Amelia P

17 July 2011

Amelia passed away on the 17h of March 2007. Thank you to everyone who wrote to her.

Original Story

On the 8th of February 2005 Amelia was diagnosed with cancer, on the 14th of February it was confirmed Amelia had Neuroblastoma stage 4. Treatment began straight away and Bristol Children’s Hospital became home for Amelia and her parents for the following months.

Amelia had numerous scans and tests, received chemotherapy, radiotherapy and an operation to remove a tumour from her Adrenal Gland. Amelia’s bone marrow was aspirated followed by more Intensive Chemotherapy and 5 weeks of isolation in the BMT unit (bone marrow transplant). Eventually Amelia returned home with her parents and brother Jacob. She still had to return to the hospital for check ups and did have to stay in hospital when she had high temperatures.

After further tests on the 1st of June 2006, the results came back; Amelia no longer had Neuroblastoma in her body. Even through the results were clear Amelia would still have regular checkups.

Unfortunately on the 4th of September 2006, a scan revealed the Neuroblastoma had retuned. Amelia has now got two tumours in her liver, and it is also in her hip, leg and scull. On the 21st of September Amelia was back in hospital having a Hickman line put in ready for Chemotherapy to begin on the 26th September.

Amelia is a determined little lady and hopefully she will fight this awful illness again.

Update March 2007

After a long and brave battle, Amelia finally lost the fight. On Saturday the 17th of March at 8.15am Amelia closed her eyes and finally fell asleep. She was very comfortable and peaceful and now all the pain has gone.

She will always be in our hearts and be Mummy, Daddy and Jacob’s little princess and we thank her for giving us 4 years of her magical life.

We love you Amelia always and forever.

Update 14th March 2007

The past ten days has been very strange, and as usual Amelia has confused many people.

On the Sunday evening, for the first time in over 6 weeks, Amelia decided that she wanted to go out! So we had to carry her down the road to her Nannies house. The rest of the week she has been totally different from the week before; Amelia became quite chatty and a lot more alert. For the last 2 weeks Amelia has been asking for a happy meal every day, I am now starting to get recognised in McDonalds! Amelia has really kept us on our toes giving orders, asking for any food she fancies and getting us to endure hours of cbeebies or Willy Wonka; which we don’t mind as it keeps her happy.

Over the weekend there has been a dramatic change in Amelia and we have been able to see her health deteriorate daily. She began to go slightly down hill on Saturday and has continued to do so as each day passes.

The last few weeks she has become very weak but still has so much fight in her we have to take every day as it comes as we need to cherish every last second. Nobody can work out where all of her strength comes from but she is so strong in courage and will and that is what helps us to stay strong, although it is starting to get hard.

We would like to thank everyone who has sent post and parcels to Amelia & Jacob as it has put a smile on their faces and brightened their days. On Saturday we felt really proud as Amelia received a lovely award called the “little star” award from Cancer Research. She is unable to open the post herself but manages to ask if any has arrived when she sees her Nan.

Thank you also to everyone that has taken time to sign Amelia’s guestbook and leave messages. Your words of support and comfort are greatly appreciated and it means so much to know there are so many caring people thinking of us during this difficult time.

Update 4th March 2007

Over the last few months Amelia’s health has been slowly getting worse. We were told that there would be nothing more that anybody could do as the neuroblastoma and the treatment was too strong for her little body to cope with.

This has been such a hard thing to cope with for everyone as she has touched so many lives and her positivity has been such an inspiration to everyone who knows her.

Jacob is now aware of the situation although I’m not sure how much actually sank in. He has been such a brave little man and he gained his 100 metre badge in swimming on Wednesday which I think is absolutely brilliant for someone who is only 7 and going through the things that he has.

Over the last couple of weeks Amelia has been put on 24hour constant pain relief and has now become quite weak, but her spark still shines through!

We all love her with every bit of our hearts.

Thank you all for the gifts and cards that Amelia & Jacob have received they mean so much to both of them and we really appreciate it. The first thing Amelia says to her Nanny Peasedown when she visits is “Have you got me any post?” When she gets her post it really does cheer her up. This week Amelia received a glove puppet that had been made for her, she loved it and chuckled when her Nanny put it on her hand and talked in a silly voice.

Update 25th January 2007

We would like to thank all the kind people who sent cards and presents to Amelia for her 4th Birthday. They were all greatly appreciated and she loved them all. A special thank you to Project Linus for the beautiful quilt they sent, Amelia loves it.

Thank you also for the gifts sent to Jacob, it’s so thoughtful and generous of you all. Once again thank you all for your generosity and for brightening up Amelia’s day and putting a smile on her face.

Update 10th January 2007

We would like to thank everyone that sent cards & gifts to Amelia for Christmas. She loved opening all her post and we read every card to her.

It’s been a while since the last update but we have had quite a hectic time over the past few weeks.

Amelia eventually came home from hospital on 14th November and she was having IV paracetamol every 6 hours for pain relief. Leah was taught how to administer it through her wiggly (central line) as Amelia will not take oral medication.

Amelia’s wish was to go to Euro Disney and stay in the Pink Disney Hotel. On 3rd December her wish came true; this was thanks to family and friends holding fundraising events. We were overwhelmed by how much time and effort people put into making Amelia’s dream come true. It has meant so much to us and don’t think we will ever be able to thank them enough. We had a fantastic time and the most magical moment was Amelia’s amazement when Minnie Mouse came to our room and spent at least 20 minutes playing with her and Jacob.

A couple of days after our return from Euro Disney Amelia started complaining about pains in her leg. She was given Diclofenic Suppositories or whoops-a-daisy medicine as Amelia calls it combined with the IV paracetamol. This worked for about a week and then the pain returned so we took her to the hospital. They gave her Fentonyl Patches but as these take 3 days to start working she was given Morphine to help control the pain.

We had a fantastic Christmas and both Jacob and Amelia were spoilt rotten. Amelia was in good spirits and loved opening all her presents. News Years Eve we went to Leah’s sisters and New Years Day was spent at Leah’s mums for lunch and my mums for tea.

We are now preparing for Amelia’s Birthday on 16th January when she will be 4 years old. We hope to make it as special as possible, each birthday is special and we feel blessed each time another birthday comes around. On 8th February it will be 2 years since Amelia was first diagnosed which means she has spent almost half her life fighting Neuroblastoma.

Thank you again for all your cards and gifts, we would like to wish you all a Happy New Year.

Update 6th November 2006

Amelia finished her TVD (3 types of Chemo) on Sunday 29th October and all seemed well. She started her GCSF treatment on Tuesday 31st October and she still seemed fine. When Amelia went for her GCSF on Wednesday they also did a blood test. The results weren’t good and we were told she needed a blood and platelet transfusion. Unfortunately after the transfusions she spiked a temperature of 38c which meant a 48 hour stay in hospital. The temperature went down quickly but her CRP levels went up which indicated she had an infection. By Friday she was really ill so was given a chest x-ray. The doctor told us this was clear. Amelia continued to worsen during the day and we expressed our concern to the Clic Nurse. She contacted the Oncologist who was with us within the hour. She then looked at the x-ray and we were then told Amelia had Pneumonia.

Amelia has now been in hospital for five days, she is having three types of antibiotics but is still very low and does not want to eat or drink. It has been really hard seeing her so ill but we’re having to be strong and positive for Amelia.

Update 1st November 2006

Amelia has now lost all her hair as a result of her last lot of chemotherapy. We weren’t expecting it to happen so soon but it doesn’t seem to have affected her as she has just carried on in her usual bright and cheerful way.

On 23rd October Amelia started her TVD treatment. We had to take her to the hospital daily for the Topetecan and then on Friday she was admitted for a 48 hour joint infusion of Vincristine & Doxorubicin. As usual, Amelia took all this in her stride and with a smile on her face. Chemo Duck went into hospital with her, she was so happy when she received him from the kind people at Post Pals.

Thanks also to the caring people that have written to Amelia, it has really cheered her up and put a smile on her face.

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Alicia R

17 July 2011

Story written 2010

Alicia was born a healthy baby and we had no idea about the Cystic Fibrosis until we took her to Peru when she was 4 months old. She became sick immediately and spent 5 weeks in hospital there before we were flown home as a medical emergency. The next 5 months were spent in Great Ormond Street Hospital in P.I.C.U. At that time she had numerous operations including a hickman line (in and out!), Nissen’s fundoplication (which has since been redone twice) and a gastrostomy which was then taken out aged 3, but at age 6 she had another put in.

Once we got her home (a week before her first birthday) she did well until she was about 3 and a half when it was decided she needed to have IV’s every three months, so she had a portacath inserted. This kept her well for a while and they even extended it to be every 4 months.

Since January 2008 things have gone downhill. Alicia spent more than half the year in hospital with one admission to Great Ormond Street, then 2009 came and it was decided that Alicia should have permanent IV’s at home and be assessed for lung transplant. The hospital admissions became slightly more managed and less emergency, though we did have one blue light run to Great Ormond Street, plus suspected swine flu. At transplant assessment, it was decided that Alicia did not need it yet.

Now in 2010, Alicia’s hospital admissions are every 6-8 weeks if we can make it. Home IV’s, physio twice daily, a cocktail of medications, supplementary feeding, and overnight oxygen all continue as normal. While Alicia does go to school and manages to keep up most of the time, her timetable is shortened and she hasn’t done a full day since September 2009. Alicia is being statemented on medical grounds.

Alicia has got to the stage where she is fed up with it all. She doesn’t like going to hospital, doesn’t want to take her medicines (they are often found in the toilet!) and just wants to be normal. Because she had been so sick in 2008, she missed a dream holiday to Lapland but we are hoping to have a holiday to Portugal this summer – fingers crossed!

Family update January 2016

It’s nearly five years now since Alicia died, seems like yesterday and we miss her terribly.  Nico is now in the last year of primary school, which is hard as Alicia never got that far!  Can’t believe secondary school is looming and before we know it GCSE’s!! Nico remains sports crazy and we seem to live on one type of pitch or another. We got to go to one of the rugby World Cup games last year which was amazing, especially seeing the NZ Hakka live!
Thank you to everyone who continues to write to Nico, especially Bev, Kim, Marjolin, Toni, Connor & Karen. It still brightens his day when he gets home to his letters.

Family update January 2014

How can another year have gone by since Alicia left us? So much has happened that she has missed and we miss her more and more everyday. Nico continues to love his rugby, football, judo and swimming. He is a sportsman in the making, though once full contact in rugby comes into play I may stop him playing!! He is doing better at school and I think is coping better because Alicia’s friends are no longer around so he doesn’t get reminded so much. He loves receiving the lovely letters and cards that he is sent by the amazing people on Post Pals. It is a lifeline for him and keeps him smiling. So much support is lost when a sibling dies and to still have this is fantastic. I can’t thank you all more on his behalf.

Family update September 2012

Well I can’t believe it has been over a year since I have written one of these, and what a year it has been. A HUGE thank you to everyone that continues to write to Nico, it makes such a difference and keeps a little smile on his face. So many things ‘finish’ when your brother or sister dies, but to continue receiving post makes such a difficult time slightly easier for him. Nico loves his Dottie letters and also the Moshi stuff that he receives too.

A gigantic hole has been left in our lives since May 2011 and it will never be filled, but we try to continue onwards. We have had some lovely times and did manage to go away last summer with Nico which was lovely. This summer we have been watching lots of sport and even managed to get some tickets for the Paralympics which was a great day out.

Nico is going into year three and this should have been his first year at school without Alicia as she would have been starting High School this September. He struggled quite a lot at school last year and I hope that this year will be easier for him. He is very excited as he has Alicia’s old teacher this year so I hope that will help him too.

Update 17th May 2011

We are very sad to say that Alicia passed away today in hospital with her parents by her side. She was friends with Daisy N, and Daisy’s Mum Stephanie says;

“Alicia’s courage, determination, strength and will to live was such an inspiration to everyone who knew her – she embraced life and when she was not in hospital she lived life to the full going to brownies, school, holidays with her family, bouncing on the trampoline with her brother. I know Alicia’s family would want you to know how much comfort they all got from the support of Post Pals and how it made both Alicia and Nico smile.”

Update 5th May 2011

What a great April we’ve had! Only one outpatient appointment and the rest of the month at home or on holiday!!

The end of term went well for Alicia and she managed to take part in the class play at the end of term and attend the last week of school. She also passed her grade one in riding so felt very pleased with herself. Then it was the holidays and we had lovely weather and a restful time for the first week and then for the first time in about 4 years all four of us went on holiday together, on the same day!! Yes, we managed to get to Switzerland and had a fantastic 5 days there with our friends. The weather was fantastic and we managed to get around quite a lot of the countryside, plus a few days in Zurich. Alicia did struggle with the altitude at times but we had oxygen so that was fine.

We got through the holidays and Alicia went back to school full of beans last week. We have her transplant review on the 19th of this month.

I had hoped to just have a happy update, but unfortunately not. Alicia has to be admitted into hospital today for another lot of iv’s so here we go on the roller coaster again! Fingers crossed we don’t end up at GOS again, but we shall see.

Thank you to everyone who sent post to Alicia and Nico last month and made a lovely month at home even lovelier!! You all know who you are without writing all your names (plus the list is at home!!) and you’re all very special. Thanks for all the lovely Easter cards for both Alicia and Nico. There’s still so much chocolate in the house we’ll be eating it till Christmas!!! Thank you very much for all the lovely things we have been sent to make and do this month too.

Update 13th April 2011

Well March was a hard month as we spent most of it in hospital. Alicia couldn’t seem to shake of the chest infection or what ever it was that really knocked her down. The doctors were baffled and as usual with Alicia the tricks that normally work with other patients didn’t work with Alicia! Eventually we were discharged on the 25th March from Great Ormond Street having been in there 5 weeks and 1 week at our local before that. Alicia got to school for the last week of term so that she could see her friends again.

We’re now on holiday and hoping to get to Switzerland to visit friends next week for a few days. As usual everything is in place and we’ll wait and see if Alicia makes it with us!! So far it’s looking ok but who knows? Hopefully the holidays will help Alicia refresh herself and make it back to school next term!

We have to have a reassessment for lung transplant next month which is a shame as we normally have this annually but it has only been 7 months since the last one, so they obviously thinks something is not great.

Thank you to everyone who sent the children such wonderful post whilst we were in hospital, it made Alicia’s room very colourful and kept Nico from getting too sad. Thank you to Mandie, Vicki, Fiona, Jane, Claudia from Germany (Nico was really pleased and wanted to know if you lived near his cousin who lives in Bremen?!!). Thank you for Nico’s memories book, we are slowly getting through it! Nico looks forward to each letter from Dottie and loves hearing from him – one day we will write back.

Thank you to everyone who helps with Post Pals, it is truly amazing how a small card can make children smile.

Update 5th March 2011

Well, we have not had a good February. Alicia has been in hospital since the 14th and got transferred to GOS. We have been there for 2 weeks. At first they thought it was a line infection but everything has come back negative which is great news as she has only had that line for 6 months!! So it is just a really bad chest infection. For the first week she couldn’t get out of bed and was on 10 litres of oxygen 24 hours a day. We have now weaned that down to 3 litres 24 hours a day but obviously we need to get back down to zero oxygen, and that seems a long way off at the moment!! They are talking of starting steroids to see if that helps. We have also been started on Bi pap to help just before physio. This seems to be working so it looks like that will be another thing that I will have to add into the mix on a daily basis! Oh well, if it keeps her out of hospital. She is really fed up in herself and I can’t wait to get her at least to the local hospital so she can see friends again which would be great.

Hopefully March will be better, so fingers crossed.

Thank you for the lovely Valentines cards, they loved them and made Alicia’s admission to hospital the same day a bit brighter. Sarah thank you for you crafty bits, they have made hospital more fun! Jane, the teddy is lovely! Jenny, Nico loved the game and hasn’t stopped playing it! Kim, Alicia’s box was superb and she has had fun with all of it. Samantha, we haven’t got round to reading the book but she loves it. Sheely from Florida, the crazy bandz are great and have been swapped and worn. She loved the Hello Kitty bits from Soila in Finland too, so thank you everyone. Thank you also to St Mary’s School in Bishop Stortford for their letters and also Cheltenham County High school for their letters in December, sorry its late!! To Davorin Jenko Primary School in Slovenia for their FANTASTIC cards and letters that they sent a long lime ago, but the pictures are still all over her bedroom!!!

Thanks to Post Pals for making our present situation more bearable and brightening up our days and Alicia’s hospital room!!

Update 2nd February 2011

Well my last update was just before a GOS appointment and this one is just after a GOS appointment. We had a really good appointment today; her lung function has gone from 27% three weeks ago to 44% today! Her weight has gone up 1.1kg in three weeks and generally they were really pleased with her progress! So much so that she has been discharged tonight after three weeks on IV’s – hip hip hooray! There had been threats of another week, going on bi-pap and all sorts. Thankfully we have by passed that stage for the moment (our thoughts are with Jon Paul and his family, we had a couple of years when we were lucky to be out of hospital for 2 weeks and I hope he gets over the worst soon).

We have had an ok month despite Alicia being in hospital for most of it. Nico’s birthday was lots of fun and Alicia was allowed home for the weekend so we didn’t have to go back and forth to hospital. Alicia’s school statement has finally been approved so we can now get her the help she needs in class. We also had a weekend down at the hospice which was really relaxing and we all had a great time.

Alicia is looking forward to going back to school and seeing her friends again.

February should be a quiet month and hopefully hospital free. We are not due back to GOS until the beginning of March and then they want to admit her at the end of March – fingers crossed she lasts that long!

Thank you once again for all the post and smiles that my children have received this month, it really cheers them up and makes their days. I hope we have written all our Christmas thank you’s, but if not, I’m really sorry and will do my best to get them done as soon as possible. Thank you everyone for all of Nico’s birthday cards and birthday gifts. Thank you Jenny for the camera, Alicia’s had lots of fun taking photos!! Mandie, your letters and gifts were wonderful. She loved the Jacqueline Wilson book. Thank you to Charlotte and Vicki too for their gifts. Thank you to Kati and her family from Finland for the cards and stickers. Alicia loves getting post from Finland because it is where her cousins live. She would have written back but there was no return address, so thanks again and from Nico too for his stickers! Post Pals has been great putting smiles on my children’s faces in a normally depressing month! Thank you everyone.

Update 12th January 2011

First and foremost Happy New Year to everyone who reads this. Thank you to everyone who takes the time to make all the Pals smile, especially my two! We received some lovely cards, letters and gifts during December, words cannot thank everyone enough. To who ever wrote Nico’s reindeer letters, they were amazing and he is still talking about them, and who was the fastest and who could watch tv through his antlers etc etc. The icing on the cake was the Rudolf card and amazingly this came last (I say amazing only because of the problems we had here with the post in December!). Each letter was eagerly awaited and we all read them with laughter. Fantastic, thank you. I can’t remember the post mark on the stamps, but I hope you’re not being affected by the floods at the moment, if you are I hope and pray that everything will turn out ok in the end for you and the family. Alicia also received some fantastic birthday cards and presents so thank you.

We had a great December and for once everything went to plan! Birthday celebrations passed off (10 girls watching a movie and X Factor! Lots of fun with 2 sleeping over!). Then term ended, but we had a minor threat of hospital admission before Centre Parcs which also threatened Christmas, but that was put off as she improved. We had a lovely break at Centre Parcs with some friends and then a quiet Christmas at home which is the first time we have all been together for 4 years!

Term has started and she is very well, holding her own and happy to be back at school. We had three days in hospital last week for her to have her bone medicine and she sailed through that which was a relief as it can make her sick. The only downside is she has stopped eating so her weight is plummeting (2.5 kgs in three weeks) and this will probably mean an admission soon!

… A few hours later. We have just come back from a day admission at GOS for a kidney function test and review by the CF team and we’re now sitting in hospital at the beginning of a two week admission! Boo Hoo! Her lung function was down to 27% so they have said we have to come in to try and improve this. She had a rough day there and is now fed up, especially because she feels she will spoil Nico’s birthday (next week) by being in hospital for it. She always thinks of others before herself. Fingers crossed it will only be two weeks and everything will go smoothly.

Thank you everyone who continues to support our family and make us smile, you’re amazing. Thanks for all the lovely Christmas cards that we received for both of the children. Also for Alicia’s birthday cards. Words cannot thank everyone enough for all the lovely thoughtful gifts that both Nico and Alicia received this month. Sarah, the brooch is beautiful, Vicki, Adam W, Holly and the elf who sent the Ben 10 Lego, thank you so much. Thank you Amy for the dream catcher. Mandie, as ever words cannot say thank you, even the envelope gets admired by all! A letter is on the way! Everything has been made, used, listened to, and put to its use.

Update 1st December 2010

November has been a quiet month really. Alicia was in hospital from the 3rd to 19th and thankfully this was a run of the mill visit. We had a clinic appointment at GOS and they have decided that she needs to have a break from her home IV antibiotics. This is great as it means she can go swimming and have as many luxurious deep baths as she likes, but also very scary for me. Mainly because it is winter and December is a busy month for us, what with birthday and Christmas, and I do my utmost every year to keep her out of hospital for these two events (and have only failed once!). Added to that, this year we are going to Centre Parcs too… recipe for disaster. Well, she has stopped the antibiotics and so far so good. I am hoping to be proved wrong and that she will continue to do well. Please keep your fingers crossed.

Since coming out of hospital she has been back at school and loving it. This is the first year she has been out of hospital to enjoy the snow and is making the most of it.

December as usual holds parties, festivities and Christmas in store. Hopefully it will be a quiet and well one! She is singing in the Carol concert at school and looking forward to that, as well as getting in as much swimming as possible before they decide to put her back on her IV’s.

Let me take this opportunity to thank each and every one of you who send post not only to my children, but also all the children at Post Pals, and to wish you all a very Happy Christmas/Happy Holidays/Happy Festive Season and a wonderful and healthy New Year.

Thanks this month for the lovely cards from Davorin Jenko Primary School in Slovenia, so much time and trouble was spent making them and they are all beautiful and their English is fantastic. Hello Kitty featured highly in the cards this month – how to make a girl smile!! Thanks to Lucy for the lovely name made out of beads and Jayne for the clock, snow globe and pen, it will all compliment her pink sparkly bedroom! The snow globe is waiting for a picture of her birthday party! Thanks also to Post Pals for the choccie parcel. Thanks too for Nico’s stickers.

Update 7th November 2010

The end of the month was fairly uneventful. Not only did Alicia get her ‘pen license’ at school (which means she can now use fountain pen rather than pencil at school) but at half term assembly she also got a headmistress special award for being in school every day for the whole of the half of term!! She hasn’t done this since late 2007 so everyone was really pleased for her and she felt pleased too. However it has taken it out of her and she was very tired by the holidays. We had planned to go away but I decided to cancel and let her rest at home for the week and hopefully put off the inevitable hospital admission. Our hospital appointment was cancelled. We had a lovely week at home and had lots of fun with our Halloween gifts; they had two Halloween parties and went trick or treating. We even got to meet Jacqueline Wilson one day which was fantastic!

Alicia went back to school on the Tuesday after half term, but by Wednesday I knew I was pushing my luck, so we decided it was time for all good things to come to an end and she went into hospital on Wednesday night! Her lung function was down to 35% so it was time. She was upset, but understands and actually it’s a good time for her to have a rest so that she is fully recovered in time for December (birthday and Christmas and weekend at Centre Parcs, fingers crossed!). She got sent a lovely quilt from Lovequilts so that has gone in with her and she is getting used to being spoilt by the nurses again! We have just had a weekend down at Chase, the hospice where she is cared for, so that was a nice break from the hospital routine and a rest for all of us. She will probably be in hospital for at least two weeks (that is the minimum time) unless she doesn’t get better and it will be extended. We have an appointment at GOS this month which is a CF clinic, but they are also doing tests to see if she has diabetes so we may find out then if she does – just another thing to add into the mix really.

Thank you once again to everyone that sends both of the children post and continue to put smiles on their faces! Thanks for the lovely Hello Kitty cards from Laura and Sarah and the 2 cards from overseas! Amanda and Alicia could be sisters they like so much of the same things! Sarah G your letters keep us laughing out loud, we all love them so much! Thanks to Mandie once again, she loves your post. Thanks also for the Halloween gifts from Post Pals and Sian, they were great and we had fun making them. They both loved the bracelets from Donna, thanks. She is going to make the peg dollies this week and thank you Mary for those. Emma, thanks for the notebook and your note to me (mummy) too!

Update 18th October 2010

September was a surprisingly quite month. I spent the whole month waiting for Alicia to end up in hospital as she has done for the last 3 years, but no, she has now not been in hospital since she was discharged on 12th August to come to Portugal!! This is now the longest she has been out of hospital in 3 years and is doing really really well! It is also the longest consecutive number of weeks that she has spent in school for 3 years, she has almost done half a term! All of these may seem like small things to many, but for children like Alicia it is a miracle! She did however say to me last week, “When am I going to hospital?” I asked her why and she replied “I think I’ve been at school too long now!!” It just goes to show that you do get institutionalised even at 9!

Not only did Alicia manage to finish the 7 1/2 mile sponsored walk (well she cycled) but she lead from the front the whole way round and her dad had to run to keep up with her! We managed to raise loads of money too which is great.

Nico started his Judo class and loves it. He has settled into year 1 well, though has been worrying that you have so much more work to do now at school and not enough time for playing!

Even though we’re half way through October now, I will update at the end of the month, especially as we have hospital next week which may change things. But just to say she has to go into hospital for 3 hours everyday for Tues, Wed and Thurs of this week to have an IV infusion to strengthen her bones as she has osteoporosis and they are trying to stop the deterioration of her bones. She has to have this every 3 months and we are a month late, purely because they were waiting to do it at the same time as she was in hospital but she hasn’t been in so we have to now do it as a stand alone treatment. The medicine tastes revolting (even though it goes through her veins she can taste it!) and makes her really tired. I’m worried because the last time she had it as a stand alone treatment she got really poorly and ended up in hospital! I suppose all good things have to come to an end!

Thanks this month to Mandie for your wonderful gifts again and for remembering Nico! To Rachel, Alicia loved the Tinkerbell stuff. To the person in Finland, thanks again for the Hello Kitty stickers and Kate W thanks for yours too. Helen and Hayley, we’ve made and sent the cards already and thanks for the other bits too. To Sarah, your letters make us all chuckle, thanks!

Thank you Post Pals for making my children smile and all those other children too!

Update 10th September 2010

Well, best laid plans never turn out right! We were in GOS having Alicia’s lung transplant re assessment and that went really well, she doesn’t need listing this year. This is fantastic news and we could at last get excited about going to Portugal 2 days later! Saturday morning we were packing to go home and the doctors came in and said she couldn’t go! Typically, she has had a port a cath for 6 1/2 years and never had a line infection, but the day before we’re due to fly to Portugal she gets a fungal infection in her line and so she can’t go! We decided that Nico and I would go on to Portugal (we were going with her granny, aunt, uncle and cousins too!) and if she was allowed she would come out later. A week of iv antifungal drugs and the line had to come out but she got discharged from GOS at 5pm on Friday and at 9am on Sat was in Portugal! Hooray! Well done to daddy for sorting that so quickly! So she got a week of her holiday at least! Since the line came out she has been better than she has been for the last 6-8 months and surprisingly her lung function has been improving instead of deteriorating like normal. She has been making the most of not being on her iv’s daily and we have swum loads as this is something she can’t do all the time because she can’t swim when her line is accessed. She has also had loads of deep baths and pampered herself, as she can only do that every two weeks normally. It’s the small things in life really!

The rest of the holidays whizzed by and we had a lovely time. All too soon it was over.

For the first time in 5 years she got to start school on the same day as everyone else as she wasn’t in hospital and she was really happy about that. She has also managed a whole week in school and is only in hospital now because she is having her port put back in so hopefully we won’t be in for long! She seems to be loving being in year 5 and long may that last.

We wrote a list yesterday of thank you’s for all her post and of course left it at home! Off the top of my head here goes; thanks to Mandie for the photos, dvd, stickers, pencil etc, Sarah the beautiful necklace (her comment on seeing it was ‘how did she know my birthstone?’, Poppy the poodle, what a lovely letter, Kim and Viks and someone (no name on the card) from Finland who sent cards! Her cousins live in Finland so she was very excited about this! Mike for the email, and I can’t remember who sent her the pencil case kit, but thanks. To Jane, thanks for the animal jokes and card. I hope I have all of this right – like I said it’s all off the top of my head. Sorry if I have missed anyone or attributed the wrong name to a gift or card, I have a memory like a sieve! Nico loved his doorbell, thank you! It has really cheered Alicia up getting all this post and she feels very special and loved. I thank you all too as it is so nice to see a smile on her face again!

Well, what does the next month hold? Hopefully out of GOS this weekend. She should have started her Diamond riding tomorrow, but we will see. She was really looking forward to that but as always… best laid plans! No planned admissions for the moment for iv’s but we will go back to her home iv treatments. We are doing a sponsored walk for CF in two weeks time, 7 1/2 miles round Richmond Park which hopefully she will walk the whole way, no mean feat for her, but we will take her buggy just in case! Needless to say Nico will probably run the whole way, chasing the deer!

Alicia is out of theatre now and all went well. Port is back in and a sleepy, grumpy, but brave girlie is lying next to me! Thanks for all the wonderful work you all do!

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Alex H

17 July 2011

Alex passed away on the 8th of June 2005. Thank you to everyone who sent her some post.

Original story

During the Spring of Summer 2002 Alexandra began to have what we referred to as “black outs” and was diagnosed with epilepsy. During the summer it became apparent that the medication was not working and an MRI scan was arranged on the 15th November 2002. We were given the results that day that Alexandra had a brain tumour and the results were couriered to Atkinson Morely Hospital in London.Alexandra went into hospital on the Tuesday and had her operations on the Wednesday, she remained in intensive care for 24 hours and went back into the ward on Thursday and she came home on the Monday. About a week later we were given the results of the biopsy which showed the tumour was a benign one called PXA and we were elated! Three months later a routine scan was shown to be “clear as a bell”!The next MRI scan was 9 months later and we were told that either the tumour had returned or there was scar tissue, but we would have to wait 12 weeks. That seemed an enormous amount of time but we got through it by being positive and hoping for the best.Unfortunately the scan in February showed that it was in fact the tumour that had grown back and another operation was arranged for a week later. This time Alexandra felt more ill and took longer to recover, she was distressed at having to go through this again. She came home after a week and we got the biopsy results a week later which showed that although the tumour was still benign it was more aggressive.The next three months went well but in May Alexandra had what we thought was a virus. A routine 3 month post-op scan showed that the tumour had returned. An operation was immediately arranged for the next week. This time the news was not so good, the tumour had changed and was now cancerous and the surgeon had not been able to remove it all for fear of causing Alex paralysis. After much discussion and heartache it was decided that Alexandra would be operated on again the following week. This time however they would wake her up during surgery and talk to her and get her to move her arm and leg whilst removing the tumour. The 3 ½ hours that Alexandra was in surgery felt like a lifetime. She is the youngest person in the country to go through this procedure, and she was extremely brave throughout.

She then had 6 weeks continued radiation and chemotherapy during which time she lost her hair and then began her third cycle of chemotherapy.

Family Update July 2007

How can it be that just over 2 years has gone since our beautiful daughter left us? Last week she would have been 17 and so it would have been driving lessons next, there is always something that we are missing out on. Her little brother is now 11 months old and fortunately a very good baby. He has been a positive addition to the family and has helped Joshua and Bethany to focus on something good. We think of Alexandra all the time and many of her friends are still in touch. We know we are at the stage now where things will never get any better, and we just have to try and live each day, some are better and more bearable than others, but our lives will never be the same without our darling daughter. Thank you to all those who still keep in touch with Bethany and Joshua it is nice to know they have not been forgotten.

Family Update August 2006

I had a baby boy on 8/8/06 (14 months to the day that Alexandra left us!) We have named him Isaac Alex and he weighed 7 lb 1/2 oz, the smallest of my babies. Alexandra would be absolutely besotted with him and we think of her all the time.

Family Update July 2006

It’s now a whole year since Alexandra left us and we have to say that it does not get any easier, nor will it ever! Not an hour goes by when we don’t think about her, her beautiful smile and her bravery. She has missed so much this last year, doing her GCSE’s, going to the school prom, leaving school, and starting the rest of her life, whether going to work or college. There seems to be some milestone that she is missing every month.

Alexandra’s uncle completed the London to Paris cycle ride and we are proud to announce that he raised over £1500 for the Paediatric Brain Tumour Research Fund!

Family update April 2006

Thank you for continuing to contact Joshua and Bethany. We are still looking for sponsors for Alexandra’s uncles London to Paris bike ride in aid of the Paediatric Brain Tumour Research Fund.

Family Update February 2006

Alexandra’s uncle and two of his friends are doing a cycle ride from London to Paris at the end of May in Alexandra’s memory in order to raise funds for Paediatric Brain Tumour Research, which we all of course feel is a very worthwhile cause. Those of you who follow cancer treatments may have seen the recent report that the government is not agreeing to some new treatments being paid for by the NHS, and these are horrendously expensive, so only a handful of people would be able to go private. We were extremely lucky in that Alexandra’s Oncologist at the Royal Marsden ensured that she got the very best and latest treatment and it was funded by the Hospital, we are aware that not all children are so lucky.  Of course in the end it didn’t work for our darling girl but it may have given her a few extra precious months for which we will always be grateful.

If anyone would like to sponsor John in his cycle ride please let me Post Pals know and we will forward the details.

Family Update January 2006

Just to say we went to Antigua in December which was Alexandra’s favourite place in the world, and carried her wish on 8th December which was 6 months since she left us, and scattered her ashes. We had a small service and her dad and Bethany both said a few words, and then we scattered her ashes into the sea. It was very emotional but something that she had said she wanted before she left us.

Thank you for the cards and messages still being received it is good to know Alexandra is still in people thoughts. She was on the front page of the recent Make a Wish newsletter describing the wonderful weekend we had in London.

Family Update end of September 2005

It is now 15 weeks since Alexandra left us, and it doesn’t get any easier, some days are worse than others but they are all bad.  We are still being told by people we have never met how they have heard of her bravery and courage and she is touching lives still.  Joshua struggles to go to school, he always had Alexandra there 2 classes above him, and now he finds it hard that she is not there.  Bethany misses all the girly and sisterly things they used to do.  Our lives will never be the same and we think of our darling daughter every day with love, smiles and tears. Thank you for keeping in touch with Joshua and Bethany.

July 2005

Post Pals released a balloon in Alex’s memory with the quote “Its not how long a star shines, what is remembered is the brightness of the light”

 

Family update July 26th 2005

Still receiving some emails about Alexandra which is nice.

