on the mend after his weight plummeted to less than 12kg. We went to clinic this week and rather than discussing an Ileostomy as everyone believed that was the next step, the motility consultant said no. Therefore that is now not the plan, and the plan is, no plan. How we are right now, is the plan. It’s far from what I anticipated, as the simple answer is that they just don’t know what’s wrong or what’s going on, or which non invasive tests they can run to find out. The results from January do show a problem, but at this particular moment in time it’s irrelevant as he is still un-feedable. It was all a bit of a shock!

Rowan had his birthday last week and was a very lucky boy. Thank you to all those who sent him cards and presents! He had a fantastic day with his friends at his first ever birthday party. Friends and family came from all over the country to celebrate and he thoroughly enjoyed himself. Thank you for making his day extra special.

Update 26th January 2015

I just wanted to start by saying a big thank you to everyone who sent Katrina, Cameron, Ayden and Rowan, Christmas cards, letters, gifts, reindeer letters and elf gifts. I know a lot of time, thought and effort went into those and we thoroughly appreciate it.

Rowan has been very up and down with his gastro issues, one day he is ok and the next 4 days he is in agony. As always, he faces things with a smile and a determination. He wanted to try Turkey on Christmas day, so, along with the festive spirit I plated some up for him. Unfortunately it didn’t go too well, but you’ll never know if you never try.

We started 2015 with a 3 week admission to Great Ormond Street Hospital. It was a planned admission, but also a very difficult admission for all involved. It requires lots of communication and lots of organisation which inevitably went very wrong some days. However, despite the tortuous pain Rowan had to endure for the first week, we made it through, although he is clearly still considered ‘unfeedable’ and therefore for now TPN is his life line. He had a brand new gastro test, which has some very interesting preliminary results, which are beginning to show what is happening in Rowan’s system and how completely unique that is. Once the official results are in, it’s time for conversations as to what happens next and what our options are.

The third week we were handed over to the endocrine team for some repeat tests. The main aim was to see if Rowan could manage any time at all off of his TPN, to be free from so many wires, and be able to ‘run around like a hooligan’ as Rowan put it. The short answer to that was no, but again we need to wait for the official results.

The pain team also came to review Rowan and he is now a very proud owner of a TENS machine. He absolutely loves it and it really helps with his back pain especially.

For now we readjust to family life once again, and begin the painstaking task of trying to get Rowan to regain the 1.3kg he lost in those 3 weeks. Hopefully the next time I update there will be a more concrete plan in place.

Update 10th October 2014

Last time I updated Rowan was due to go to GOSH. We arrived there and due to Rowan’s haemoglobin level being too low the whole admission was cancelled. From there on it snowballed; by the Friday of that week he was admitted to our local hospital as he had a temperature which then transpired was quite a nasty line infection. Obviously this causes great concerns as line infections are a huge risk. Rowan spent that whole weekend in hospital and started IV antibiotics and had several fluid boluses as well as a blood transfusion. The next 2 weeks were filled with hours each day infusing IV antibiotics and drawing them up, mixing them, as well as ensuring all his blood work remained stable. It was a very demanding regime.

Rowan finished the antibiotics on Saturday and by the early hours of Monday morning he was feeling unwell again. Today (Friday) Rowan had to be collected from school early and taken to hospital. The bug is back that he had at the beginning of September. So once again we resume the very same regime of IV medications to hopefully make Rowan feel a lot better, and hopefully get rid of this bug well and truly.

Rowan has now been septic for almost 2 months solidly and it’s taken a toll on him, he is sick of feeling rubbish and missing school, and he is also getting frustrated that he physically can’t do as much. He has lost strength and stamina in his muscles and this is causing lots of problems for Rowan, but as always, he approaches each situation with determination, a big cheeky grin, and just a pinch of attitude.

Thank you for Rowan’s post. Rowan now recognises Marty Longo’s post without even having to open the envelope and he is always excited to receive post from Kim and Stevie. Please can I remind people not to send balloons to us though as Cameron has a latex allergy.

Update 22nd August 2014

Rowan has been on 24 hour TPN now for nearly a year. It’s been hard work, they still can’t get his levels right, this time his potassium and sodium are very low. He also had a line infection a few weeks ago and he was really quite poorly in hospital but he bounced back quickly and we managed to go on holiday with Mummy doing the gruelling IV regime. As it stands at the moment we believe Rowan isn’t absorbing any of his medicines anymore either. His pain has increased dramatically recently and a day out to GOSH took 36 hours to recover from. Our first trip to the hospice was fun, but again they commented how uncontrolled his pain was, so they are trying to get us some help with that. It took Rowan 48 hours to feel better after being at the hospice, he really wasn’t too good at all!!

Post helps more at these times than you can imagine, as a distraction and as a reminder that people are thinking about him. The excitement sometimes overrules the pain for those few minutes. Katrina, Cameron and Ayden also thoroughly appreciate their post. They know that although Mummy is often very busy with Rowan, they do have something for themselves, and will take themselves off somewhere quiet to play with their little gifts or read their post.

Thank you to everyone who continues to send post to Rowan. He will be back at GOSH on 15th September for a few days for some more tests. At the moment I hope they find something, that a test comes back abnormal, so that we can help Rowan, in some way at least. There is currently no option for him other than 24 hour TPN. No forward plan as they still can’t work out what’s going on, but he is definitely unfeedable. Despite all this he adapts and faces most days with a smile and determination. Thank you for still posting to Rowan.

Update 9th August 2014

Rowan has been doing ok since the last time we updated. Still struggling with his pain and fatigue but working on getting a good balance for him. We have been concentrating on living life for the last few weeks!

We went to GOSH for the endocrine admission and it all went a bit wrong, and as no one was prepared to risk Rowan’s safety, obviously, we are rebooked for the 14/9 to do things a much safer way. Rowan’s MRI was, on the whole, ‘normal’. There were a few abnormalities but nothing we didn’t know already. So he is booked for a nuclear medicine test.

Rowan had a line infection, Klebsiella, last week. He showed signs of being unwell at 7am, but by 8:15am I was in my local hospital where he was extremely unwell for over 12 hours. However he pulled through and bounced back and we were discharged on twice a day IVs 48 hours later!

We then went on holiday. We went to Camp Bestival and has an absolutely amazing time despite the relentless IVs, but we were determined to go and enjoy ourselves!

Rowan has his first hospice stay next week and we have everything crossed it’s ok. It’s like an assessment to see how many nights we are entitled to as respite. While we are there we are hoping to fit in some of our new hobby, geocaching!!

Thank you so much for the post, especially Karen and Toni, and Kim and Stevie, and Sarah and Fudge the cat, and also the regular cards from Marty Longo.

Update 2nd May 2014

Rowan has recently been back in to Great Ormond Street for 2 weeks to try and get him back onto some milk into his small bowel after the clinical incident last September. Unfortunately this completely failed, but we have not yet given up. Rowan is awaiting various tests and scans to still try and figure out what is going on for him with a view to finding a way forwards, or back to where he used to be. We have, however, had the discussion that Rowan can live purely on TPN and lollies for quite a long time as long as his liver manages ok and so far it seems ok. Rowan will also be going back into GOSH for a week on 12th May to try and determine why he is no longer responding to his endocrine treatment plan, and find a way forward with this too. His pain is also, as always, an issue, but he soldiers on through determined not to let it ruin his life. Sometimes he’s a little too determined and we are still figuring out the pacing!

I wanted to say thank you to those who sent Rowan birthday cards and gifts, he was very pleased! It means so much to him to receive these as none of his (or my) family sent cards, or really acknowledged this huge milestone of turning 5. We went to West Midlands Safari Park for his birthday and he had a fantastic time, as did Cameron with all the animals!

Update 27th December 2013

Rowan just wanted to say a really big thank you to everyone who sends him and his siblings post. We are going through a pretty tough time at the moment and post brings the much needed distractions.

Rowan has been quite poorly. He has needed a course of IV antibiotics for a line infection and has lost an awful lot of weight and all his muscles are wasted and all his tone is awful. He will now need splints and is spending a lot of time in his wheelchair. The physio has said he will need to go back to a walking frame for a while soon as he is struggling so much. So it’s a huge step backwards for him, but we are remaining positive that this is just a blip. However, another GOSH stay may be imminent. We have 4 weeks to turn things around. His pain is difficult to manage and he is tired all the time, very pale and very inactive. He still has that cheeky gorgeous smile and plenty of attitude though.

We had a really nice Christmas at home just the 5 of us. Much excitement over Rowan’s walkie talkies from Santa (the one thing he asked for!).

Thank you so much for all the elf gifts, Christmas gifts and Christmas cards. With no family and very few friends it makes us feel very loved!! There are a few people we wanted to say thank you to. The high school in America who made cards for the children, thank you! The brownies who sent Katrina’s elf parcel! She loves her box of treasures, thank you. Sarah and Fudge thank you (we knew it was you even though there was no name on it). Thank you Glad, for always finding amazing Mickey Mouse items!!