Joshua and Bethany are struggling to cope with the loss of their dear sister Alexandra and appreciate the kind thoughts and gifts and emails which they have received, many thanks.

Update 8th June 2005

It is with great sadness we announce that Alex lost her battle on Wednesday 8th June, she passed away surrounded by many family and friends.

Update 5th June 2005

We took Alexandra on a fabulous holiday on 7th May, we flew to Disneyworld Florida for a week and visited all four of the parks, Alexandra had a wonderful time and was able to go on almost all the rides, the highlight was a trip to Discovery Cove where she swam with the Dolphins, which she has long wanted to do. She also loved Sea World.

We then flew to Antigua and stayed in a hotel where we have been several times before, and where the Staff all know our family, so we were specially looked after. Alexandra was able to relax after the exhausting week in Disney and came home looking refreshed, when we left the hotel many of the staff, and a few guests, were crying, so it was a very emotional time!

Alexandra’s health is now declining rapidly and she is relying on a wheelchair to get her around. Unfortunately the tumour in her lungs has developed rapidly and this is giving her the most trouble at the moment, and she is finding breathing increasingly difficult. Our aim is still to keep her pain free as much as possible.

Update 31st March 2005

Alexandra has just finished her 2nd cycle of the new chemo and is now awaiting two scans in April, before continuing with cycle 3. She has been very tired and has missed quite a bit of school, although her spirits are quite good and she is enjoying her new puppy Pickle.

Update 28th February 2005

Alexandra spend 9 days in hospital earlier this month with severe back pain, unfortunately it was discovered that this was caused by the cancer spreading to her back. Apparently it is very unusual for this to happen, less than 1% chance! She is now trying a different chemo, which lasts over 11 days, and by day 7 or 8 she is feeling very poorly and sick. She begins again on 14th March, she is pretty fed up at the moment.

Update 8th February 2005

Alex is at home but feeling very groggy as a result of the new medication she is on.

She’s not at school and finding the mornings particularly hard so it would be nice for her to receive some mail, to brighten those mornings up a bit.

Alex is obviously well aware that her health has dropped and so that hasn’t helped.

Thank you everyone.

Update 2nd February 2005

Alexandra has just spent a gruelling 9 days in hospital. She has also started a new course of treatment.

She is now home but quite poorly and feeling understandably down, so could use some TLC at the moment. Please drop her an email or card.

Update 20th January 2005

Alexandra is about to undergo her 5th course of chemo, and she will have another scan in early March to see how well the tumour is responding to the treatment.

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Sophie A

16 July 2011

Story written 2010

Sophie was diagnosed with Stage 4 High Risk Neuroblastoma when she was 15 months old. She went through the NB treatment (high dose chemo, stem cell transplant, surgery) and became NED (no evidence of disease).

Sadly, Sophie relapsed and at the time of writing this (24/02/2010) Sophie is expected to only have a small amount of days left.

We need to get lots of happy post to Sophie and her sister Jessica to make them smile.

Please send them first class and keep checking back for updates.

Update 12th March 2010

I’m very sad to say that Sophie’s battle with Neuroblastoma ended last night and she passed away peacefully in her Mum and Dads arms. Earlier in the day she had opened her eyes and said “Mammy”.

Thank you to everyone who sent post to Sophie and Jessica and created lots of precious smiles.

Update 10th March 2010

Sophie is still holding on. She has absolutely amazed me with her fighting spirit. Last night she woke and wanted to walk. She is so frail but her spirit inside is so strong and she walked! Through the night she was irritable and angry, I cannot begin to understand what is going on in her little body. I now wish and pray for her to be at peace and free from this disease.

Update 9th March 2010

Sophie continues to sleep. Her Morphine and Sedation pumps have been upped in a bid to make her more comfortable as she has been showing signs of distress.

Update 8th March 2010

Today is pretty much the same as yesterday, Sophie hasn’t woken, and her Morphine and sedative pumps are keeping her comfortable. Lord, how long must this pure torture go on? Today is such a beautiful sunny day, Sophie would enjoy the park today so much, yet she is asleep, frail, weak and stuck on the sofa with no ability to move.

Update 7th March 2010

Sophie hasn’t woken up for the second day in a row. Time is not on her side now.

Update 6th March 2010

Sophie is still battling on. She is very tired and weak and is now hooked up to morphine and sedative pumps to make her as comfortable as possible.

I am thinking of what Sophie as a two year old should be doing and think sometimes life is unfair.

Update 4th March 2010

Sophie was very poorly yesterday, we thought we were going to lose her, but she is still here fighting on.

Thank you so much for all your post and messages of support.

Update 1st March 2010

Not a good day for Sophie today. She’s been asleep a lot, irritable, uncomfortable and generally not at all happy. She didn’t even want a cuddle for most of the day, just wanted to be lying alone, not being touched. Her lumps are growing and her eyes are very bruised and swollen. Evil, ugly disease. It’s so devastating to have to observe. We’re just praying for a better day tomorrow, we would love an hour of happiness like we did yesterday. So sad to think we now class a “good day” as 1 or 2 hours of Sophie being happy and saying the odd word… something you’d think was such a bad day for children unaffected by such a horrible disease! It’s so unfair children have to go through things like this.

Update 28th February 2010

Sophie woke this morning very happy in her mammy’s arms. She has continued to amaze the doctors and nurses with her fighting spirit, even walking around today. She has watched Dora and, of course, Mickey Mouse. We know we are on borrowed time but we are enjoying it.

Update 27th February 2010 (10pm)

Another sleepy day for Sophie, but she is still amazing us with her strength, smiling and making us laugh when she is awake.

Update 26th February 2010

Sophie and Jessica have been inundated with post of gifts, cards and messages. It has been wonderful to see the few smiles Sophie has given today and Jess has been in her element opening all your lovely parcels. Thank you Post Pals, you do an amazing job, what a fantastic and rewarding organisation and THANKYOU so much to all you amazing people out there who have taken the time to make Sophie and Jessica’s last days together as special for them as it can be under the circumstances by sending all of these gifts.

Love Elaine (Sophie’s Aunt).

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Abbie S

16 July 2011

Story written 2006

Abbie was diagnosed with Neuroblastoma, an aggressive childhood cancer, in December 2002 at the age of 21 months. The initial signs were positive with the cancer being localised. Sadly Abbie relapsed 6 months later and endured 8 months of gruelling treatment of chemotherapy, high dose chemotherapy and radiotherapy. She was pronounced in remission in early 2004 and enjoyed a year of good health before sadly a relapse was diagnosed. Once again, Abbie endured a range of treatments and was once again pronounced clear of the disease in February 2006. Sadly the success was short lived and a routine scan 3 months later showed that the disease was back stronger than ever.

Abbie has an amazing spirit and is incredibly strong in her fight with this awful disease. By choice she would undergo morning out patient chemo before dashing back to school, anxious not to miss anything. Sadly the only option now is to try and keep the disease at bay with low dose oral chemotherapy but the benefits will only be short lived. The aggressiveness of the disease is such than she can appear better than she has been in months on one day and in the lowest of lowest lows with all the pain and discomfort this involves the next.

Family update 3rd April 2007

A big thank you for the balloons, cards and presents for Jamie’s birthday and those who continue to write.

Update September 2006

Post Pals released some balloons in memory of Abbie.

Update 11th September 2006

Our beautiful daughter Abbie died at 7.36 am this morning. After a fairly restless night she began to experience intense pain in her leg at 5.30am this morning. I managed to give her a dose of oral morphine and at around 6.00am I climbed into bed with her and was comforting her. At around 6.45am she began to fit and I was able to cuddle, comfort and reassure her. This was the first time in a while that I had been able to cuddle her as she had been in too much discomfort. Mike took over while I had a bath, then Jamie who was getting ready for school went to her room to say goodbye and she just died.

We are truly devastated that we have lost our child but pleased she is no longer suffering. It is a real comfort to know that only five weeks ago she was playing, running and swimming at a party and this time four weeks ago spent 2 hours disco dancing. Last Monday she made flower shaped biscuits, on Wednesday made a supermarket till out of boxes and collected Jamie from school and Thursday painted egg cups. On Saturday morning we took her for a walk in her buggy to the local shops and she insisted on renewing her library book.

We have arranged Abbie’s funeral for Friday.

Update 1st September 2006

Abbie has had a really rough fortnight. She was beginning to perk up and eat a bit more but then suddenly went very subdued, withdrawn and depressed. She has had an upset tummy and some very disturbed nights. We discovered yesterday that she has a very bad gum infection (which may or may not be caused by a tumour in her jaw) and is now on antibiotics. Today she is brighter and really enjoyed making a mirror which arrived from a wonderful Post Pal this morning.

Thanks to everyone for cheering up both Abbie & Jamie – they love opening their post. People’s generosity is amazing.

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Ethan B

15 July 2011

Story written 2008

Ethan was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis just before his first birthday after recurrent chest infections. Ethan was a very ‘floppy’ baby who at times would only lie around, was not interested in toys or his surroundings and did not have the energy to crawl. Ethan’s first admission into hospital was on Christmas Eve when he was six months old, where it was thought he had Bronchitis. From then on it was fortunate that he was referred to the local paediatrician, who then made the diagnosis after several sweat tests came back inconclusive. Once diagnosis was made and he started treatment his life improved considerably.

Ethan has since had a further three hospital admissions for IV treatment and a bronchoscopy. Ethan’s daily routine consists of 40 tablets, nebulisers, inhalers and physio twice a day.

Ethan attends main stream school and despite having to have medication during the day he enjoys his school life to the full.

Update 1st September 2011

It is with sadness that I’m moving Ethan on from Post Pals but hopefully people who sent post to Ethan can send to another child who would appreciate it too.

He has loved everything he received and we will try and send post to other children.

Thank you for everything you have done.

Update 3rd May 2011

Ethan has had a tough few months; he has had over a month of antibiotics due to a persistent chesty cough. Fortunately this did not result in a hospital stay but it was on the cards if the oral antibiotics didn’t work.

Ethan has been out on the trampoline during the lovely sunny days to help clear his mucus and fingers crossed now that the weather has improved he will continue to stay well.

Ethan has not let his infection get him down and is now a member of his schools hockey team – to go with the athletics and cross country teams. Also, Ethan has been practicing for a local basketball team and hopefully will be made a member of the team in a few weeks time.

Update 20th December 2010

Ethan has been quite poorly this last month; he had a chest infection, a slight bowel blockage and was not gaining weight. At his last clinic appointment his right lung was very quiet, which the doctors didn’t like much, so his physio therapy was increased. We feared hospital was on the cards but with intense physio, lots of antibiotics, and some new weight gain supplements, Ethan has improved and this Christmas will be hospital free. Fingers crossed.

Ethan is very much looking forward to Christmas and has some presents under the tree already from Post Pals. Thank you ever so much for all that you do for him.

Merry Christmas xxx

Update 26th September 2010

Ethan has been keeping well, up until a week or so ago. He is coughing a lot and is very tired – a course of antibiotics has his name on before the end of the month. Hopefully we can escape going into hospital.

Ethan didn’t manage to hit his target weight, but didn’t loose anything either, so the doctors are now hoping he will improve by his next clinic appointment in November.

Ethan has received some lovely cards and letters and still looks forward to seeing the post when he comes home from school. Many thanks to everyone who takes the time to send Ethan some mail. Ethan loved the story that was written over a few letters so many thanks for that and he loved the parcel he got with toys, pens and sand art in it.

Update 18th August 2010

Ethan has kept fairly well over the last couple of months and has not needed any extra antibiotics. However his weight still seems to be a problem, he has now got a target to get to by next month. We are not certain what will happen if he doesn’t reach this target, but we are feeding him up in the best way we can.

Ethan has been receiving lots of lovely letters this month and he would like to thank everyone who sent him some post for his birthday – the room was covered with cards!!

Update 4th June 2010

Well, after having a good couple of months, Ethan has had a course of antibiotics, a bowel blockage and been tested for diabetes (still waiting on the results for that).

Ethan has not reacted very well to the hot days as he is on an antibiotic that makes him sensitive to sunlight. He also forgets he needs to drink a lot in the hot weather hence the bowel blockage.

Fortunately, things now seem to be moving along nicely after a tense week.

Ethan was tested for diabetes late this month so we don’t have the results yet. That was a very tiring time for him as he hates needles and having blood taken every half hour from his canula was a terrifying experience for him. After a little while though he settled into it and he let the nurses have his arm without any moaning.

There are no scheduled appointments this month so hopefully it will be a smooth month for him.Ethan is very much looking forward to his birthday this month as he will be away on cub camp, a very special party indeed.

Many thanks to everyone who has sent Ethan some mail, he just loves it. Ethan has had some wonderful gifts, including a whole box of pirate bits and bobs, a fan that has a display function and a book on the wonderful world. Many thanks!

Update 30th April 2010

Ethan has had a good couple of months. He had his annual review which was all good except his weight; he really does need to put on a few pounds. Ethan is now on Calshakes which apparently taste like McDonalds milkshakes which he loves. Ethan has another appointment in May which hopefully will show a weight gain.Ethan would like to say thank you for all his post, and that he looks forward to coming home after school to see what has arrived.

Update 28th February 2010

Ethan has not had a bad couple of months, he has had a course of antibiotics for a heavy cold which ended up on his chest, but thankfully his swabs came back clear.Ethan is still not putting on much weight and is still on his build up drinks which he is not keen on. He has his annual review next month which, fingers crossed, will go well. He is looking forward to the liver scan and chest x-ray but not the blood tests! Hopefully he can try some different drinks to help him gain weight.

Ethan made it into the school cross country team this month after coming 4th in his year group. He ran a county school race, but unfortunately his team came second and didn’t make it into the finals.

Ethan is doing very well at school as well, having completed a whole term without having a day off – something he has never achieved in any of his 4 years at school.

Ethan loves receiving his post and is now taking an interest in sending post to other children, as the post makes him smile and he wants to make others smile as well.

Thank you for Ethan’s post, he loves the Karate Bag!!

Update 13th January 2010

Ethan has had a good month as his blood levels have gone down and his cough has eased. However, he is on another short course of steroids as he was starting to cough again.

Ethan had a wonderful Christmas and unlike last year was hospital free. Thank you to everyone who sent cards and gifts for Ethan and Kezia, they were lovely. Ethan also really loved the letters from Jangles!

Update 3rd December 2009

Ethan has had a few up and downs this past couple of months, starting when he developed an infection from having his flu jab, he was not happy! Ethan has had a very strange cough and has had blood tests to determine the cause, he has had a course of steroids as some infection markers were up, and we are awaiting the results of a further blood test, hoping the markers have come down.

Ethan is now on build up drinks as he is not eating as well as he should and his weight is dipping slightly, although he hates them we are persisting with them with the hope of him coming off them when we next see his consultants in 3 months time.

Ethan had his swine flu injection and was a very good boy, holding his arm out nicely for the nurse, usually it takes 3 of us to pin him down!

Ethan is very much looking forward to Christmas. A great big thank you to the person who sent him the letter from Santa Clause, he loved it so much that he took it into school and showed it to anyone who would look. Ethan loves his post!

Fingers crossed we are not in hospital like we were over Christmas and the New Year last year.

Update 27th September 2009

Ethan has had a varying couple of months. He has been up and down with his chest and he has had a few courses of oral antibiotics which have kept the worst at bay.

Ethan has lost a little weight which his doctors are slightly concerned about, so we are feeding him with as much fat as possible. His next hospital appointment is not until November but we will have to get in touch with them over the next week or so as he is coughing a lot more and is quite tired, which is unusual for Ethan.

Ethan had a good summer holidays but couldn’t wait to get back to school as he enjoys it so much.

Now he is back thought he wants time off.

Ethan also became a big brother to a little sister in September who he loves to pieces and takes really good care of, despite him feeling rough himself.

Thank you to everyone who has sent cards, letters and gifts. Ethan loves to receive his post and looks out for it most days, I can’t thank Post Pals enough for making Ethan feel loved by people he has never met. Post Pals is fantastic and always brings a smile to Ethan’s face.

Update 25th July 2009

Ethan has been keeping very well over the last few months. We have recently moved and he now has a much bigger and very grown up bedroom which he loves.

Ethan has not had any courses of antibiotics or any problems apart from a little bit of hayfever.Unfortunatley, during the karate holiday, Ethan did not manage to gain his brown belt which he was dissapointed about, but he is continuing to work hard towards it!

Ethan has also started his guitar lessons and is doing really well. He is not sure if he enjoys them or not so only time will tell if he sticks to them.

Many thanks to all who have sent Ethan birthday cards and post. He loves receiving things through the post!

Update 2nd May 2009

Ethan has had a very good few months. He has been enjoying the sunshine and playing outside.His health has been excellent and two of his nebulisers have been cut out of his routine, which he is very happy about.

Ethan now does his own physio using an accapella which he breathes through and it vibrates his chest, making him a very independent boy.

This month Ethan is attending his Karate group’s camp on the Isle of White and he is hoping to gain his brown belt whilst there. He has been practicing like mad!Ethan has a routine hospital appointment this month and fingers crossed it will go smoothly as he is in good health and keeping well.

Update 23rd February 2009

First of all, sorry for the lack of updates as it has been a hectic few months.

Ethan became quite poorly in the run up to Christmas and was not improving. He went in to hospital a couple of days after Christmas for a 2 week IV course of antibiotics. Whilst in hospital he managed to contract pseudomonas which put him in isolation. The IV antibiotics worked and Ethan came out of hospital the best he has been for months.

Unfortunately over the last few days he has developed another cough so is on more oral antibiotics and more nebulised antibiotics. Ethan is now on 5 nebulisers a day which he is not keen on.Otherwise Ethan is well and he is enjoying school and keeping up with his karate. Most of all though, he is excited about becoming a big brother!

Thank you for all the cards and gifts that were sent over Christmas. Ethan also loved his Valentine’s cards.

Update 6th November 2008

Ethan has kept fairly well these past few months. He has had a few courses of antibiotics which have now seemed to have stopped his chesty cough.

Ethan is keeping very active taking part in Karate and Beavers. He has now started swimming lessons at school which he enjoys.

Ethan would like to thank everyone who has sent him mail; it really makes him a smile after a hard day. Special thanks to Julie B for your lovely notes and gifts. Also to Post Pals for the parcels, Ethan loved them.

Post Pals is fantastic, thank you everyone!

Update 31st July 2008

Ethan has had a varied few months. He was very poorly in May with an infection. He picked up in June and had a very good hospital visit, although this month he has unfortunately developed another cough and a bug in his lungs. This is being treated with a course of oral antibiotics which, fingers crossed, will prevent the need for another hospital stay.

Ethan is still a purple tag in karate and is very near to getting his purple belt.

Ethan is very excited about going back to school in September as he will be in the Junior part of the school.

Post Pals is a fantastic site and thanks to everyone who sends Ethan mail, he eagerly awaits them arriving.

Update 7th April 2008

Ethan attended his annual review in March and we had some good news and bad. The good is that Ethan has grown and put on weight. The bad is that unless his cough goes he will be going into hospital for 2 weeks. Ethan is now on a nebuliser which he hates and needs to have physio 3 times a day along with his other activities. Ethan also has crackles back on the base of his right lung and they took months to go last time.

On a positive note, Ethan is now a purple tag in karate, even though he broke his little toe during a sparing match!

Many thanks to Helen F, Ethan loves the socks so much he wears them every night! To Debi, the hat is lovely, thanks! Julie, thank you for your cards and the tongue-twister which had us all in fits of laughter!

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Dominic F

15 July 2011

Story written 2008

Dominic was diagnosed with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy (DMD) when he was 3 years old. His Mum began to suspect something was wrong as Dominic couldn’t jump or go up and down stairs. DMD is a condition which causes the muscles to die and is life limiting. Sufferers, always boys, go off their feet and into a wheelchair at around 9 years old, although they normally need a wheelchair before 9 years old for occasional use, especially if walking any distance.

Dominic was such an active baby, toddler and boy, and his Mum thought he would react badly to having to go in a wheelchair, but he accepted it well. Due to his severe learning difficulties, Dominic does get frustrated as he can’t do things for himself and yet can’t always communicate what he wants.

Dominic is, on the whole, a happy boy although he can be a bit ‘Kevin the teen’ on occasions since he hit 13 last year. He loves his books, DVD’s and CD’s and has most of the Disney films. He likes things that are more for under 8’s and he can use easily as his arms muscles are weak now and he can’t lift things any more. He likes going for day trips out too. He doesn’t like too much noise or people around him.

Dominic is very affectionate and loves cuddles with his Mum, even at 14 years old. He has a huge fan base and people fall in love with him easily whether it’s family, friends or professional people who see him. He occasionally goes to Keech Cottage, a children’s hospice in Luton and loves it there.

Dominic is a very special, much loved boy.

Update 1st December 2012

Hi everyone,

It’s been months and months since I last updated due to the website being revamped and I’ve been so busy.

Dominic has been plodding along. He’s had a sleep study which has shown his respiratory system is pretty good still. It is dropping slowly but he still doesn’t need night time ventilation. His heart has remained the same, thank God.

His mobility is getting worse and worse. He can hardly move his hands at all now. It literally is just his fingers. Other than that he can still move his head and upper trunk ok. He has to start going to the Thoracic clinic locally to monitor his chest more regularly. His appetite has dropped and it has become increasingly hard to get him to eat much so his weight has dropped. This is normal for DMD boys but worrying. Due to his severe learning difficulties it is hard to encourage him to eat or reason with him. If he won’t then he won’t.

He is getting a new wheelchair from Whizzkids in the near future as now he’s 18 he’s outgrown his other one. We are soon moving house where Dominic will have a much bigger bedroom and more space to move around. Dominic will be going to college next September and, at present, we are still trying to get funding for Dominic to go out of County as he cannot be provided for within County, but the red tape you have to get through is unbelievable. He has been offered a place at the college though and I have accepted on his behalf. It is perfect for him.

After careful consideration I have decided to move Dominic on from Post Pals and make room for someone else who would benefit from receiving mail. Dominic is finding it increasingly hard to pick up anything and can’t read. His sisters are both in Secondary school and busy with homework and Ben has been spoilt rotten (in a nice way) by Post Pals. I am very busy sorting out both Dominic’s transition from his school and Vanessa’s transition from secondary school and I’m helping with dog rescue again and stitching for Love Quilts still.

Therefore, I want to thank everyone who has taken time and spent money on making my children smile, especially Dominic. It has made a huge difference to all the kids this last 4 years and we are all extremely grateful. It is so reassuring to know there are still so many people who care about others despite having their own busy lives.

You are all angels. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Obviously, thanks to everyone who has sent a card/present/letter/postcard/email the last few months since I’ve updated. Some have been taken away by the kids so if your name is missing I am so sorry but a final heartfelt thank you to:- Helen (SparklyStar), Natashja, Georgia, Laura and the 3rd Dorchester Brownies,  Emma, Rosemary, Claire (Guernsey), Erica, Sarah (North Wales), Laura J, Harriet Hunt, Jane Fawcett, Adam, Joe and Tom, Dorothee, Jen, Ally, Claudia from Germany, Anita, Eric, Tracey, Poppy, Kate Stanforth, Rachel, Launa J, Jessica, Helen E, Maria and Michael, Jenny from Cardiff, Claire H, Heikki R, BB, Dawn, Emily B, Candice Nash, Becky Butler, Catherine, Susan from USA and Alex Hanson. To the regular people who have been consistent and amazing for a lot of the 4 years:- Sarah Gilligan, Ray and Marjolijn, Becky Fisher, Dominic and Gethrin, Kim (who always will be Ginger to me!), Karen (Sami), Kate D, Imogen and Ben, Christine B, Jo from Belgium, Libby, Jenny, Denise C, Elizabeth Batty and Claire.

To anyone I’ve missed and everyone who has sent mail to my family… Thank you so much. We really do appreciate it.

To all who work behind the scenes at Post Pals i.e. Viks, both Kates and everyone else… You are an inspiration and have added so many smiles the last 4 years. Thank you all.

And to all the other Pals, past and present, and their families… Love and Best Wishes to you all. You will always be in our thoughts and hearts and I will continue to send mail to Pals.

Update 1st March 2012

Dominic’s Echocardiogram in January showed the ACE inhibitors and Beta Blockers are doing their stuff as there has been no change, thank God.

He was very poorly last month. He had a sickness bug which went over 12 hours but he was lethargic, weak, and very poorly afterwards, and didn’t get out of bed for 6 days and didn’t eat for 10 days. It was very worrying and he looked awful. Thankfully he seems fine now although he hasn’t got such a good appetite these days. I am still trying to get his seating sorted out as he is leaning forward really badly now and I have to keep pushing him back. I am trying to get it sorted but, as per everything, no-one seems in a rush to help and I end up chasing everyone.

Dominic has to leave his fantastic school next year which will be tough as he’s been there since he was 5 years old. I have been to look around a local college and on Monday went to look at another college in between Bedford and Wellingborough which I think would be great for Dominic. If he stays locally he will be shoved from pillar to post and lose his respite and social life almost totally. With this one he could go there in the week and I would fetch him at the weekends. Initially I didn’t want him to go to a residential placement and thought that, if he knew his life expectancy was a lot less, he wouldn’t want to be away from home, but my sister rightly said ‘of course he would.’ He would want a quality of life and she is totally correct. They have different activities after lessons every night whereas he would be bored at home every night and weekend. So… now comes the fight for out of County funding, but his name is down and I intend to get him in there if at all possible.

Thanks to Imogen and Ben for their cards and gifts for Ben. You are so consistent and it is really appreciated. Also, thanks to the amazing Viks, Sarah G, Karen (Sami), Leela for all her cards, Angela, Bethan, Christina and dog Charlie, and the photos from Dominic and Gethin… and the Lego club membership form. Thanks for Dom’s Valentines cards too… the two with ‘?’ and the one from Marjolijn and Ray. Thanks to Denise for Ben’s letter and the gift. Thanks also to Becky for her regular letters and bits to Emily. She loves hearing from you.

Love to everyone at Post Pals, all the Pals themselves and families… and especially to Katy H and Connor’s families and friends.

Update 16th January 2012

Since my last update Dominic has had another echocardiogram which showed that the Ace inhibitor and the beta blockers have stabilized his heart so far. Let’s hope it stays this way.

We had a Neurological appointment last week at GOSH just to discuss Dom’s general health and we discussed ways of improving Dominic’s seating, as he is starting to lean forward a lot and it’s clear that he is losing strength in his torso. He is also finding it increasingly difficult to move his forearms and hands now and even steering his wheelchair is more difficult for him. This is such a cruel illness. He is obviously uncomfortable at times so I think he is getting a bit of pain in his legs and muscles in general. It’s so hard to know for certain or pinpoint anything due to his Severe Learning Difficulties. Dominic has his next Echocardiogram next week on Tuesday (24th Jan). Keep your fingers crossed for us please.

On another note, Dominic’s little brother, Ben, who turned 4 just after Christmas, has been ‘unofficially’ diagnosed as being on the Autistic Spectrum now. It doesn’t overly surprise me as he was showing tendencies like his brother and older sister and hopefully with a bit of help he will get along ok. He is a placid lad but does have some funny ways at times and can be hard to handle.

I’d like to say a really HUGE thank you to everyone who set aside time in what is a very stressful and busy month to send a Christmas card, Ben a birthday card, or a letter or a gift to Dominic or his siblings. I can’t tell you how much it is appreciated and you people are just so caring and thoughtful. Thanks to Helen T, Denise C, Jo from Belgium, Aafke and Iris, The Homberg family, Christine from Florida, Kay, Katie, Emily Collingridge, Becky and Josh, Ray, Marjolijn and Does, Marty Long, Helen R, Sarah G, Matt Dover (homemade card!), Glad, Lizzie, Jenny, Suzy (good luck), Daniel, Dominic and Gethin, Kay, Despina, Charlotte, Angela and Elyse (Dom loved the car and Christmas huge car you made. Hope Angela’s brother is doing well!), Viks, Glad, Catherine, Kim and baby Stevie, Rachel, Dawn Goddard, Sarah G, Angela, Christine, Niduska, Imogen and Ben, Penny, Jane (loved the poem), Joe and Josh, Christopher Adam, Di, Steve, Daniel, Chris and Laurue, Elaine, Graham, Danielle and Hazel, Bekki Ford for the Santa letters (you took so much time and effort. Don’t know how you managed it with organising Christmas. Thanks so much. We read them to Ben but his sister really loved them too), Holly (great letter and Santa pics), and Danielle. Thank you so much for taking the time to send the letters and Dominic’s siblings and us enjoyed reading them.

I would like to wish all Post Pals and their families, Viks, Kate W, Kate D, and everyone who sends post, a very Happy and Healthy New Year.

Update 4th October 2011

Dominic’s sleep study results were as good as last year. Good news at last, thank goodness.

I also want to say thank you to Tracy from Bristol, Dominic and Gethin, Ruby, Maria and Michael, Jenny Orpwood, Jenny, Denise C and superwoman (AKA Viks!) for Dominic’s cards.

Update 2nd October 2011

The visit at GOSH on 12th September really just confirmed what had already been said. We discussed ways of making Dom as comfortable as possible in his wheelchair now he can’t have the spinal surgery and they said that the Cardiology department needed to keep an eye on Dom’s heart to see/make sure it stabilises and doesn’t drop suddenly again. After having said that, I then got an appointment through from the Cardiology department with an appointment for January!! Six months after his last Echo! After phoning the wonderful Ruth Barrett, who spoke to the Cardiology department, who then called me, they are going to send Dom an appointment for this month… although I still haven’t had one. When I spoke to them they didn’t seem to see the urgency and I almost felt that they were giving Dom the appointment just to keep me happy. I just don’t understand it. Why don’t they think it’s important?

Dominic and I are at Brompton Hospital tomorrow overnight as he has a Sleep Study to check his lung function/breathing patterns. Last year the results were almost perfect and I’m hoping that there is no change or we will have problems, as obviously if the lungs aren’t working properly it puts extra strain on the heart, and Dom would need BiPap at night. I just don’t know how he will cope with that. I think Dom deserves a bit of good luck this year. Last year Dom really enjoyed us being there together alone though so I’m hoping that we have a nice time again this year despite the circumstances.

I have also booked me and Dom a long weekend away in Norfolk on Bonfire weekend in an adapted cottage that has a swimming pool with a hoist on site. Can’t wait!

I would like to thank everyone for all their thoughts, care, well wishes etc. Please mention Dom in your prayers if you are religious. It can only help.

Huge thanks to Glad, Ewelina, Marion, lots from Jenny (congratulations on your wedding), Penny, Nathalina, Susan, Dominique, Melanie, Christine, Jo from Belgium, Ninta, Julia, Ray, Marjolijn and Does, Willa, Jane, Becky, Teresa, Tina, Lucy, Beverly, Karen (Sami), Imogen and Ben, and Angela. Thanks to Sarah, Libby (thanks to Sarah for my personal letter, what a fantastic lady you are!) and thank you to Keri. Apologies if your name has been missed off. I have to retrieve post from all over the house but all are appreciated, believe me.

Huge, huge, huge thanks to all the ladies at Post Pals for my make up bag of goodies. It is all useful and really cheered me up. You are amazing.

Loving thoughts to all Pals and families.

Update 3rd September 2011

Firstly, I would like to thank everyone who has sent card/postcards/letters and gifts to Dominic and his siblings over the last 2 months. I am so sorry not to mention everyone singularly, but the post is spread all over the house and with the summer holidays and with the kids home I’ve not had time to keep on top of it, especially as I’ve had visits to GOSH and been cross stitching for Love Quilts too. To say they have all been very much appreciated is an understatement… especially Dominic’s birthday cards and bits. He had a great birthday at Church Farm in Stow Bardolph, Norfolk, as we were on holiday in Pentney, Norfolk, at the time. We all had a great holiday actually and were sorry to come back.

It’s amazing how things can change so quickly and we had some very upsetting news this week. After going back for yet another echo and ECG in the middle of August, the Neurological department have been through the results and had a meeting and we have been greeted with the bad news that Dominic’s heart is not in a good enough condition to undergo anaesthetic, as it’s just too risky, so he won’t be having the spinal surgery. He has moderate Cardiomyopathy. He is on the young side for his heart to be affected like this and GOSH feel that taking into account other boys with DMD who have had heart problems at this age, Dominic’s life expectancy has been reduced substantially and anything over 20 years old will be a bonus. He has just turned 17.

We have been plodding along day to day since Dom was young with his health and mobility disintegrating all the time, feeling like we always had time… for treatment, a cure… and now we are counting down and times running out. I know there are very young children on Post Pals that lose their fights to awful illnesses too and there are a lot of times I’ve read updates on here and thought how lucky we are… this isn’t one of those times. I am trying very hard to process the information I have been given, but at the end of the day, Dominic is my life and I am finding it very hard to keep a brave face for the other kids… and obviously for Dominic. From now on life has changed totally and will never be the same.

I have to go to GOSH on Monday 12th September (Ben’s first day at Nursery) alone to speak to the Neurological team about where we go from here, and more in-depth, the results and implications of Dominic’s heart. I have a feeling I’m not going to like what I hear even more than I haven’t already.

Prayers and support to all the Pals and their families… including my own.

Update 29th June 2011

I must apologise for not updating sooner. This year and in particular these last few months, have been very trying and not good ones for our family to be honest. A much loved family member has been fighting Cancer, and we had our lovely old rescue collie cross put to sleep a few weeks back, after months of her being poorly and debating on making that decision. Dominic has asked where she is a few times. I used to have to keep moving her out of the doorway so Dominic could get past in his wheelchair and he can’t understand where she’s gone. I am still grieving too. If you have or have had a dog you will know where I’m coming from. If you haven’t you will probably think I’m daft.

We welcomed a new addition to our family just over a week before we lost Skye… a beautiful rescue 5 year old ex stud Labrador who we have called Oz. Skye took a real liking to him before she left us. Dominic appears to be very keen on him and Katie, our Lurcher, is glad of the company. She misses Skye too.

We still have no date for Dominic’s spinal surgery but they have indicated it will be around November/December time. Dom had an MOT at GOSH in April and an echo he had done showed that his heart was pretty good and had slightly improved since he started taking Perindopril which was great news. His spine hadn’t got any worse either. They referred us to the Cardiology department at GOSH just to get a more in depth look at Dom’s heart ready for the surgery and we had that appointment a few weeks back. I assumed Dom would just have an echo and a chat with the Cardiologist but it was a long day. Dom had a blood test, echo, ecg, blood pressure taken and THEN we saw the Cardiologist who greeted us with the not so great news that Dom’s heart had swollen slightly. This was slightly worrying as it was only two months prior that he had had an echo which had been positive. They decided to put him on beta blockers ready for the op to make sure he is fighting fit so we went back this Monday gone to start him on them and he was monitored for a few hours to make sure there were no major side effects. He was a star. The bloods were to check his kidneys were functioning properly. His condition means that all his muscles waste so every organ needs monitoring. We have to go back in a month to raise the dose of the beta blockers once we know he’s OK on them and then we need to go back to GOSH again to the Duchenne clinic to amalgamate all the info we have (I assume). Dominic also has his next sleep study in the Brompton in October and from what GOSH have said, the surgery will then be imminent.