I also wanted to say a really really big thank you to Kim. Thank you for organising the elf project, we had great fun choosing the gifts we sent, as well as receiving some. Like I said, it’s nice to know that there is someone out there who spent time thinking about my children and the difficulties they go through, especially being so isolated. I also wanted to say thank you to Kim for making sure I wasn’t left out this Christmas and I already have some recipes written in my new book. Thank you everyone.

Update 3rd November 2013

The last month has been very eventful for us all, and not in a good way. Rowan went for a routine procedure to check out how his gut was doing and due a clinical error (that is now being investigated) spent a total of 32 days in hospital. Rowan had to have emergency surgery 12 hours after coming back from the planned procedure, to correct a huge error that happened, that has never happened before. He came out of theatre the second time and was very sore physically, but also scarred mentally. He had to have his stomach stitched back to his abdomen wall, and his gastrostomy tract sorting out. He had peritonitis, he then had a reaction to ketamine (he came out of theatre with analgesia) so had to have morphine only. He then grew 2 abscesses in his stomach. He then had an allergic reaction to an antibiotic that took 10 days to get under control. He then needed a blood transfusion. He then spiked temperatures. When we finally got to a point we thought we were winning we tried to give Rowan dioralyte. He was on 24 hour TPN until this point, completely nil by mouth. We gave him 5mls an hour, a teaspoon an hour, of basically sugary water, and the pain was immense, he needed extra pain relief. He didn’t leave his bed for weeks and weeks at a time. Something wasn’t right. So we let him have longer gut rest. We then tried again, 4 weeks after the emergency surgery and got the same response. His gastrostomy drainage output has almost doubled, it has blood in it, he’s still not very well. He had an endoscopy to see if they could see a reason for all the problems and everything seemed to be ok. So they could not find a reason for all his continued pain and feeding problems.

So, after 32 days, we came home. Rowan is still considered ‘unfeedable’. He has gone from a child who eats, has milk, and TPN, to a child who is on 24 hours TPN and has medications Intravenously, which he has not required up until now. At the moment he still doesn’t really show much interest in food, which is extremely concerning. The doctors are hoping that a while longer with gut rest and he will be fine, but they don’t really know to be honest.

Two days before we were due to come home, Ayden, Katrina, and Cameron came to visit us with some family friends. Ayden got hit by a cyclist while crossing a road, was thrown in the air, and smashed his forehead on the kerb. One car journey, immobilisation and ambulance journey on a spinal board later, we were at A&E with a big gash on his forehead that goes right down to the skull. They were unable to ‘fix’ him that night, so I had to take him back to UCLH on Saturday morning for surgery to fix his head. So I had two children, in two hospitals in London. It was certainly a long month!

Now that we are home, we have had half term. It’s been hard adjusting to a new routine, with all the children here all the time. Rowan’s mobility has decreased and he’s is so exhausted so quickly. We have had fun though thanks to a couple of friends, we have made this half term the best so far, from pumpkin carving, to hilarious road trips, to the cinema, and to bowling. All working around Rowan’s new harrowing schedule, but we did it. Rowan is back at GOSH on Friday for another minor procedure, hopefully it really is minor this time!

Thank you to everyone who sent Rowan post while he was in hospital, Dottie, Glad, Kim and Stevie, Louise, Karen, Toni and Connor, Laura J, and everyone else who sent us post, there are too many to mention. You have no idea how much these letters, cards and postcards mean to a bedridden child in pain.Some days the only time he would sit up, was when the post arrived.

Update 7th October 2013

Rowan is doing well, but still isn’t well enough to go home. We have tentatively started feeding him. He is still requiring morphine for pain. We will be here a little while longer yet.

Thank you to those who send post, it really does make him smile. The first time he sat up after his emergency surgery was to open post.

Update 29th September 2013

Just wanted to let you all know what’s been going on with Rowan recently. We came to GOSH for a routine motility test – the same one we tried in May but failed. It failed again, but he just wasn’t right afterwards. It was put down to being sore. We gave him medicine in his tube like always and he screamed. Very strange. Then he tried to sit up and he screamed solidly for 6 hours in agony. While everyone tried to work out what was going on, he was just in so much pain. At 11.30pm, 12 hours after we came back from IR, we finally had doctors and anaesthetists and surgeons and radiographers. While they were still working it out a consultant surgeon came in, took one look at him and said theatre NOW. By 00.15am he was in theatre and at 3.45am he came back with the perforation and displaced gastrostomy resolved. Hooked up to ketamine and morphine, and very very sore. He then had a reaction to the ketamine, couldn’t wee, and has numerous infections.

So that’s where we are now. He is not allowed to eat until next weekend at the earliest. We are just taking it one day at a time, he is not recovering as quick as the teams would like but always at his own pace.

Thank you to Denise and Kim and Glad for both mine and Rowan’s bits. Amongst all this I passed out when we went to get Rowan from theatre the second time due to lack of food and fluids. It’s hard to explain how you can just forget to eat and drink in a crisis, and this combined with a lack of sleep, and high stress/anxiety lead to me having a little lay down on the floor. I am ok now and thanks to Kim, Glad, and Denise, I have food and drink supplies whether I can leave the ward or not. Thank you.

Update 10th September 2013

Rowan’s life has been the same as the last post. We still battle the pain, and now he is carrying his backpack around more often he is getting a pain in his back that he says is ‘burning’. So far we aren’t sure if it’s helping or not but we’ll see, these things are never quick to change for Rowan it’s always slow progress. On top of that he has yet another infection, so more antibiotics for him. He is getting pretty sick of them to be honest, with ‘not ANOTHER one’ when the extra syringe is added to the row of other syringes with medicines, all of which he has little nick names for, and I tell him it’s an antibiotic. But life is how it is for him, and he’s determined not to let it get in the way.

Rowan started school last week. He has had 4 days there and he is LOVING it. It makes him exhausted, his pain has increased, but he is so happy to just get up and go to school each morning with a bit smile on his face. Thank you to those who sent Rowan ‘1st day at school cards’ I didn’t even know they made those!! He was really thrilled! Today he went sailing with his new carer. Rowan has a couple of favourites when it comes to carers, and I am sure the new lady will be a firm favourite! He had an amazing time and looked so happy. I am rather jealous however!

In just 15 days time Rowan will be admitted to GOSH for 3 days. Then he will be home for a week, and then he will be back for 5 days. These are for the tests that failed at our last admission.

Thank you so much to Sarah for Rowan’s underwater dough as that is in the box to take to GOSH, along with the activity book. Thanks to Karen and Toni for Rowan’s stationary for school, we can’t wait to use it to start learning to write. I can’t remember who sent Rowan a pencil shaped pencil tin with mickey pencils inside, but thank you for those too. Thank you to Viks for Rowan’s fab ride-on JCB it’s a firm favourite!! Also thank you to Glad for the top, he really will be a Brighter Spark soon!

Update 17th August 2013

I just wanted to quickly apologise for not updating recently. Illness has gotten in the way. Since the last admission, things haven’t really changed too much. Rowan’s pain has not really improved and he’s now struggling with lower back pain. We checked that his spine is ok, and it is, and we checked that his kidneys are ok as he had nephrocalcinosis before, but that seems to have gone as well. Apparently it is very uncommon in young children to have back pain and they could come up with no reasons or solutions or treatments, so this continues for him.

Rowan is due to go to GOSH again next month to try and redo some of these tests although at the moment it looks like there are problems with his gut which prevent some of these tests being done. As it stands, we have increased some of his medicines to try and help him out; we have changed his formula milk, increased his TPN a bit. We were reducing his TPN to try and wean him off, as that was always the aim, but we got to a point where he was unable to make simple decisions, such as ‘which film do you want watch’ and he became very clingy and upset, and very high maintenance. Since increasing the TPN Rowan is back to his usual self, making choices and making sure we are all aware of them! We tried to get Rowan off his milk feed for longer in the day times, but he is having 3 hours sleep in the day. This is not usual for a 4 year old. So we are going to try and go back to feeds in the day to see if it gives him a bit of an energy boost, and stops him being so exhausted. He also now has a drainage bag attached to his gastrostomy for a bigger chunk of the day to try and easy some of the bloating and stomach pain and it seems to be helping a little bit. We are also still plagued with a multitude of infections that we just don’t seem to be able to clear no matter how many antibiotics we throw at them.

Apart from the extras we have been thrown, the main focus over the last couple of months has been on sorting things out so that Rowan can go to school in September. He is SO excited to be going to big school with Cameron, Katrina and Ayden. He has met his teachers and his helpers and he can’t wait. He will only be going part time, to try and limit the pain a little a bit, and we’ll see from there.

Rowan loves all his post. Thank you so much for making him smile, it really does brighten the children’s day when the ‘post lady’ arrives.

Update 31st May 2013

Rowan just wants to say a really big thank you to everyone who sends him post, especially when he’s not doing so well. Rowan was in GOSH for what was meant to be a battery of tests to help us understand Rowan’s gastro problems better. However this just didn’t happen. When we arrived we did the usual blood tests, swabs etc. I already knew he had infections, and took the swabs over a week before we were due to go to GOSH in the hopes we could get some treatment, however this didn’t happen, and Rowan ended up riddled with infections. Each time he gets an infection it progresses more quickly. So, a lot of the tests were cancelled. Rowan had an EGG (Electrogastrogram) and he had a liquid gastric emptying study. They attempted to do an ADM (Antroduodenal Manometry), but they couldn’t get the probe in, they tried for 2 hours. The radiologist said that his stomach and his bowel just aren’t right. Usually the gut helps to push the probe through but it wouldn’t. They even tried taking his Gastrostomy out and pushing the probe through the hole there and it still wouldn’t go in. It would appear from this that he has gut dysmotility. This is no huge surprise to anyone to be honest. It took two hours of them pushing, pulling, poking, prodding, luckily Rowan was under General Anaesthetic but he is very very sore, and currently not eating properly.

We also saw our new Endocrine doctor, who believes he may be able to give Rowan a partial diagnosis at some point and has a few different ideas as to what may be going with Rowan from an Endocrine point of view. For now Rowan’s care has increased again, his list of medications has rapidly grown. We will probably have to go back to GOSH for the tests to be done. The pain team didn’t have any ideas really, they considered a TENs machine, but decided he was too young, although they did recognise the pain (thanks to the aid of videos) and are hoping to get my local team more on board with his issues. We will have to also go back to GOSH for 2 weeks of Physio rehab at some point too as it’s agreed his mobility is worse and he is even weaker than he was before, despite the physio, so they need to look at him again properly, which will be the 12th June.

Thank you for all Rowan’s post! He LOVES his letters from Blossom (Kim Lawrence), and all the Dottie post. As always, Denise knows just how to make little man smile, and Rowan’s book from Glad kept him entertained for ages in hospital. Receiving the post actually in hospital, made his day. He was SO excited! I hope to update again soon, with more positive news hopefully.

Update 30th March 2013

So, it was November since we last updated! Since then we had Christmas, which was the best Christmas I think we’ve ever had. We went away for Christmas and the children had a fabulous time, and were very very spoilt!

Since then, Rowan has continued to struggle with his pain and fatigue. We have not been able to get him to nursery for any longer than 90 minutes per day and this causes him pain. However, he faces it with a determination, and no matter how much pain he’s in, he wants to go to ‘nerfery’. There has been no progress on this side since November, still no one is investigating his pain, or helping him, or providing us with any better pain relief. It is these times when post really helps Rowan. When the children’s post arrives, they get so excited and are really happy. The children love reading through the post and trying to decipher some of the handwriting.

Rowan went back to GOSH last month for an outpatients appointment and we are trying to wean Rowan off of his TPN. This is difficult being a single parent as he regularly wakes up through the night hungry due to hyperphagia (obsessive eating). He has gained a little bit of weight and a little bit of height and now seems like a good time. Unfortunately this is not as easy as it sounds.  Rowan is on an enteral feed. He is fed directly through tube into his small bowel. He is fed a very special very concentrated prescription formula milk, via a pump and this is now 24/7. In order to wean him from his TPN, we have to increase the feed as we decrease the TPN. This is already causing problems. Rowan is in more pain carrying his backpack around and he has leg pains and back pains. He is also suffering again with bloating and stomach pain/cramps therefore he is needing to have a drainage bag, attached to the tube that is in his tummy (he has two tubes) to try and drain out whatever is causing the bloating. Some days are better than others, some days he’s absolutely fine, other days we flit between screaming and clingy and asleep.

Also, since I last updated the children and I have moved house. It was very exciting but also quite difficult for the children. They now seem to be settling, and have the added bonus of being able to ‘play out’ now that we don’t live on a main road anymore. There are lots of other children who live near us too so they have been making friends. I can’t wait until the summer when I am sure they will be outside all the time. Also, we now have a nice little garden, which will mean that Rowan can also play outside when it’s warmer.

February brought us a letter that I had been awaiting for a long time. The confirmation that Rowan is starting school. He is going to the same school as his big brothers and sister in September. This is such a huge milestone for any child, but especially a child who has struggled and continues to struggle, like Rowan. Luckily for us this means that the 1:1 he already has for nursery, should go with him into reception, so there shouldn’t be too much upheaval. Also, as Ayden is already in reception, Rowan has regularly visited therefore shouldn’t be too difficult to transition. I took Rowan into our local school uniform shop and ordered Rowan’s ‘smaller than usual’ school uniform jumpers. No one is quite sure where to find trousers to fit him, or tshirts, but we’re working on it! At the moment we are not sure how school will pan out for Rowan as he currently doesn’t attend the 15 hours all other 3 year olds who go to nursery do and he is very nearly 4. It’s looking highly unlikely that Rowan will be going to school full time and will start off part time. How we increase that we’re not sure at the moment with the pain being so prevalent, but he is very excited to be a ‘big boy’.

April brings us a very very exciting week. Rowan, Ayden, Cameron, Katrina and I are going on holiday. This is our first ever holiday. We are going with a couple of my family members and the children are extremely excited!! We are off to Devon. It’s all booked and paid for, school have agreed the children can have a week off school, and the car is hired. Two adults, 5 children, and a 5 hour drive to Devon. This is no mean feat with Rowan, but we are determined to make some happy memories.

The children have had a lot of post. Ayden loves receiving his letters from Liam and is writing one back as I type. Katrina loves reading the letters from Laura J. Cameron receives a lot less post than the others, but loves his post from Jacqui. Rowan absolutely loved the card he received from class 1CN! And the Easter Bunny ears and Bubbles that Sarah and Fudge sent went down a treat! All the children are so excited when their post arrives, it really brightens their evening. Thank you to everyone.

Update 26th November 2012

Rowan has received some really lovely postcards this month. Thank you to everyone who has sent him cards, little notes, postcards, little presents, stickers. He appreciates everything.

This month has been really rough on Rowan with pain in his legs. As yet, no one is treating this pain with pain relief, or investigating where it’s coming from. It’s affecting his sleep, and mine. On a positive note, those night nurses are earning their money! Rowan’s still not gaining any height, despite the doses of Growth Hormone, so we now need to try and cut his calories down to prevent him from becoming overweight, as although gaining roughly 100g a month is pretty rubbish, without growing upwards, the extra weight will begin to cause lots of problems. As yet we don’t know why he isn’t growing upwards still. Rowan remains on TPN, but it’s all being tweaked to try and reduce the calories. The problem with this is that the more TPN they take away, the more oral food Rowan eats to compensate. He has an additional label of hyperphagia to go with everything else. With all the additional oral foods, his gastroenterology problems are exacerbated. So we’re back to bloating, stomach pains, constipation as well. It’s very difficult to keep on top of and keep him comfortable!

On a positive note, Rowan is loving going to ‘nerfery’. Although this is still causing problems with pain, as a little 3 and a half year old it’s fantastic. He’s learning his numbers, and recognising them spontaneously and he’s working on putting them in order. He’s just coming on leaps and bounds cognitively. Physically he’s still really behind and the closer he gets to 4, the more noticeable the difference. Rowan is as yet unable to jump, he can’t step up the curb without needing to hold onto something, or someone. He is unable to negotiate uneven flooring still. He struggles to climb up and down things. Despite this, he still manages to cause chaos, with a big cheeky grin on his face! Sending Rowan to nursery was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, but it’s paid off as he loves it. And, despite the pain, he gets everything he can out of nursery. He can tell you who his friends are and it’s really nice that he’s being able to access the things he deserves. And for that, we are grateful to the school, they would do anything to keep Rowan included. For example, this week, Rowan will attend his first ever DISCO!! He will have someone with him one to one, to keep an eye on him, and that one to one will not be me. He is learning some independence, and that we are not attached at the hip, and I am learning that i can just be Mummy sometimes, like the other Mummies. I don’t have to be there, I can pick him up afterwards and hear all about it, like I do with Ayden, Cameron and Katrina, rather than already knowing, because I was there.

Ayden has been into GOSH as well. It has been confirmed that Ayden has a problem with low blood sugar levels, hypoglycaemia. He is not coping too well with this, as he’s not allowed to go all night without eating. An average 4 year old should be able to fast 18 hours with no real problems. Ayden was struggling after 7 hours and at a dangerous level after 10 hours. Therefore he is now no longer allowed to go all night without eating. I have to wake him up around 10pm for a drink and a snack. This is causing problems with his sleep pattern and he’s back to having a sleep in the day, usually just after he comes home from school! We await a better plan from GOSH as this can not continue for him, or for me. It would also appear that Ayden is not growth hormone deficient as originally suspected. So where the hypoglycaemia comes from we don’t know as yet.