Please send Dominic some positive, loving thoughts in these coming months as he has a tough time coming up. If someone could send me some strength too I would appreciate it!

Thoughts go to all Pals and families who are having a really tough time. I’ve been reading Alice P’s blog – what an amazing young lady. Hope you get a lot of your Bucket list fulfilled Alice.

Thank you so much to everyone who sent cards to Dominic and his siblings. We are grateful to everyone:-Anita from Portugal, Jessica, Emily and Poppy-Mae, Karen (everyone loved the Smarties cards), Karen (Sami), Denis, Ray, Marjolijn and Does, Bethan, Imogen and Ben, Juno, Kylee, Dominic and Gethin (the photo is gorgeous), Jo from Belgium, Genevieve, Dawn Goddard, Tor, Rebecca Cook, Libby (we liked the ramblings!), Chloe, Despina, Julia and Dasha, Courtney, Tracey (Bristol), Jenny, Laura H, Nichola, Jon, Daniel and Jasper the dog, Luca, Helen, Julia, Viks and Post Pals Team, Anita (Texas), Anne Calico, Niek and everyone else who I have missed. This is 3 months worth so some cards, letters etc have disappeared into various areas to be read and or displayed. Thanks so much to Debbie S (Dom loved the drawings) and Sarah G for your lovely letters which we all look forward to reading. Becky Fisher (Emily loves getting your letters and always fills me in on what you are up to and what a clever young lady you are!). The kids have had some lovely presents this last few months including the choccie treats at Easter. We’ve had a few toys, stickers, colouring pads and various drawing stuff, Fuzzy Felts and little trinkets and gadgets. Loved the CD that Sarah, Dominic and Gethin’s Mum, sent. We have watched it a few times. Emily loved the stickers from J Patterson. Thanks also to whoever sent the photos of the Tarantula and the Bearded Dragon (which I am debating getting for Dom for his birthday). Thanks so much to everyone who has spent their hard earned cash getting my kids pressies. It is so kind of you and I am always amazed at what fantastic people there are in the world when the post comes.

I loved seeing the pictures on Facebook of the Post Pals party. I had hoped to go with Dominic but it was my sisters’ birthday the same day. It is amazing what Viks, The Kates’ and everyone else who gives up their time achieve, especially when they themselves are poorly. We are very grateful.

Update 4th March 2011

Things have been pretty quiet so far this year with Dominic health wise.

He is due to have his wheelchair reviewed by Whizzkids in the next few weeks. We are still waiting for a date for his spinal surgery but as we haven’t had the pre op yet I am assuming it is unlikely it will be before September now. His February appointment at GOSH was rescheduled to April due to the surgery happening later than expected.

Thank you so much for all Emily’s birthday cards. There were some really pretty ones.

Thanks for all the cards and postcards too. Dom loves looking at the pictures on them all. The more the merrier. Thanks also for the Valentines cards. Thanks to:- Dina from Oz, Rachel, Lola, Jenny, Libby and Florence, Ally, LOADS from Jenny, Daria, Charlotte May, Jo from Belgium, Wendy from the Netherlands, Jokobl (is that right?), Penny, Catherine, Maria and Michael, Samantha, Tracey from Bristol, Ray, Marjolijn and Guinea pig (hi back and you are more than welcome!), Efe, Karin, Nadine, Linda and everyone else who sent one that I can’t find now (they end up being looked at by everyone and in various parts of the house but they are ALL appreciated!). Special thanks to Becky Fisher and Imogen and Ben who write constantly and send things to Emily and Ben. Thanks as always go to Sarah G and also to Jenny for all her letters this last two months. Thanks for all the Special Memory pressies and thanks again to Imogen and Ben who regularly spoil Ben with little gifts.

We wish all the other Pals and families our best wishes… especially those in hospital at the moment.

Update 5th January 2011

Dominic has been up and down the last few months. As always, he enjoyed the run up to Christmas, but over the Christmas period when he was off school he wasn’t very happy on the whole, and neither was his sister. It’s their Autistic tendencies coming out and teenage hormones.

This year will be the year of Dominic’s operation and I am waiting to find out when it will happen. We’ve heard that GOSH can’t do any dental work whilst Dom has the op which we had hoped would be possible. I will update better next month when I’ve caught up.

I am totally overwhelmed with the cards Dominic and his siblings have received. There have been lots received from all over the world after people have been told about Dominic by ‘Jo from Belgium’ so thank you so much Jo. We have had lots of cards from Sarah, as always, who always finds the time to write lovely long descriptive letters to Dominic and the rest of the family and Ray and Marjolijn who also send lots of cards and gifts. Thanks also to Kim (L), Anne Calico and Despina for their cards as always and Becky Fisher and Imogen and Ben for writing and sending things to Emily and Ben. Emily WILL be writing back Becky. Thanks also for Ben’s Reindeer letters. He enjoyed having them read to him despite saying Reindeer and Santa all the way through.

Just HUGE thanks to everyone for the cards in November and December including ones from Tjitske, one from Germany, Isa, Opitz, Nancy, Fabian and Smudge, Erin from France, one from Malaysia, Jo K, Svetlana, Olga, 2 from Finland… which all mentioned Jo from Belgium. Also, huge thanks to Jessica, Helen T, Juno, Annie, the Homberg family, Michelle P and family, Barbara, Marli, Mummy and Daddy, Carol and Kim’s Grandma for the lovely Aladdin handmade card. Thanks also to Dominic and Gethin for their card and lovely photo, what handsome lads.

We’ve had a lot of cards from a school too. I think they are all from Maltby Academy but one mentions Rolleston as well so I’m not sure. Anyway… there are SO MANY names signed in these cards I would be here all day mentioning each one but classes/forms mentioned are… Rolleston 9, Mrs Richards and Form RO14, BE12 and Matt, Joe L, Miss Lovel and YO7.

There are some cards with foreign postmarks that I can’t read the names on but thanks anyway. Dom only really looks at the pictures and drawings anyway.

I would like to say a special thank you to Christine for her lovely letter regarding Dominic’s upcoming spinal op and her personal experience, it was very helpful. Thanks for your thoughtfulness.

Again… thanks so much to Maltby Academy for their bits and pieces and Imogen and Ben who regularly send bits to Ben. Also, Ben got a lovely parcel of Thomas bits and a festive book and crayons from Jeanette, Peter, Adam, Richard and Louise. We also had lovely presents arrived from Grace and family (including the dog and guinea pig) and Kay, Simon, Aimee and Lucy. Thanks too to Jessica for your presents and to Ray and Marjolijn and family who sent a very huge, heavy parcel of allsorts from the Netherlands for the kids. It must have cost a fortune and I can’t tell you how grateful we all are. Fat chance of the birds getting the edible bits in this house! 🙂

Update 6th November 2010

I haven’t updated for a couple of months as September was a ‘getting settled back in school’ month and sorting out the numerous things that need sorting out when you get married and have to notify the whole world.

In September Dominic had a sleep study at the Brompton. We had to stay overnight and he had to be wired up to test his lung functions and breathing. It was actually lovely to spend time alone with Dominic in a private room. I caught up on my cross stitching for Love Quilts. Anyway, Dominic was a star and very happy and relaxed there. The next morning we were told that his oxygen and breathing levels are all 99% which is fantastic news. I have to say that the staff in the Royal Brompton were fantastic and made a potentially difficult stay almost enjoyable.

Dominic was then at GOSH last Wednesday and had another spinal X ray. It showed his spine had curved further and therefore in the consultation with the specialists after the X ray, we discussed Dominic having spinal surgery. This will be in Dominic’s best interests as he will be in pain the more his spine curves, which it seems will happen without surgery. He will have 2 rods put in his back and be in GOSH for 10 days (on average) unless there are complications and he will be off school roughly 6/8 weeks. They have said he will have his pre op assessment in the New Year and then the surgery will be a matter of weeks later. The Specialist said that he was a perfect candidate for it as his heart and lungs aren’t affected much so far. I had hoped he could have the surgery done in Stanmore which would make it easier for me to go between the hospital and home, but they want him to have it done in GOSH due to his extra needs (his severe learning difficulties) and they feel they can give him and me better care at GOSH. It’s getting in and out and parking that worries me… especially after getting another parking ticket (this time it was despite being on a single yellow line with my disabled badge showing). The Camden traffic wardens need a lesson in humanity and I shall be appealing, especially after speaking to a nice traffic warden who was disgusted that someone gave me a ticket and took my details to help me, bless him. SHAME ON YOU WHOEVER GAVE ME A TICKET!

Most of Dominic’s cards this last two months have been from the ladies who never forget or fail to keep in touch with Dominic and/or his siblings and me… Christine from the USA, Anne Calico, Marjolijn and the very lovely Sarah Gilligan who writes and sends gifts to the kids several times a month. I can’t thank you ladies enough on behalf of the kids and myself. Thanks also to Heather Wright for her lovely chatty card. Thanks so much to Miss Walter and Emma, Holly, Onie, Aimee, Jack, Daniel, Hayden, Eloise, Jade, Tom, Jay and Kaya from the class of S11 at The Westlands school in Sittingbourne Kent for their lovely letter. Thanks to Sarah G (again!) for her poems to all the kids also to Uzair! Thanks so much to everyone who sent a gift for Dominic this month and in September. All were appreciated and Dom loves getting all these little nick nacks. Any that he can’t use the other kids benefit from. Thanks to Post Pals (and Kate D) for the kids Halloween packs. Dom loved the light changing ghost and the girls drove me mad with the vampire teeth. Ben liked the pumpkin torch. Well thought out. Thanks to Imogen and Ben and Lisa and Olivia for all their bits sent to Ben and to Becky for her letters and cards to Emily who is going to write back. If I have missed mentioning anyone who has sent something I am so sorry. The cards and letters get passed around for everyone to read and some get mislaid before I can make a note, but please rest assured all are gratefully received.

Love and best wishes to all the Pals, especially the featured ones. A special hug and strengthening vibes to the very brave Jaz L and her equally brave Mum, Jade. Thinking of you.

Update 1st September 2010

Dominic has had a quiet few months medically. He turned 16 last week whilst we were on holiday in Felpham near Bognor. We took him to the Amberley Museum and Heritage Centre and he loved it. The weather wasn’t too bad, other than one downpour that day, and the Museum was pretty quiet. He loved the old buses, trains etc and there was so much room he could scoot around on his wheelchair to his hearts desire. When we got back to our holiday home Dominic was sooo excited when we sang Happy Birthday to him (he normally flips out) and he blew out the candles on his cake… persevering when they didn’t blow out straight away. I don’t think he’s ever had such an enjoyable birthday and it made me very happy to see him happy.

My partner, Jamie, and I also got married on holiday. We hadn’t told anyone other than my sister that we were going to do it and it was hard to keep it secret and took a lot of organizing. Dominic looked very handsome and smart in his trousers, shirt and waistcoat.

Dominic goes back to school on Monday which I think he will be pleased about. He has a sleep study at the Brompton this month (September) which will determine when he will be having his spinal operation.

Thank you so much for all Dominic’s birthday cards this month and thanks to everyone who has written to Dominic. He can’t write back due to his severe learning difficulties and I just haven’t had the time to reply the last few months, but each and every letter and note is very much appreciated. Thank you for all the little gifts, not only Dominic, but for the ones his siblings have received too. The football doorbell that was sent to Ben is now on his bedroom door and has ‘Come on lads’ (due to it being a football) recorded on it in his voice and he’s got a fantastic rap going with it.

Love and best wishes, as always, to all the Post Pals and families, especially the featured Pals who are having a tougher than normal time at the moment.

Update 30th June 2010

Thanks this month to our faithful Sarah G and Kim L who NEVER forget Dom and his siblings. Thanks also to Nicola (West Midlands) and Christine (Florida). Thanks so much for the Power Rangers pack. I couldn’t find a name on it. Dom has been playing with it. Thanks also to the Nitrol team for the goodie bag.

I am so sorry for missing the party on Saturday. It looks like the sun shone for you all and the balloon release looked breathtaking and was a fitting tribute to the beautiful Angels who have lost their fight against illnesses over the years. I just don’t think Dom would have coped very well with it. He’s not good with crowds due to his Autistic tendencies.

Update 7th June 2010

Just a quick update as I’ve had Dom’s Echo Cardiograms results. His heart hasn’t got any worse since the last Echo in Jan 2009 and has, in fact, improved probably due to the Perindopril he’s been taking since last year, so that is great news. This isn’t 100% official yet as the Consultant needs to go over the readings etc but they hardly ever find anything different apparently. This does mean that his heart is OK to have the spinal operation and after another chat tonight with the Neuromuscular Nurse at GOSH, I think that they would like to do it sooner rather than later. In the long run it’s much better for him. We just need him to have this sleep study and get the results from that.

Update 4th June 2010

Dominic had his annual review at school last week which was very interesting. He stays at his school until he’s 19 but we have to start thinking about where he would go afterwards. He’s growing up so quickly.

Dominic had a very busy, stress filled day at GOSH yesterday. He had a Scoliosis appointment, a spinal x-ray and an Echo Cardiogram. In total we waited for 5 hours. Dom’s Echo appointment was supposed to be at 12.30pm and we got in a 3.15pm. The poor lad was so patient too despite being really hungry. In the end I had to feed him in the waiting room. It was all so much easier when the Neuromuscular Clinic was at Hammersmith Hospital. Due to Dom’s learning difficulties he doesn’t understand that we are at hospital to try and help him, so obviously when he is messed about he gets very scared and retaliates at times. When he’s waiting for a long time he gets more and more tense.

Anyway, I digress. I don’t know his Echo results yet but hope to have those through in the next day or so. Last time his heart had deteriorated slightly but I’m hoping there’s not been much change since then.

His Spinal x-ray showed that despite the body brace his Scoliosis had got worse. It was very clear to see when they put his last 2 x-rays together. Normally they would operate on his spine without question but because of Dominic’s Learning Difficulties I have to make the decision on whether or not he should have it done. If he doesn’t he will be in pain when it bends even more which they expect it will do as it has despite wearing the brace. The surgery depends on what results come back from the Echo and also the results from his baseline lung/heart sleep study, which has come through at the Brompton Hospital in September, as if the heart and/or lungs are affected too much they may not risk the anesthetic, as it can be risky anyway for boys with DMD. So we have an appointment coming for Oct/Nov (after the results are in for both) to have another x-ray and see the Neuromuscular consultants to discuss and decide what to do from there. It will certainly be a busy latter part of 2010 by the looks of it.

Despite changing to Adult care after August (when Dominic’s 16) they will be operating at GOSH, which is good at least. It concerns me greatly that Dominic will have to be with adults after August whenever he needs medical care as mentally he is younger than a lot of kids half his age. He needs the DVDs, toys, books and so on that you get on a Children’s ward. It is also so unfair because he has Autistic tendencies so doesn’t react well to any change at all. Fun times ahead I think.

We’re thinking of all Dom’s fellow Post Pals who are having a hard time at the moment.

Thanks to Debbie from Shrewsbury, Despina, Penny, Jenny Flack and old faithfuls Kim (Ginger that was) and Sarah G. Thanks to Stephanie and family, Guy Townsend AKA ‘Naughty Schoolboy’, Matt B (who sent a fantastic drawing!), Blake H, Marjolijn and family, Jonathon and another Dominic. I hope to reply to some of the letters etc on behalf of Dominic but if I don’t get chance to I would like you to know how grateful we all are to everyone of you sends a card, letter, gift or email.

Update 5th May 2010

I would like to make sure that everyone who sends a few lines, card, gift… anything to Dominic and/or his siblings… knows that it is gratefully appreciated. I would love to personally write and thank everyone but I just don’t have the time but that doesn’t mean I am complacent.

Dominic received a beautiful quilt from Love Quilts who make up cross stitched quilts for a lot of poorly children from all over including Post Pals. It is just gorgeous and totally personal to him. We chose Disney Characters as the theme and I attempted my first cross stitch square and did Captain Hook for it. I’m quite impressed with it for a first attempt. Dominic just loves it. Thanks to everyone at Lovequilts and all the stitchers… especially Kat who put it together. I am now a Lovequilt stitcher and have done 2 other squares for other quilts. I’m on my 4th square. It felt only right after doing one for Dom that I should do some for other kids.

Dom has had a quiet few months medically. He has a big appointment at the beginning of June when he will have an echo and a spinal x-ray. I have also had an assessment appointment through for the Brompton Hospital which is next week. This is because he will be going in to have a sleep study soon to test his lung function. Boys with Duchenne need nighttime ventilation at some point and this is to see where we are at as regards to Dom’s lung function. At present he just takes Perindopril nightly to slow his heart down and take some pressure off it. It will be a busy month for Dominic.

I would like to express my families deepest sympathies to Holly’s, Jamie’s, Madison’s, Sophie’s and Kian’s families. Such a sad time with so many special angels passing away the last few months. I’ve just found out that Rhianna passed away today too. Sweet dreams beautiful girl and condolences to her family. It’s just heartbreaking.

Thanks for all the cards received over and around Easter. As always the constant and caring Sarah G and Kate D sent a few as did Kim (can’t get used to your name change!). We ALL love the Tiger card. It is just brilliant! Thanks also to Marjolyn, Libby, Margret, Garry and Julie. After Post Pals was on Russell Howard’s Good News, Dominic has received a fair few Emails. I have replied to some on behalf of Dominic. Forgive me for not replying personally to all of them. Dominic has severe learning difficulties and so cannot reply personally but we are very grateful for all emails received and the fact you’ve taken time out to send them means a lot to us. It was also great to see Viks get praise that she truly deserves on Russell Howard’s Good News. Well done to a special lady. I would like to thank Chezz for her fantastic letter and drawing of Mickey Mouse. Dom loved the drawing and the girls thought your letter was lovely. I would like to thank Becki for my Mother’s Day package. The DVD has been played and sung along to. Thanks so much. Ben would like to thank Leo for his photo and bits and pieces. Leo looks as cheeky and cute as Ben! Thanks also to Karen for Ben’s book.

Update 10th March 2010

Apologies for the lack of an update last month. It was a pretty quiet one.

In February Dom had an appointment at GOSH with Professor Muntoni. It went pretty well. Dominic’s upper body movement remains good for his condition. It could be a lot worse. They feel that Dom needs a more intense sleep study at the Brompton as I mentioned that he isn’t eating breakfast so much and was stroppy tired first thing in a morning. This could be a sign that his breathing has deteriorated further. This will happen in the latter part of the year I think.

Due to Dominic turning 16 this year, it was discussed about Dominic having to move to another clinic, as GOSH is a children’s hospital. So, we will probably go to the Neuromuscular hospital behind, as that’s where Dominic’s used to going. He doesn’t adapt to change very easily because of his autistic tendencies.

They couldn’t fit in an Echocardiogram so he has been booked for one of those on his next appointment at GOSH (which is 2nd June) at the scoliosis clinic when he will also have another spinal X-ray.
Dom has also had an appointment at the Wheelchair services where, at long last, we have got his seating right. We’ve had huge problems with his legs splaying and so his ankles have started turning in. We now have arms that come off his foot plates and push his knees in. His posture is much better now and should hopefully help avoid his feet hurting because of turning in.

Dominic’s older sister has now started a new school and appears to have been accepted and is a lot happier. Hope it stays that way.

I would like to thank everyone who has taken the time to drop a card, letter or gift to Dominic and/or his siblings. I cannot tell you how much we appreciate it. Thank you for Emily’s birthday cards too. We are grateful to everyone but would like to mention Marjolijn who sent some lovely Valentines gifts to all the kids. They loved their nik naks. Also, thank you so much to Hannah who goes to Birmingham University for the books she sent with a lovely little note. Thanks also to Kelly Han. I would also like to mention Sarah G who regularly sends Dominic and his siblings cards and photos and bits and pieces. She is a lovely lady. A recent picturesque photo received of the canal outside her house has made me green with envy though.

I would like to send my thoughts, prayers and love to both Sophie’s and Madison’s families… and the precious girls themselves. I hope they are comfortable and pain free… It is the least they deserve. Whatever your beliefs, it makes you question them sometimes.

Update 18th January 2010

Once again, I just want to thank all the wonderful people who sent cards, gifts, letters, e mails and wrote messages on here for Dominic over Christmas… and, in fact, all year round. Also, huge thanks for all Dominic’s siblings gifts and cards. You have no idea what a difference you make to all their lives. Having a very poorly brother/sister is really hard on the siblings and they deal with a lot more than their peers.

We are thinking of other Pals i.e. Jon Paul and the featured Pals this month, who appear to be having a pretty tough time at the moment.

Update 3rd January 2010

Sorry for the lack of an update last month. I’ve had such a busy few months with one thing or another. Dominic’s sister has been home since the end of November due to bullying and I’m trying to get her in to a new school. We also had Dom’s Disneyland Paris ‘dream’ at the beginning of December kindly organized by The Dream Factory. It was very beautifully set out, exciting but stressful, and we had an awful situation occur while trying to meet Santa but were rewarded with a special Meet and Greet with Mickey Mouse and Friends where they interacted with Dominic, his siblings, cousins and the rest of us privately for 15 minutes. It was amazing. I had a mad rush to get organized for Christmas once coming home though which is why I never had time to update.

Dominic loves the build up to Christmas but once it arrives he gets very angry and has temper tantrums as it’s out of his routine. This is due to his autistic tendencies (due to having Severe Learning Difficulties) but it’s very hard to deal with.

He loved all his presents though and everything that was sent was appreciated. My other children are really pleased with all their gifts from the elves and other Post Pals Supporters and have asked me to say a huge ‘Thank you’ to everyone. You are all amazing. All the messages and letters are much appreciated and I’m so sorry that Dominic can’t reply to them personally.

Including all the cards from the reindeers and elves for Dominic and his siblings we received a lot of cards and I would like to thank everyone for taking the time out of a stressful Christmas to put a smile on my kids’ faces. The reindeer cards were so well thought out and interesting and enjoyed by everyone. It’s overwhelming. I’d like to not only thank people for any letters received but also for the emails Dominic has received too. In all, Dominic and his siblings received over 20 presents… I’m not sure how many but there was a Post Pals sack from Father Christmas with presents for all of them in to open Christmas Day. Emily did very well out of it. Thank you so much everyone. I have a few ‘doubled up’ presents my kids received from friends that will be winging their way to other Post Pals.

For some reason we have started getting really bad shocks off Dominic from the wheelchair so I need to look into this. We have a wheelchair seating assessment this week and also a GOSH appointment coming up in February. Dominic appears to have a tender area at the base of his spine. He is seated in a Jay Cushion, which is gel filled and therefore not hard, so I don’t know why this is and I will mention that at both appointments.

In the meantime I would like to wish everyone a Happy New Year and let all the Pals who are having a real tough time at the moment know we are thinking about them.

Update 9th November 2009

Dominic’s October was pretty busy. We collected his Body Brace, which was pretty painless, and it fits him much better than the other one did. It fits him too well actually, as it now restricts his upper body movement, and so he is finding it hard to eat as he can’t bend down to his food. His upper arm muscles have also deteriorated and he can’t lift his hand to his mouth, so I need to get something sorted for that and have left a message asking his OT to get in touch. At present I’m putting books under his elbow so it lifts his arm higher.

Dominic had a visit at the Community Dental Clinic and it seems doubtful that he will have his front tooth mended where he broke it in temper on holiday. The local hospital won’t sedate a child with DMD. The only options would be to have it done at GOSH or leave it. At present we are leaving it as it isn’t really bothering him (although it did at first) and it is one less thing for him to have to go through.

Dominic started on the Perindopril for his heart 2 weeks ago and so far there doesn’t seem to be any side effects, thankfully. This reduces Dominic’s blood pressure and therefore reduces the hearts work, as according to his last Echocardiogram, Dominic’s hearts muscles have started to become affected by his condition.

Dominic broke his wheelchair in temper last week. His temper since hitting 15 in August is unbelievable. Too many hormones now! He steered it into a wall at school and broke the footplate off. Anyway, Whizz Kids sent their repair company out and mended it on Friday so it’s brilliant again now.

Thanks to everyone involved with Post Pals… especially Viks (who I never knew much about until finding her and Post Pals on Facebook) as she really is a selfless and amazing lady.

Huge thanks for all post this month. A special mention for Kim Ginger who sends things for Dominic and his siblings regularly. All post is very much appreciated. I would like to thank Sara Gilligan for her lovely letter last month after she saw I was having a bit of a hard time. It was very kind of her to think of me and I was touched.

Update 6th October 2009

Dominic went to GOSH a few weeks ago to be cast for his new body brace. To say it was a drama is an understatement, and if I’d known, I would have gone into training. They have NO hoisting equipment in the Orthotics department which caters for hundreds of children in wheelchairs, so we had to lift Dominic onto a bed and then back again… and then on the bed and back again. He is 15 years old and weighs over 9 stone and is a dead weight. The whole experience was challenging. Also, due to his SLD, he hates hospitals as he doesn’t really understand that we go to help him and he doesn’t comply easily. We got him cast eventually but I was totally worn out and had a job to drive home and Dom was very fraught!

Anyway, I’ve got to take him back on 14th October so he can have a fitting.

Dominic’s behaviour has been a lot more challenging of late .He seems to get angry and frustrated more and it’s quite hard to deal with at times. I try hard to be understanding etc but I’m not a robot and sometimes it’s hard not to let it get to me. I enjoy his odd nights respite much more than I used to and it makes me feel guilty for even saying that.

Thank you, as always, to everyone who has taken time out to send a card or letter to Dominic and my other children. You are all amazing and very thoughtful. God bless you all.

Love and hugs to all the very poorly Post Pals. Thinking of you all and your families.

Update 1st September 2009

I apologise for the delay in updating Dominic’s page. The month before school broke up was a tough one due to my eldest daughter being bullied at school, and then as all you parents will know, the holidays are busy and I have been totally distracted.

We had a family holiday in Weymouth at the beginning of August. The weather was dire but the company was good. The one downside being that Dominic re broke his front tooth throwing his head forwards in temper, so I have got to try and get that sorted as it is irritating him. He has an appointment at the dentist next week.

Dominic turned 15 last week too. We took him on Leighton Buzzard steam railway, which he enjoyed despite the wasp invasion, and then we had a family party at home. I always find Dominic’s birthday very bittersweet and quite hard. I don’t want him to get older with the nature of his condition.

To add to the stress, we ended up in A&E as the baby, Ben, fell off a chair and cracked his head open on the path. He’s fine now though after they glued it.

Health wise Dominic is OK. He has an appointment at GOSH tomorrow at the scoliosis clinic. I think he will probably need to be cast for a new brace as this one doesn’t seem to fit him very snugly. Hopefully this one has stopped his spine curving any further though. He also has someone going into the school next week from Wheelchair Services to view his seating. I still don’t think he is seated as well as he could be.

We would like to send Madison and her family our deepest love and strengthening thoughts through this very tough time. We are following her updates closely and we would do anything to change things for her if we could. Life is very cruel at times.

As always we are grateful for all post received. The kids all get a huge kick out of the fact that strangers are taking the trouble to write to them and send them bits and pieces. Thanks to an American school for all the postcards received. It was lovely of you all to take time out and write to someone overseas. Aurora (beautiful name)… Dominic would love to write to you but he can’t write. However, he has a 12 year old sister who I’m sure would love to write to you, especially as she has been looking for a penpal from overseas. If you could email me your address that would be great as I can’t find it.

Thank you everyone for all the lovely cards, as always. Particularly for Dom’s birthday cards. Thanks to the lovely person in Japan who sent ‘lollipop’ facecloths to all my children, Ben included. Thanks too for all the stickers received recently.

Update 3rd June 2009

Thankfully Dominic has had a quiet month this month… especially after last month. There has been no changes in his condition and no appointments. At his last appointment at GOSH they told me his last echocardiogram in January showed there was a decrease in his heart functioning, so Dominic will be starting Perindopril soon to reduce pressure in his blood vessels, so his heart doesn’t have to work so hard to pump blood round his body.

I have had a major disappointment after thinking I had, at last, found a carer who could take Dominic out in an adapted vehicle once a month. A community nursing service offered a carer for Dominic in September last year and after setting up direct payments and repeatedly trying to get hold of them, I have just received a letter saying they can’t do it now. So Dominic is back to never going out without his family, which he needs to as he is a 14 year old lad. We have had one bad experience after another with carers. I feel so sorry for him as his quality of life is affected and quality of life is so important as his condition is life limitting. Why is everything such a fight?

Thanks this month to Kim for another gadget type card she sent for Dom, he loves it.

I would like to say how sorry I am to hear about Jack B. I had been following his progress. Deepest Sympathy to his Mum, Dad, brother and sister. We’re thinking of them all.

Update 12th May 2009

Dominic has had a busy month this month with appointments etc. He had his main 6 monthly GOSH M.O.T. I received the results from the recent sleep study I did at home and also from his last Echocardiogram in February.

On the downside, his heart has deteriorated a bit. This means he will be taking medication to slow his heart rate down to take the stress off it a bit. There are a few side affects with this medication i.e. dizziness, but he will be taking it at night so it shouldn’t affect him too much, as he will be asleep shortly after he’s taken it. He will have another Echocardiogram later in the year.

The positive news is that the sleep study showed his breathing is very good, with only one dip in 10 hours, which the Doctor told me anyone could have, so that’s great news. The sleep study will be repeated again in January I think. It’s so hard sometimes to take in all the information given on the day, but I will get a report home re that appointment soon and if I’ve missed anything out I will update again.

Another bonus was that I took Dom to the Orthotics clinic while we were there and got his body brace adjusted under his arms, so it is much more comfortable now. They said that it wasn’t a perfect fit as GOSH had cut the hole at the front out too big, so he will need another one very soon and will need to be cast again… which he HATED last time.

Dominic also had an appointment at the wheelchair clinic who have agreed to give us a cushion for his powered chair, as well as keeping the one for his manual chair (which he hasn’t used since getting the powered chair!). He has been measured accurately for it and we are waiting for it to be delivered now. It will make a huge difference to his posture, which is so important as his feet are turning in which is painful for him and correct seating keeps his knees together and therefore his feet flat.

Dominic and I went to Locktons in London at the beginning of April so that Whizz Kids could thank the Company and its employees for raising the money to provide Dominic and, I think, four other children with wheelchairs, which makes a huge difference to their quality of life. In Dominic’s case it is so important as his condition is degenerative. The employees at Locktons were very welcoming and very pleased to see Dominic and another little boy who was there in their wheelchairs and see firsthand the difference that their generosity has made to their lives. I mentioned to a few of them that Dominic was on Post Pals and what Post Pals was about and so if any of them are reading this I would like to thank them, and Whizzkids, from the bottom of my heart for giving Dominic his independence back and giving him a better quality of life. I would also like to apologize for Dominic’s ‘near misses’ as he careered around the room in the chair, narrowly missing taking a few of the staff down.

As always, a ‘Huge Thanks’ to everyone who takes the time to buy/make and send things to brighten not only Dominic’s but his siblings lives too. Thanks to Post Pals for making it happen. They all get so excited opening things and although Dominic doesn’t really understand what Post Pals is, the girls do and they are so amazed and grateful that people they have never met are sending them gifts and cards. Dominic’s condition is hard on them too at times as they worship their elder brother… as do I! Thanks to everyone for the lovely cards. Although this month we are very disappointed with some dishonest Post Office Workers who have slit open the edge of some of the thicker cards obviously hoping to find money. Dominic had another great cat letter from Tracey which was very much appreciated and thank you so much Sarah G for all the books which are all being put to good use, it’s so kind of you.

Update 31st March 2009

We have a busy month coming up with Dominic having a Whizz Kids presentation in London next week and another appointment at GOSH. STILL no sleep study and I’m STILL trying to get his body brace trimmed. Nothing is ever straightforward.

Special thanks this month to Sarah for my Mothers day card and poem. Only Dominic had made me a card at school as everyone else forgot… so that was very well received. I made sure they made up for it though! Dom had a great Easter sticker card from Kim. We can’t promise that he won’t be eating a lot of chocolate, Kim! Thanks for Tracey’s letter to Dominic with the pictures of cats on. It is soooo screwed up where he has looked at it over and over. He likes letters if they have plenty of pictures on.

Update 4th March 2009

It’s been a pretty quiet month this month with hospital appointments etc. I am STILL chasing up his sleep study. Why this is proving to be such a drama I really don’t know but GOSH will not be happy. It is so important that his breathing is checked regularly at this age with his condition.

Dom is still wearing the body brace everyday although it is rubbing him under the arms now so it will need trimming… something else I need to chase up.

Dom has also been to the Dentist this month and his teeth are OK other than he has one that is behind the others as there is no room for it to come through. Under normal circumstances they would remove it but Dominic wouldn’t tolerate having it taken out and, with his condition, General Anaesthetic is avoided unless absolutely necessary, so it is being left as it doesn’t seem to be causing him problems.

I hope the snow didn’t cause everyone else as much disruption as it did us.

Special thanks this month go to the people who sent Emily birthday cards. She was really impressed that she got cards from people who saw it was her birthday on here and particularly loved the one from Maria that had an ‘E’ cross stitched on the front with a ballerina (she loves ballet!). All her cards have been taken down but kept.

Supportive thoughts and best wishes to all the other Pals and families.

Update 5th February 2009

Dominic went to GOSH this month to the Neurology Scoliosis Clinic. He had two x-rays on his spine, one wearing his brace and one without, and it showed that the brace is improving his posture no end. His spine curvature has worsened since July partly because he’s only been wearing the brace a few months, and despite hoping that the brace will avoid the need for Dominic to have spinal surgery in the future, I was told that he probably would need to have surgery at some point. However, after speaking to the Neurological Nurse last week it may be something that I may have to opt out of for Dominic. Due to his Severe Learning Difficulties he wouldn’t tolerate the aftercare well or have any understanding of what was being done to him or why. Also, due to the fact that he has a life limiting condition, I want him to have a good quality of life rather than be in pain or discomfort. Hopefully I won’t have to make any decisions regarding this for a while yet.

He also had another Echocardiogram which showed that his heart was possibly a bit more affected than last time. However, at present I don’t have the exact results, as his last Echo was at Hammersmith and now the Duchenne Clinic is at GOSH and the last I heard they hadn’t compared the two.