Cameron and Katrina are doing as well as can be expected at the moment. Lots of changes happening at home, and I am doing the best I can to keep things to a minimum, and keep things consistent. We are moving house in the new year and the children are looking forward to being able to choose how they have their new rooms. They have all agreed that they will dedicate a space on the walls in their rooms for all their fantastic post, so when they are feeling a little sad, they can look at the letters, pictures, cards and postcards. This will all happen at the same time Rowan goes back into GOSH for 2 weeks for some more horrendous testing to try and form a better plan, and to try and work out what’s going on, and maybe get a few more diagnosis’. At this point I don’t get my hopes up. Lots of plans are always mentioned and nothing seems to come of them. Communication is often not medical professionals’ forte! So for now, we plod along as best we can, looking forward to Christmas, and a fresh start in 2013!

Thank you to all of those who send messages to me too. I really appreciate them, especially at this difficult time.

Update 17th October 2012

Rowan has now started nursery and is thoroughly enjoying his time there. Although this is an activity that he loves, it comes with it lots of problems. Rowan is having problems with his pain levels and he’s getting every single cough/cold/runny nose possible. He has also had infected feeding tubes for around 4-5 months now. We are on our last option to clear the infection, and it’s still there, and yet no one knows where we go from here, or why he’s constantly got infections. Rowan has also had problems with his blood sugars and his gut. It’s not really working properly and no one is sure why.

Next week, Rowan and Ayden are off to Great Ormond Street again, both for various fasting tests and xrays, to try and maintain a little more stability for them. Whilst Rowan is struggling, he always approaches it with a smile, although more recently he’s been very clingy and cuddly. On a plus side, his weight and growth has remained static all this time, and while that’s a little frustrating because he should be growing (especially as his appetite has increased again) it’s also positive because being ill and struggling with infection hasn’t caused the usual big weight loss.

Rowan will also need to go into Great Ormond Street soon for about 3 weeks for motility testing to find out exactly which bits of his gut aren’t working properly. These tests are not very nice for any child. Also having our family completely separated again will cause problems for all the children.

The children would like to say a huge thank you for all their post, and letters, and monthly projects! Rowan particularly loves the Mickey mouse tshirt that Glad recently send him, and all the children love their post from Natashja. They often receive more postcards, cards and letters, than i receive, and it’s a lot more exciting that’s for sure!! On those days that Rowan really struggles and a letter lands on the doormat for him, it instantly puts a smile on his face. Thank you so much for making my children smile, especially at the moment.

Story written 2012

Olivia was diagnosed with Neuroblastoma stage 4 cancer at the age of 4 after limping and a series of back pains and fatigue. She’s had the general protocol of treatment for Neuroblastoma, high dose chemo, surgery radiation, repeat chemo and transplant from the NHS at Glasgows Yorkhill Hospital and Royal Aberdeen Children’s Hospital. She then went to Germany with her family to have immunotherapy treatment and had 5 doses of the immunotherapy. Sadly whilst on this treatment Germany discovered Olivia had relapsed in her ribs so the treatment stopped.

After the news of relapse, Olivia started another German treatment called RIST therapy which is another form of chemotherapy. It hit her hard she was often hospitalised due to the side effects and infections. It helped for a few months by shrinking the tumours, but soon the tumours spread whilst on treatment so it had to stop. Olivia has since twice been to the Hufeland clinic in Germany to detoxify her body of all the poison from the treatments and cancer and have some holistic therapies.

Recent scans in March 2012 have show Olivia’s disease has spread extensively throughout the spine ribs and pelvis area including shoulder blade. Her Mum and Dad have been giving her photodynamic therapy every day along with ultrasound treatment, infrared sauna and a range of vitamins. Doctors have said that her cancer can not be cured, but her mum and dad refuse to focus on this and won’t give up on their little princess who they worship. Olivia is has a little sister Jessica 20 months old and is due a new brother or sister in September.

On the 6th of June we heard Olivia has gone downhill, she is confined to bed and feeling sad. Her parents are looking at treatment options in Mexico. Please send lots of cheerful smiles to Olivia.

Update 29th June 2012

We are very sad to say Olivia passed away this morning. She became very ill whilst having treatment in Mexico and members of the public were moved by Olivia’s story and donated money to fly her home on life support. She passed away with her family by her side.

Story written 2011

Melissa has had a very difficult start in life. She was born 8 weeks prematurely and shortly after was diagnosed deaf.

When Melissa was 13 months old, she was diagnosed with Acute T-cell Lymphoblastic Lymphoma. She has had many setbacks, including Gulliain Barre Syndrome, which left her paralysed from head to toe.

She has now learnt to walk again for the third time. She has also gained some hearing, which is great news.

She is a very brave little lady who keeps amazing us every day.

Update 29th January 2013

Hi everyone!

Melissa is now ready to move on from Post Pals and give the chance to some one else. We have loved being a part of your fab charity and have made some life long friends, for sure! Thank you for all you do and our post and we will keep writing to Pals in the future!!

Lots of love, Moona and Melissa xx

Update 28th March 2012

Melissa’s scans were all clear, but they are concerned about her getting respiratory problems so easily. They started her on I.V. immunoglobulins again to boost her immunity. She is not a very big fan of the cannulas, but she is a very brave little girl. She knows that she needs the medicine to make her better!

Update 8th March 2012

Melissa loves getting mail. She has been getting letters all over the world lately; she had some from Netherlands, USA, Japan, Finland! Melissa speaks Finnish, so if anyone from Finland sees this, feel free to write in Finnish!  Melissa loves the Moomins, especially Niiskuneiti and Pikku Myy.

Melissa has been doing very well, but we’ve started to see what the long term effects of chemo can be like. Melissa’s teeth are not doing well, and she probably has to have quite a few pulled out. She has an appointment in few weeks to see what the plan will be. She is down to just one daily medication now which is awesome! She will have some scans on the 20th and we are of course hoping that all looks clear!!

Update 17th November 2011

I just wanted to let you all know that Melissa has been so happy with all the lovely mail!! She recently had an awful day in the hospital… she had GFR, IV immunoglobulins (had a very bad reaction), DNA testing, she had 2 cannulas and 1 butterfly put in for all the bloods… and she was very brave, but it really was a long day. It was so nice to come home, because there was some really lovely mail waiting for her, including a flying fairy!! She was just sooo happy and soon forgot all about the terrible day spent in the hospital.

Thank you so much for all you do, you have made my girl smile so many times already, it is truly wonderful to see.

Update 3rd October 2011

Melissa is now home, but still keeps having temp spikes. They weren’t able to find out what’s making her poorly.

Thank you ever so much for all the letters, cards and gifts, they have really cheered her up, especially during our latest hospital stay. Melissa loves getting mail!!

Melissa loved all the cards; she even got one from New York!! She also got one that was completely blank! Melissa absolutely adores her My Little Ponies and all the stickers have found a place. They’ve been so nice to have when we’ve been in the hospital; she has made lots of art!

Thank you so much for all that you do, you’ve made my girl smile so many times already!

Update 25th September 2011

Melissa has been in hospital for few days now with a very high temp (over 41c). Doctors can’t figure out what’s making her poorly. She has been sick once a month like this since Christmas. She has a very hard time breathing and she is breathing 80 respirations/minute. Hopefully antibiotics will work as we’d love to have her home soon!

Story written 2011

Jamie was diagnosed with severe long segment Hirschprung’s Disease when he was 3 days old as he was born with a severe intestinal blockage and required immediate surgery.

He has since undergone five further surgeries which were major and to remove more blocked bowel. Jamie has a hickman line and receives TPN and intravenous fluid through this every night.

Jamie also has a permanent illeostomy bag because as a result of his disease, he has short bowel syndrome and not enough bowel to have a pull through procedure.

Jamie has spent at least two years of his life in hospital and is constantly in and out with dehydration and infections. Jamie will hopefully receive a small bowel transplant when he runs out of venous access as his life depends on him having a central line.

Jamie is a very happy, lovely boy who copes fantastically well with his illness but I feel he would be so pleased to receive some post from people. It would really cheer him up when he is poorly.

Update 14th June 2021

Jamie is suffering with a lot of tummy pain at the moment. He tries to keep smiling but it is grinding him down bless him. Birmingham Children’s Hospital have accepted Jamie’s referral so they are going to offer advice and treatment going forward which is really good as we have wanted a 2nd opinion for many years.

Thank you again to everyone who sends post to Jamie and Keeley and to Ally and everyone who helps post pals as it is appreciated so much and makes such a massive difference.

Update 9th April 2021

Jamie’s health remains the same as the last time I updated on the whole. He is spending even more time in bed due to his legs and feet hurting badly due to circulation issues and hypermobility. He is due to go to hospital at the beginning of May for further tests and a big review. They would like him to have a trial of nasogastric feeding which will be upsetting for him if it goes ahead.The doctors would also like to introduce daily injections into his treatment plan to try to slow down his stoma output. It is an uncertain time really and we are hoping that a 2nd opinion from Birmingham will be a fresh pair of eyes on his condition.

Thank you to everyone at post pals that make this possible and to everyone who sends post to the children and also a big thank you to Kerry and Mark who send post each month

Update 19th February 2021

Thank you so much to the lovely people that send them post, it makes such a difference to them and it is so appreciated. They both loved the Amazon voucher and sweeties, thank you, and the lovely balloons, thank you kind people so much. Also thank you to Kerry and Mark for the fab presents.

Jamie’s health has unfortunately declined as his body is struggling to cope nutritionally so he has been even more exhausted than usual and he has been having problems with his blood not clotting properly, so he has been in hospital more which at the moment especially is worrying. He has been referred to Birmingham Children’s Hospital to be seen by the intestinal failure specialist there and also the vascular team about his limited central line access.

Jamie and Keeley both absolutely love cats and anything to do with cats as they have a black cat called Daisy who is a massive comfort and best friend to them both. Jamie loves playing Fortnite on his Xbox and Keeley enjoys playing Roblox, however it will be so nice when the warmer weather comes and they can sit outside in the garden again.

Thank you again to everyone who sent post to the children this month or anytime in the past and also a massive thank you to Ally and everyone at Post Pals you all put big smiles on their faces 🙂

Update 20th August 2020

Jamie’s condition remains mostly the same. He is on an intravenous fluid drip for 12 hours every night . His central line has become overgranulated again, so he will need to go into hospital soon to have a new one inserted. 

As he is getting older unfortunately it is becoming more and more noticeable that Jamie gets tired much much easier than his friends, and he really struggles to do much at all before having to lay on his bed again. He is starting secondary school in September and I really hope he will manage to attend more than he did at primary school and that he will cope due to his energy levels being so low. 

Update 20th June 2019

Jamie is very tired at the moment and has been resting a lot. He is going to be having some big tests on his veins over the next couple of months as his venous system is struggling due to being intravenously fed every night for most of the last 10 years. He keeps smiling and is an inspiration to me how he copes with everything he has to deal with daily. 

I would like to say a big thank you to Kerry and Mark for their lovely gifts 😊 and for always thinking of Jamie and Keeley and brightening up their days ⭐️  and to everyone who sends post and presents to the children – you make such a huge difference to their lives, thank you so much 😊

Update 19th December 2018

Jamie’s condition remains the same. Life is constantly up and down for him. He is still attached to his Intravenous drip for 12 hours each day. Jamie is struggling more with his condition as he gets older. His bowel has obstructed several times in the last few months, which is painful for him and dangerous. His central line will need changing in January, which involves an operation and hospital stay. He will most probably be having TPN alongside his fluid, as he is struggling to fight infections and put weight on, so needs more calories intravenously. This carries a greater risk of central line infection, however it is unavoidable, as Jamie has been feeling very lethargic and poorly lately. 

We would like to thank everyone who has sent post to Jamie and Keeley- it really does make such a massive difference to their lives and brightens the day up so much. 😁❤️

I have also received a lovely parcel this month and several lovely letters. Thank you so much. It really did make my day 😁❤️

A huge thank you to Kerry and Mark for your lovely gifts ❤️❤️ The kids love receiving your post 😁😁 They love their dressing gowns thank you x 

Thank you for everything you do and all your hard work at post pals – it so very appreciated x 

Update 10th October 2017

Jamie is up and down as usual, but he always gets on and makes the best of every situation – he is really so special. At the moment he is battling yet another line infection which we are hoping will be cleared with antibiotics, as he doesn’t have many places left to site a central line, as his veins are so shut down. He has been undergoing lots of tests to see how his dehydration levels are, despite being on an intravenous drip every night. Thank you to everyone who has sent the children cards, letters and presents – it is so kind of you all and it definitely puts a big smile on their faces. Thank you to Kerry and Mark for their lovely post, and to all of you at Post Pals for your hard work and kindness.

Update 16th January 2017

I hope everyone has had a lovely Christmas and New Year. Thank you so much to everyone who sent Jamie and Keeley presents and cards over Christmas, they were all lovely surprises and made Christmas even more special, thank you. Jamie has had lots of hospital appointments lately as he had a new central line inserted in October. After battling a bad line infection for over a month and being in hospital for much of that time, it became apparent that the infection wasn’t going to clear. Unfortunately Jamie doesn’t have much access left, as his veins are quite shut down, so the only place they could insert the new line was on his tummy next to his stoma bag, which makes it very hard to keep his dressing and line sterile and clean at all times. So he is having very regular check ups. Jamie tries very hard to stay positive, bless him, and tries to blend in with his friends at school and keep up with them.

There are so many lovely people to thank for your kindness and I want to say a big thank you to all of you that sent post. Me and Jamie will send letters to you very soon to say personal thank yous.
Thank you to Vikki and everyone at Post Pals for all your hard work and for making Post Pals possible.
Thank you to you too Ally, and I hope you and your baby girl are well.

Update 7th October 2016

Jamie has had a very difficult couple of months and has been in and out of hospital. He has missed a lot of school. He has got a central line skin infection, which despite a month of IV antibiotics, hasn’t cleared. He is going to QMC next week to have a new central line fitted because his veins are weak, they have few places left to insert them, so this will be tricky. Jamie has also been extremely tired and has had many days where his tummy has been misbehaving and he has felt rubbish.
Thank you to everyone who has sent him and his sisters post and/ or parcels it really does brighten their day! Thank you also to Kerry and Mark, your kindness is amazing, we feel like we know you and when the kiddies open their gifts from you, they always say “ah yay look it’s from Kerry and Mark” A big thank you also to Vikki and everyone at post pals for all of your hard work and for making all this magic happen.

Update 7th July 2016

Jamie’s care remains the same- he is very carefully looked after and has lots of medicines and Iv fluid overnight. The regime he is on seems to work for him and he has been mostly stable touch wood although he has had a bad virus which wiped him out but thankfully he is over that now. He always struggles with his energy levels- it is a daily battle to keep him hydrated and his fluid balance positive due to his short bowel and stoma. Jamie always puts a smile on his face even when he feels tired and poorly which is why he is so amazing.

Update 30th January 2016

Jamie is very up and down and this is a constant thing. Although he has been at home for several months, on many days he has very little energy and feels very poorly due to having short bowel and not absorbing enough nutrients to give him sufficient energy. He is always brave and I’m very proud of him for how he deals with feeling very drained much of the time. He is currently having tests to assess if his kidneys are damaged due to being intravenously fed since birth.

Also we would like to say a massive thank you to everyone at Post Pals for everything they do, and a really big thank you to everyone who is kind enough to send post. It really does make the children’s day and is so lovely to see the smiles on their faces which you all make possible. Thank you.

Update 13th October 2015

Jamie has been struggling with dehydration even more than usual this month. His energy levels have been very low and he has been feeling poorly much of the time. Since being back at school he has also picked up several viruses which always have a big impact on his condition and make him much weaker due to him having a short bowel. Jamie loves to receive all of your post – it puts a big smile on his face and it is so kind of you all, thank you. It also makes Charlie and Keeley’s day to receive post. Big thank you the lovely Kerry and Mark for making the children very happy with their generous gifts and cards. Thank you Vikki and Ally for all your hard work, it is much appreciated.

Update 24th April 2015

Jamie had a rough couple of months at the beginning of the year, as he had a lump growing in his mouth which kept bleeding profusely. He was off school for about a month and had an operation at Queen’s medical centre to remove and biopsy it. After an anxious wait, the results came back that the lump was benign. However, Jamie was in a lot of pain for a few weeks afterwards and it put him off eating which affected his bowel.

Thankfully he is having a steady month so far and the sunshine seems to be having a positive affect on him. There is no change to his condition or level of care and he is still attached to his iv fluids every night for 12 hours.

Jamie has had a fantastic amount of post over the last few months. Thank you very much to everyone that has written to Jamie or sent him a card, it makes him smile so much when he sees the postman coming up the path with post for him, or when he gets home from school and has some post waiting for him. The girls also love receiving post, thank you so much for everything you do.

The balloons were such a wonderful surprise, when they opened the boxes and the balloons floated out they looked amazed! What a lovely idea, thank you Post Pals.