Dominic has gone off having breakfast recently which I also mentioned to the Nurse and she said it can be a sign that his breathing is dipping more during the night. He needs a sleep study to determine this but I have spent the last year chasing this up as he was supposed to have one January 2008. As always these things become a battle. If it shows a marked difference in his breathing at night he will need further studies done. At some point he will have to have ventilation at night but I really hope that won’t be for a while and I’m not sure how he will tolerate that either.

On a high note, we picked up Dom’s new Indoor/Outdoor powered wheelchair kindly donated by Whizzkids and it is great. I wouldn’t mind one. I’m having trouble at the moment sorting out the transport clips as they are too small so he’s only been in it once, but hopefully by Monday he should be set to go.

Thank you for the cards and gifts this month, especially knowing what a hard month January is for a lot of people. Huge thanks for the lady who sent chocolate candles and an aromatherapy bath bomb for Dom, but every card and gift is appreciated immensely. Also, thank you to Post Pals for my little box of truffles. I would love to say that I was dieting after Christmas and had saved them, but they lasted about half an hour.

Update 7th January 2009

Dominic has a GOSH appointment this month and collects his new powered wheelchair.

As recently updated, I am overwhelmed by people’s generosity and goodwill and would like to say thank you.

One of my youngest daughter’s gifts was food for the reindeer from Santa so they would stop here. On Christmas Eve i went outside with her and we sprinkled it. She also got cards from the reindeer which she loved. Dominic got a few Christmas tree decorations and as he has his own little tree in his room as well as our main tree, we put them on that one. We also got an elf hamper full of presents.

Update 2nd January 2009

I’d like to say thank you so much for all Dominic’s cards and presents last month. I was in tears opening them with him when i saw that people had sent such nice gifts to someone they have never met before, including the things sent for the girls and Ben too. I am so touched and totally humbled.

Thanks to all of you marvellous people at Post Pals and all the wonderful, huge hearted people who read Post Pals and send things too.

Thank you and Happy New Year.

Update 2nd December 2008

Dominic now has his body brace which he has just started wearing over the last few days to try to prevent his spine from curving any further. He isn’t very keen on wearing it at all and I can’t say I’m surprised. It is very hard and rigid and restricts his upper body movement. He has to wear it at least 8 hours a day everyday. He also wears leg splints at school so I feel very sorry for him.

Dominic had a bug a few weeks ago which made him very lethargic and he wouldn’t eat as he was sick a lot. He seems to get a lot of the bugs that go around.

I put his Christmas decorations up in his bedroom last week as he adores Christmas, especially the run up to it, so he was very excited about that and watched ‘The Grinch’ about 10 times in a row.
Dominic is due his next GOSH appointment in January/February and at that time will need an echo to check his heart is still OK as that can become a problem as kids with DMD go into their teens, so we are hoping that it goes well.

Thank you for the cards and letters this month and also for the Disney 3D Viewers and the gifts for Dominic and my daughters, Vanessa and Emily. They were both very excited and grateful and wanted to say thank you.

Dominic and family would like to wish everyone at Post Pals, all the children who are part of Post Pals, their families, and all the lovely people who take the time to send a smile, a very HAPPY CHRISTMAS AND NEW YEAR!

Update 8th November 2008

Dominic now has his powered indoor wheelchair which has given him back some independence which is great. It will be even better when he gets an indoor/outdoor powered wheelchair from Whizzkids so he can stay in it permanently, but this one is great for the time being. He now has his leg splints too and wears them at school as he won’t tolerate wearing them at home. We went to GOSH this week to have a fitting for his body brace but it needed sending back to be adjusted. He recently had a few nights stay at Keech Cottage which he loved too.

We received cards and postcards from all over the world including America and Japan. Dominic loved looking at the pictures. We are very grateful and touched by people who have never met Dominic taking the time to send him something. Dom’s face when he has cards to open and look at is heart warming. The letters and E mails were lovely too. Me, my partner, and daughters, loved reading them and we read them to Dominic, but unless it’s short and basic he doesn’t understand. Thanks to everyone who has written to Dominic and I’m sorry that he can’t reply. Dom has had some lovely little toys from a few people – a bandana, torch keyrings, and Dominic and his sisters also received a little parcel of goodies from a lovely lady for which we are very grateful. Thanks to Kelly Davison for sending a beautiful Glo light elephant mobile which Dom loves.

We are very touched by people’s kindness in taking the time out to drop a line to Dominic and/or send a little gift. Post Pals is a fantastic idea.

Update 16th October 2008

Dominic has been very pleased to get back to school and see all his friends again.

He swims three times a week at school as it is very beneficial to keep his muscles loose and flexible. He seems to like spending most of the time in water with his head underneath the water which worries his teachers and assistants.

He went to be measured up for a powered wheelchair last week which will be funded by Whizz Kids as it is the price of a new car to buy. He had a test drive and kangaroo hopped a fair amount. He can easily use the controls but panics if it moves too fast.

He also went to GOSH two weeks ago to be cast for a body brace as his spine has started to curve and the Specialist wants to hopefully rectify it with the brace or at least stop it getting worse.

On behalf of Dominic, I would like to thank Tamaki, Linda B and Helen for the cards and Julie for the card and Bandana. It is so nice of you to take the time to buy/make, write and send things to my precious lad.

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Dylan S

15 July 2011

Story written 2006

Dylan was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis at seven days old. His treatment regime was started the next day at the hospital. Dylan has twice daily chest physiotherapy, nebulised antibiotics and DNAse three times a day, inhalers at least twice a day, oral vitamins once a day, a proton pump inhibitor drug once a day to treat his reflux, oral antibiotics three times a day, capsules to digest food with every meal, and he has to have a high fat, high calorie diet. He also often needs courses of steroids for his asthma or intravenous antibiotics for frequent chest infections.

Dylan had so many intravenous antibiotics by the age of 9 1/2 months old that his veins were collapsing whenever they were accessed, so he had to have surgery to fit a portacath in his chest, which sits under the skin above his right breast and delivers drugs straight into his jugular vein. This portacath became infected on the 9th of September this year, and so Dylan had to undergo more surgery to remove the port and fit another one.

Dylan requires a lot of care, and goes through an immense amount of trauma both in his daily life, to endure all his many treatments, and when he is unwell. When unwell, he often needs to stay in hospital (the more recent was a two week hospital stay in September 2006) and he finds this distressing. When on intravenous antibiotics he also requires many blood tests, which terrify him. He also has regular cough swabs which he finds uncomfortable, as he can’t cough on demand yet, so the swab has to be taken from the back of his throat.

When he has a chest infection or his asthma gets bad, he can often be up all night coughing and wheezing, coughing until he is sick, making him very miserable. When he is unwell like this he needs a lot of inhalers, and high calorie drinks to boost his calorie/fat intake so he doesn’t lose too much weight.

Update January 2014

Dylan is now in Year 4 of Primary School and although he finds school difficult, because of his learning disabilities, he tries his absolute hardest, is cheerful and hardworking, and is making steady progress. His teacher is full of praise for him and we are very proud of him. He enjoys PE, swimming and music at school, and loves getting creative. He still loves his Lego more than anything and takes it everywhere with him!

When he’s well, he also enjoys his disability football club, his modern dance class, church club, and Sunday school. He is really loving and kind, and loves to spend time with his family, both here and in Wales.

His autism still throws lots of spanners in the works, but he is getting to know himself and finding some coping mechanism which work well in some instances.

His CF is obviously an ongoing concern and at present he is fighting his first Staph Aureus infection, and recovering from a little bowel blockage on New Years Day. However, Dylan always meets his CF challenges head on, and he rarely lets it get him down. He is amazingly resilient and rarely gets discouraged. He is a true CF Warrior.

Adrian, Dylan and I would like to thank everyone who has sent letters, cards, postcards and/or gifts to Dylan from 2006 to now. We are so very grateful. He has loved receiving all the items you have so kindly taken the time and money to send, and your support has cheered him when he has been going through tough times.

And now, as Dylan is getting older and his health is generally stable, we would like to thank you all once again for your overwhelming support, and wish you all the very best for the future. THANK YOU xx

Update 24th August 2013

Dylan has had a very stable few months, with only a few minor blips. In mid-April, he developed a sore throat which gave him a nasty cough for a few weeks and required a trip to the hospital for a lung function check, but his lung function was stable at 79%, so he was prescribed a three week course of oral Ciprofloxacin. Unfortunately, this gave him some serious photosensitivity and he burned himself badly on a few occasions over the three weeks while at school. It wasn’t overly sunny, and he was only outdoors at playtime, with a hat and factor 50 sun cream on, but he still burned very badly on his face, neck and ears, to the point of blistering, so he had to stay indoors and I had to order him a Factor 50 fabric legionnaire style sun hat to protect him.

In mid-May, he had his port flushed and he also had his annual review chest x-ray and ultrasound, ready for his June annual review appointment. At his appointment, he was 142.2 cms tall, weighed 43.4 kgs, and his lung function was 76%. His x-ray showed no decline from the previous year, so the consultant was really pleased, as the last three or four years’ x-rays have shown definite decline, so that was a big victory. His ultrasound showed thick bile in his gall bladder, but as this hadn’t turned into gall stones, the doctor was happy to wait and see for now, rather than make any medication changes. His doctor increased his Azithromycin dose to 500mg three times a week and said that due to his displaying more and more severe side effects when taking Ciprofloxacin (his last few courses have caused him extreme photosensitivity, rashes and itching, sleep disturbances, irritability, joint pains, etc), he is no longer allowed to take this particular drug, and that in future, if he requires such an antibiotic, he will have Septrin or Augmentin. If he grows Pseudomonas, then he’ll just be put straight onto IV antibiotics, as he has his portacath. In general, he had a very positive annual review!

In early June he had an asthma attack while at disability football club, and at the end of the month he developed a bad cough, which hung around for a few weeks, causing a bad cough, which wasn’t helped by a trip to London in early July, as London air always sets his chest off, and so he required many, many doses of his reliever inhaler while away in London, but once we got back to our sea air, his chest settled down again.

Dylan had his port flushed again on 10th July, and from then to now, in late August, we’ve seen far more autistic symptoms than we have CF symptoms. His CF seems to have settled down for a while, but due to the summer holidays and coping with changes, he has struggled with things like dance performances and extra rehearsals, boat trips, waiting for things, waiting before and after Holiday Bible Club sessions, and changes of plan. Hopefully this will settle down once he gets back to school and can settle into his new class. I’m hoping that as his new teacher taught his older sister Seren, three years ago, he might get to know and understand Dylan and his CF and autism a little easier than some other teachers have.

Dylan had another CF Clinic visit on 2nd August and he was 144.3 cms tall, weighed 43.4 kgs again, and his lung function was back up to 79% which is pretty much his current best. He recently enjoyed a lovely holiday in West Wales, he particularly enjoyed playing on Pendine beach, going on the rides at Oakwood Theme Park and in Folly Farm, watching the Perseids meteor shower (it coincided with a night where his Melatonin tablets didn’t work too well!), and go karting at Heatherton Activity Centre. After his go karting experience, he told me he’s ready for big car lessons!

We’re looking forward to celebrating Dylan’s 9th birthday with him on the 2nd September.

Thank you to Bradleigh, Nadine Marshall, Marty Longo, Jessica, Dee, Eleanor, Karen (Sami), Libby, Angela, Natashja, Summer, Fraser, Iain, Alex & Adam, Julie S, Debbie and Harriet for all the lovely cards you have sent to Dylan, he absolutely loves opening cards! It makes him feel like every day is his birthday! Thank you also to whoever sent him the Lego card! Thank you to Julie, Karen (Sami), Sarah G, Kathryn, Emily, Luca Parmitano, Becky Rideout, Sabrina, Julianne, Bhaavya, Soo Min, and Mrs Hill for the postcards you sent.

Thank you to Louie, Sarah G, Isis, Sofia, Natashja, Year 7 of All Saints Academy, Plymouth, and Northwold Primary, London, for the letters.

Thank you to Nadine Marshall for the joke book; to Isis for the badge and stickers; to Dee for the stickers; to Kathryn for the plane; to Heather C for the postcard puzzle; to Luca Parmitano for the planets picture; to Natashja for the Lego minifigure and SpongeBob poster painting book; to Summer for the Buzz Lightyear lego; to Northwold Primary for the 9 pictures; and to Julie S for the SpaceQuest movie kit!

Update 10th April 2013

Dylan has had an up and down few months. On 17th December, he came down with a sore throat which turned into a bad cough which kept him off school for the last week of term. He was feeling brighter by 22nd December though, and he was able to enjoy Christmas at home and New Year in Wales. He came down with another bad cough in early January however, and a week later it was still quite wet. He was seen at CF Clinic on 14th January, and his lung function was pretty stable with an FVC of 93%, an FEV1 of 79% and an FEF50 of 56%. His chest sounded clear and so his doctors didn’t want to make any changes. His cough gradually cleared up, and in mid-February, we noticed that he was really starting to make some progress with his reading, which was amazing! On the 19th February, he developed yet another cough, which got worse over the course of a few days, and he had to have a day off school because of it on 26th February. He was feeling well enough for school the following day, but on 28th February, during a parents evening chat with his teacher, he mentioned that his cough was still bad. He had CF Clinic again the following day, and his lung function had dropped a little to an FVC of 87%, an FEV1 of 72%, and an FEF50 of 53%. His doctor could hear some mild crackles in his lungs, so he diagnosed a chest infection, and prescribed three weeks of extra antibiotics, Ciprofloxacin. The following day, we went to the park with the childrens’ new carer, but he wasn’t feeling well enough to play most of the time. His chest continued to be very nasty for almost two more weeks, and he reacted badly to the new antibiotics, with lots of side effects such as tiredness, grumpiness, sleepwalking, joint pains and itchy skin. The doctor reduced his dose from 750mg to 500mgs, and he got through the course, and by the end of it, his chest was much improved.

He was feeling much better by Easter, and he really enjoyed spending Easter in Wales, and then traveling to Skegness for Spring Harvest. He did struggle a bit at Spring Harvest with his autism, as it was so different to his normal routine, but he still had a lot of fun, and he is currently feeling well!

Thank you to Louise for the lovely Christmas card! Thank you to Marty Longo for the many cards he has sent to Dylan over the months, he’s getting to know your name very well! Thank you to Karen (Sami), Angel Touch Mail, Angela, Callum D, Julie & Alan S, whoever sent the Valentines card, Thomas’s London Day Schools, Emma & Hazel, Dee, Jai & Rio, Sophia, Andrea Rob & Jaiden, Sarah G, 1st Brantham Brownies, Laura J, Kati, Maria & Michael, Natashja, Mrs Hill and Tek for all the lovely cards you sent!!! Thank you to Lyndsay, Claudia in Germany, Claire Simon and Nathan, Samrana, AJ, Natashja, and Sarah G for the lovely postcards! Thank you to Kate, Bron and Sophie and someone else for the letters they sent. Unfortunately, he finds letters a bit difficult to read and understand, but it was very kind of you to send them. Thank you very much to Tracy, Helen T, Claire Connon, Tek, Jenny Mathiasson, Milton Cross School, Kym and someone else for the lovely Christmas presents you sent for Dylan! He absolutely loved them! Thank you Claudia in Germany, Angel Touch Mail, Claire Simon & Nathan, Julie & Alan S, Thomas’s London Day Schools, Charlotte, Bron, Sophie, Andrea Rob & Jaiden, 1st Brantham Brownies, Gareth B, and Tek for the lovely gifts you have sent to Dylan recently, they have made him feel very special!

Update 1st December 2012

Dylan’s had a pretty rough few months since I last updated. He had his annual CF review in early July, which was a mixed bag. He had grown and gained weight well, and his oxygen levels and cough swab were both fine, but his lung function had dropped all the way down to 70%, which was very close to his lowest ever lung function score. His smaller airways were shown to only be functioning at 51%, which is not good either. His ENT examination noted that he has polyps in his right nostril too, although they don’t seem to bother him too much. His Vitamin K levels were a bit low, so his consultant started him on vitamin K supplements three times a week, to prevent damage to his bones. His iron was also a little low, and his consultant increased his antibiotic doses. Due to his steadily declining lung function, his consultant decided to stop his pre-physio DNAse nebuliser and switch him to hypertonic saline, to see if it improved his lung function. He also prescribed some Desmopressin hormone tablets to help stop him producing so much urine overnight and leaking through his nappies and soaking the bed so frequently, but we are reluctant to use them, as if he takes them and then has a drink, he could become water toxic, which would be very dangerous, so for now, we’re coping with the wet beds for a bit longer.

Dylan started his hypertonic saline on 9th July, and tolerated it very well, even though Seren finds it very salty and won’t breathe it in, Dylan did really well with it! On 17th July, he was well enough to take part in his school sports day, and his team won, which he was very proud of!

On 23rd July, he developed a bad cough and was very tired after his football club, and on 24th July he went downhill quickly with a very high temperature of 38.9 degrees, which rose as high as 39.6 degrees by the evening. We took him to the GP and by that point he couldn’t walk unaided, was very sleepy, hadn’t eaten or drunk anything all day, and the GP was concerned that he might have septicaemia caused by another port infection, so we had to rush him to the hospital.

They admitted him overnight, took blood tests and cultures, and eventually he was found to have severe tonsilitis, but the following day when they tested his lung function, it was down to 68%, which was very worrying. They did discharge him, and he went back on the Friday, by which time his temperature had stabilised, his tonsils had healed, but he had developed a nasty viral rash, which prevented him from going to the hospice for his respite care stay that weekend. Instead, we vegged out at home and watched the Olympics opening ceremony, which he enjoyed.

He improved over the following weekend, and was well enough to attend Holiday Bible Club on 30th July, but he was too tired for his football club. The following weekend, 3rd to 5th August, we travelled to Wales for my friend’s wedding and he really enjoyed attending the evening wedding party for a few hours and dancing.

On 13th August, he had his physiotherapy annual review, and he passed his physical test, which we were relieved about. The physiotherapist suggested using his blue inhaler before his hypertonic saline nebulisers, to try and open his airways before his physio sessions.

The end of August was a very fun time for Dylan, as Donna’s Dream House treated us to an amazing family holiday in Blackpool! If you’d like to see what we got up to, then feel free to click the link and watch our photo slideshow …

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Dylan also celebrated his 8th birthday in Blackpool, with a trip to Blackpool Zoo and play barn, followed by dinner at Pizza Hut and a ride on the waltzers on the pier.

Unfortunately, as much as Dylan enjoyed that week, he was quite poorly during the week too, he was constantly exhausted and very chesty. When we got home, he had CF Clinic again on 7th September (after starting Year 3 at school on 5th September) and he had grown and put on weight, and his lung function had increased a little to 78%, but he was still constantly exhausted and still had a horrible cough, so his consultant prescribed three weeks of Ciprofloxacin tablets to try and delay starting him on IVs as soon as he started back to school, as Dylan always struggle to settle in to a new school year, and Year 3 was proving the hardest year to settle in to, as there were just so many changes for him.

By 10th September he was no better, and he missed his football club, and when he tried to attend on 17th September, he had to keep stopping and lying down to rest, because of his exhaustion, and afterwards he was incredibly tired. The following day was the last straw, and he got up exhausted, got ready for school exhausted, and struggled to walk to school. When we arrived at the school, he could barely stand up, so I took him back home, called the nurse, and she said to prepare his port for starting IVs.

We took him to the hospital and the CF Nurse was very concerned to see just how spaced out and lethargic and unresponsive he was, she was concerned that he might have low blood sugar or be developing CF related diabetes as well as having a chest infection, so she ordered extra blood tests. He was seen by the doctors and as his lung function had dropped to 74%, they started him on IV antibiotics that day. The CF Nurse was so concerned that she wanted him admitted for a couple of days of observation, but Dylan didn’t want to stay in, and his initial blood results came back okay, so he was allowed home. The nurse took a blood sample for glucose levels, but the lab didn’t test it, and so the test had to be repeated again the following day when she had to do his TOBI level. Dylan REALLY struggles with finger prick blood tests, and so we had to take his sample from his port, which meant that it came back too high, so his IV dose had to be reduced.

Dylan missed school on the 18th, 19th and 20th September, however he went back to school on 21st September and coped fairly well, so we were able to go to the hospice that evening for our family respite care stay, which was very much needed. We also found out that day that Dylan’s blood sugar results over a three month period were 41 mmol, or 5.9%, which is the very highest limits of normal for blood sugar results. Some online diabetes websites class that result as pre-diabetes, so this is something we are going to have to keep a close eye on as he grows, as 1/3 of CF sufferers develop CF related diabetes.

On 23rd September, after our weekend at the hospice, we had to go to Norfolk and Norwich hospital for Dylan’s TOBI blood test, and again he struggled with a finger prick, so the doctors had to pin him down and use a butterfly needle in his hand to get the sample, which he found very distressing.

The following day, he was too tired to go to school, and later in the day, he came out in another bout of tonsilitis, which hit him hard and caused him to need another full week off school, and he had to go back into hospital for another review because his chest went downhill again and his lung function dropped to 68% again. As he was already on IVs at this point, the doctor suggested we increase his ventolin inhalers to help him cope with the viral infection. On 30th September, Dylan coped with going back to Sunday School at church, and so on 1st October, he went back to school, and did okay. He was seen by the consultant on 3rd October, and although his lung function had only climbed back up to 72%, lower than when he started the IVs, the doctor was happy to stop his IVs. I was still concerned, as he was still constantly exhausted with a persistent poor lung function, and so I requested that he be referred to the specialist in Cambridge for a review in the near future.

On 4th October, he went back to his dance class, and he coped fairly well, although he tired easily. He went back to football on 8th October, and although he needed to take frequent rests during the session, he tried his best. He was feeling a bit brighter by the weekend, which was good, as on 13th October, we headed to Legoland for the day, and he had a GREAT time. The following day, 14th October, he cheered Seren and I on as we ran a 2.5 km fun run, and cheered Adrian on as he ran a 13.1 mile half marathon, all to raise money for the CF Trust in Cardiff. After our runs, we took Dylan and Seren to the Doctor Who Experience in Cardiff Bay, which they loved, although he was clearly exhausted that night, sleeping badly and having lots of nightmares.

We travelled home on 15th October, and the following day, he had his flu jab, which he coped AMAZINGLY well with. However, he was still really struggling to adjust to being in Year 3 at school, and he was getting very stressed about school.

On 22nd October, he was seen again at the Norwich CF Clinic, and his lung function had climbed a little to 80%, but he was still getting tired all the time, he was vegging out on the examining table while the doctor was in the room and everything! The doctor wanted to get his sodium and potassium levels checked at his next port flush, to see if that could be causing his exhaustion, as he sweats very profusely because of his lung disease, and doesn’t seem to control his temperature well or recognise when he is too hot and remove layers to cool down, because of his autism.

The end of October and early November was more fun, with carving pumpkins and watching fireworks, and Dylan was seen again at CF Clinic on 12th November, by the specialist from Cambridge. His lung function was fairly stable at 80%, although the specialist was concerned to hear that it had twice dropped as low as 68% recently. He noted the polyps in his right nostril, and prescribed Nasonex nasal spray for them, but apart from that, there was little else he could do, as Dylan is on pretty much all the treatment he can be.

On 18th November, a Sunday, Dylan admitted that he is becoming really discouraged at school, because he finds everything so difficult, due to his learning disabilities, and he can see that his academic skills are way below that of his peers, and it upsets him. I gave him a big pep talk about how far he had come, how many obstacles he’s had to overcome, how his brain works a little differently due to his autism, and how fantastic he is, but he just got upset. The following morning he didn’t want to go into school because it was all too hard, so I had a talk to his teacher, and he agreed to customise the curriculum a little more for him, and set him for reasonable targets, and he also had a chat to him about making some changes, and Dylan seemed encouraged.

On 20th November, his teacher came out with him at home time and complimented him on some great progress in his reading, and Dylan ABSOLUTELY LOVED being praised by his teacher in front of his Mum! He grew about two inches before my eyes! He is trying super hard with his reading now, and on 23rd November, he was awarded Pupil of the Week for his class! He was so encouraged and so proud, and it’s amazing what a little praise from his teacher can do!

On 26th November, Dylan had to have another cough swab because his cough was becoming a little thicker, but the results came back clear, so we’ll just have to keep an eye on that. He had his port flushed on 28th November and was SUPER brave for that, and the nurse also took a blood sample to test his sodium and potassium levels, which also came back fine, so we have no idea what is causing him to get so tired. I have to say, as his lung function has crept up slightly, we have noticed a slight improvement in his energy levels, so perhaps it is related to that, but he still does tire easily.

Dylan is really looking forward to Christmas, and is counting down the sleeps. He has a better understanding of what to expect now, and thanks to his autism, he still has a lot of innocence and still enjoys talking about Father Christmas and the reindeers. He has chosen a gift to leave out for Father Christmas already this year, a Kinder egg chocolate Father Christmas, so that Father Christmas gets to eat the chocolate AND have a present! He’s such a sweetheart.

Here’s hoping for a happy, healthy, peaceful December for our brave little man.

Thank you to everyone who has been kind enough to send Dylan cards and postcards over the last few months, he loves getting them, particularly the interesting handmade cards (particularly if they have different textures on them) and postcards with interesting pictures on them! Thank you to those who send letters to Dylan, however, he struggles to concentrate long enough for me to read them to him. He does look at the pictures if there are some pictures enclosed though. He loves cards and short notes best with concise wording in simple language so that he can understand them. Thank you to everyone who has sent Dylan some fantastic gifts over the past few months, he has loved them all! In particular, he loved the sword and shield he received just after a visit to Framlingham Castle, and his lovely quilt, which he snuggles under to watch tv, and uses to pad his chest when he has his percussion physio in the evenings. It’s getting plenty of use and he really loves it. He gets tired a lot, so something he can snuggle up with is very much appreciated.

Update 1st July 2012

Dylan had a rough time in March and April, with a nasty Pseudomonas chest infection. He tried oral antibiotics for it in the first instance, but his cough got increasingly worse, and when the CF Consultant at Norwich checked him over, his lung function had dropped to from 89% in December to 77% and so he decided that he needed another course of IV antibiotics (even though he’d only had some in December). He was VERY brave for having his needle fitted into his port and the course of IVs went smoothly.

He had two and a half weeks of IVs and by the end of the course, in early May, his chest sounded clearer but his lung function had dropped even further to a very disappointing 72%. The doctors were a bit stumped as to why his lung function was so poor, but they wanted to give him some time to pick back up after the IVs, and to get his activity levels back up to normal by getting back to PE at school, Disability Football Club and his modern dance class (none of which he could do with his needle in his port) and see if that improved things.

His chest has stayed pretty stable since then, just the odd flare up of coughing. He still gets tired easily and has bad days with his chest, but he soldiers on and is doing well in his dance class and enjoying disability football club. He has his annual review on Friday, when we will get all his blood test results back, along with his recent x-ray results, the results of his abdominal scan, his latest cough swab results, and he’ll also get his lung function re-tested. Fingers crossed for good news!

Academically, Dylan is trying his hardest and making some progress. He had his Annual Review for his Statement of Educational Needs in April, and we were happy to see that he is finally scoring on the reading and spelling tests, and is almost up to the level of a Year 1 pupil in literacy (he’s at the end of Year 2). He’s a little behind in Maths too, but not as much. The speech therapist was quite blunt about his difficulties, but stressed that he has made a lot of progress in the past year. The Educational Psychologist arranged to come back and re-assess Dylan again in June, which happened this past week, but we will have to wait for her written report before we know what she thought of him. She was supposed to be testing him for dyslexia, and re-assessing his cognitive skills, ready for him starting Year 3 in September, so I’m eager to hear her recommendations for the coming year.

Dylan was refused a place at the local special needs school, and so he will be spending Year 3 in mainstream school (they can then reapply if they feel it necessary for Year 4), so lots of transitions and safeguards need to be put in place, so that he will hopefully settle easily into Year 3, with a new teacher, new location within the school, different daily routine, different play areas, less supervision, and much bigger, older, stronger peers in the playgrounds with him, making him very vulnerable. He REALLY struggled to settle in last year and the first term and a half were a nightmare for him, so I really hope that the transition into Year 3 goes more smoothly.

Thank you for the cards and postcards Dylan has received recently! He really enjoys opening cards, it’s like having lots of birthdays! He particularly likes handmade cards, so thank you especially for those! Thank you to those who take the time to write letters to Dylan. Unfortunately, his literacy skills are a little behind, and he struggles with concentration, so we read what we can to him, but he doesn’t always understand what is being talked about. He still enjoys opening the letters though! Thank you very much to everyone who has sent Dylan a gift recently. He loves to open presents and gets very excited! He really enjoyed opening the sword and shield set from Kim recently, as we’d just been to Framlingham Castle for the Jubilee and he was very interested in knights!

Update 13th March 2012

Dylan has had a pretty good few months. His course of IVs in December cleared his chest up nicely and he was well over Christmas. He did have a tummy bug in early February, which made him feel awful, but he bounced back pretty quickly. He was seen by the specialist in early February and they were fairly pleased with him, although they did acknowledge that his lung function has been sitting around 75% for the past year now, without any improvement. He is on all the treatments he should be on, DNase, daily nebulised antibiotics, oral antibiotics, regular physiotherapy, inhalers, etc, and so it would seem that 75% is his new baseline. It’s upsetting when he is only 7 years old, but I think it (and all the bronchiectasis seen on his x rays) is mostly due to how poorly he was as a baby. I think it did some damage, or maybe left some areas vulnerable.

He has been fairly settled at school and he has a new friend who he really enjoys playing with. They seem pretty well matched and get on with each other really well, which makes his school time a lot easier. He is still awaiting the decision from the panel about whether he will be going to the local special school in the Autumn, but just today he was seen at school by the assessor who doesn’t feel the special school is the right place for him, so now we’re pretty stumped, as he’s so very far behind his peers, particularly in literacy, and even though he’s coming towards the end of Year 2, he’s still not got the basic skills he should have had when beginning Year 1. His teacher admits that she struggles to support him adequately with just one TA to help her, and so I really don’t see how he is going to make much progress in his current situation. But we will have to wait and see what the panel says on 22nd March.

At the moment, Dylan has a bit of a cold, which has increased his cough a little, but he’s coping well and is keeping on keeping on. He is a lovely smiley, positive, loving boy who keeps us smiling. He has recently decided that he doesn’t want to leave us to have respite care at the local children’s hospice anymore, and so we are now making arrangements for some home-based respite care instead, which should be better for everyone. We have another CF Clinic coming up on 30th March and then we are going to London for the weekend, before spending Easter in Wales with my family.

Thank you to everyone who has sent Dylan Christmas cards and cards during January, February and March, he loves receiving them. He particularly loves handmade cards or ones with interesting pictures on the front, because he loves receiving post, but struggles with the reading/comprehension of what’s inside. He feels very special when he sees his name on the envelopes though! Thank you to all the lovely people who have sent Dylan presents over the past few months. He had some really lovely gifts at Christmas, as well as treats each month for 2012, and he very much enjoys opening them. Thank you to everyone who has taken time out of their busy lives to make my son feel special!

Update 5th December 2011

Since August Dylan has had some ups and downs. He had his annual review/MOT in September, which brought the depressing news that his bronchial wall thickening in the bases of his lungs has progressed yet again, for the third year in a row. However, very little changes were made to his treatment regime, apart from removing his Vitamin E supplement because his levels were consistently high. His chest was rather nasty at the time, and IV antibiotics were considered, but thankfully a course of oral antibiotics sorted him out for a while.

His chest then settled for a while but he had some ups and downs with his schooling and adjusting to being in Year 2 and being so far behind his peers, and the school have now referred him to the local special school for next year. We are still waiting to hear as to whether he has been allocated a place, but for his sake, we hope that he gets in, as he really does need some specialist teaching to maximise his potential, as he is progressing worryingly slowly at his current school, and his peers are starting to notice and treating him differently. He has also had to start wearing glasses full time recently, as his long-sightedness has worsened, and so he required a stronger prescription and to wear his glasses full time.

In the summer of this year, Dylan made a wish with the Make A Wish Foundation UK to go to Disneyland Paris and meet Mickey Mouse, and at the end of November, his wish came true! Make A Wish, with the Disney Wish Program, sent us on the train to London, put us up in a hotel overnight, then spirited us away to Disneyland Paris on the Eurostar, with us staying on the Admiral’s Floor of the gorgeous Newport Bay Club hotel, mere minutes walk from the Disney parks. We had the pleasure of watching the Buffalo Bills rodeo show, meeting lots of characters, and riding lots of amazing, breath-taking and beautiful rides with Dylan’s special Wish Program pass which enabled him to jump all the queues and have special attention from all the characters. And the icing on the cake was the Character Tea Party, where Dylan was able to meet Mickey and Minnie Mouse, who spent ages with him and gave him a big hug, and Woody from Toy Story, who taught him a little dance and gave him lots and lots of hugs. Dylan felt so amazingly special and had the absolute time of his life!!!

The day after we arrived back home, Dylan had CF Clinic, and unfortunately, he was rather poorly for it. He had become unwell while in Disneyland Paris and when we got back his lung function was down a little, his weight was down a little, and he had an awful, awful cough. His lungs didn’t sound too bad, so the consultant wanted to try him on oral antibiotics first, but after 5 days, there was no improvement, in fact his symptoms were getting worse, and so today he was started on IV antibiotics through his portacath. However, by starting them today, 6th December, he should be finished by 20th December, and should hopefully be feeling much better by Christmas!

Update 25th August 2011

Chest-wise, Dylan is doing fairly well. His fingers are looking a little clubbed, and he always has gunk to bring up during his physio, but he’s not been ‘ill’ with a chest infection since June, when he grew Coliforms (gut bugs) on a swab and needed antibiotics to shift them. He has had some tummy troubles, particularly after eating fruit, so we’re not sure if it’s reflux or constipation. He’s eating a lot better now and not drinking quite as much as before, but he still drinks plenty.

He had a good report at CF Clinic last month and he’ll be having his annual review on 15th September. I’m not looking forward to it much, as the last two years’ x-rays have shown a decline in his lung health, with bronchial wall thickening worsening in the bases of his lungs.

Autism/education-wise he’s doing okay. He has at least another year in mainstream school and they are working on his transition into Year 2 with him. They had him making regular visits to his new teacher/class at the end of term and he has a social story to read over the holidays to keep him reminded about the changes. He will also be going into school a day early to meet his new teacher and see his new classroom, as the building has had some renovations to it over the holidays.

He has enjoyed the summer holidays so far and although it took him a few weeks to settle into the new holiday routine, he is settled now and enjoys our mini routine. He is also now doing GREAT with his PEP physio, which he has every morning. It’s much quicker than percussion, and still gets him shifting the gunk. He loved our summer holiday to Legoland, my family in South Wales, and a trip to West Wales, and he LOVED riding the rollercoasters at Legoland and Oakwood!

His speech seems to be improving; his sentence structure has definitely improved, as has his ability to use his/her and he/she more accurately. He is also taking a little more interest in reading, asking what things say, and asking how to spell things. He is also asking lots of questions about himself and the world around him, which is great!

He’s really looking forward to his birthday, which is only a week away now, and he’s looking forward to having a riding lesson and a party at a nearby soft play place. He also has a hospice stay coming up before he goes back to school!

Thank you very much to Jessica, Emily & Poppy-Mae, Tracy (Bristol), Kelsey, Karen (Sami), Maria S, Shelly, Libby, Anne & Kaitlin G, Trina, MJ, Jane, Jenny, Claire, and Helen E for all the fantastic cards! Thank you to Despina, Dottie the Dalmatian, Claire, Libby, Anne, Catherine and Lisa for all the lovely postcards! Thanks to Kate, Tapan, Alvaro, Shannon & Elsa, Maria & Michael, Anne & Kaitlin G, Dottie the Dalmatian, Sarah G, Noah, Dominic Firth, Lisa and Kelsey for the lovely letters. Thank you to Katie for the picture; to Shannon & Elsa for the snake, mask and foam plane; to Anne & Kaitlin G for the blue sticker book; to Nicola Jane for the Spiderman toothbrush; to Maria & Michael for the Bart Simpson stationery; to Trina for the stretchy lizard; to whoever sent the goodie bag; to Kelsey for the notebook and all the lovely stickers; to MJ for the stickers; to Kate Dee & PP for the Tonka car; to Noah for the drawing; to Anne for the book; to Catherine for the space kit; to Libby for the superhero monkey; to Lisa W for the Spongebob sticker book and chocolate; to Helen E for the pompoms; to Dottie for the party bag; to Lisa for the dinosaurs; to Tez for the magic painting book and bubbles; and to PP/Kim for the make your own aliens kit (he loved making them!), the Ben 10 sticker album and the family games set!

Update 1st May 2011

Dylan’s had a good few months health-wise. He’s had the odd flare up of his asthma and a few episodes of tummy pain, probably related to his eating relatively little compared to how much he drinks. He needs to eat a little more and he particularly needs to eat more at school, as often at lunchtime, he will have 4 Creon capsules and then not eat anything for lunch, preferring to go out to play. So we have spoken to his teacher and a stipulation has now been added to the new draft of his Statement to specify that he should always eat SOMETHING at lunchtime, in order to give the Creon something to work on. The CF nurse also said that we could give him a dose of Lactulose when he has episodes of stomach pain which has helped as well.

His Statement needed a lot of adjustment this year, as he is now significantly behind in both his reading and writing, and is starting to fall behind in his numeracy, due to his speech delay, language comprehension difficulties, and his poor short and long term memory and poor concentration skills. So there are new strategies being put in place to help him. He is always trying his best and always making a little progress, but his progress is so slow that his peers are pulling further and further ahead of him.

He just had his first proper eye test, which showed that he is a little long-sighted, so he has been given his first pair of glasses, which should hopefully make reading and literacy easier for him and hopefully he will now get less headaches!

Apart from all that, he’s doing well. He’s had a couple of heavy colds, which did go onto his chest a little now and then, but he picked up again fairly quickly. He has coped pretty well with life, autism-wise, although he did have a few wobbly times during the Easter holidays, because his daily routines changed so much. This is partly where his comprehension difficulties make things harder, because he struggles to understand what is going on a lot of the time, and can either get the wrong end of the stick, or be completely clueless and get distressed. He gets there in the end though!

He is also having an assessment by the Educational Psychologist next week, and some people have also asked whether he may be dyslexic, or whether maybe he would be better suited to the local special school, but we’ll have to wait and see what the professionals think. Personally, as long as he is in the place which will maximise his potential, then I don’t mind where that is.

Here’s hoping for a happy, healthy summer!

Thank you very much to Qiao Feng & Ya, Michelle P & family, Claire, Dottie the Dalmatian, Dawn Goddard, MJ, Claire Connon, Leonie, and Helen Brierley for the beautiful cards! And thank you to Elroy, Dottie the Dalmatian, Claire, Liz, Laura & Emma, and MJ for the lovely postcards! Thank you to Dottie the Dalmatian for all the lovely letters! The children love reading them! Thank you to Sarah G for all the lovely letters you send to both children, they enjoy reading them! Thank you to Jack Anyon for the letter. Thank you to whoever sent the Valentines note! Thank you to whoever sent the door hanger; to MJ for the dinosaur photo and Easter basket kit; to Dottie the Dalmatian for the cress seeds, and the egg decorating kits; to Post Pals for the running hamster; to Jo Garrett for the Wii fishing game, the Kung Zhu hamster, and the pumpkin seeds; and to Helen T for the Toy Story bath set, flannel, fish and duck!

Update 1st February 2011

Dylan has had a pretty good few months. He caught Norovirus in early December, which knocked him for six for a few days, but once he recovered from that, he had a good Christmas, and has stayed pretty well apart from the odd cold. He’s occasionally chesty, but it doesn’t seem serious at the moment, and his latest cough swab was clear. He also did great at CF Clinic in early January! He scored a lung function in the high 80’s and his consultant was very pleased with him!

Regarding his autism and learning disabilities, he was assessed by the speech therapist in November, and he is nearly two years behind in his speech development. He scored low on his vocabulary and even lower on his sentence structure. He’s also really really struggling with learning to read and even just with learning the alphabet, but recently I’ve been teaching him his Jolly Phonics at home using a sort of sign language, and he can now say almost all the sounds in the alphabet. Once he’s sure of all the sounds and signs, then I’m going to start linking it to letter shapes. It’s slow going, but he’s finally making progress.

Here’s hoping for a good few months of health, especially for when we go to watch Daddy run a half marathon for the CF Trust in Blackpool in late February, and for his and Seren’s hospice stay in March!

Thank you to June, Marli & parents, Helen T, the Homberg family, Lynn, Kate Dee, Stacey, Maria, Claire, Jacqueline, Dasher, Dancer, Despina, Lidy, Sarah G, MJ, Tez, Claire, Penny, and Helen Brierley for all the fantastic cards! Thank you to MJ and Claire for the fab postcards! Thank you to Dottie the Dalmatian for all the lovely letters! Thank you to Sarah G for your letters!

Thank you to Post Pals, Kate Dee and another anonymous sender for the Halloween goodie bags! Thank you to Malmesbury Youth Development Centre for the Christmas tree and keyring; to Maria for the keyring; to Anna for the picture; to whoever sent the Sheriff badge and Toy Story Top Trumps; to Post Pals for the sweets, chocolate and Post Pals badges; to Stacey for the stickers; to MJ for the indoor sparklers, monster snap cards, McDonalds erasers, Spongebob keyrings and stickers, frog keyring, walking dinosaur, and calendar; to our Elf for the Playmobil pirates and Buzz Lightyear voice changer; to Helen T for the Toy Story art tube, Toy Story mug, Lego police car, Toy Story stamper set, choc coins; to Tez for the bat; to Claire for the puppet, Dr Who figure, soldier keyring and chocolate; to Post Pals for the ‘make your own Christmas decorations’ and Thorntons chocolates; to Penny for the colouring book and crayons; and to whoever sent the choc coins and candy cane!

Update 28th October 2010

Dylan’s had a rough few months again. In his last update I said that he had been having some trouble with the fungus Aspergillus and at that point was about to finish a month’s anti-fungal treatments. Well, at the time he finished the course his chest sounded pretty good and he happily went off to stay at Fritton Lake for a four night stay with big sister Seren with the nearby children’s hospice. He had a great time there, but came back with a nasty cough again.

He had his Annual Review in July and his x-ray showed further chronic changes from last year, with bronchial wall thickening at the bases of his lungs. He wasn’t able to complete the lung function test, because his technique is very hit and miss, but his chest sounded quite clear, so the doctors weren’t too concerned. His blood results came back positive for Aspergillus as well, showing that it had been a problem for him recently. Because his cough was pretty nasty at the time, but his cough swabs were consistently coming back clear, the consultant felt that it could be asthma causing his symptoms, so she increased his Seretide inhaler to see if that helped.

It didn’t help much and then in early August Dylan was blasted by multiple infections at once. We took him to the hospital and they found that he had a crackly chest, so they put him on Augmentin antibiotics, but we had to take him back two days later because he was still being knocked flat by really high temperatures, and that’s when they found that he also had conjunctivitis, two ear infections AND severe tonsillitis, as well as the chest infection! So they doubled his dose of Augmentin which helped.

However it didn’t help his chest much. He was seen again on the ward in mid-September because of his bad ches, and because although his cough was disgusting and he was getting really upset at physio time, and was complaining of chest pain, his cough swabs were STILL coming back clear, the doctor put him on Ciprofloxacin antibiotics.

At CF Clinic in early October, the best lung function he could manage was 55%, his fingers were clubbed, he was still complaining of chest pain, his cough was disgusting, and so even though his swabs were STILL coming back clear, the consultant said he should have two weeks of intravenous antibiotics through his portacath.

He had those, and even though he hadn’t had any IVs for 22 months, he coped REALLY well with having the needle stay in his chest for 14 days and he was VERY careful not to knock his needle or undo the clamps. He also sat lovely and still every time I had to give his IVs and by the end of the 14 days his chest was much improved. Unfortunately, he found the finger prick tests to check his Tobramycin levels far more traumatic.

And now, nearly two weeks later, he’s recovered from the side effects of the IVs and his chest is the best it’s been since the spring! Physio time is almost a pleasure, as he has pretty much nothing to cough up, and he is so much happier. He loves going to Disability Football Club each week and he’s looking healthier than he has in months!

I can’t believe he’s now in Year 1 at school! He’s doing well at settling in and has got some nice friends who he loves to play with and he likes his teacher too. He’s still really struggling with his literacy, both reading and writing, but he’s a little better at numeracy, and he loves the more creative subjects and PE. He’s also had a Statement review and is still being allocated full time one-to-one or small-group support for all the hours he accesses school, which is a big help.

So we’re now hoping for an healthy autumn and winter for him!

We have lots of thank you’s since our last update. Thank you to Post Pals, Claire, Alan & Sylvia, Amy Benyon, Samuel Liv, Susan, Mai, Mandie Lowry, Ruby, Shahlaa, Becky, Ria, Amanda, Maria, Laura, MJ, Kate Dee and Marcella for the beautiful cards Dylan has received lately! Thank you to Claire for the postcards! Thank you to Claire, Linda Eldred, Dottie, Claire, Maria & Michael, Kate Dee, Michelle P Chloe Jack Kacey & Max, Jenny Orpwood, Kate Lauren & Estelle, Michelle Sophie & Frosti, Mandie Lowry, Kim Ginger, Penny Berrill, Helen Brierley and Maggie & Damson for Dylan’s fantastic birthday cards!!! Thank you to Murphy, Claire, Mandie Lowry and Alida in Italy for the lovely letters! Thank you to balloonbaboon.com for the balloon cow and balloon baboon; to Elle M for the smile badge and lights; to Post Pals for the bat finger puppet; to Mai for the colouring book; to Sheelagh Hawkins for the football doorbell; to Mandie Lowry for the make your own bat, Gary pencil sharpener, Spongebob stickers, Ben 10 socks, eye patch, Spongebob eFlyers, Spongebob flannel, Transformers puzzle, Tom & Jerry DVD, Toy Story alien, Spongebob snack pack, pencil and ruler; to whoever sent the GForce book and Lego jet; to Helen T for the colouring book; Maria & Michael for the Spiderman activity book; to Claire McCartney for the Charlie & Lola stickers; to Lucy & Richard for the activity book; to Helen Brierley for the Spongebob puppet kit; to Shahlaa for the alphabet stickers, hot chocolate sachet, Spongebob busy pack and sticker book; to Michelle Sophie & Froti for the cardboard make a bat; to Mandie Lowry for the Buzz Wallwalker, Little Einsteins stickers, Toy Story song book and CD, and Go Diego Go clock book; to Penny Berrill for the Toy Story notebook, pencil, ruler, rubber and sharpener; to Helen T for the Toy Story cup, Toy Story Wizaround floor puzzle, Toy Story walkie talkies and Toy Story swim bag; to Helen Brierley for the pirate stickers; to Donna Bedford for the bracelet; to Alida in Italy for the stickers; to Becky for the monkey and pirate; to Helen T for the balloons, spiders, insects, felt tips, sand art pens and paper; to Marcella for the Ben 10 alien and Transformer; and to Margaret Howell for the cuddly dinosaur!

Although Dylan LOVES getting post, especially cards, he doesn’t get too much out of letters because he doesn’t have the concentration span to listen while I read them out, and without seeing photos of what people are talking about, it doesn’t mean too much to him. He much prefers cards with an eye-catching picture on the front and just a short note inside. Saying that, he really does enjoy the Dottie the Dalmatian letters, because they DO include photos, and so while I don’t read the letters out word for word, he looks at the pictures and we talk about what Dottie is doing in the photos, and he really enjoys those. He knows when he sees the blue paw prints on the envelope that it’s going to be a Dottie letter! Then Seren reads them from top to bottom afterwards and keeps them all! She especially liked the one where Dottie visited a stable!

Update 22nd June 2010

Dylan was doing pretty well during the spring, just having the odd cold, but his chest was playing him up now and then through April. We did various swabs, which all came back clear, so we just got used to him having a bit of a cough and to his chest sounding a bit wet during physio sessions. He was well in himself, but he just had a cough.

He had CF Clinic in early May, and did well with the lung function machine, scoring over 90% for the first time, but he still had a wet cough. We found out at the end of May that his cough swab had grown a couple of fungi – Candida and Aspergillus Fumigatus, which certainly explained his chesty cough, which was gradually getting worse and worse through the month.

He was coughing during the night, and all day, and I think over the month his lung function was probably declining, as he started to struggle with coughing fits when exercising, and was getting breathless much more easily.

He started Itraconazole (anti-fungals) on 30th May, and he’s now nearly completed the four week course, and his chest is much improved. He’s been coughing up an awful lot of gunk over the past month, which has been helped by him starting PEP physio with his first ever PEP machine, which he’s slowly getting the hang of. It’s really helped him to shift the gunk out of his larger airways, which was where it was getting stuck. The percussion physio was clearing his lungs, but he wasn’t able to cough the gunk up effectively, which has been greatly helped by the PEP machine.

Being unwell has definitely affected his autism, as he’s definitely been able to tell the difference in his body, which has worried him, but it’s also been educational for him, as he now understands that he has ‘bogeys’ in his chest, and that his new medicine is to help to get the nasty bogeys out of his chest, and that coughing them up into a tissue is really good. He also understands now that if he doesn’t cough them up, but swallows them, they go down into his tummy and then into his bottom.

He really dislikes the taste of the Itraconazole though, it nearly makes him sick each morning, and so he’s counting down the last few doses, and is very pleased that the course is nearly over.

He has his CF Annual Review (MOT) coming up next month, and he’s already had his blood tests done for this, and has to have an x-ray done tomorrow. I’m a bit nervous about finding out the results of his annual review, because last time they could see bronchial wall thickening in the bases of his lungs, so I’m nervous to find out if this has worsened over the past year.

In more positive news, he is very much looking forward to a four night hospice stay which is coming up next week, his first time sharing a hospice stay with big sister Seren! And he’s very much looking forward to celebrating Seren’s birthday in just 19 days!

Of course, he’s REALLY looking forward to his own birthday in September though, and has found the waiting absolutely agonising so far! He’s so impatient to have his party and invite all his new school friends!

Talking about school, he’s going to be going into Year 1 at school in September, and I’m a little nervous about it, because expectations of him will be higher in Year 1, and he’s REALLY struggling with learning to read still, although his writing is improving and he does now recognise some letters. I’m hopeful that his teacher will be working hard to settle him into his new class properly, with a ‘social story’ book about his new class for him to read through the summer, word lists for upcoming topics so we can help his vocabulary and give him a chance of keeping up with the rest of the class, and frequent visits to his new classroom.

Fingers crossed that his Aspergillus and Candida infections have cleared up, and that he’ll have a healthy summer!

Thank you to Kate Dee, Postie Sarah, Nicola, Maria & Michael, Fiona & Peter, Martin Jackie & Jamie, Kim Lawrence & family, Quackers, Helen Brierley, Emma Plummer, Kim Lee & Bridget, Stephanie Dom Karen & family, Postie Sarah, Elizabeth, Claire, Jenny Flack, Catie and Post Pals for the beautiful cards! Thank you very much to Post Pals, Max, Caroline, Sarah G, Ashley Green from Ifield Special School and Despina for the lovely postcards! Thank you to Karen Wright, Horndale County Infant & Nursery School, Marvin, Mitchell from Horndale School, Karen Drew, Lindsay F, Sarah Gilligan and Jack for the lovely letters! Thank you to Karen Wright for the photo; to Nicola for the chocolate rabbit; to Maria & Michael for the Cars book; to Helen T for the Hairy McLary books, Postman Pat book and bats and cats book; to Post Pals for the scary sticker book; to Max & Caroline for the chocolate treat; to Fiona & Peter for the cuddly Mr Bump; to Fiona for the Christian CDs for me and the bendy calculator for Adrian; to Quackers for the photos and the duck; to Helen Brierley for the seeds; to Marvin for the SpiderPirate drawing; to Mitchell from Horndale School for the drawing; to Karen Drew for the noisy animal and the Ben 10 frame; to Kim Lee & Bridget for the Ben 10 stickers and Spiderman colouring; to Stephanie Dom Karen & family for the Spongebob Top Trumps, teddy and toy car; to whoever sent the Spongebob; to Elizabeth for the toy bat; to Claire for the Ben 10 straw; to Lindsay F for the knitted bat and dinosaur; to Cobey for the make your own monster and pirate ship; to Claudia Meyer for the pirate stickers, Spongebob socks, flannel, chocolate, ball, badge, crocodile, puzzle, and pirate with boat; to whoever sent the Cushelle teddy; and to Post Pals for the fantastic LEGOLAND tickets for us all!!!

Update 27th March 2010

Dylan has had a good few months! He had a nasty cold at the end of November/beginning of December, but for the rest of December he was well, and apart from a few colds and asthma flare ups, he’s been pretty well so far in 2010, and his cough swabs have been clear. He is a good weight at the moment, and is making progress developmentally, although he is struggling with learning to read. He had his first Statement of Educational Need annual review at the beginning of this month, and they were pleased with the progress he’s made so far, and set him some new things to work on – learning to read using full words instead of phonics, taking turns and sharing, and sitting still and listening while playing with blu-tack at quiet times. His toilet training is great, although he does still have accidents on times, and still very much needs his nappies overnight.

He very much enjoyed Christmas, and is looking forward now to the Easter holidays, because we’re going to visit my parents, and he is going to have a three night stay at the hospice for respite care too! He hasn’t been to the hospice since last September and so he’s really missed it.

Fingers crossed for a happy, healthy Easter holidays!

Thank you very much to Margaret, Blitzen, Maria & Michael, Despina, Dasher, Martin Jackie & Jamie, Kate Dee, the Homberg family, Post Pals, Daniel, Helen T & Adrian B, Sarah, Beth Wendy & Doris, Becky P, Cupid, Kathryn, Vickie, William S, Claire McCartney, Katie, Tracy (Bristol), Laura H, Jessica, Jane, Brabourne & Smeeth Brownies, Sarah Kidd, Helen Brierley, Rudolph, Daniel & Joseph, Vixen, Emma & Jayden Barclay, Rachel Cridge, Hibiki, Jake, Bradley, Cody, Jake, and Billy for all the FANTASTIC Christmas cards!! Thank you to Becky for the Transformers postcard. Thank you to Kate Dee, Kim Ginger, K, Garry & Julie, Postie Sarah and Juno & Muffin, for the cards received so far in 2010, and thank you to whoever sent the anonymous Valentines cards! Thank you to the ‘friend’ who sent the Valentines postcard, and thank you to Sarah Hart for the postcard. Thank you to Edwin Elf, Santa Claus, Edward Elf, Jane, and Beddy Bear for the lovely letters!

Thank you to whoever sent Dylan some stickers; thank you to Becky for the mini bat book, bat picture, bat facts, and bat wordsearch; thank you to Dasher for the chocolate presents and Santa’s Magic Key; thank you to Cupid for the letter pack and tree decoration; thank you to Beth & Wendy for the Ben 10 Micro figures, Postman Pat cake mix, Making Faces sticker book, wooden pirate ship kit and chocolate buttons; thank you to Doris for the Night Before Christmas and Monkeys Magic Box books; thank you to Kathryn for the sweets and stickers; thank you to Vickie for the lolly; thank you to Beddy Bear for the bookmarks; thank you to Rudolph for the coins, spiders and bat; thank you to Daniel & Joseph for the snowman; thank you to Becky Paulinyi for the Christmas story books, cuddly Father Christmas; thank you to Debbie & cats for the spooky sticker book and jungle sticker book; thank you to Tez for the stocking with dog and giraffe; thank you to Postie Sarah for the Ben 10 jet balls and skeleton pyjamas; thank you to Kim Ginger for the space bubble gun; thank you to Holly for the bat, coin, spiders and chocolates; thank you to Helen T for the remote controlled car, paint your own train, Waybuloo books, Buttons, and balloon art kit; thank you to Elf Mel & Helper Nick for the pirates, the Lego fire lorry, Lightnin McQueen and Cars book; thank you to Jenny Bridger for the personalised jar of sweets; thank you to Prancer for the Santa lolly, bat ruler, bat and chocolates; thank you to Post Pals for the Smarties; thank you to Jessica for the big chocolate coin; thank you to Emma & Jayden Barclay for the stickers; thank you to Hibiki for the origami; and thank you to Billy for the paper plane. All of these were sent at Christmas.

Thank you to Garry & Julie for the plankton drawing; thank you to Postie Sarah for the stickers; thank you to Post Pals for the frog to prince egg; thank you to Juno & Muffin for the Thomas Tank Engine DVD; thank you to Rhiannon for the Thomas Tank Engine poster art set; and thank you to Debbie & the cats for the audio book and activity book.

Update 30th November 2009

Dylan has had a pretty good couple of months, with a few colds thrown in here and there.

On 14th September, Dylan started with the first of those colds, and so he stayed home from school the next day. He ate something, but he was very tired and his cough was nasty. He was off school again the following day, and he hated it! He wanted to go back to school so badly, but he was still coughing and sneezing, so he couldn’t go. And he was sad to miss what would have been his first swimming lesson. That evening, his cough was absolutely disgusting, and he was really tight-chested and rattly, so I booked him in to see the doctor the following afternoon, but luckily he brightened up through the following day, so he didn’t go in the end.

Happily, he was well enough to go back to school by the Friday, which he was very pleased about! His cold did mess his asthma up for quite a while, but by the Tuesday of the following week, he was able to get rid of the extra inhalers.

On 23rd September, Dylan finally had his first swimming lesson, and he loved it! He had some settling in issues, but each week he has been making fantastic progress, and he’s getting more and more confident in the water now. Yay!

On 25th September, Dylan had a 2 night stay at the childrens’ hospice and loved it! He went on trips to the zoo and to a local park!

From 28th September to 1st October, Dylan’s asthma played him up again, giving him a dry, wheezy cough, so we had to increase his inhalers and give him Simple Linctus to try and soothe his cough a bit, as it was really bothering him.

On 2nd October, Dylan had CF Clinic, and he was then 115 cms tall, and 21.7 kgs, putting him on the 77th centile for his BMI, which is great! His SATS were great at 98%, but his lung function was poor, only 60%, mostly because his technique was REALLY bad. So I don’t know what his lung function really was. His consultant said that his nasty cough was probably caused by a virus, as the glands in his neck were enlarged.

On 8th October, Dylan had his seasonal flu jab, and was very brave, and didn’t have any side effects from it.

On 17th October, Dylan came out in another cold, and by Monday 19th, he was still snotty and coughing, so he stayed home from school, and he spent all of Monday night coughing, so he had to have Tuesday off school as well. However, he was well enough to go back on the Wednesday, which he was overjoyed at! On the Thursday night, his cough turned chestier, but luckily, it was half term from the following day, so he didn’t have to miss any more school.

On Friday 23rd, Dylan’s Daddy (Adrian) was told that he had Swine Flu, and was put on Tamiflu, and because of Dylan’s CF, he was given Tamiflu as well, just in case he caught it from Daddy. Thankfully, he didn’t have any side effects at all from the Tamiflu, and neither did he catch Swine Flu! Phew! He still had his chesty cough though, which took him all of half term week to get rid of.
On 3rd November, Dylan had his first Parents Evening. His teacher was generally very pleased with him, saying that he’s settled in well, and that his strengths are numbers and shape recognition, and he LOVES junk modelling and art, but that he REALLY struggles with phonics. He can’t grasp it at all. So we need to work on that, both reading and writing letters. It’s a real stumbling block for him, so I think that’s going to take a while.

On 27th November, Dylan had his Swine Flu jab, and so far, hasn’t had any side effects to that jab either! Yay!

Fingers crossed for a happy, healthy December! This is the first year Dylan has really been aware of Christmas and understands a little of the role Father Christmas plays in the whole event, so he is REALLY excited about it all! And we can’t wait to share the experience with him!

Thank you to Tracy (Bristol), Becky Paulinyi, Kate Dee, Viks, Maria & Michael, Erica Durante, Sarah Gilligan, Karen (Sami) and Kim Ginger for the lovely cards! Thank you to Val Simms and Kate Dee for the great postcards! Thank you to Maria & Michael for the lovely letters! And thank you to S Gilligan for the Beddy Bear letters! Thank you to Sarah Gilligan for the paper rabbit, the lollies, the popping candy, the koala, the parrot, the fish kit, the butterfly kit, the 3 Clarice Bean books, the 2 masks, the Dennis the Menace book, the jigsaw kit, the cress kit and the needlepoint kit. Thank you to Post Pals for the stickers, the LEGO digger, the flying lantern, the chocolate bar, the cars chocolates, and the Spooky Sticker Book. Thank you to Maria & Michael for the pumpkin straw. Thank you to Sarah for the Thomas sticker & puzzle book. Thank you to Karen (Sami) for the witch cape, the reflective armband, the skeleton, the pumpkin straw, and the lolly, for both kids. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the Batman face paints!

Update 13th September 2009

Dylan has a pretty good summer!

On 23rd July he had a trip to the dentists and we found out that his being so ill all his life has affected the health of his teeth. His new bottom front teeth are marked with yellow spots and apparently it’s due to severe illness in his toddler years causing his teeth to have a lack of calcium. Apparently the teeth shouldn’t go bad, but we’ll need to keep an eye on them. I hope all his teeth won’t be affected.
On 31st July Dylan had his port flushed and was very brave, although it did bleed for a while after which bothered him.

On 4th August Dylan had a speech therapy appointment to score him ready for starting full time school and he did so well! He totally surprised the speech therapist with his recent progress and coped a lot better than expected with the tests, so we were really proud of him!

On 18th August Dylan had his first occupational therapy appointment and his therapist discovered that although, to our relief, he’s not got dyspraxia, he does have very weak finger muscles (apparently it’s quite common among autistic children and is another form of developmental delay) and so we have some exercises and work to do with him to strengthen his fingers ready for him to be able to learn to write.

On 25th August Dylan had another OT appointment and because it was quite challenging, his autistic symptoms came through a lot, and the OT had to work hard to keep Dylan focused or persuade him to do any tasks, but she gave us lots of tips on how to build up the strength in his fingers and she’s going to send a report to his school as well.

From 28th to 31st August, Dylan had a 3 night stay at the children’s hospice and had a brilliant time!

Then on 2nd September it was Dylan’s 5th birthday! And it was by far, his best birthday ever! He was so pleased that my parents were well enough to travel to see us for his birthday, and he had a lot of lovely presents to open that morning, and then had a bowling party in the evening, before going round to see Adrian’s parents later. He was happy all day long and enjoyed every second of his special day!
Then on 3rd September Dylan started full time school! He did so well that he was able to stay all day, instead of having to be picked up at lunchtime as planned! And he did the same the day after as well! He has just done another full week at school, with hardly any problems! The only ‘teething problems’ have been him not liking eating school dinners, and so he now takes packed lunches, and by halfway through the week, he was getting REALLY tired, so I am now walking him to school in the mornings and picking him up in the pushchair in the afternoons. I can’t believe how well he’s settled into school so far! Long may it continue!

I think this was by far the best summer holiday I’ve had with Dylan, and he loved going to Pleasurewood Hills, a play farm, going on holiday in West Wales, visiting my parents, the park, and going to Africa Alive, before his birthday and starting school.

I just hope that he stays well through the autumn and winter.

Thank you to Amy Singleton, Helen T, Kate Dee, Catherine, Hanna, Vikki, Kim Ginger, Debbie & cats, Jenny, Helen Brierley, June Junko, Maria & Michael, Laura, Jenny Orpwood, The Schauers, Rachel Cridge, and Tracy (Bristol) for the lovely cards! Thank you to Estelle Kate & Lauren, Liz Eckhardt, Sarah Gilligan, Mary Beth, the Schauer Family, and Fiona in Poole for the postcards. Thank you to Wendy Nixon, Marisa Jackson, and Kellie Morris for the notecards. Thank you to Lydia for the fab party bag full of goodies! Thank you to Vickie for the diggers and dumpers sticker book. Thank you to Helen T for the Cars sticker packs! Thank you for the flannel lollipop. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the two foam planes. Thank you to Debbie & cats for the Thomas sticker pad. Thank you to Helen T for the birthday balloon bouquet! Thank you to Helen Brierley for the ‘Jimmy’s Sunshine Book’. Thank you to Rachel Cridge for the stickers.

Update 18th July 2009

Apologies for the lack of updates over the past 7 months on Dylan’s page, apparently there were some technical difficulties with his page, but they’re fixed now and his recent updates are showing. This one goes from 26 April to 19 July. Due to the problem being linked to my updates being so long, in future I’ll be trying to limit the updates to medical and autism linked updates. For more in depth updates with photos though, feel free to visit my blog, which is linked as his homepage at the top of this page.

Dylan’s had an up and down few months, and on 28th April, he had his first port flush for 10 weeks (2 weeks late!) and HATED it.

On 7th May he started with a yellow gunky nose and we thought he might be getting a cold. The following day, he developed a slight cough, but he didn’t have a temperature and was eating well, so I wasn’t too worried. Over the following couple of days, his cough and cold got worse, so he had a day off school the next day and had lots of extra inhalers and physio, and went back to school the day after.
On 13th May, Dylan escaped from his classroom at home time, and gave Seren and me quite a shock when we found him wandering in the playground. Luckily no harm was done. He had a cough swab done the same day, and then after his evening bath he was very hoarse and snotty and his cough was much worse again, so he had some Vicks on his chest and some Simple Linctus which helped. He had a bad night that night so I kept him home from school the next day, but on the 15th, although he still had a bad cough, he was better in himself so he went back to school.

On 26th May, he had his another cough swab and his x-ray and blood tests done ready for his Annual Review in July, and he was very brave. On 31st May he came out in a cold, and so I kept him home from school. On 1st June he was full of yellow gunk again and hardly eating. The following day his nose dried up, and his cough started up and he was coughing up yellow gunk, which isn’t a good sign!
On 3rd June his cough was much worse and he coughed all night, so he was still home from school and he was just coughing and coughing all the time. He had CF Clinic on 5th June and he was up to 20.6 kgs, putting him on the 75th centile for his BMI. His sats were good and his lung function was 83%, but his cough swab had grown Pseudomonas, which explained the yellow gunk and all the coughing. Because, apart from the cough, he was quite well in himself, he was prescribed 3 weeks of oral Ciprofloxacin, with the safety net of IVs if his symptoms got worse or the orals didn’t shift the bug.
That night was the worst night with his cough, but then the following day he seemed to cough a bit less. By the 8th June I felt he was well enough to return to school.

On 24th June, I had a meeting with his nursery teacher to re-set his IEP targets ready for moving up to Reception in September. His teacher said that she was happy with his progress and that he could start the settling in process to his new classroom/teacher, and that they’d make him a social story book about what to expect in September.

On 6th July he had his Statement reviewed ready for Reception class and it was decided that he will have two days of attending Reception class from 8.55 am to 1.05 pm on the 3rd and 4th September. He will then try a full day from 8.55 am to 3.20 pm on the following Monday. His teacher will also build chill out times into his day, and he will be taking his cuddly ‘Batty’ into Reception with him to help him with quiet times like story time or assembly. I raised issues about his safety in the main school, because of the possibility of him escaping out of the front door or the garden gate at certain times, so the teachers assured me that they would be keeping a close eye on him.

The following day he met his new teacher and saw his new classroom and was very excited about it all. He also stayed for school lunch and coped REALLY well. He got his ‘Dylan Is Going To School’ book for us to read to him at home over the summer holidays.

The 10th July was his first ever school sports day and he coped really well with some extra support and he scored lots of points for his team. He also had nose, throat and cough swabs done ready for his Annual Review. He got his first school report too which was generally positive!

On 11th July he coped REALLY well with his first trip to the cinema and ended up enjoying it a lot. On 14th July he spent an hour in his new classroom and REALLY enjoyed it, and gave his teacher an ‘All About Me’ book that I had written from his perspective explaining about his CF, asthma and autism. Then 15th July was his last day at school nursery!

On 16th July he had his Annual Review at the hospital. He did his first ever urine sample and it was clear. His weight had gone up to 21.3 kg, and he was 112.9 cms tall, putting him on the 83rd centile for his BMI. His swabs were all clear, as were his blood tests, but they did show that his Vitamin E levels are too high, so his consultant dropped his dose down to 0.5 mls a day. He increased his Singulair dose from 4 mg a day to 5 mg a day, and lowered his Seretide dose from 2 puffs of 125 micrograms twice a day to 1 puff of 125 micrograms twice a day. His x-ray showed some bronchial wall thickening at the bases of both lungs, which wasn’t very nice to hear, but his consultant still said that he’s had the best year health-wise of his life so far. His bowel was rather full on examination, so we have to keep an eye on that. Oh, and the physio said that we need to encourage him to do lots of huffs during physiotherapy sessions and do lots of bubble blowing.

From 16th to 18th July he spent two nights at the childrens hospice and had a great time!

Fingers crossed for a happy, healthy summer!