Thank you to the Christmas elves; Claudia, Claire, Rachel and Rebecca, for the lovely presents they sent. Thank you to Kirsty for the frozen bubbles and the Turtles etcher sketcher, Jamie had hours of fun with it. Thank you to Natasja for the Green Lantern lego mini figure, Jamie was so excited when he opened it! Thank you to Maria for the frozen gifts as Keeley loved them. Thank you to Millie and Fly for the party bags, we hope you had a lovely birthday. Thank you Toni, Sammi and Connor, for the Halloween treats and the lego men crayons, they were super cool. Thank you to Jenny for the fossils from the Sedgewick Museum, Jamie was fascinated by them and took them into school for show and tell! Thank you to Carrie for Charlie’s Halloween gift as she loved it. Jamie loved the Christmas cards from Santa, Mary and the reindeers, they were very special and made Christmas even more magical. Thank you to Little Acorns Day Nursery, the fundraiser was a brilliant idea, and Jamie loved the pictures and cards, it’s so special when small children have made things for him! Thank you also to the children from nursery yellow class and class 5 at Scraptoft Primary School, the hard work the children put into making the cards was so touching and they were great!

A huge thank you to Kerry and Mark for the incredible game that you made for the children, wow I couldn’t believe how much hard work and detail you had put into making it! You are so clever it’s brilliant and they play with it lots! I really appreciate all of the lovely gifts that you send the children, you put so much thought into their presents and the kids really enjoy them. It is very kind of you and means a lot to the children that you have regularly thought of them.

Jamie has received a large number of cards and letters this year and I want to say a massive thank you to everyone that sent him post, there have been some really special cards and letters and the amount of effort that people have put into making them is amazing. Thank you to everyone who has sent Jamie mail, it makes him so happy.

Update 7th August 2014

Jamie is enjoying the summer sunshine, however he is having a very up and down time at the moment. He has had lots of hospital appointments lately and has been having lots of tests. He has been suffering with tummy ache due to bowel spasms which aren’t nice for him.

Thank you all at Post Pals for your hard work, it makes a huge difference to our lives and means so much to Jamie, Keeley and Charlie, when kind people send cards and gifts as they know someone has been thinking about them.

I’m sorry if I miss any thank you’s off the list this time but every card and present that has been sent has been very much appreciated. Thank you everyone!

I would like to say a massive thank you to Kerry and Mark, bless you. Keeley loves your presents so much – when they arrive she says it’s treasure! She knows your handwriting now and says ‘yay treasure from Kerry and Mark!’. The box of summer fun you sent this week is amazing, thank you. They have been playing with the indoor beach loads and the inflatable dolphin has to go everywhere with them!! The bag and towel are so cute – Keeley has put all her summery things in it. Jamie loved his pirate treasure too and Keeley’s princess stories are so special.

Jamie has received lots and lots of cards, thank you everyone. We stick them up in his bedroom so he can see them. Thank you to Toni, Karen and Sami and also Sarah G for your lovely post. To Marge for the card with supersnake inside – he loved it! Thanks to Kelly Taylor for the Disney photographs – they were fab!

Thank you for lovely gifts that have been received too. Thank you to Post Pals for the lovely easter gifts and to Becky for Charlie’s One Direction socks. Thank you to Karen, Toni and Sami, for the activity books and Charlie’s 1D book. Thank you to Niall Collins for Jamie’s turtle lego – he loved it! Thank you to Jenny for the easter treats, the children had fun making biscuits with the bunny cutter! Thank you to Gemma for the book and frog sock! Thank you to Claire Stevens for the lego – it’s Jamie’s fave thing to do!

If there is any one I haven’t thanked this time I apologise, all of the post and gifts the children receive puts a big smile on their faces.

Update 27th February 2014

Jamie is still very up and down with his condition and he had his hickman line replaced at the end of December. The doctors struggled to get a new line in due to the shortage of good veins that are left and he was very sore for a couple of weeks afterwards because he had several wounds where they had attempted to insert new lines. At least he now has a line that bleeds back though so no more blood tests for a while.

Jamie is also having a lot of discomfort and mucus from his lower end which is another complication of his condition – it makes him very sore so we have been thinking of ways to make him smile. I think he will be going into hospital soon to have a big washout under general anesthetic. He continues to be a lovely and cheeky little chappy though.

Jamie has received lots of post since I last updated, thank you. It has been fantastic for him and it gives him such a lift when he sees the postman coming.

Thank you to Melanie Balban for the Christmas decorations book – the children had great fun making them. Thank you to Rebecca for the spiderman blanket – Jamie has enjoyed getting snuggly under it. Thank you to Kirsty and Andrea for the One Direction bracelet, card and stickers – Charlie really loved them. Thank you to Jane for the turtle hat – he wears it to school and looks very cool. Also, big thank you to Kerry and Mark for the lovely presents you sent the children – Keeley said it was like a treasure box. A big thank you to Donna for the lovely presents too – a big hit, as always.

Jamie has had lots of lovely cards too – thank you’s to Toni and Karen, the pirate ship was fab. Natasha, the crocodile picture was amazing. Sara, the post card from the zoo was lovely. Jamie says his favourite animals are lions. The cards from Lilliesheaf primary school were great, thank you. Jamie also had cards from Rhett and Nina (Beacon School), Kirsty and Claire, which he loved. He sticks them all up on his wall.

He also received some lovely letters. Thank you’s to Marty Longo and a Happy New Year to you too. To Jenny for the Christmas poem – I liked reading about your dog Baron. To Suzanne, your dog Skye sounds fun as well. Bayley, thanks for your superhero letter and thanks Lucy for your spiderman letter. Thank you to Laura for Keeley’s lovely birthday card too.

I would also like to say a massive thank you to everyone at the Post Pals team who work so hard to make all of this possible and brighten Jamie’s life up so much.

Update 11th October 2013

Jamie has received lots of cards this month because it was his birthday. Thank you very much to everyone who sent cards, he loved them. Also, many thanks to Marty Longo, Natasja, Teresa Fearon and Toni and Karen Sami for their regular post which always makes him smile. A big thank you to all of the children who made Jamie cards – they are fantastic, the children put so much effort in to making them and Jamie looks at them lots. Jamie also received a lovely spiderman letter from Lucy Sparkes, thank you. A huge thank you to Donna Trett for all of the lovely presents you have sent the children, it always makes their day when the postman brings a box of exciting treasures from you, they have been playing with their halloween goodies and the bubbles were a huge hit, thank you. Also a big thank you to Laura Jack for the ninja turtles connect four, Jamie loves it and has spent many happy hours playing it.

A massive thank you to all at Post Pals for all of your hard work, you make such a difference and make Jamie’s life much brighter.

Jamie has had an unsettled few months, his hickman line is still being temperamental and he has required quite a few blood tests recently which has been very distressing for him, as he has poor vein access and is becoming increasingly afraid of needles, due to the nurses having to hold him still while the doctors have numerous attempts. I think his central line is being replaced in next couple of months.

Jamie started school in September, however he is only really achieving part time attendance due to tiredness, tummy ache and dehydration. He is picking up lots of nasty viral infections due to being around lots of other children which he is not used to. He is just recovering from a nasty chest infection, but he keeps smiling and really is a little star.

Update 20th August 2013

Jamie has been relatively stable and is looking forward to going on a teddy bears picnic on friday. He has really enjoyed his post, thank you. Thanks to Donna for the lovely gifts and he also loved his lego. Thanks to everyone for the lovely cards – Karen decorated a lovely one for him.

Update 31st May 2013

Jamie has had an up and down month, mainly due to continued complications with his hickman line. He went back to QMC to have a linogram and a few other tests which were thankfully fine. However the doctors are still deciding whether or not to replace his line in the near future.

He is looking forward to starting school in September, however his energy levels are still at times quite low. He is also looking forward to some sunshine as he loves sitting out in the garden. Jamie has a bad cough at the moment which always affects his bowel function but hopefully he will shake it off soon.

Thank you very much to everyone that has written to Jamie, Charlie and Keeley this month. Hearing from you all always puts a smile on their faces. Thank you so much to everyone who sent Jamie, Charlie and Keeley gifts this month, they love them and you all make such a difference. Thank you very much for Post Pals continued support, it makes a huge difference to our lives and it is fantastic to see the children smile when the postman brings them a treat from Post Pals.

Update 3rd April 2013

Jamie has had an up and down few months, but on the whole he has been coping well. He has had lots of days of exhaustion and dehydration when he has to be attached to his iv fluid and has to lie down and just rest. Also, a couple of weeks ago Jamie and Keeley both had the chickenpox and were both very unwell and itchy with it. Unfortunately it affected Jamie’s bowel function due to his short bowel syndrome and it went into overdrive due to the virus causing dehydration, which coupled with the usual discomfort, made him sad. His spots have now scabbed over much to his relief!

Jamie’s post has cheered him up enormously during this time – thank you. Jamie is going to Queens Medical Centre hospital to see his consultant next week for a check up/review.