Thank you this month to Tracy (Bristol), Maria & Michael, Kate Dee and Helen Brierley for the cards. Thank you to Maria & Michael for the postcard and to Margret Nagy for the notecard. Thank you to Helen T for the letter and Thomas cupcakes pack. Thank you to Tracy (Bristol) for the bat book and thank you to Kim Ginger for the ‘getting dressed’ jigsaws.

Update 26th April 2009

Dylan has had a pretty good couple of months! He was starting to get over his cold on 16th February, but it was clear that he’d lost some weight after not eating for nearly a week. He had his port flushed the following day, and was very brave, but HATED having a plaster put on afterwards! And on 18th Feb, Dylan went to the dentists and had a good report.

He went back to school on the 23rd, for what turned out to be six weeks of 100% attendance! An absolute first for Dylan, and we are over the moon!!

On 25th February, Dylan’s psychologist came round to discuss his recent progress and to chase up what the school are doing about providing help for him at school.

On the 26th we re-started potty training and after buying him a new, comfier toilet seat, he immediately got the hang of it and hasn’t looked back since! On the 27th he bumped his head badly at school when he stepped on a plank and it shot up and smacked him in the face, so we had to take him to the GPs to get checked over, but he was fine and the GP was happy for him to still go to the hospice that night for his respite care. He had a great weekend at the hospice, and when we picked him up on the 1st March, he had done really well with his potty training all weekend!

On 4th March Dylan wore pants for the first time and did fabulously well! In nearly two months, he’s only had about three accidents in his pants, which is amazing, and he now wears pants all day at home, and at school, and just wears nappies at night and pull ups for when he goes out walking or in the car. What a HUGE achievement for him!!

On 18th March, I attended a meeting at his school to discuss how to implement the advice set out in his Statement of Special Educational Need, and also to plan his move to full time school in September.
He had CF Clinic on 3rd April and he had a great report! He’d grown to 110.5 cms, and had gone up to 20.1 kgs, which puts him on the 77th centile for his BMI, which is fab! His chest was clear and his consultant was very pleased with him.

During the Easter holidays, Dylan had a lot of fun, but the highlight for him was getting to see some real live BATS at Bristol Zoo!! We were able to walk into their enclosure, so he could see them sleeping all curled up hanging upside down, and one bat kept flying around too, so he ABSOLUTELY LOVED IT!

He went back to school on 23rd April and his teacher had a surprise waiting for him, Batty, his cuddly quiet time bat! The teacher found him in a charity shop over Easter and bought him for Dylan to help him to sit still on the carpet at quiet times, which is working really well! He struggled with leaving Batty behind after the first afternoon, but now he’s helped to make Batty a box to sleep in when he’s not there, he’s happy to leave him behind.

Fingers crossed for some more good health!

Thank you to Jessica, Nikki, S, Kim Ginger, Helen Brierley, Post Pals, Julie B and Nicky Walker for the cards. Thank you to Julie and Jill for the postcards. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the letter. Thank you to SOLAK for the beautiful cushion, Dylan loves it and sleeps on it every night. Thank you to Post Pals for the cuddly teddy. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the stickers, reward chart and stickers, finger puppet and Flat Stanley book. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the Pat books and sheep mask kit. Thank you to Post Pals for the puppet kit. Thank you to Julie Barrett for the egg decorating kit. Thank you to Nicky Walker for the Postman Pat sticker box! Thank you to Debbie Gray for the football!

Update 15th February 2009

Dylan was well for the end of December once he finished his IVs, but January and February have been rougher on him.

He finished his IV’s on 23rd December, but he was left with a very sore chest from all the dressings he’d had on it, and we had to use Sudocrem on it for a few days to help it heal, as it was so sore and he found it very uncomfortable. On 24th, we received his draft Statement of Educational Needs through the post, which wasn’t nice reading on Christmas Eve, especially when we read that some of his assessment scores were off the bottom of the centile charts. But he had a lovely day on Christmas Day with lots of fabulous presents, and he really enjoyed the Christmas holidays!

On 5th January, I had a lot of discussions with the Advisory Teacher, psychologist and education department about his Statement, and where he should go to school, as part of the draft statement asked us for a decision on where we want him schooled. The decision we came to was that as the local special needs school doesn’t take children until they turn 7, he will go to the mainstream school until then, with full time one to one support from a properly trained learning support assistant, and he may have some outreach work done by the special needs school based at the mainstream school.

On the 8th he went back to school, and then that evening went to the childrens hospice for three nights of respite care. He had a great time while he was there! When we picked him up on 11th Jan, he seemed to struggle to adjust to being back home at first, but then the next day he was very tired and had no appetite. By the afternoon he had started with a nasty cough, so that could have been part of why he struggled on the Sunday.

On the 14th and 16th he was really bad, needing lots of inhalers and extra physio. We guessed it might be asthma flare ups, but it was very weird.

On 17th, we found out that he is eligible for free nappies, which we were very pleased about!

His chest was really bad again on the 18th, and the next day, his chest was bad again in the morning, but cleared up in time for him to go to school that afternoon. We also got the first delivery of his free nappies, and they’re so great! Much more comfortable on him and much more absorbent!

On 20th, the physiotherapist assessed my physio technique, and was pleased with it. Before school that afternoon, he had a cough swab done, and that night his chest deteriorated and he had a really rough night. So the next day, I took him to the hospital to be checked, and although his cough was horrendous and he couldn’t even stop coughing long enough to manage the lung function test, his lungs sounded mostly clear and so the consultant prescribed him a two week course of Augmentin. I was pleased to see that he’d put some weight on, going up to 19.8 kgs, and 111 cms, which is great.

On 22nd he had another really bad day with his chest and no matter what I tried, inhalers, tons of physio, he just couldn’t stop coughing and it was making him really upset, so we took him back to the hospital, and they re-checked him, but again, they couldn’t find anything really wrong, and so they said we just had to wait for the Augmentin to kick in. We got some Vicks to rub on his chest, which seemed to help him have a better night’s sleep.

The 23rd was another bad day, but over the 24th and 25th his chest started to clear as the antibiotics kicked in, and so he went back to school on the 26th. They were obviously glad to see him, but they said that as he’s missed so much time over the past term  he’d need to start from scratch with settling into the nursery, as it was as if he was starting this term, not back last September, and he’s still struggling to adjust to it all.

Then on 28th he had to stay off school again because he had some diarrhoea, which turned into constipation later in the day. That plagued him for another couple of days, until we gave him a dose of Lactulose on the 31st, which helped a lot. His cough turned chesty again on 1st February, but it improved again through the day on the 2nd, and he went to school on the 3rd and 4th, but he found school quite stressful, partly because he didn’t sleep well all week, waking very early in the morning and not being able to go back to sleep. We also received the final copy of his Statement on 4th February, so it’s now official and legal that he needs full time support at school.

He went to school on the 5th, but then woke up the following morning crying in pain from a very sore throat and he had a temperature, but luckily, he had CF Clinic that afternoon. When he was weighed, he’d lost 0.3 kgs, taking him down to 19.5 kgs, which meant that he’s now on the 60th centile for his BMI. He was on the 86th centile in December, so that’s quite a big drop, but still over the 50th, which is the acceptable centile for CFers. However, he only managed a lung function of 80%. His consultant said that it looks as if he’s been bombarded with bugs lately, and that hopefully when he recovers from them all, his weight and his lung function will go up.

That night, his sore throat turned into a monster cold, and he’s had a really tough time with it, and has missed a whole week of school with it. He barely ate a thing all day Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, or Wednesday, and you could see the weight dropping off him. He ate some cereal on Thursday, and had a good lunch on Friday, and even yesterday, Saturday, he didn’t eat very well. The cold totally knocked him out, but he’s finally starting to get over it now, and his nose has mostly dried up, but he’s still getting his energy back, and he’s definitely lost more weight. Fingers crossed for a healthy, happy half term!

Thank you to Claire McCartney, Helen Brierley, Sue & Ethan B, Julie B, Rachel Wheeler, Kate Dee, June Junko, Viks, Jessica, and Anne Gairn for all the lovely cards. Thank you to Jenn for the note card. Thank you to whoever sent the card and reindeer food. Thank you to Courtenay for the Pirates of the Caribbean Will Turner. Thank you to Helen T for the Thomas fuzzy felts, Night Garden stickers, the play doh cutters, the play doh pizza party set, the 15 pots of play doh and the Mickey Mouse DVD!  Thank you to Katie for the Thomas activity pack, the Rheneas book, the plane money box, the Thomas magnets, the giraffe and the chocolate Santa! Thank you to Vikki for the duck hooter and the cuddly reindeer. Thank you to Becky Paulinyi for the Lion King book. Thank you to Joseph, Jasmine and Sam for the four finger puppets. Thank you to Hilary and Muffin for the Star Wars hoversphere and the Cars poster art set. Thank you to Claire McCartney for the flannel. Thank you to Julie B for the Wonderful Farm Pig, and for the Mickey Mouse stickers. Thank you to Post Pals for the rainbow mobile, the elephant wristband, the stickers, cow, Tigger wash mitt, and balloon. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the colour changing ducks. Thank you to Anne Gairn for the pencils and the cars. Thank you to Julie B for the Charlie & Lola book. Thank you to Jessica Allan for the Mickey Mouse rubbers.

Update 22nd December 2008

Dylan has had a very rough month. After his vomiting bug on 16th November, he had three days off school and looked absolutely terrible. His appetite was affected and he was very lethargic.

On 18th November, the educational psychologist phoned me to discuss Dylan and said that he has ‘significant learning disabilities’. This was when we first seriously considered that Dylan might need to go to the local special needs school when he is able to at 7 years old, rather than staying in mainstream school. Dylan went back to school on 20th Nov, I asked both his teacher and his speech therapist what they thought, and they both said that it is a definite possibility.

Since his special needs pushchair arrived in mid-November, I have pushed him back and forth to school in it at least twice a day, sometimes three times a day, and it has been an absolute lifesaver. He just doesn’t have the energy to cope with all the walking, and also, from the autistic point of view, he finds walking very stressful, especially at the end of the day, and has found things much easier with the pushchair.

On Friday 21st Nov, the cough which had been troubling Dylan for a couple of days suddenly turned very nasty and croupy, and so we kept a close eye on him over that weekend. Sunday afternoon, his cough got a lot worse, so I ended up taking him to the hospital to get his chest checked out. His obs were okay, but when the Dr listened to his chest, she could hear crackles and wheeze, so she started him on a two week course of Augmentin, and put him on 4 puffs of Ventolin 4 times a day. So he’d only been back at school for two days before he was off sick again for all of the following week with his chest infection and his autistic symptoms went through the roof, he wasn’t coping at all.  His appetite has been up and down, and he’s looked so pale and washed out and tired.

Dylan was reviewed again on 27th November at the hospital, and a new Dr said that his chest was now clear, and so he could stop the extra inhalers and keep on the oral Augmentin until CF Clinic on 5th December. So we did that, and his chest went straight downhill the same day. As soon as the inhalers were stopped, his cough came back full force and he had some awful coughing fits that night. So the following day, the CF Nurse came to see him and got him a 3 day course of oral steroids, which he started on the Saturday morning.

Dylan was off school again on Monday 1st December, but that afternoon, his steroids finally kicked in and he had a good few days with his chest. He finally went back to school on 2nd December.

The 5th December was CF Clinic. Dylan is now 19.7 kgs and 107.7 cms, and his oxygen level was 97%, and he had a go at the lung function test, but only managed to blow 75% of what the machine predicted he should have been able to for his age, height and weight. Then he was examined by the Dr and although his bowels and liver felt fine, he was breathing rather fast, and his chest was crackly again when the Dr listened in. So as he’d already had 12 days of Augmentin oral antibiotics, three days of steroids, AND extra Ventolin inhalers, the Dr decided it was time to bring in the big guns and put him on IVs. So it was agreed that Dylan will start IV’s on 9th December.

Dylan had a really bad day with his autism on 6th December, and on 8th December I tried to prepare him for starting his IVs by showing him some photos of him on IVs in the past, which he seemed to take a bit of notice of. On 9th December, we went to the hospital to get Dylan’s needle fitted in his portacath and have the first dose of his IVs on the ward. He coped quite well with having the needle fitted, but wasn’t happy about it staying in his chest for longer than the couple of minutes it would normally stay in for a port flush! He was VERY tired that afternoon and had a long nap on the settee, and then that night, he pulled his port needle out, so we had to go back to the hospital and get another one fitted.

Wednesday was a tough day. It was the Christmas Craft Afternoon at school and at first Dylan seemed to be coping well and enjoying himself, but soon he was unable to cope and got very distressed, so I had to take him home early. His teacher told me that his behaviour that day wasn’t just limited to the craft session, apparently they have that same problem with him from around 2.30pm every day, and they just can’t do anything with him from that point on.

So when we got home, I rang the speech therapist for some advice, and she said that Christmas is a difficult time for autistic children in general, because of all the changes to routine, but that it is clear that Dylan isn’t coping with school very well, which is being worsened by him suddenly starting IVs on the Tuesday. Her advice was to keep Dylan off to rest him for the rest of the week, to give him time to get used to the IVs, and to speak to his teacher about reducing his hours at nursery, because he clearly starts flagging at 2.30 pm and if he’s not able to cope with being there after that, then there’s no point in him being there, because he won’t learn anything.

So he had the rest of the week off school, and then on 13th December he had another unplanned trip to the hospital, after pulling his port needle out again and getting it stuck in his chest.

On 17th December, Dylan had his continence assessment to see if we can get free nappies for him. We worked out that we’d need 6 pull ups a day and 3 nappies at night, which made 63 nappies/pull ups a week, or 252 a month. Wow! There was quite a long form to fill in, listing all his conditions, and all his medications, all his developmental delays and learning disabilities, and his continence history. The health visitor seemed quite hopeful that we’d qualify for the free nappies, but that we are very unlikely to hear anything until after Christmas now. Fingers crossed that we will get them, as it would save us a fortune.

At the moment, Dylan is due to finish his IVs on 23rd December and hopefully he will be well enough to do so.

Thank you this month to Jessica B, Jenn, Kate Dee, Maria & Michael, Despina, the Homberg family, Tracy (Bristol), Helen T, Martin, Jackie & Jamie, Sarah Gilligan, Julie B, Ria & Chris, Vikki and Courtenay P for the cards. Thank you to Karen (Sami) and Jenn for the postcards. Thank you to Julie B for the ‘grab a gift game. Thank you to Vikki, Courtenay P and Helen T for the parcels, they are now sitting under the tree waiting for Christmas Day!

Update 16th November 2008

At the end of September we ran into a few teething problems with Dylan’s new school nursery.  Although they are used to children with autism, they have no experience of children with CF, so it’s been a bit of a learning curve for them, but things have settled down since.

He had CF Clinic on 3rd October and Dylan had gone up to 18.7 kgs and 107 cms, which is the 72nd centile!! He was seen by the consultant and he was pleased to hear that Dylan had gone 10 months without IV antibiotics. He said that if he gets through until the spring without needing any more IVs, then he could start reducing his treatments, maybe by cutting out the Colomycin nebs and just having the TOBI nebs, 28 days on, 28 days off, and of course, the DNAse nebs. He was quite concerned about the wet cough Dylan had had for the previous month though, even though all his swabs had been clear. He said that as he’s only on Azithromycin three times a week as his oral antibiotic, he needed to have two weeks of Augmentin to see if it clears the cough. Apart from that, he was really pleased with him.

In October I had to fill in Dylan’s Statement of Educational Need forms, which wasn’t a nice experience, focusing on his negative points and his delays.

However, he was REALLY good for his flu jab! He pulled up the sleeve of his t-shirt and gave the nurse his arm with a huge smile on his face! And he didn’t even flinch when she jabbed him! What a brave boy! And then that night he ate spaghetti in tomato sauce for the first time and really enjoyed it! This was a huge milestone for him, as it’s a wet, sloppy food, which he’s always avoided before, because of his autistic symptoms.

He also had his appointment to discuss the medical side of his Statementing process. After the appointment I took the kids to McDonalds for lunch and when we’d sat down with our meals I went to get Dylan’s puree ready for his Creon and realised that I’d forgotten to ask for an empty cup and spoon to mix it with. So I decided I’d try Dylan on swallowing the Creon capsules again. We tried him a little while ago, but he just chewed it up, pulled a face, and spat it out, so I wasn’t expecting him to do any different this time, but I gave him the tablet and pantomimed putting it in my mouth and swallowing it. Well, he put it in his mouth and did it and then he did it three more times! Yay!

His psychologist also saw him at school and assessed him. She said that he had made some ‘okay’ progress, but I got the feeling she had been expecting to have seen more progress over the past year than she did.

On 12th November, I had a meeting with his school teacher to go through the educational side of his Statementing application and she had some more not very nice news for us. Dylan is only able to cope with a curriculum suitable for 22 to 36 month old children, making him between 14 and 28 months delayed now. This means that he’s so far not managing to catch up with his peers at all and that the gap between where he is and where he should be is widening.

Today, Dylan woke up at 5am vomiting. He proceeded to vomit every 20 minutes for the next five hours and then managed to sleep. He has stayed in his room all day, apart from having a bath, and he hasn’t eaten all day, but has drunk some juice. His temperature has been up to 38.8 C, so we’ve been keeping him dosed up on Calpol and Nurofen. Hopefully he will be feeling better tomorrow, but tonight he still looked very pale and drawn, and he definitely won’t be going to school in the morning.

Thank you to Kim, Jenn, Julie B, Linda B, Maria & Michael Carney, Karen (Sami) and Helen Brierley for the cards! Thank you to Jenn and Julie B for the postcards. Thank you to Julie B for the letter, the pencil and the Dracula model. Thank you to Karen (Sami) for the bat whistle, skull straw, skeleton, spider, pencil, rubber and lolly. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the wind up crocodile. Thank you to Post Pals for the cuddly elephant, the echo mike, the pop up clown, the car and the wooden train set.

Update 28th September 2008

Dylan hasn’t had a bad couple of months. From 16th to 23rd August we went to West Wales for a week’s holiday in a cottage, paid for by the CF Holiday Fund. Both children had a great time.

Dylan has had another assessment with the speech therapist she was very pleased with him as he has made good progress, but obviously, still has a long way to go.

Dylan went to the local children’s hospice for two nights respite care and had a fabulous time.

On 2nd September it was Dylan’s 4th birthday and he had a lovely day! On 3rd September Dylan started school nursery and is so far doing well. He has missed a lot of sessions due to Seren’s illness, due to a rash he developed after his MMR booster jab, and due to a cold he is still getting over, but he is settling in well.

He had CF Clinic on 3rd September and his consultant was very pleased with him, as his weight has now gone up to 18 kgs, putting him on the 52nd centile for his BMI and his examinations were good.
As I mentioned, he is still getting over a cold he caught from Seren at the beginning of this week, as it’s really playing his asthma up, but he’s had two cough swabs and they’ve both come back clear, so we’re hoping it’s just asthma and we’re increasing his inhalers. He has CF Clinic again on Friday, so we’ll see what the doctors think then.

Thank you to Julie B, Helen Brierley, Sheila, Zenith, Kate Dee, Linda B, Maria & Michael Carney, St Matthews Sunday School, Jenny Orpwood, Fiona from Dorset, June Junko, Karen (Sami), Jenn, Claire McCartney, Jane, Marge, Margret Nagy, Cathe Garnett,  for all the lovely cards! Thank you to Helen Brierley for the Teletubbies tape, the Postman Pat & Jess postcard and the BUGS book! Thank you to Fiona from Dorset for the chocolate bar. Thank you to Karen (Sami) for the stickers, pirate telescope and parrot finger puppet. Thank you to Jenn for the 2 notecards and the Postman Pat cake mix. Thank you to William M & family for the Thomas movie camera. Thank you to Julie B for the book, Postman Pat play office and postcard. Thank you to whoever sent the Playdoh. Thank you to Clair Fraser for the purple gorilla, the Thomas play set, the Push n Go Thomas, the Ninky Nonk train, and the pull back Thomas, James and Percy. Thank you to Marge for the ‘Bless You’ token.  And lastly, thank you to Claire McCartney for the card for myself and Adrian.

Update 7th August 2008

Dylan had his CF Annual Review. The results were very positive, with a 2 kg weight gain in the past year, and 4 cms height gain. His asthma is reasonably well-controlled, and he’s only had 1 course of IVs in a year, and only 3 days in hospital. His bowels are generally good, and his oxygen saturations were good. He had bilateral equal air entry into the lungs, no crackles, no rhonchi, no enlarged liver or spleen, no growths on cough swab, and his x-ray showed normal looking heart and lungs. It was also noted that his communication has improved.

Dylan has a stay at the hospice coming up at the end of August. He gets back to us just in time for his birthday on the 2nd September! I can’t believe he’s going to be FOUR! And then he starts school nursery the day after! He’s getting to be a big boy now!

Thank you to Helen Brierley, Hedayat, Hayley Thorn, Jenn, Rachel Cridge, Kate, Karen (Sami) and Kate Dee for all the lovely cards! Thank you to Sarah, Hope, Ellie and William for the card and the stickers. Thank you to Jenn for the postcard. Thank you to Rachel Cridge for the stickers. Thank you to Kate Dee for the 10 pots of Play Doh! Thank you to Julie for the letter and for the Kung Fu Panda mask, and for the picture. Thank you to Hilary and Muffin for the letter and finger puppets. Thank you to Jenn for the note.

Update 7th July 2008

Dylan has had an up and down month. He had a bad couple of weeks with his asthma in June, possibly due to higher pollen counts, or to do with the painting being done in the house, but he got over that eventually and his swabs were clear.

On 1st July, Dylan started with a cold, with yellow gunk coming down his nose and since then he’s not quite been himself. He had a couple of days off nursery while he was still snotty and although his nose has now dried up, his cough is getting slowly worse and he’s started coughing in the night, so we’re keeping a close eye on him, as the cough is getting gradually thicker. Since he’s been unwell, he’s also been quite a poor sleeper, not wanting to be left in his room at night, lots of tears and screaming, and then waking up crying in the night too. Hopefully when he shifts this bug he’ll sleep better again.
He’s got his CF Annual Review coming up on Tuesday, which will be a long day as it involves a lot of tests.

Thank you to Hayley, Despina and Post Pals for the postcards! Thank you to Karen (Sami), Helen Brierley and Jenn for the cards! Thank you to Hilary & Muffin for the letter and the stickers! Thank you to Fiona Wilson for the Roary book!

Update 10th June 2008

Dylan’s had a very busy month with appointments and his asthma hasn’t been great.  On 9th May, he had a trip to the dentists to ask about his teeth grinding. The dentist said that although he is definitely grinding his teeth and there is damage there, it’s not too serious at the moment and he can afford to wait for a while until these teeth fall out and his new stronger second teeth come in. If he’s still grinding them then, we’ll have to think about doing something about it.

Then on 22nd May, Dylan had his developmental delays re-assessment at the local hospital. The Doctor thinks he DEFINITELY needs statementing for school and she has doubled his dose of sleeping tablets, because he’s not been sleeping properly lately. He has been waking up a lot in the night, multiple times per night, almost every night, which is killing us and so hopefully the bigger dose will help. She was also concerned to hear about the problems he’d been having with being very clumsy all the time. He can fall over six times in a 7 minute walk!  He doesn’t seem to fall over anything, just over his own feet, and he is ALWAYS doing it. He is also terrible for walking into objects and people. I forever have to guide him out of people’s way, as he’ll just try to walk through them. So far we’ve been putting this down to his autism, but the Doctor was concerned that it could be Dyspraxia. The Advisory Teacher was saying we’d have to watch out for the possibility of this during his Autism assessment back in January, as she’d noticed a few symptoms, but now the Doctor has concerns too.

Then on 23rd May, Dylan spent two nights at the children’s hospice for his respite care, which he really enjoyed.

He wasn’t too well for part of half term with a bad cold, but he improved by the end of the week.

Since he started his double dose of Melatonin, his sleeping, his mood, attention span and WALKING has improved! He hasn’t fallen over more than twice in total while walking since!

Toilet training isn’t going so well anymore now though. For about 5 weeks he did really well, but after Week 5, everything suddenly stopped. The tutor on the EarlyBird autism course suggested altering the rewards, to spur him on again, but it didn’t work. So I left it for a few weeks, and then started looking for fresh ideas and my mother in law suggested trying him with a potty. So on 2nd June, we started trying him on that, and for a few days, he did start to come round to the idea, but then he went straight back off it, and since then he’s not wanted to use the toilet OR the potty. It might be that he’s simply not ready yet, as mentally he’s only between 2 yrs and 2 1/2 yrs, so maybe he needs to develop a bit more before he’s ready to cope with it.

On the 6th June Dylan had CF Clinic. He’s grown to 104.7 cm, which is halfway between the 75th and 91st centile. He’s still 17.6 kgs, which is just over the 75th centile. That puts him on the 61st centile for his BMI, which is absolutely incredible!  They did his lung function and Dylan’s FVC was 103.5%, and his FEV 1 was 72.0 %. Great results! And his SATS were 99% too!

The consultant was a bit surprised that Dylan is still needing high dose Seretide twice a day, Atrovent twice a day, Montelukast tablet once a day, AND sometimes still needs a lot of Ventolin to control his asthma, but we’ve been telling him over and over since last July (when the kids saw the CF specialist) that we can’t get him off the Atrovent without his health declining. He was also surprised that Dylan is now on 6 mg of Melatonin at night. A dose of 6 mg per night is double the normal dose for a child under 5, but it’s clearly what Dylan needs and the consultant was reassured in the end.

Thank you to Helen Brierley, Kate Dee, Jenn, Post Pals, Karen (Sami) and Helen T for the lovely cards! Thank you to Fiona for the letter. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the Bob the Builder and Postman Pat tapes. Thank you to Helen T for the Night Garden magazine and Thomas magazine! Thank you to Vicky for the Rainbow mobile. Thank you to Kim Ginger for the Richard Scarry book and the 3D viewer Disney card!

Update 7th May 2008

Dylan’s had an up and down month. He was still having a bad time with his asthma and he missed some time at nursery because of all the coughing and wheezing.

On 24th April, he had his last video taken for the autism course and it went really well. He, Seren and I, played a turn-taking game for the camera and he coped really well with it all and really enjoyed it.

On the 28th his asthma was bad again and he had another bad night, so he missed pre-school on the Monday, but he was well enough to go back on the Tuesday.

Since the beginning of May, Dylan’s been really struggling with his autism. He’s been very isolated and ‘cut off’ a lot of the time and has behaved really poorly, with a lot of repetitive speech and repetitive behaviour and his sleeping pattern has been really disrupted. He’s also finding it very difficult to stay calm or settle anywhere and today he has been a bit violent at times.

Thank you to Helen Brierley, Rachel and Poppy the snail, Jenn, Kate Dee, Fiona, and Helen T for the lovely cards! Thank you to Clare Bray for the dog binoculars! Thank you to Helen T for the Thomas walkie talkies, drum and whistle! Thank you to Fiona for the pop up book.

Update 12th April 2008

Dylan’s had quite a good month! We had the CF Specialist from Cambridge appointment at Norwich on 10th March and he was very pleased with Dylan! Dylan had put on another 1/2 a kg, taking him up to 17 kgs, which puts him at the 64th centile on the BMI chart! That is the first time he’s been a healthy weight (over the 50th centile) in about TWO YEARS! And it is really reflected in his health too!

His SATS (oxygen levels in his blood) were fine and then he had a go at the lung function machine. It was only his second attempt, but he scored 85%!! The consultant was really happy with Dylan, especially with his fabulous weight gain, and he said that it’s clear that treating his asthma so much more aggressively has made a huge improvement in all areas of his health. He even stopped his oral Flucloxacillin which just leaves him on two antibiotics every day, bringing his total number of medicines down to 17 instead of 18 a day.

Then I had the EarlyBird course the next day and I found it really informative, the most informative session yet. Our homework for that week was to practise a ‘three way attention communication game’, so I decided to get two birds with one stone and do a book with him.

The tutor said that we needed to find a book which bridged the gap between pointing out pictures and listening to a story, such as a song or rhyme book. So I got him ‘Songs and Rhymes from In the Night Garden’. He absolutely loved it! We got into quite a routine about it, and he sat on my lap and we read the book together, with him holding his palm out so that I can tickle it at one point and finishing off sentences when I wait for his responses and then at the end, he has to tell some of the characters to go to bed and then kiss Iggle Piggle goodnight on the last page. He loved it so much that it has become a regular part of our routine, and it’s a real quality time for me and Dylan together.

He really is like a different child since we started this autism course and his progress is incredible.

Dylan’s chest has been playing him up a bit in the past few weeks though. He started with a cough and a bit of a cold over Easter. Then last Wednesday, I picked him up from nursery and he had a REALLY bad afternoon with his asthma, the worst he’s ever had. I was giving him 5 puffs of Ventolin every 30-60 minutes from 1 pm to 7 pm and it wasn’t helping at all, so we took him to the children’s ward to be checked over. He coughed all the way there in the car, and then in the hospital car park, he coughed himself sick, bringing up some thick sputum and some brown gunk, but he was much better after that. By the time the Dr checked his lungs, he was still wheezing a bit, but nowhere near as badly, and his oxygen levels were a little low for him, but still within normal ranges so she was happy for him to go home. So we’re keeping up with the inhalers and waiting for the fungal results, which should be back on Monday.

Thank you to Julie B, Kate Dee, Jenn, Michael & Maria, Erin F’s grandparents, Post Pals, Karen (Sami) and Helen Brierley for all the lovely cards! Thank you to Helen F, Kate Dee, Anne Gairn, Helen Brierley and Chloe G for the lovely postcards! Thank you to Anne Gairn for the Postman Pat and Jess figures. Thank you to K.Winch for the car rubber, pencil and blue snake.  Thank you to Julie B for the wind up duck. Thank you to Helen Brierley for the bear stickers! Thank you to Anne Gairn for the Thomas stickers and sticker album! Thank you to Kate Dee for the Sir Handel train and the Bill & Ben and Mighty Mac books!

Update 5th March 2008

Dylan has had an okay month. We had to miss the dentist, but we’ll be going soon. He had CF Clinic on the 1st February and he’d put on 1/2 a kg, which was great, and his SATS were 99%. He had his first go at the lung function machine and did a great first try, which was fab! He had a slight cough, but as his cough swab was clear, they weren’t too worried about it.

Then on the 9th February, we went to stay with my parents for the week in South Wales, and while we were there Dylan’s cough got a lot worse and he was quite tight chested with it, so we had to give him tons of inhalers and we took him to a local GP. The GP said that his tonsils were fine, as was his chest, but that he had an awful lot of glands up in his neck. He took another swab, but that was also clear for bacteria and fungus, so we had to presume that it was asthma related. So we increased his inhalers for a while, which eventually cleared it up after we got back to Suffolk again.

Then on the 18th Dylan had his ENT appointment at Norwich. He was really well behaved all day, which was fabulous, and the Dr was lovely with him. He said that he doesn’t have a polyp, that it’s a growth of normal nasal tissue, so doesn’t need removing. He was concerned about how much tonsillitis he had last year and said that if he’s still having a lot of tonsillitis by next June, that he’d definitely take his tonsils out. But fingers crossed, we’ve reached March now and he’s not had tonsillitis yet in 2008, so I’m really hoping that he’s outgrown it.

And then on the 25th, Dylan started toilet training! He had started taking an interest in the other children using the toilet at nursery and so we got him some pull ups so that he could have a go and he’s now in pull ups full time and using the toilet between 2 and 6 times a day! I think it’s going to be a long road, getting him trained, because of his developmental delays, and he’s still having wet pull ups, and it’s going to take time, but he’s taken a huge step in the right direction.

Next week, Dylan and Seren have their appointment with the CF Specialist from Cambridge at Norwich, so that will be interesting. Apart from that, I’m continuing with the EarlyBird autism course and we’re hoping to go and visit my family in Wales again at Easter, as my Dad has just been diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma. This means I’m dashing back and forth to Wales all the time, which has been very unsettling for Dylan, and has caused some more autistic behaviour than normal as he tries to cope with the changes.

Thank you to Post Pals, Jenn, Kate Dee, Anne Gairn, Colette Morgan, Jeanana/Jewana, Colette, Michelle, and Anna for all the lovely cards! Thank you to Okka, Helen F and Kate Dee for the postcards! Thank you to Jade and Phil for the letters! Thank you to Kate Dee for the Diesel train and the Thomas number chart. Thank you to Anne Gairn for the Nursery Rhymes CD. Thank you to Colette Morgan for the 2 finger puppets and 2 little figures. Thank you to Jade for the Charlie and Lola table mat and coaster! Thank you to Anna for the drawings of Thomas, Annie & Clarabel.

Update 30th January 2008

Dylan’s health has been quite good this month, with no extra antibiotics or bad patches of illness. His last IV’s seem to have done a lot of good for him. He has had some problems with his asthma, but nothing too serious.

He went for a 3 night stay at the hospice from 10th – 13th January, which he really enjoyed.  Then from 14th – 24th January, Dylan had his Multi-Disciplinary Assessment at the Children’s Centre. He was assessed by the community paediatrician, the speech therapist, the psychologist, the advisory teacher for children with special educational needs, the physiotherapist and the staff at the assessment nursery, and they were all in absolute agreement by the end of the two weeks, Dylan is definitely autistic.

Although we were expecting it, it has still come as quite a blow, and we are still getting our heads around it all. I started the National Autistic Society EarlyBird course today, which should hopefully go a long way towards helping him with the condition. At the moment though, all the new research and learning we have to do about Autism is looking like Mount Everest. I have no idea how I’m going to keep up my high standard of CF care on both Dylan and his sister Seren, whilst doing my absolute best for his Autism, as CF already feels like a full time job and I know from what I’ve read that you can make a full time job out of Autism too.

We have a busy time coming up again now, as Dylan has his first trip to the dentists on Thursday and I really want to get his teeth checked this time, as I think he’s been grinding the top of his two bottom front teeth and worn the tips away. Then on Friday he has CF Clinic, then next month Dylan has his ENT appointment at Norwich, which finally came through today.

Thank you to Kate Dee for the sea life themed card, he said “Fish!” when he opened it! Thank you to Julie Barrett for the card as well and for the fab Lunar Jim finger puppets, we’re using them to encourage his pretend play!

Update 4th January 2008

As I said in the last update, Dylan was on IV’s all over Christmas, which was a bit miserable, but he coped very well with it all. His chest gradually improved, and by Christmas Day he was feeling a lot better, so at least he was able to enjoy the day.

He has a very busy month coming up, as he has to see the CF Specialist at Norwich on 14th January, and then from 15th to 24th January he has his Multi-Disciplinary Assessment to give us a diagnosis on whether or not he is autistic. He is also STILL waiting for a referral to ENT. When we see the specialist in a week and a half, he’ll be able to tell us whether Dylan will need a gastrostomy in the near future, which we are very nervous about.

Thank you to Despina, Kate W, Edie, Lynne, Maria Carney, Helen T, Post Pals team, Julie Sue and Alan Barrett, Becki, Kate Dee, Laura H, and Jenn for their lovely cards. Thank you to Deborah Bright for the letter, origami and toys. Huge thank you’s to Kate W, Helen T and an anonymous Elf for being Dylan’s Elves. Also to Maria Carney, Julie Barrett, Charlie & Chloe G and family for the presents they sent, he loved them all, and to Emma Hoole for the reindeer food!

Update 16th December 2007

Dylan came out in chickenpox on 8th December and he’s been quite poorly with it, hardly drinking and very sleepy. He’s also still fighting the Aspergillus in his lungs and he’s been on the Itraconazole for 9 days now. Then yesterday (Friday 14th Dec) his consultant decided that because his chest is so awful and he hasn’t had any IV antibiotics since May, his horrible cough might be caused by a bacterial infection which hasn’t been picked up. So he has put him on two weeks of IV Ceftazidime and Gentamicin. The Gent is once a day and the Ceftaz is three times a day and he’ll be on them all over Christmas, until the 28th December. So we’re a bit gutted that everything has gone haywire just before Christmas, but hopefully the IVs will have kicked in by Christmas Day and then he should be feeling a lot better than he is now. He’s having such a rough time lately.

Update 8th December 2007

Dylan has had another rough month. They seem to be the only ones he’s capable of having lately. On 8th November he was very poorly with a double ear infection and severe tonsillitis again, all of which drove his asthma haywire. He got over that, but was left with quite a cough, so we had another cough swab done.

Last Thursday we had the phone call to say that his swab had grown Aspergillus, a fungus which plagued him back in August and made him very poorly. So he has just started treatment for that, but his cough is really disgusting. On Monday, he coughed so hard that a load of brown gunk (the fungus) came down his nostrils.

This Thursday he was assessed at nursery by the Advisory Teacher for Children With Special Needs and she said that for her, he ticks all the boxes for an Autistic Spectrum Disorder, but we have to wait for the official 2 week long assessment at the Child Development Centre in the spring for a formal diagnosis. She was concerned that he hardly spoke at all at nursery and his social development is clearly much delayed. He is also very into routines and patterns, but struggles to understand abstract concepts, or WHY he has to do things. Her main reason for the assessment was to get to know him and to decide when we would have to get the ball rolling for a Statement of Educational Need. She feels that all his needs are being met at the moment with his Individual Education Plan, his Play Plan and his Care Plan, so if we agree, she doesn’t feel that we will need to start organising a Statement until January 2009, ready for him starting full time school in September 2009.

Then yesterday, Dylan had CF Clinic. The consultant examined his ears first and said that they still looked dull, so clearly there is some fluid in there which isn’t draining away, possibly caused by the many polyps the consultant saw up his right nostril. His nose is also still very inflamed, so the Nasonex spray hasn’t done anything for him at all and he’s having regular nose bleeds now.

The consultant wants him to stay on the Itraconazole for the Aspergillus chest infection for 14 days and he said that it’s possible that Aspergillus is going to become a problem for him the future. If it does, he may have to have either oral or nebulised anti-fungal treatments long term, but as he’s already on 16 medications a day, (17 including the Itraconazole), two of which are nebulised, it would be tough for him to have another new treatment on top.

We asked why he seems so vulnerable to bugs and fungi and we were told that his lungs have clearly been damaged with all the many infections he’s had in his life and that they just can’t shift the bugs anymore. His cilia hairs which line his lungs and should move bacteria out of the lungs clearly aren’t able to function. So this was hard to listen to.

We also spoke to the dietician, who worked out his BMI as being on the 32nd centile, which is way below the CF Trust’s target of 50th centile for all CFers. So he has kept him on the Paediasure drinks and given us some samples of new things to try – ProCalShot, Calogen, and Enlive Plus. At the moment, we’ve tried the ProCalShot, and he is taking that fine.

The Fantasy Charity Fund and the Family Fund paid for us to go to Disneyland Paris last week for 3 days and it was a really amazing experience. Dylan was incredibly tired and very unsettled there, not sleeping properly, and hardly eating or drinking at all, but he enjoyed meeting all the characters and giving them a cuddle and he seemed to enjoy some of the rides.

We are now looking forward to Christmas and looking forward to having some family time together.

Thank you very much to Julie Barrett, Rachel Laws, Despina, Kate W, Edie, Lynne, Maria Carney and Helen Turner for their lovely cards. Thank you very much to Julie Barrett for the DVDs for Dylan and the Fifi purse for Seren. Thank you also to Rachel Laws for the crayons and colouring book for Dylan, he really loved it! And thank you very much to Dylan’s Elf Kate W, and to Maria Carney and to Helen Turner for Dylan’s fabulous Christmas presents! They are all sat under the tree ready for Christmas morning!

Update 31st October 2007

Dylan has had another rollercoaster month. He was quite well at the beginning of October, and then we had a FABULOUS surprise on 6th October when we were offered a trip to Disneyland Paris!  Dylan was chosen by his hospice to receive the gift, and we are SO grateful, and we just can’t wait to go at the end of November.

Dylan had caught a cold and tonsillitis in mid-October, and a couple of days later he was still poorly and it had gone onto his chest as well, so we took him to the hospital on the Sunday (14th) and the registrar put him on 5 puffs of Ventolin every 3 hours (in addition to his Seretide, Atrovent and Montelukast), a 3 day course of steroids, and a 2 week course of strong oral antibiotics (in addition to the 3 he already has every day). It took quite a while for him to improve, well over a week, and he struggled with a very nasty chest, but eventually the antibiotics did their job and his chest improved.

We have had more information about a gastrostomy from the dietician, which was very helpful, but his local CF teams have said that they don’t want to make the decision whether to put a gastrostomy in or not, they want to wait until Dylan is seen again by the specialist from Cambridge in January.  The dietician told us that Dylan’s energy consumption was down to 50% of what it should be and that some of his nutrient intakes were right down as well and that he couldn’t go on like that, as his body wouldn’t have any resources to repair itself or fight infection.

He’s since been drinking Paediasure drinks very well, at least 2 cartons a day, so at least his nutrition has improved even if his eating hasn’t, but he so far hasn’t put any weight on since July.

He had his feeding study done last week and that showed that he definitely has feeding problems, such as he is a very picky eater and very choosy about what he will eat off his plate, and he gets full far too quickly and once he’s decided he’s finished, he can’t be convinced to eat any more.

He finally had his flu jab two weeks late, after being unable to have it initially due to his tonsillitis, but I’m glad that’s out of the way now.

He also had his developmental delays re-assessment, which didn’t give us many answers, as the community paediatrician wants to wait until he has his formal intensive assessment at the children’s centre before she does much else, which might take until March or April next year.

So, at the moment, we’re just trying to get some weight on him if we can and waiting for things to progress as far as all the other aspects of Dylan are concerned. His speech is coming on nicely, he’s now joining 3 words together confidently, but he’s still very challenging and unpredictable and usually a total mystery to us.

Thank you to Kate Dee for the gorgeous Halloween card, both children loved it, especially Dylan has he is MAD on pumpkins at the moment! It’s his new word!

Update 1st October 2007

Dylan had a lovely birthday on 2nd September! He opened some of his presents in the morning, and then we went to a Lions Club function for lunch, then the Lions Club took us to see the Hippodrome Circus in Great Yarmouth. Then we took them to Brewsters for a birthday meal.

He has had a tough month with his health again, he just hasn’t stopped coughing. He’s on all the appropriate asthma treatments but they just can’t shift his cough.  He was seen at the ENT clinic and the doctor put him on Nasonex nasal spray for life, but said that there wasn’t anything he could do for his nasal polyps, and that he didn’t want to take his tonsils out while he is so underweight, because of the extra risks of blood loss. So that was disappointing, but his CF consultant isn’t happy with that assessment, and so he is going to query the consultant’s decision.

Dylan has had a terrible month with his appetite; he’s hardly eaten a thing most days, and is losing weight again. He had lost weight at his Annual Review a couple of weeks ago, and so his consultant is almost certain he’ll need a gastrostomy in the next few months, as he can’t afford to lose any more weight.

He had his Multi-Disciplinary Planning Meeting last Thursday, and the outcomes were that he is being referred for a more formal assessment for a possible diagnosis of Autism; his ENT assessment is being queried; he is to have a gastrostomy plan considered; he is to have a food study done at the end of October to see if there are any psychological/behavioural reasons for his lack of appetite; he is to be considered for a Statement of Educational Needs in December, ready for him moving up to pre-school in January.

He also had his booster dose of his pneumococcal vaccine on Friday, and he was very brave. He has his Flu jab coming up on the 10th October and an appointment with his dietician, and his Developmental Delays re-assessment on 25th October, then his food study on the 26th.

Thank you to Helen T for the lovely card and stickers, the lovely lady who sent the card and Teletubby, and the birthday present of luminous stars and a snake (which he loved) which he received last month but opened on his birthday.

Update 31st August 2007

Dylan has had a very rough month. He stuck a piece of plastic up his nose on Sunday 5th August and we couldn’t get it out, so we took him to the local A&E, and after some very traumatic tries, they couldn‚Äòt get it out either, so they sent us to Norwich hospital, where they tried again, and Dylan was hysterical. They tried hooking the plastic out, tweezing the plastic out and suctioning the plastic out and they made his nose bleed really badly, but they still couldn’t get it out. So we had to go all the way back home.

That Tuesday, the 7th August, he had to have a general anaesthetic at the local hospital to remove the plastic. He found the experience incredibly traumatic, as because of his developmental delays, he couldn’t understand what was going on, and he HATED the name bands. He REALLY fought against the anaesthetic, but they eventually got him under. He was only under for a few minutes before they removed the plastic and took him into recovery, but it took 40 minutes before they could rouse him at all. He was fine afterwards and went home that evening and didn’t need any painkillers or anything.

Then during the week, his cough gradually worsened and so on the Friday I took him to the GP, as his inhalers just weren’t keeping his coughing and wheezing under control any more. I wasn’t sure if it was the effects of the anaesthetic, the Haemophilus Influenzae bug making a comeback, or his asthma getting worse to the point of needing steroids. The GP said that we should keep him on the Atrovent for another week, and if he was still wheezy in a week, or if he got worse, then she’d put him on steroids.

By Sunday he was coughing himself sick and then his temperature shot up to 38.7 c, so I took him to the ward. They told me that his cough swab taken on 1st August had grown a fungus called Aspergillus, which was causing his cough and making his asthma much worse. They also found that he had really nasty tonsillitis AGAIN. They didn’t want to give him anything for the fungus until the blood results came back though, and so they sent us home. That night his temperature went up to 39.9 C, and he was really unwell. The next few days were an absolute nightmare.

His nurse rang up on the Monday morning to see how he was and I told her about the Aspergillus and tonsillitis and she said that he should be put on anti-fungals and steroids immediately for the fungus, and antibiotics for the tonsillitis. So, his Doctor prescribed him a 10 day course of Itraconazole (anti-fungals), and an initial 10 day course of Prednisolone (steroids), and a 10 day course of Penicillin. The Itraconazole made his stomach very upset and the tonsillitis hit him hard. He didn’t eat for two days and hardly drank either.

The steroids helped a lot, but as soon as we reduced the dose to half strength after 5 days, he got worse again and so they had to extend his course to two weeks, but in the last few days he has improved a lot and now he’s hardly coughing at all.  He’s had a few nose bleeds, which I think are due to his nasal polyps, and on Tuesday night he was up all night, unable to breathe through his nose. I have made repeated phone calls to chase up his appointment, but so far we haven’t received an appointment yet. It took his consultant over a month to bother to make the referral, and then it got lost in the internal mail for 2 weeks.

It’s his 3rd birthday on Sunday and we’ve got a really nice day planned for him.

Thank you for the present Dylan has received. We’re saving it for him to open on his birthday on Sunday, so I don’t know who it’s from or what it is yet!

Update 3rd August 2007

We went to see the specialist on 9th of July, and it was a huge eye-opener. The specialist found that Dylan’s nose was really badly inflamed and congested, probably because of nasal polyps, which are common in people with CF. He said that this is probably why his ears are full of fluid, because his mucus can’t drain down his nose, so it runs into his ears. He was also concerned with all Dylan’s recent bouts of tonsillitis, so he has asked for Dylan to be referred to the local ENT clinic, possibly to have surgery to remove the polyps, grommets to drain his ears, and his tonsils out, but we’ll have to wait and see what the ENT consultant says.

He also said that he didn’t feel that Dylan’s asthma was being treated aggressively enough, so he has drawn up an asthma action plan for him. He has increased the strength of his steroid inhaler, and told us to be much more generous with his Atrovent inhaler, which is working wonders, and that if he needs oral or IV antibiotics, or if the Atrovent and Ventolin aren’t doing the trick, then to get him oral steroids straight away. He also wants him to stay on his antihistamines all year round and to have Montekulast tablets long term as well, which should help the wheezing and coughing.

He has also asked for Dylan to have bloods taken to test his immune system functioning and to find out exactly what he is allergic to, what is triggering his asthma.  He also said that if Dylan’s weight centiles don’t catch up to his height centiles over the next six months or so, then he’ll be seriously considering a gastrostomy tube, which is a scary prospect, as I don’t think he would cope very well with it. I was over the moon to find that he’d put on over a kilogram when he was weighed at that clinic, which took him back up into a healthy weight range.

Dylan’s cough swab from that clinic grew a bug called Haemophilus Influenzae, so he had two weeks of oral antibiotics for that, and he’s just had another cough swab done on Wednesday to see if he’s managed to shift that.

He had Cystic Fibrosis Clinic at the local hospital today, and he was weighed again and he’s managed to put on another 1/2 a kg, which is fabulous. He’s also had his Creon tablets increased from 3 per snack and 4 per meal to 3 1/2 per snack and 5 per meal, which will take some getting used to, as he’s been on the same dose for so long now. It will also mean that he’s on a higher dose of Creon than Seren, even though she’s 2 years older than him.

His oxygen levels were really good today, which was a relief. He has had a bit of a cough over the past few weeks, and I think it’s asthma-related, as the Atrovent totally clears it, until it wears off again by the time of the next dose.

He is now being referred to the ENT clinic, and hopefully we won’t have to wait too long, as his nose is really bothering him. He is constantly sticking his fingers up his nose to try and clear it, and sometimes cries and says ‘nose’ in a really pitiful voice. He also got his prescription today for his Montekulast tablets, which should help I hope. I can get him those tomorrow.

His Melatonin sleeping tablets are a bit hit and miss though, totally inconsistent. He can have a really good night’s sleep some nights, but all this week he’s still been awake at midnight, one night he was up until 2am! It seems he’s able to fight the medication sometimes. I could tell the difference in him today though; he was so much grumpier and far less tolerant, all because he’s not been sleeping so well. My fingers are tightly crossed that as he settles back into being home again, his sleep patterns will improve.

His speech has improved a bit recently, as has his interaction with us as a family, both his psychologist and his consultant were happy with the improvement they could see in him today at clinic, and the respiratory registrar said that today is the first time she’s EVER seen him looking well! I think that’s partly because even though I slathered him regularly in Factor 50+ sun cream, he still managed to pick up a slight tan!

So now we’re just waiting on the results of his latest cough swab to see if he’s kicked this bug, to see how the new medications work out, and to see what the ENT consultant says.

Thank you to Kate Dee for the fab postcard of a Thomas the Tank Engine character, he got it this morning and he honestly LOVED it, didn’t put it down for about twenty minutes! Also for the London postcard.

Update 7th July 2007

Dylan has had an okay month, no bugs growing on cough swabs, but he has struggled with his asthma and hay fever this month and has been coughing and wheezing lots and having to use his inhalers. His sleeping has got even worse; he has been staying awake until 2.30 am and then having to be up for nursery at 7.30 am. It has been taking its toll, so his developmental paediatrician has prescribed him some sleeping tablets called Melatonin. He started them on Wednesday and they are AMAZING. He is now on his 4th night of excellent sleep, and the difference in him is amazing.

His speech therapist and psychologist are currently battling it out as to whether he has a type of autism called Pervasive Developmental Disorder or Global Developmental Delay, and there’s no solution in sight! Hopefully things will be agreed upon at his multi-disciplinary planning meeting at the end of September.

His speech is still very poor for his age, but he’s making slow progress. He’s trying to name TV programmes at the moment, and he’s also started saying ‘bye’ a lot more.

He had a lovely two nights respite at the hospice recently, and really enjoyed himself. It was his first time using the safe bed there, and he was fine with it.

He and Seren are going to Norwich on Monday (9th July) to see Dr Isles, the CF Specialist from Cambridge. It will be the first time that either of them has seen a specialist, so we’re all nervous and interested to see what will come of it.

At the moment, Dylan has a nasty cough, and Seren is coughing a bit too, so we’re waiting for cough swab results, which should be ready on Monday.

Dylan has just had some lovely cards from Helen T, Julie B, Alan B, and a very pretty one from America with buttons on the front! His favourite was the Thomas Tank Engine one, he loved it! Seren has had some nice cards too, her favourite was the princess card from Helen T. Fiona G has sent Dylan two lovely parcels with some gorgeous magnetic Thomas the Tank Engine and Polar Express trains, and some Disney’s Cars cars. He was over the moon with them! Thank you to all.

Update 4th June 2007

Dylan has had a really rough month. His cough swab from early May came back growing Pseudomonas again and he ended up on two weeks of IV antibiotics – his 16th course in 29 months. Then just ten days after he finished the IV’s, his temperature shot up to 39.5 C, and so we took him to the hospital. They said that the glands in his neck were huge, his tonsils were huge and inflamed with pus on them, and so now he has a really nasty bout of tonsillitis.

He hasn’t gained any weight since November, despite our hardest efforts to try and fatten him up and he’s now so skinny. He’s hardly eating a thing at the moment again with this tonsillitis, but at least he’s drinking. His temperature is still up and down and he’s feeling really rubbish. His Teletubbies and Thomas DVDs are keeping him happy though. ‘Tubbies’ is his new word and he’ll try to sing parts of the songs too.

Thank you to Kat for the fabulous push along frog, Dylan LOVED it! He pushed it all around the house for AGES! Thank you to the wonderful Fiona and Helen for your parcels, they have cheered both of the children up no end! Dylan especially loves the Polar Express train and the cuddly Postman Pat!

Update 4th May 2007

Dylan did well for most of April, but about a week ago his hay fever set off his asthma and he’s had a difficult week with lots of coughing and wheezing. This has meant he has needed a lot of his inhalers. He also lost his appetite and didn’t eat for three days.

Just as he seemed to be getting over that and gradually needing his inhalers less, he then got hit by a really bad stomach bug on Tuesday night. He was up all night being sick, and was very distressed. He then slept all day on Wednesday. He has managed to avoid vomiting since, but he’s got nasty diarrhoea and he’s hardly eaten more than a mouthful of food since Tuesday night.

In the last couple of days, his chest has also started playing him up; he’s got a nasty cough and starting to get temperatures. This might be contributing to his lack of appetite, and he’s lost nearly half a kilogram in a week.

He had CF Clinic today and they’ve started him on Clarityn once a day, to try and combat the hay fever, which seems to be affecting his asthma. He’s had a cough swab done today, so we’ve now got to wait until next week to see if there is any bacterial infection lurking in his lungs.

He was re-assessed at the developmental clinic on the 26th April. He hasn’t really made any progress that they can chart, as although he is now happier to be with people, gives more eye contact and has increased his vocabulary to about 40 words, he hasn’t developed enough to improve his scores. This means his developmental delays now range from 8 to 17 months delayed. His delays are now being termed as Global Developmental Delays, and they are wondering whether he may turn out to be diagnosed with some form of autism, but he is too young to make a diagnosis yet.

He has been referred to the Pre-School Liaison Group, who are arranging a Multi-Disciplinary Assessment. This will involve him attending a special nursery for 2 weeks, and while he attends he will be assessed by various professionals. It’s not nice to know this is necessary, but it’s good that so much is being done for him to help him.

So at the moment, he’s pretty miserable and he can’t even tell us what’s wrong. He is spiking temperatures, coughing, needing inhalers, pooing a lot, refusing to eat, isn’t drinking much and is very tired.

Update 11th April 2007

Dylan has had a good month although he did have tonsillitis and an ear infection. It did make him ill initially, but even though it gave him a horrendous cough, he fought it all off himself without having to resort to IV’s and so his doctors were over the moon.

His weight is still the same as it was in November, so we’re working hard to try and get his weight up.

His speech and communication has come on a bit lately. He’s now babbling a lot more which is wonderful to hear. He’s also started to try and parrot some words back to us, which is a huge step. He has another developmental assessment at the end of April, so we’ll be awaiting the results. We know he’s still a long way behind his peers, but at least we can see he is starting to progress, however slowly.

Thank you to Kate Dee and Julie for their regular cards and the Easter cards received are absolutely lovely!

Update 2nd March 2007

Dylan is now out of hospital, and he has finished his course of IV’s, which ended up lasting for four weeks. He did improve slightly on the IV’s, and he was also given a course of steroids to help him recover. He has now got his appetite back, and his wheezing has improved, but his wet, rattly cough has never left him, although it did get more infrequent. Today, however, his cough has worsened again and so we are really hoping that he isn’t going to go back downhill again.

He has his CF Clinic appointment tomorrow, and he will be seen by his consultant then, so hopefully we will know more tomorrow. It is possible he might need more IV’s, or they might want to do another throat swab and see if they can find out what is causing the cough, or they might want to try him on some extra oral antibiotics.

Dylan, Seren, Daddy and I, are going to the children’s hospice for the weekend tomorrow, to give me and Adrian some respite from caring for Dylan. Hopefully the weekend will be enjoyable for all of us.

Thank you very much to the very kind people who sent Dylan gifts recently, his favourites were the Postman Pat DVD, the heart-shaped balloon and the board book (which he did unfortunately eat!).

Thank you to everyone who sent cards and presents for Seren as well, as she really struggled with being apart from me and Dylan so much. She is a terrible worrier, and so didn’t cope very well with the past month. The cards and presents really cheered her up and made her feel special, and for that I am very very grateful.

Update 9th February 2007

We took Dylan to see the consultant this afternoon and his oxygen levels were down to 91-93 % (they like them to be above 95%) and he certainly showed off his horrendous cough to the doctors and nurses. He is still the same weight as before, still has no appetite, etc.

The consultant talked to the specialist in Norwich and he recommended keeping Dylan on his Ceftazidime IV, but stopping his Gentamicin IV (using this one for more than 3 weeks damages the hearing/kidneys and Dylan’s now had 3 weeks of it) and switching to IV Colomycin.

The new IV has to be given 3 times a day through a drip infusion, so I can’t bring him home, as I can’t do drips at home. I can do bolus doses or syringe driver doses, but not drips. So he’s got to stay in for the whole week’s course.

He’s really feeling rough tonight, tons of coughing, coughing until he gags, and he’s quite grumpy with it as well. He had a huge tantrum at around 5 pm, kicking and hitting me (really hard, I’m still sore!) and screaming his head off hysterically, which of course triggered wheezing and lots more coughing, so I tried to give him his inhaler which made him a million times worse tantrum-wise.

He eventually calmed down and dozed on my lap for an hour or so, but was still grumpy when Daddy woke him up for his physio about 6.30 pm. From Monday they’re going to get the hospital physio’s to do Dylan’s physio morning and evening (never had that before!!), which will make things a bit easier.

Update 8th February 2007

Dylan has had a very rough month. He started coughing in mid-January and grew a bacteria called Pseudomonas on his cough swab. He started oral antibiotics for this, but 3 days later he had declined significantly, and a chest x-ray showed that 1/3 of his right lung was covered in infection. He started intravenous antibiotics for this immediately, and has now had 3 weeks of these, with hardly any effect.

He is still very unwell with a very nasty cough, no appetite, grumpy, temperatures, breathlessness and wheezing. He has had to stay in hospital for 3 nights so far during the course of his IV’s, usually for blood tests. He has been very brave and stayed in hospital all by himself.

He is going to be seen at the hospital again tomorrow, and will probably be started on yet another course of IV antibiotics, different ones to the course he’s just finishing, and may have to stay in hospital again while he’s on them.

He is struggling with being so unwell for so long, and big sister Seren is struggling too, as my friend has had to take her to school and pick her up for me, and she doesn’t like that much. She also has to accept less attention at the moment because of Dylan requiring so much more care, and although she is very good about it, because she really loves Dylan, it makes her sad.

Update 3rd January 2007

Dylan was diagnosed with developmental delays in early December. His understanding of language, his self care skills and his social development are all about 12 months delayed. His speech development is about 9 months delayed.

His health has been kind to him over the past month; he has had all his normal treatments, but hasn’t needed any IV antibiotics, which is a huge relief. He actually enjoyed Christmas Day a lot more this year as well. Last year he did nothing but cough and cry, but this year he hardly coughed at all. He got a bit overwhelmed by it all, due to his developmental delays, so there were quite a few tantrums, and he got very tired, but overall he enjoyed himself.

He has also been allocated 10 nights respite at a local children’s’ hospice, which will be a hugely positive thing for him and for us as a family, and there is also a monthly support/play group which we hope to go to.

Social Services Children With Disabilities Team are also going to give us some support, by funding two mornings a week at a local nursery for him, which I’m sure will really help him with his developmental delays.

Thank you for all the beautiful Christmas cards Dylan has received for Christmas, they have made our front room look very festive! Also, thank you to Fiona for the very sweet message. Thank you so much to the wonderfully kind people who sent Dylan presents for Christmas. He loved them all, the Postman Pat van, the stocking making kit, the Royal British Legion teddy, the Dinosaur book, the art set, the Mr Men jigsaw and the magic painting book. THANK YOU.

Update 2nd December 2006

Dylan did really well in October, but he’s had a bit of a rough month through November. He had a two week chest infection which he fought off himself, and then last Thursday he caught a virus, which aggravated his asthma, and so at the moment he’s coughing himself sick and waking a lot at night. He’s been prescribed steroids for his cough, in addition to his regular inhalers, so hopefully they will kick in soon and he will be able to enjoy the run up to Christmas. He’s due a portacath flush in the next week or so as well, so I’m sure he’ll be brave for it. He’s just been allocated some respite at a hospice in the area, so hopefully he will benefit from that as well.

Thank you very much for the Rupert DVD, the stickers and today, the Christmas paper chains, and the Teletubbies finger puppet, all of which he has loved. A general thank you to all the kind people who have sent postcards and cards, including two Christmas cards so far. They are very much appreciated, and have certainly made Dylan smile! Also, a huge thank you to those who sent things for Seren, as she has really appreciated it.

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Ella C

15 July 2011

Story written 2010

Ella was diagnosed with Congenital Nephrotic Syndrome at 8 weeks old. This is a rare genetic condition resulting in kidney failure, which meant Ella had to have both her kidneys removed and needing dialysis for 11 hours every night.

Ella has spent an awful amount of time in hospital, and due to also having a low immune system, has spent many nights in ICU, HDU, and the renal ward. She has not been away from hospital for longer than 3 weeks this year, so the hospital has defiantly become her second home. Ella’s low immune system has also meant that she hasn’t been able to mix with other children as much as she would love to.

Although Ella is a really happy sociable little girl, this year has defiantly taken its toll on her. She sometimes has little energy and can get frustrated as her body won’t do as she wants it to. She is small for her age and doesn’t look like a 3 year old and although she can’t walk she gets about bum shuffling when not connected to a machine which brings a smile to the people she passes on the ward.

Update 13th April 2016

Ella and her family are now moving on from Post Pals. We want to wish them all the best for the future. Her Mum said this:

Ella has loved receiving post, on way home from school she will always ask “has the postman been”. She will always have issues, delays and transplant is not a cure but she is doing well (dare I say it, I’m touching wood). There are so many children in hospital, I know how much it helps receiving post when inpatient and decorating the room with cards and pictures definitely helped brighten the grey walls.

Thank you so much for the past 6 years on Post Pals, it’s brought many many smiles over the years even when smiling was the last thing we wanted or were able to do.

Update 7th December 2016

Ella’s knees and back are continuing to cause her pain if she’s on her feet for too long and she has stopped trying to take steps. She took her first ever steps earlier this summer but because of her problems with her bones her legs and joints are not aligned straight and they hurt which is putting her off.

Ella continues to need between 5-7 injections a day as well as regular blood sugar checks. She is also still having epo injections to increase red blood cells, her thighs are like a pin cushion. If her bloods are good when we’re seen at the hospital then she can move to 4 weekly clinic appointments. Ella is very excited for christmas and loving all the decorations and lights

Update 23rd August 2015

Ella is still having water infections that she can’t seem to shift, but this is probably down to her low immune system and anti-rejection medicines she has to take.

Ella has been having pain in her back legs and knees, so she’s got some new special shoes and insoles to help support her feet and ankles. We hope this will help, but her feet, ankles, legs, knees and hips, are not in the correct positions, so it will always be an ongoing problem.

She’s also having to go back on epo injection again, as her heamoglobin (although better than it once was) is not where it should be. Add that to the fact she already has 4-6 injections a day for her diabetes and she’s feeling like a pin cushion, but once they’re done she’s fine.

Her hearing also seems to be getting worse, which is another side effect of the steroids, so it’s going to be checked.

After all her hair falling out, it has started to grow back. Although there’s no legnth yet, it is starting to get thicker, so she’s hoping it continues. Ella always has the horrible side effects to any meds that she has, even if small risk, and for a girl it is an especially big thing to lose your hair. She just wants princess hair and a plait like Elsa from Frozen.

Despite all this, Ella had a fab time at the transplant games in Newcastle where she won a medal and 2 in team trophies. On one race, right at end, she left her walker and walked over the finish line – she was so happy and I was a very proud and emotional mummy!

Update 24th July 2015

Ella has been well in herself although she has needed lots of trips to hospital for blood tests. This is because we’ve been struggling to shift a urine infection, so lots of new antibiotics too.

On a happier note Ella took her very first steps, at nearly 8 years old, which got her on the tv 3 times – twice with Granada reports and once on Good Morning Britain. She now tells everybody she is famous – she really loved being on tv and lapped up all the attention.

Despite the first steps being taken, this is causing problems with her legs, knees and back as they’re in funny positions. This is due to bone disease dialysis and not walking. When she does walk, this is putting pressure on her joints and back, but we’re hoping some more supportive shoes and physio will help this. Ella also needs to restart epo injections to help increase red blood cells, as hers are low so she’s a bit anaemic. It’s not good as it’s another injection and she already has insulin injections about 5-7 times a day.

Update 2nd May 2015

On 7th May it will be 1 year since Ella’s kidney transplant. It is a huge milestone for Ella and the family, so we’re having a little party for ‘sidney kidney’, as this is what Ella calls her kidney! Two days later on 9th May, Ella has been chosen to be race starter for the Morrisons Great Manchester mini/junior marathon. She’s so excited and has insisted she wants to do it with her walking frame not wheelchair.

Ella had a fab Easter – her first Easter that she could eat Easter eggs, as she couldn’t eat them before transplant due to strict renal diet. She was also in ICU at Great Ormand Street hospital last summer.

We are having issues with Ella’s anti rejection meds as her hair is falling out and there’s not much left now. If things don’t improve we may have to change meds, but a happy kidney is more important and so it will needs lots of thought. Diabetes is also still an issue, requiring lots of insulin injections every day, so it wasn’t short term as we had hoped. Ella’s had extra trips for blood tests at hospital this month due a to water infection, but luckily antibiotics sorted that out again.

Update 5th February 2015

Ella has had 2 hospital stays this month, both with very high temperatures. The first time was put down to viral infection and infection around her gastrostomy button site and the second time she had a water infection. Luckily once the antibiotics kicked in Ella was loads better and blood levels improved. We have to go back again on Monday for repeat bloods as her blood clotting level has gone too high again, so we need to adjust her warfarin medicine dose. Consequently she has been at the hospital a lot these past few months but luckily Ella likes it there.

Update 11th December 2014

Apart from the typical cough and cold, Ella has been well lately – it just takes her longer to fight bugs and illnesses as she is immune suppressed. Transplant clinic appointments are now every 3 weeks instead of every 2 weeks.

She’s going to school full time and doing well. At the moment she’s enjoying practising her school nativity play. She is opening the play and she’s in her element when on a stage, so she’s very excited.

Update 4th November 2014

Ella has been going to hospital each fortnight for transplant clinic. The doctors are happy although there’s still an issue with her heamoglobin level being low (which is ongoing) and her pottassium being high, but they assured me it can take a while to settle. Ella’s anti rejection meds are also making her hair fall out so we are also keeping an eye on that as it has gone very thin.

The good news is her growth is picking up, as at the beginning of the month growth hormone injections were being mentioned because she’s so low down on the height charts. However, over the past 3 clinics Ella has grown 2cm each time, so she’s definitely having a growth spurt and at clinic yesterday the doctor said we can hold off on the growth hormone injections.

Ella still has diabeties which I was hoping would have settled by now, but as she is still on steroids her sugars are going to be high, so she’s requiring regular insulin injections many times a day.

Update 18th September 2014

August has been a busy month with lots of clinic appointments to change Ella’s medication. She was having injections twice a day to thin her blood, but on top of all the insulin injections and finger pricks to test blood sugar, this wasn’t ideal. The medicine in this injection also really stings, so we were swapping for warfarin in a tablet form which is kinder than injections. However, this meant going every day to hospital for bloods until she reached the correct blood clotting level.

Whilst this was going on, Ella’s haemoglobin level dropped again so she needed a blood transfusion. This is not ideal for transplant patients so to prevent needing another Ella also had an iron infusion a week later.

The week before bank holiday Ella’s cmv infection returned, and although well in herself, this caused her creatine (kidney function) level to creep up which isn’t a good sign. She spent the week going back for bloods but each day it got higher, so Ella got admitted over bank holiday weekend and had operation number 41, which was for kidney biopsy and to start iv steroid infusions. We had a long 24 hour wait for results but luckily they came back ok and her levels had come back down. Luckily they could also stop steroid infusions as this caused Ella’s sugar levels to go through the roof and not even recording on the tester.

On a good note, Ella has been well and her legs are definitely getting stronger. She is using her walking frame for longer periods and getting more confidence using it.

Update 28th July 2014

Ella is doing really well (dare i say it!) and we’re nearly 3 months post transplant. Clinic appointments are now every 2 weeks instead of weekly. This is very strange for us as we’ve gone from going every other day, to weekly, and now fortnightly. It is a very nice strange though.