I would like to say a really big thank you to Natashja for the lovely gifts and letters, we all love to hear from you and your little girl and really appreciate you thinking about us. Also, a big thank you to Bron from the Post Pals team for the Lego, Jamie absolutely loved it and has had hours of fun. Thank you also to the children from the Thomas Clapham School for the beautiful cards they made for Jamie, they were fantastic and he loved them. To everyone else who has sent post to Jamie and his siblings, we are very grateful and it brightens their day. Thank you all very much for your continued support, we are very grateful and Jamie and his sisters love receiving post.

Update 8th November 2012

Jamie’s condition remains the same. He is managing at home mostly with a lot of medical care with short hospital stays in between for dehydration and side effects of his illness. Jamie has had quite a few problems with his Hickman central line recently so we are hoping it is not on its way out as it keeps not bleeding back, flushing etc, but thankfully each time so far it has been successfully unblocked. Jamie gets tired very easily but is still smiling and hopefully he will remain stable, fingers crossed.

I would like to thank everybody that has sent Jamie (also Charlie and Keeley) post since he has been on Post Pals. It has such a huge impact, it really cheers them up. Thank you this month to Wendy for the special cards and to Claudia for the octonauts puzzle, we have had lots of fun doing it. Also to Sarah for the cooking set, the kids made some yummy cookies. Thank you for all of your fantastic hard work, it is really appreciated.

Update 30th November 2011

I just wanted to let you know that Jamie has gone into hospital. He is very poorly, bless him. He has enterocolitis which is a nasty bowel infection and is in a lot of pain. He is being brave but cannot eat or drink anything as his bowel has shut down and he keeps vomiting. Fingers crossed he will pick up soon.

Update 25th November 2011

Jamie has had a steady month by his standards, however his energy levels are still low and he has been to hospital several times with dehydration.

Thank you to everyone who has thought of Jamie and sent him a card, all the lovely cards and thoughts have really cheered him up. Special thanks to Wendy and Yukiko for the regular post, it is lovely to hear from you. Also, many thanks to Kate for the lovely presents that you sent to the children, they all loved them and the card that she sent me meant so much. Charlie would also like me to thank people for the post she has received and the gorgeous balloons – all three children had so much fun with them. Thank you to everyone who has made Jamie feel very welcome on Post Pals and also to Kate and Viks for everything they do. Jamie really looks forward to the postman coming which makes his day. Your post really helps to keep Jamie positive when he is having a bad day so thank you.

Story written 2011

Emma was diagnosed with a Wilm’s tumour on 24th June 2011 after a lump appeared on her tummy. Her chemotherapy started on 27th June.

The thing Emma misses most is playing with her friends at nursery. She doesn’t have the energy to play physical games and prefers to do art activities and play board games.

Until Emma has surgery, scheduled for 23rd of August, we don’t know how much chemotherapy she will need but we have been told that it will be about 9 months worth. She is being very brave about having it.

Emma’s prognosis is good. She wants the ‘nasty lump’ gone. Emma has always been a determined little girl.

Update 26th March 2013

After talking to the family, we have decided it is time for Emma to move on from Post Pals.

It has now been nearly a year since Emma went into remission and we feel it is time for another child to receive the kindness and support that Emma and her sisters have received from all the wonderful people and supporters of Post Pals.

Words can’t express how much happiness and smiles you have bought into the girls lives during such a hard time. There are so many people from all around the world that we would love to say thank you too, but there are just too many to list. So all we can say is a massive thank you to you and everyone that we have heard from.

All the best for the future, Rob, Marie and our 3 princesses xxx

Update 18th February 2013

It has been a good month as Emma had her tests on the 23rd January and everything was all clear again. So the next lot of tests are in April.

We arranged for the girls to have a party for their birthday at kids zone indoor play area and they had a fantastic time playing with their school friends and cousin. We were going to do it for them last year but because of the infection risk we couldn’t, so it made it all the more special for Emma this year as she loves the indoor play areas. They got money from a lot of the family so they wanted to go clothes shopping. I was amazed at how quickly they spent their money on clothes, leaving only a couple of pounds for sweets!

Thank you everyone for all the things that the girls receive, especially when they get letters and emails from abroad. Thank you for all the lovely birthday cards sent to Emma and Amber too.

Update 16th January 2013

Emma was so excited about Christmas this year, as she could concentrate on it more than last year. She was hoping so much to get a skateboard and Santa didn’t disappoint her.

She had an appointment at our local hospital on the 14th just for a routine check up and the consultant was happy with her progress. She has an appointment on the 21st of January for her quarterly tests and fingers crossed all will go well.

A big thank you to everyone for all the lovely Christmas cards, letters and gifts, that the girls received. It all helped to make Christmas more special for us all.

Update 10th November 2012

October has been a fairly quiet month, apart from Emma having another lot of tests which thankfully where all clear, so we can relax again until her next lot in January.

She has settled in really well at school and her and Amber’s reading is improving every day.

The whole family got excited in the middle of October as we gained a new member of the family – his name is Casper and he is a staffie/spaniel dog, he is 7 months old and we got him from our local RSPCA centre.

We would like to say thank you to everyone who takes the time to write.

Update 11th September 2012

Emma is doing really well at the moment, she got the all clear in May, which was a great relief for us all. It felt like a giant weight had been lifted off us. She had a second lot of tests at the end of July, and again Emma got the all clear. She now has tests every three months and her next lot of tests are in October, so fingers crossed everything will be ok.

Emma has had a great summer, especially now she can enjoy the sunshine and running and playing with her sisters and her friends without having to worry about her line getting caught. We took Emma and her sisters to the beach over the summer, it was great just to see them all playing in the sand and the sea without having to worry about anything.

Emma’s hair is growing back in now, it has been a bit strange seeing her with hair after so long of her being bald.

She has now started back at school full time and is thoroughly enjoying being in year 1.

We are all getting excited as we are we are packing ready for our holiday to Lanzarote this month, as the girls want to follow in Dottie’s footsteps from when she went on holiday to Lanzarote last year and want to do everything she did.

They have enjoyed watching the Olympics and the Paralympics, especially as their older cousin was a torch bearer for the Paralympics. He brought it around for the girls to see and we were able to get photo’s of them holding it.

We would like to say a big thank you to everyone for all the letters, cards and gifts that the girls receive.

Update 9th April 2012

After a poorly start to the month where Emma had to have a break from her chemo due to low levels, she has started to pick up now chemo has started again.

She is now being home schooled as she found going to school too tiring, but she is keeping at the same levels as her friends, just missing playing with them. Luckily, Amber keeps her up to date with what is happening at school so she isn’t missing out too much.

We would like to say a big thank you to all the people that have sent cards and gifts as it always brings a smile to their faces.

Update 1st March 2012

February has been a hard month for us. Emma has had a few infections and we have spent some time in the hospital. She spent Valentines day in hospital and was so excited to get an anonymous Valentines card. It cheered her up so much. Coming home to another made her smile even more.

She had an ECHO test this month and we were very pleased to hear that the chemotherapy hasn’t affected her heart and she was chuffed because the sonographer gave her an image of her heart to take home.

As a result of the infections Emma hasn’t been in school and she misses going in. Thankfully she has been able to keep up as Amber brings some bits home. Due to the infections Emma’s levels have been very low and her chemo treatment has had to be postposed a few times. So having her most recent lot of chemo has really knocked her for six because it has been a while since she last had it.

Emma lost her first tooth this month. When it came out we were in hospital and when she woke up it was gone. She panicked as she couldn’t find it and finally discovered she was sitting on it. That night she put it under her pillow and was very excited about the Tooth Fairy coming, especially when the nurse told her that the Tooth Fairy had never come to the hospital before. The next morning she was very pleased to discover the Tooth Fairy had been and had left her some money.

Thank you for all the post and gifts that we’ve received, everyone is fantastic.

Update 9th February 2012

Emma had a fantastic birthday. Both she and Amber loved opening all the gifts and cards they received from everyone.

Emma has been quite well recently and seems to be coping well with everything. We now have an end in sight as she doesn’t have much more chemo left to go now.

She is still going to school in the mornings and is now learning to read, which she loves. She did have to take a week off earlier in the month as she had developed a cough but thankfully nothing came of it. It was slightly worrying as Amber had tonsillitis, which we thought Emma might catch, but she didn’t. We were worried for a little while as Emma’s blood levels dropped and there was some question over her needing a blood transfusion but thankfully her body dealt with it and her levels are all good again.

Emma has also been attending parties, both at school and with family. She loved being able to see everyone and have fun with people she hasn’t seen for a while.

Update 19th January 2012

December has been a very busy month for Emma and all the family. Luckily we didn’t have any hospital stays but we did have to have a dose of antibiotics for yet another chest infection. Chemotherapy is still going and she had the last dose of the long chemo in December so now she only has little ones.

This month Emma chose to take part in a Santa Fun Run in aid of the local hospice so all the family joined her. The children’s ward at the local hospital had their annual Christmas party and Emma and Amber had great fun seeing the magician and Santa and having their faces painted there. They were also lucky enough to see two pantomimes, one that the hospital organised and one in school. Emma loved being able to see them. Because Emma has been able to attend school most mornings she was also able to participate in the school nativity and was given the option of what character to be. She chose to play a shepherd.

Christmas morning in our house was great; the children were so excited opening every single present and card. So by bedtime they were thoroughly exhausted but so content.

Just after Christmas, Emma had her last big chemo and we were so pleased to discover that over the course of the holiday period Emma had put on almost 1kg which is fantastic.

She is also now taking part in The Beads Of Courage programme and we are also looking at getting Emma into school for 2 full days a week as well as mornings.

Thank you for all the Elf parcels as it made Christmas even more magical. We want to thank you for doing a wonderful thing for all the children.

Update 7th November 2011

Emma has now finished her radiotherapy course, but whilst having it she got a few infections so had to spend a few weeks in hospital. Hopefully her body is now starting to recover from the side effects and she is getting better. She is now on antibiotics for a chest infection.

Emma has managed to get back into school for a few mornings and has thoroughly enjoyed being back with all her friends.

Thank you to all of the people who have taken the times to send post, she still loves getting post, as do all three girls.

Update 3rd October 2011

Emma’s operation went well. It lasted 5 and a half hours and afterwards she was taken down to PICU, where she had to stay for a few days after developing a temperature. The tumour was larger than they thought as it was hidden up behind her stomach. The surgeons think that it is possible the tumour may have leaked and have decided to give her Radiotherapy as well as Chemotherapy. After 3 days she was moved back to a normal ward and was home after 7 days, feeling well and trying to get back to normal. The surgery left her tired for a few weeks but the scar is healing very well and she is now getting back to her bouncy self.

Since her operation, Emma has recovered well. She is just about to start radiotherapy but thankfully only has to have 8 sessions. She does have to have 6 months of Chemo as well.

She is looking forward to getting back to school and being with her friends and we are hoping that she can get back in for half days next week then start again full time once she is more settled into her Chemo routine.

I’d like to say a big thank you for all the post received.

Update 4th September 2011

Emma will be going into St George’s hospital in London on the 12th September ready for her surgery on the 13th. She should only be in for about a week, all being well. Emma is keeping very brave and can’t wait for the ‘operation to get rid of nasty lump’ as this is what she is calling it.

I just want to say thank you to everyone at Post Pals for all the smiles they bring to Emma and her sister’s faces.

Update 18th August 2011

Emma’s surgery that was scheduled for the 23rd of August has now been cancelled. We have been told that the chemo is working well and has shrunk the tumour but they want to shrink it some more to make surgery easier for Emma. Also, the lesions on the lungs are barely visible on the CT scan, so they restarted her on chemo on 17th August and did a chest x-ray as they want to see if the lesions on the lungs are visible. If they are, then Emma will need radiotherapy.

At the moment we do not know the outcome of the x-ray, but Emma has another 3 weeks of chemo and on the third one they will be doing another CT scan. Fingers crossed everything has worked as they hope so that they can rearrange surgery for the middle to the end of September. We are now back and forward to The Royal Marsden and our local hospital for the rest of the chemo.

I would like to thank everyone at Post Pals for all the letters, cards, and gifts that Emma and her two sisters have received. It always brings a smile to their faces.

Story written 2012

Aaron was unwell from the moment he was born and at five weeks old he was admitted to hospital with a bad cough and failure to thrive. He was then diagnosed with cystic fibrosis.

For the next four years we spent most of our time on the children’s ward. We were taught how to do his IV’s at home. Aaron takes around 50 tablets a day with nebulisers and two lots of physiotherapy.

Aaron had a recent stay in hospital with a bowel obstruction. My other two children are adults but missed out so much when they were younger as cystic fibrosis needs care 24 hours, 7 days a week.

Update 26th March 2015

On the 25th of March Aaron had his 16th birthday. He now feels the time is right to move on from Post Pals and give another child the chance of enjoying the amazing kindness and support he has had over the years.

He is just about to sit his school exams and is looking forward to the future. He continues to think positive and although cf is a life long battle, it’s one he will fight all the way.

Thank you to every person that has every sent Aaron cards, gifts, letters and thoughts. He has the most amazing cap collection from all over the world too. A big thank you to you to Post Pals, you do an amazing job and bring joy to so many xxxx

Update 8th December 2014

It has been a very long month as Aaron has been in hospital for a mountain of tests. We have had some of the results back and been told he is now pre diabetic.

Aaron is now back to playing football for our local team (part time) and studying hard for his GCSE’s in-between hospital visits.

Thank you to everyone for his post, you all have been so kind.

Update 17th October 2014

Aaron has now started back at school and is trying to catch up on all the work he has missed in the last 8 months. He is now in year 11.

He is still going in to hospital every 4th week for 4 days to have IV treatment and things seem to be going very well.

Update 18th August 2014

Aaron is back in hospital having iv steroid treatment. He was in remission for his ABPA (Allergic Bronchopulmonary Aspergillosis) but after only 12 weeks it sadly came back, so we have just started 6 months of treatment for that.

We have just had a lovely holiday in the sun as this is just what Aaron needed after such a bad winter.

A big thank you to everyone who has been sending cards and gifts from all over the world, it really gives Aaron such a boost when he is feeling so unwell.

Update 4th May 2014

Aaron is feeling much better now though the last 6 months have been the worst 6 months ever. He will be returning to school in the next few weeks (part time) but has to drop out of some of his GCSEs as the hospital feels all of them will be to much.

Thank you for all your love, care and support, over this difficult time.

Update 2nd February 2014

Aaron has had a really difficult 6 months after we found out he now has ABPA (allergic bronchopulmonary aspergillosis). He started treatment in October and has been on very high dose steroids since then. They have made him very unwell but we are now on top of the infection so should be able to reduce the dose soon. Due to the side effects Aaron has not been able to go to school since the end of November, but we hope that at the end of February he will slowly start back at school and a get back a bit more of a normal teenage life.

We would love to thank everybody for all the gifts and letters he has been sent and he’s had some amazing things from all over the world.

Update 23rd November 2013

The last year has been difficult for Aaron. On top of the Cystic Fibrosis and the ME, we found out why Aaron’s health continued to get worse. He has Aspergillosis which is not curable but it is treatable and that is a positive for us, however it does mean an extra 100 tablets a week. We think we are up to about 300 a week now, but Aaron never lets this get him down and is looking forward to getting back to school and sports in the New Year.

We have had so much post over the months and it is incredible, thank you so much each and every one of you.

Update 23rd October 2013

Aaron was taken poorly on our holiday and has not been right since. This week he has been in to hospital for tests and put on steroids as his lungs are not too good at the moment and his lung function has dropped again.

In the last few months he has received many cards and lots of gifts – thank you so much, you are all amazing.

Update 30th July 2013

Aaron has received lots and lots of post in June and July. He has been having a few good weeks and is going on holiday to Majorca in a few weeks time as the sun is like a tonic to him.

I would like to thank so many people for everything they send him. I will send pictures of the veg he was sent to grow (stripy tomatoes, purple carrots etc) as they are growing well.

The last month has been hard with Lizzie gaining her wings. We send on our love to all of Post Pals xxx

Update 4th April 2013

Aaron has been unwell now for 5 months and is only allowed to attend school 2 or 3 days a week. He came down with glandular fever in October and has just been diagnosed with CFS/ME on top of him having cystic fibrosis. His consultant said he will not be well enough to attend full time school until September/October. Once we have purchased Aaron his own laptop he will be  able to catch up on some school work from his bed. He has had to give up all sports and hardly ever leaves the house due to the extreme tiredness.

Thank you so much to everybody who has sent Aaron cards and gifts.

Update 7th December 2012

Aaron had a wonderful summer but has now been unwell for a while. His lung function is the lowest it has ever been and his weight has become a big concern, so he is attending hospital every 3 or 4 weeks. Aaron has just undergone a lot of blood tests too and we are waiting for the results.

At the moment Aaron is only attending school 2 or 3 days a week but is looking forward to Christmas.

We are looking forward to spring as Aaron always seems so much better in the summer months. For the time being he has had to have a break from playing for his local football team, which I know he missing so much.

We would like to thank everyone for taking their time to send Aaron cards, gifts, and letters. You really have no idea how much fun receiving post from all over the world is. Any smile he receives is worth its weight in gold.

Wishing you all a happy smiley Christmas.

Update 29th February 2012

Thank you so much for what you do – Aaron loves his post. We’ve had some from the USA, Holland, Germany etc – what great people.

Update 6th February 2012

Aaron is home from hospital now on high dose steroids. This takes him up to 60 doses of medication a day. Hopefully his lung function will start to improve soon.

Many thanks to all of you for post that has been sent.