Ella had her 40th operation a few weeks ago to have her stent removed and her gastrostomy tube changed to a button as she needs this for all her medicines. Ella is still having to have blood sugars checked and is needing insulin, but she’s still on steroids and we’re not sure when these can be stopped. She obviously doesn’t like all the finger pricks and injections every day, but luckily will forget after a while. She is also still having blood thinning injections but the doctor did say we could possible swap for aspirin which would just be tablet so one less injection. Fingers crossed!

Update 5th June 2014

Ella had her kidney transplant on the 7th May and is doing well. She is still in hospital though as the steroids needed have affected her pancreas and she now has diabetes. We are hoping this will be a temporary thing but in the meantime she’s needing lots of insulin injections and lots of finger pricks to check her blood sugar levels which aren’t nice. However she soon forgets about them and is happy and playing again.

Ella got transferred to Manchester children’s hospital from GOSH last night (4th June) so we’re nearer to home now. We’ve been far away from family and friends for a long time.

Update 4th June 2014

Ella is on her way back to Manchester children’s hospital from Great Ormond Street after a good response to her kidney transplant.

Update 8th May 2014

Thank you for everybody’s messages, it has been such a hard 24 hours. The operation went really well (although it took 9 hours) but the surgeons were really pleased. She got taken back to theatre to open her up and look at the kidney as she wasn’t urinating, but thankfully after an hour the surgeons told us the kidney looks fine. They think it is just a sleepy kidney which is common, especially as the operation was so long.

She’s now doing 7mls per hour which we’re so happy to see as Ella hasn’t urinated since she had both her kidneys removed at 19 months old. Fingers crossed it starts to pick up more but after 2 operations in one day I’m not sure my nerves can take any more! It is never straight forward for my poor baby girl.

Update 2nd May 2014

Once again, plans were made to come back to Great Ormand Street on certain a date in preparation for transplant which is planned for 7th May. The day after getting this plan Ella’s dialysis line wasn’t working properly and then the next morning Ella had pulled it again. After a big panic and flap we got her to Manchester Children’s Hospital where we were blue lighted in an ambulance to Great Ormand Street. This was the day before Good Friday. Once at Great Ormand Street we spent the night trying to get Ella’s potassium/phosphate levels down. Due to not getting dialysis since the Monday these were high, as her body can’t break these down and are harmful and dangerous if too high. She was on 2 lots of different i.v meds and nebulisers hourly through the night to make her safe to go theatre. This took a while and she didn’t get to theatre until 12 midday. We were told this was a very tricky operation with no guarantees of getting a line in due to Ella having really bad access because she’s had so many lines previously. There was talk of maybe going into the liver but this was also very tricky. Luckily the surgeon got a new line in just above where her old one was. Ella had to go straight to intensive care on a ventilator after the operation as she was so fluid overloaded they struggled to get the breathing tube down her. They were worried if they took the tube out there would be problems, so she went to icu on continuos dialysis until all the extra fluid was taken off her. Two days later Ellaa was extubated (taken off ventilator and breathing tube taken out). On Easter Sunday Ella was transferred back to Eagle ward and allowed a little bit of easter egg. We’re still there now as it was felt best to stay here until transplant, so she’s had her ECHO ultrasound, chest x-rays and blood tests, all in preparation for transplant on 7th May. Throughout all this Ella has been oblivious as likes being in hospital and we’ve had chances to get out for walks and to the park.

Update 21st April 2014

Ella is now off the ventilator and has moved back on to the ward from ICU.

Update 19th April 2014

Ella is at Great Ormand Street hospital in PICU on a ventilator. She pulled her dialysis line out and as she didn’t get dialysis since Monday, all the extra fluid that built up made her extremely fluid overloaded. So she had operation 36 to put a new line in, which luckily they managed, as it is extremely difficult to find access. She went straight to picu and hopefully once all fluid is off they can take her off the vent.

Update 8th April 2014

After the past 2 transplant cancellations in February and March, Ella is now home and continuing her heamo dialysis at Manchester children’s hospital 3 times a week. We have been given a new “provisional” date for transplant as May the 7th. We would be going back to GOSH two weeks before (around 23rd April) so fingers and toes crossed and prayers it goes ahead this time.

Update 25th March 2014

Ella has had a very rough time after being admitted to hospital on 15th January with a line infection. She had to stay in for 6 weeks of iv antibiotics and whilst there we got a date for transplant, which was 19th February.

So, at the beginning of February we were transferred to Great Ormand Street Hospital from Manchester Children’s Hospital. Unfortunately, the day before transplant, whilst having dialysis, Ella had a seizure and the transplant was cancelled. She had an emergency CT scan and luckily this was ok and the seizure was due to the more intense dialysis washing out her medicines.

We were soon given a new date for transplant (18th March) and allowed to go home to return to GOSH on 11th March in preparation for transplant. A couple of days before leaving for GOSH we got a phone call saying transplant had been cancelled as there was a problem with theatre slots. We were assured this was all sorted so it left us all very angry and confused. Luckily, a few days later, we managed to get everything back on track and we went to GOSH the following day.

Whilst this was going on Ella had been complaining her leg was hurting and swollen and she wasn’t wanting to move it, so we got her leg scanned whilst at GOSH. This showed the muscle in her thigh was full of blood so she needed a trip to theatre which got cancelled at 10pm after being nil by mouth all day. Luckily, Ella went to theatre at 3pm the following day for operation number 36, to have her leg drained and leave a drain in.the operation went well and Ella was ok despite needing 100mls of blood draining just from muscle. The drain was removed the day before transplant, but after an echo scan on the same day, the consultants decided it was best to cancel the transplant again. So, in the space of a month we’ve had the transplant cancelled twice on the day before.

We are now at home but don’t have a new date yet. We’re waiting to hear back from GOSH as to what the next plan or date is. Ella is still in pain with her leg but nothing like it was, so we are hoping it’s just a case of needing time for it to heal, as she was left very badly bruised.

Update 23rd February 2014

Ella is being transferred back to Manchester Children’s Hospital today. We should have been going home today but because of her high blood pressure we’ve got to stay in hospital. She will be back to GOSH on 11th March ready to try transplant again on the 18th March.

Update 20th February 2014

Ella’s transplant didn’t go ahead yesterday after all the build up and planning and 6 weeks already spent in hospital. She had a seizure during dialysis on Tuesday afternoon (the day before transplant) so it had to be cancelled. Luckily, despite needing to be sedated and an emergency ct scan, there were no bleeds and they think it was all down to needing a higher dose of meds now that she is on anti rejection meds, as one of them lowers the seizure threshold. So it is a case of waiting for blood results for levels and also waiting for another date. More importantly though, Ella is fine in herself.

Update 5th February 2014

Ella is now at GOSH as we got transferred from Manchester children’s hospital today. I was hoping to get a couple of days at home next week before transplant as we’ve already been in hospital 3 weeks but we’ve been told we’ve got to stay in, so it’s looking like a very long stay ahead and far from home.

Update 29th January 2014

Ella has been in Manchester Children’s Hospital for the past 2 weeks. She had a line infection so is being kept in on 3 different iv antibiotics. Doctors have said they want her to continue the iv antibiotics for another 2 weeks, although this now may be longer as on Monday we got a phone call from GOSH with a date for transplant. The date is 19th February and so we may be on them up until transplant and are looking at a long stay in hospital.

Update 25th January 2014

We got a phone call from GOSH yesterday. Ella’s transplant will be on 19th February. She’s still in Manchester Children’s Hospital on ivs and will be for 3 more weeks. We are hoping we can go home for couple of days before we need to go to GOSH, but it looks like it will be out of this one and straight to GOSH, so we are looking at a long stay in hospital.

Update 6th December 2013

Ella has had a rough couple months and spent 5 weeks in hospital having 3 operations in the space of a week. This was due to problems with her central line which she’s dependant on for dialysis. Luckily the new central line was put in and an artery on the opposite side that had been blocked due to previous central line being there was unblocked and a stent put in to keep the artery open which was a relief. From this operation another clot was found which wasn’t there the week before and we found out Ella had abnormal blood clotting, so we had to stay in hospital on continuous heparin infusion to thin her blood and had to have bloods taken every 4 hours which was very stressful for her. She is now having this treatment by having an injection twice a day which she hates and gets so upset, but luckily after lots of cuddles she calms down.

As for the transplant, we were originally told it would happen before Christmas but that’s obviously not the case now, as we’re still waiting to hear back from GOSH. Despite all this Ella is very excited for Christmas and is loving all the Christmas songs and decorations.

Update 26th October 2013

Back home from an emergency admission / transfer from Manchester Children’s Hospital to Great Ormand Street Hospital. Ella’s line started playing up last Saturday as when connected to dialysis machine the flows needed to filter and clean her blood were not strong enough. After unblocking infusions it was a trip to theatre for a new line. This was operation 33 but unfortunately she came back from theatre with no line and the surgeon saying there is no way of dialysing Ella. Luckily, within hours we were on our way to Great Ormand Street and the next morning had operation 34. After a very long 4 hours a line was put in. It was a horrendous week but despite this Ella remained her cheerful self and just wanted to go in the playroom. We’re now waiting on a date to go back to GOSH for more detailed scans either next week or the week after.

Update 23rd October 2013

Ella was transferred to GOSH from Manchester children’s. Her operation on Monday night did not go to plan as the surgeon could not get a central line in which she is dependant on for dialysis. After a CT scan at Manchester, GOSH said they will try using balloons and stents, so Ella is in theatre now at GOSH having this done.

Update 1st October 2013

We’re still waiting to hear about next stage of transplant work up and still awaiting a date for this.

Ella has had a good month settling into her year 1 at school and likes her new teacher.

Update 18th September 2013

Ella had an echo scan at the hospital as build up for transplant. Luckily everything was fine so now we’re just waiting to hear back from GOSH.

A huge thank you to everybody who sent birthday cards for Ella. After looking at each card she shouted ‘thank you Post Pals!’. Huge thanks for the moshi monsters magazines too, I thought Ella was going to burst with excitement!

Update 21st August 2013

Tests are still ongoing with Ella’s Nanna who’s a blood and tissue match to donate her kidney to Ella but now is having scans and blood tests to see if her kidneys are working fine.

Next month will be 3 years since Ella’s transplant happened and failed within the same day and it was scary times as it is Ella’s only option, so it is very good news that Ella can have a second transplant as last year wasn’t an option due to poor arteries.

Apart from this Ella is enjoying the school holidays and continues to go hospital three times a week for her dialysis.

Update 31st May 2013

After having a new central line put in (after only having the last one put in on the 15th March) things have been ok. We are currently awaiting blood results from Ella’s Nanna to see if she is a match to donate her kidney. This will be Ella’s second transplant and due to the first one not working this transplant is being treated as high risk and being done at Great Ormand Street Hospital not Manchester. This means we will be a long way from home but it is Ella’s only option.

Ella continues to go hospital 3 times a week for her dialysis and enjoys using all her new colouring books and kits to occupy her whilst she’s connected to the dialysis machine.

Update 9th May 2013

After returning from Great Ormand Street where Ella had a new dialysis line fitted, this has since had to be removed and a new one put in. This was tricky as her access is poor, but luckily a new one is in and working.

In the past week we have heard back from Great Ormand Street, who after looking at results, have said there is a vein/ artery big enough for Ella to have a kidney transplant. This came with very mixed emotions as Ella’s first kidney transplant went very wrong. Last year we were told she was untransplantable though, so obviously this is good news now as transplant is the only option for Ella. We have no date or time span as to when this will happen, just that they will push for it to happen. A family member is awaiting an appointment to have further tests done to see if she can donate her kidney. In herself, Ella is doing well, enjoying school and getting excited for an upcoming holiday.

Update 1st April 2013

It has been quite a stressful month. Ella’s planned operation to create a fistula in her arm didn’t go ahead as the morning of the operation an echo scan showed a clot inside her main artery where her dialysis line lies. So another operation was arranged to remove the line as this would break the clot up or it would come out with the line and they would put a new line in. The operation seemed to go well and Ella was sat up wanting toast within half an hour of being back on the ward, but another echo scan showed the clot is still there and is in the same place and same size, so it felt like a waste of time. However, the operation provided an opportunity to put dye into Ella’s veins and arteries so the consultants can look at them and see if Ella can have a transplant again. We’re still waiting to hear back from GOSH so I’m not sure on the plan yet.

Update 9th February 2013

We are still awaiting the results of Ella’s scan she had done on her arms. It was to look at her main arteries and veins in her arms to see which would be best to create a fistula in her arm, as this is seen as a better way for Ella to receive her heamo dialysis in the long term because there is less chance of infection and it lasts longer than hickman lines do. We went down to Great Ormand Street for this and were then sent to Guys hospital for the scan. So up until we hear back from GOSH we won’t know what type of fistula Ella will be having and when. It is difficult trying to get information as Manchester children’s hospital have never put or used fistulas in children (just teenagers) so we just have to wait for GOSH to get in touch with Manchester and then let me know.

Ella had a short stay in hospital in January due to high blood pressure which led to her becoming unwell, but luckily was fine soon after.

Update 11th December 2012

Ella’s mri scan was cancelled last minute as her consultant decided it would be best for her to have a general anesthetic rather than just sedation, so that will be happening on the 7th January. Hopefully we’ll then get an appointment at GOSH to see a consultant as nobody at Manchester has created a fistula in a child as young as Ella (just teenagers) but luckily they have at GOSH. So, once we’ve had her appointment we will hopefully get a date for operation number 30. Ella needs a fistula creating in her arm for her heamo dialysis, she has always had rubbish IV access and has had lots of central lines which she uses at the moment, but central lines don’t last long so fistula is the best option for Ella.

Ella is very excited for Christmas and is looking forward to her school nativity play and Christmas party at school.

Update 12th November 2012

Ella is continuing her heamo dialysis 3 times a week at the hospital and going to school on the days we’re not at the hospital. She is doing really well at school and has settled in well in her first year at school.

After spending most of summer in hospital, we made it through October without admission.

Next month Ella is having an mri scan to see veins in her arms. This is so they can put a fistula in her arm so that we are not dependent on just the hickman line for her dialysis. We have to go to Great Ormand Street Hospital which we have never been to before, as no surgeon at Manchester children’s hospital or nearer to here has done this operation on children, only on teenagers, so it is all new for them as well as us. Luckily GOSH have done this on young children. After had scan at Manchester, we will hopefully get a date soon to go down to GOSH and talk about having the operation to create fistula in her arm. This will be Ella’s 30th operation but it probably won’t be until January.

Update 13th September 2012

Ella has had a rough couple of months as she spent most of summer in hospital. In May, we had to take her to A&E with the same reoccurring problem of severe tummy pain and vomiting. After being given way too much morphine and it not even helping, Ella had operation 27 to repair a huge hernia and to remove a small part of bowel and insert a support for her tummy wall where it had broken away. She also needed a new hickman line putting in as this operation meant she would have to temporarily switch to heamo dialysis instead of the dialysis she has at home (peritoneal dialysis) as any fluid going in would put too much pressure on the large scar after surgery.

Ella had a long recovery as she had high blood pressure and she’s had that much surgery on her tummy that things took a while to start again and then her scar started to open a little bit which needed vac therapy treatment. By the middle of July she finally came home although she’s still having to come to hospital every Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday for heamo dialysis.

Unfortunately, with being in hospital, Ella missed all the settling in days for her new school and we also had to cancel a family holiday. By August, the nurses tried her back on peritoneal dialysis, but the catheter for this was blocked so operation 28 went ahead in the hope of getting a new one in time for starting school. The operation seemed to go well as the surgeon managed to get a catheter in and although Ella was well and in good spirits when she first got back to the ward, I noticed after a few hours that she was breathing fast and had a high temperature and was then complaining of tummy pain. Three types of I.V. antibiotics were started but as days went on there was no improvement, so 4 days later Ella went back to theatre for operation 29 and unfortunately the surgeon had to remove the PD catheter and said her peritonaeum had adhesions that weren’t there 4 days prior, and although fluid went in, non came out, so home dialysis was no longer going to be an option.

The next day Ella started vomiting badly and needed an NG tube putting in to free drain all the bile in her tummy and was put nil by mouth. Luckily (and finally) by September and the weekend before her birthday, Ella started eating and drinking and moving about and being back to herself and was finally discharged from hospital.

Although Ella missed her first day and first week of school, she has started her ‘settlings in’ this week. She did an hour on Monday morning and did 2 and a half hours Wednesday and really enjoyed herself. It will be a long process settling her in and she still needs to go hospital for dialysis, but she can at least go to school on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays.

Ella also had a fab 5th birthday on the 9th September and enjoyed a party with friends and family. Thank you for all her cards and gifts!

Update 3rd July 2012

Ella has had a very tough 2 weeks and is still poorly in hospital. She had her 27th operation last week and needed part of her bowel removed – luckily only small part, but it was still not expected and she had to go straight to HDU. Ella also had a bad reaction to the morphine and had to be kept on oxygen and was also requiring blood sugars and gases done every hour so she was being pricked every hour. Due to the operation they had to change her form of dialysis – she was on peritoneal dialysis but has had to change to heamo dialysis to give her tummy a break. We are hoping she can go back onto pd dialysis before she starts school in September. Ella’s also had to be put on feeds as after 2 weeks she is still not eating or keeping fluids down. On the plus side, Ella is now off oxygen, morphine and ketamine, so I’m hoping things start settling down and improving very soon.

Update 16th April 2012

Ella had another stay in hospital with her re-occurring abdominal problem of extreme sickness and pain brought on by constipation, which resolved itself by day 4 . Doctors are thinking her intestines may be getting affected by her dialysis and numerous surgeries on her tummy, so not much can be done at this point apart from manage it as it occurs with i.v. pain relief and fluids, lactolose and suppositories. Unfortunately this admission happened on Easter Sunday so Ella not only missed out on celebrating that but she also missed out on going to see cbeebies live as we had tickets for her for that day.

On a better note, Ella is loving her new house and has more space to practice getting her legs stronger by being helped to walk about whilst we hold her hands. Her latest x-rays have shown her ankles are in a better position than they were 6 months ago too. They’re still not in the right position but are much straighter than they were so we’re hoping this continues now her parathyroid level has improved and she has the strength to try and get up on her feet. She also got a walking frame today which were excited about.

Update 8th April 2012

la is back in hospital again with the same symptoms as the last few admissions – very bad tummy pain and sickness. I’m hoping iv pain relief works better but we need to find one that works better because they said they can’t give morphine as it will make things worse (can apparently make you constipated).

Update 3rd January 2012

The operation Ella was due to have in October that got cancelled (due to her having a cough) is at present no longer required. She was to have her para thyroids removed as they were over active and causing all calcium to leak out of her bones. This was making her bones spongy and weak and so leaving her with bone disease and unable to walk. However, bloods taken since October have shown her pth levels drop from 2500 to 150 (this is still not a normal level as it should be below 50, but it is a huge improvement on what it was), and i am noticing the difference as Ella seems to have more strength in her legs and is always asking to be stood up. Although we still have to hold onto her, this is a massive improvement as she couldn’t do it before and would cry if we tried to get her to do it, so I’m hoping this continues.

A huge thank you for what you do. This is an amazing charity! Mornings can be quite stressful in our house with medicines and dressing changes, so when the post gets delivered my daughter gets so excited and soon forgets the trauma of sticky dressings and yucky medicines. I have often had to say to Ella to have the medicines quickly and then the post man will be here!

Update 5th March 2011

Ella’s operation went ok but unfortunately we can’t go home today as she now needs i.v. antibiotics because she had a high temperature, so we’re waiting on blood results.

Update 1st March 2011

Ella is having another operation on Friday to have a pd catheter fitted so hopefully when tested in a couple of weeks time we can go back to having dialysis done at home rather than in hospital. There’s no guarantees as her peritoneum was damaged but fingers crossed it has now healed and we can do dialysis at home as Ella has spent way too much time in hospital!

Update 14th January 2011

Ella has now been moved to the ward after spending a week on a ventilator in ICU. MRI and CT scans have shown little bleeds on the brain and sign of a stroke down to a condition called PRES (posterior reversible encephalopathy syndrome). We have to be patient as recovery will be a long slow process and we’re not sure by how much.

Today was good day though, she’s moving arms and legs a bit more and her eyes are focusing/following a little better. She also blew a kiss to her favourite nurse and gave her daddy a high five.

Update 8th January 2011

Please could everyone pray for my little girl Ella. She’s on a ventilator in ICU. MRI and CT scans have shown bleeds on brain. I just want her to get better so I can give her a huge hug. I’m missing my cuddles and need them more than ever.

Update 3rd December 2010

Ella had her kidney transplant in September, but sadly the transplant failed and Ella was only allowed home on the 2nd of December.

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Courtenay P

15 July 2011

Story written 2008

Courtenay was born on the 3rd October 1999. From the age of around 2 months, I noticed that her head was to one side. I asked the GP at her baby clinic and he told me that there was no need to worry, it was just a lack of head control, and at the time I accepted this. When she reached the age of one year her head was still to the one side and she was sleeping less and less. Her behaviour was also getting worse. She had brown patches but I didn’t think anything of it because I had them and so did her 2 other sisters and my Mum. I revisited my GP and insisted on a referral to the hospital, the paediatrician there put her problem down to glue ear and said she was purposely putting her head to the side because she was shy Courtenay is anything but shy!

I left it at this though deep down I knew there was something wrong and I didn’t know what. For the next 3 years it was the same. I was wary of going back to my GP because he said i was an over protective mother due to my other children also having problems at the time. Then in December 2003 I was taken into hospital doubled over in severe pain at first and I was thought to have appendicitis. The doctors did an ultrasound scan followed by a CT scan. They found a big tumour attached to my pelvis, spine and travelling down my right leg. It was thought to be malignant and I was transferred to the Royal Marsden hospital in London. There I was diagnosed with Neurofibromatosis.

This set the ball rolling and everything started to slot into place. The whole family were referred to a geneticist and tested for NF1. Courtenay and her 2 sisters were also diagnosed with NF. It was such a relief to find out that I was not going mad and the children’s problems were not all in my head. First Courtenay’s oldest sister was late sitting, walking, and had problems feeding. She was very underweight and small for her age. She also had lots of cafe-au-late spots, but they were overlooked. I was told I was worrying about nothing and it was normal for first time mums. Secondly, Courtenay’s behaviour was put down partly to our parenting and her neck was over looked. Armed with new knowledge, I visited her (thankfully new) GP. He took me seriously and suspected scoliosis and organised X-rays which confirmed this. Her spine is S shaped and her hips are lopsided causing her head tilt. Since then everything has gotten better for us and we have more support from doctors etc. Courtenay tries not to let this restrict her when playing football, but she is not able to play for longer than 10 minutes due to the pain. Her doctors allow her to play football but she has to take it easy, no saving goals etc. Courtenay will probably have her brace next year, even sooner if it progresses.

Regarding Courtenay’s younger sister Tyanna, luckily after my diagnosis she had support from the start. She has developmental delay and attends a main stream school with one to one support.

Having 3 other siblings with special needs and also having problems myself, it takes its toll on Courtenay and her behaviour can be challenging. She can be aggressive to her siblings but is always very remorseful because she often does it on impulse without thinking. She often comes home from school upset because she so often has to play alone at break times. Courtenay is a loveable, chatty and very funny little girl and would love to make new friends to exchange letters with. She is always writing me letters and posting them under my bedroom door.

Update 22nd September 2015

Courtenay still sings in various singing competitions, she loves singing and sings constantly at home and in the car.

She had a fantastic time in Bulgaria and made a lot of new friends. She enjoyed trying new foods and swimming in the pool.

She started back at school at the beginning of September and this year she’s doing her exams. I think she’s going to stay on an extra year and then going on to college to do midwifry.

We are still waiting for an appointment for her to see her back specialist. The last two appointments have been cancelled by the hospital for some reason and so we are waiting for another which will hopefully come soon.

Update 13th May 2015

Courtenay is growing up fast, she’s in her GCSE year and is currently doing a lot of revision. It only seems like yesterday that she started in comprehensive school. When she leaves school she wants to go in to midwifery so she has a lot of work and studying to do.

Courtenay is having a lot of problems with her back and it is causing her a lot of pain and discomfort.

Courtenay has an amazing voice and loves competing in singing competitions. She can sing anything from rock to ballards. When she has some spare time she loves sitting and looking after her disabled grandfather and helps around the house and makes him tea etc. She also loves going to the caravan and helping down there during the school holidays.

Thank you to everyone for the children’s post.

Update 2nd August 2014

Courtenay’s back problem has become a bit worse (pain wise) and scan results show that even though the curve hasn’t decreased as badly as they first thought, a brace wouldn’t be helpful as yet. They also diagnosed another problem called sheuermann’s disease which causes a curve at the top of the spine. This means she now has an S shaped one at the bottom and a C shaped one at the top, so it’s no wonder she’s in a lot of pain. The doctor has referred her for more physio which I’m a big skeptical about as last time it didn’t help at all. I’m also a bit angry as I read that sheuermann’s can sometimes occur with scoliosis when a brace could have prevented it. She was told she needed a brace years ago but it kept being held off.

She has just enjoyed a lovely holiday in Bulgaria where she let nothing hold her back. She tried out all the big rides despite the fact that it caused her a lot of pain. She just wanted to be like other teenagers, which I can understand. She was a hit with other guests and often had them laughing. She also wowed them with her singing.

She’s going into her GCSE years next year and wants to work her socks off as she wants to be a midwife. Along with her siblings, they made loom bands at the hotel on holiday using all their own bands and raised over £230 lev which is about £95 in our money. It’s to help send underprivileged children to Lapland.

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to write and send to the children, it’s really appreciated.

Update 10th March 2014

Firstly, I’d like to thank everyone for sending cards, letters and parcels, to Courtenay, Tyanna and also Cameron.

Courtenay is having a lot of problems with her back. She attended the Royal Gwent Hospital in Newport last Friday. She had x-rays and is currently waiting an appointment for an MRI scan to see what’s happening in her back. She has been advised to start going swimming on a regular basis to help her back muscles.

Courtenay is still doing well at school and is going into her GCSE year. She’s decided to go to college to learn either midwifery or teaching.

In April, Courtenay, Cameron and Tyanna are attending a week long PGL camp with me as one of the helpers. There’s a lot to organise and we are all looking forward to it. We will be abseiling, etc.

We hope everyone is ok and keep smiling.

Update 15th August 2013

Courtenay has had an up and down couple of months. The pain on her back has been getting worse causing more sleepless nights. It is often reducing her to tears but she keeps on going and tries not to let it restrict her, but she pays for it pain wise later on.

Her paediatrician thinks that the hump on the top of her back is more pronounced and has referred her to her orthopaedic doctor for an emergency appointment, bringing the appointment forward by 4 months. She is seeing him on 6th September.

Courtenay had a lovely time at the Post Pals party entertaining everyone as usual. She was really thrilled to see Kate W again and wouldn’t leave her side. They had quite a few giggles together.

She enjoyed a lovely school trip to Paris. She loved visiting the art galleries and seeing the sites. She also enjoyed tasting snails for the first time – yuck!!!!!!!! On the first night she was quite ill and violently vomited all night but was right as rain next morning. She was also very brave there and helped protect her friend from pickpockets. There was a scuffle and she was knocked down some steps and she banged her head – she was a bit shook up but ok.

At the end of July we had a lovely holiday in Clacton-On-Sea. The friends we went with also had NF so did some of their children. The children liked the fact that the others knew how they felt and what they were going through. She was also chuffed to see her idol Peter Andre’s brother there and stood at the front of the stage the whole time he was on.

They were all due to go to a NF Camp with the Children with Tumours charity on 26th August. For some reason though it all fell through and it was cancelled. The children were gutted as had been really looking forward to it. Fingers crossed though it will go ahead in April next year.

Courtenay is looking forward to starting in year 9 in September. She’s determined to study hard because she’s decided that she wants to become a social worker and I’m in no doubt that she will achieve her dreams as she gives everything her all.

Thanks to everyone who has thought of the children and taken time to write, email and mail them as it really means a lot.

Update 9th May 2013

Courtenay has had a up and down time since November. She has had to stop playing netball which she loved. The pain in her back has been a lot worse lately. Her paedatrician has referred her back to her orthopedic doctor for an urgent scan. Her school has been great because instead of doing PE she now mentors the other children due to her enthusiasm. She’s doing really well at school and scoring 1 – 2 years above her age level. In english it is around 3 – 4 years. We are very proud of her achievements as she tries not to let anything hold her back.

On the down side, the lack of physical activity has made her gain weight, which is so self conscious about. She’s now doing her best to try and lose some.

We have also been given the good news that her aunty is in remission from cancer.

Courtenay is due to go to Paris with the school in July which she is looking forward to. Our family is also due to go to an NF camp in August by the charity The Children with Tumours Charity.

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to write and post to our children, it has been greatly appreciated.

Update 1st November 2012

In August we went on our family holiday to Benidorm. We went with friends so Courtenay, Cameron and Tyanna, had other children to play with. Courtenay didn’t need this because as usual she made lots of friends around the pool both young and old. Courtenay wowed everyone by singing karaoke – she has found something she real enjoys and that’s singing.

She hasn’t been too bad pain wise but seems to smile through the pain and doesn’t let on that much when she is hurting. She is still having physio which I’m not sure really is helping. They found that along with her scoliosis she has another spinal problem and another condition with her neck.

She was really upset as she wanted to join rugby with Cameron but there is no way that she’d be able to do it with her problems. She has been referred to a dietician too, because partly due to her medication and also not been able to exercise, she has put on a lot of weight in the last year. She has also comfort eaten a lot since her favourite Aunt was diagnosed with cancer. Luckily, her Aunt has just finished her last chemo. Her Aunt also loves spending time with Courtenay because Courtenay really cheers her up and looks after her.

In September, Courtenay and the rest of the family attended a NF camp at PGL in Surrey and it was an inspirational weekend. It was so lovely as all the children had the same condition as Courtenay and Tyanna. Cameron also loved it and made lots of friends. At the end of the trip awards were given out and Courtenay won the making us smile award which was so fitting for Courtenay! There was not one thing Courtenay refused to try, you could see that Courtenay was in pain trying things but she wouldn’t give up until she achieved what she wanted. They all did us proud.

Courtenay also won school merits for high scores in History which is a subject she excels in.

Thanks so much to everyone who has sent emails, gifts, cards and letters, it is such a comfort to know that people are thinking of us.

Update 9th April 2012

Courtenay has been complaining more often about pain. The specialist brought her appointment forward by 3 months as they had interesting findings to why she is in pain. Along with her shaped spine due to the scoliosis caused by her neurofibromatosis, she has 2 other problems. She also has another condition that I can’t remember the name of but it causes a hump at the top of her spine which can become increasingly painful and he seems to think the majority of her pain is caused from this other than her scoliosis. She also has a muscle that is too short on one side and pulls her head to that side. There is an operation to correct this but the success rate isn’t that great. Courtenay has declined this and at the age of 12 we decided to let it be her decision as she definitely knows her own mind.

Courtenay has also gone through a horrible period of bullying by girls who are 4 years older than her, causing her to become very upset which is unlike her. She has also gone through a period of cyber bullying, though she was more upset at what they were calling Tyanna due to her learning difficulties, than what they called her. She is made fun of about her weight gain due to the meds and also her scoliosis. Luckily the school cracked down on one girl and she was excluded – the school threatened to get the police involved too. This has helped it calm down at the moment and Courtenay has some lovely friends to help her through this.

Thanks to everyone who has taken time to email, write, and post to the children. They look forward to them all and love reading about Dottie’s adventures – Cameron loves to read the letters to Tyanna and no one else is allowed to do the job, only her big brother!

Update 8th February 2012

Courtenay has been a bit better this month. Last month and the month before that she was plagued with viruses and infections – as soon as one would go she would come down with another. She is still having the physio on her back that helps with the pain but won’t do anything for the curve. Luckily, the curve is still stable though.

She hasn’t heard back from Britain’s Got Talent which means she didn’t get through. She is fine about this though as she just loved the day out and wants to try again next year.

Courtenay has been a bit upset the last few weeks as her favourite auntie has just been diagnosed with colonic cancer and Courtenay found out about it and is really confused by it.

Unfortunately I have also had to have a lot of visits to hospital this last month. I’ve had lots of PET scans as my consultant is very concerned about a new tumour on my knee.

Tyanna has also had to see a specialist as they said the tumour under her ribs is a plexiform (which can be a rarer side effect of Neurofibromatosis) and is in danger of growing larger. They said that her NF will probably be more severe like mine but I will cross that bridge when I come to it. They don’t think it is safe to remove because of where it’s situated and don’t want to do a biopsy as they don’t think it’s sinister and think because of her learning difficulties she won’t stay still for a MRI scan.

Update 24th November 2011

Courtenay has had an up and down past 2 months. Her pain has returned and the meds are not really helping. She has also been plagued with infections and illnesses, having one on top of the other. She currently has a nasty chest infection on top of a water infection. This is leaving her so lethargic and she is sleeping all the time. It is so out of character for Courtenay as she is usually a bundle of energy.

She has settled well into Comp and made lots of new friends and has become quite popular. She has been put forward to be part of the school council and in her election speech she told them she wants to me the next Martin Luther King! She was also part of the school Stars in Their Eyes competition – she was entering as Adele but sadly on the day of the competition she came down with her latest infection.

Earlier this month she went for an audition for Britain’s Got Talent. She had a fantastic day and whether she gets through or not she really loved the experience. If she is lucky enough to get through we will know by the end of January and if she doesn’t it will be in March.

She has been having the physio which is helping a little but she is often in pain for a few hours afterwards. She is also taking part in a scheme for healthy eating. She is doing really well in this and has lost half a stone which is doing wonders for her confidence.

Thanks everyone who has taken the time to write and send gifts to the children, it’s really appreciated. Sorry if they can’t always write back. The balloons put a big smile on their faces and was so lovely to see when they opened the boxes and a lovely balloon floated out.

Update 4th September 2011

Courtenay has had a good month and has just come back from a lovely holiday in Kusadasi in Turkey. We almost didn’t have a holiday at all because 6 days before we were due to fly the company we were with went bust. We had to book another holiday and pay again though we will be getting most, if not all, of the money back.

On holiday she spent most of her time in the pool, which is excellent physio for her and eases her pain a lot. While in Turkey she made lots of friends, especially a Turkish/Irish girl of the same age, they both broke their hearts when they had to leave but have promised to keep in touch.

Everyone we met there instantly fell in love with Courtenay saying that she was the funniest little girl that they’d met with the biggest smile and that she should be on stage! Even the Turkish loved her and would always stop her when they saw her for a chat; one even said that if he ever had a little girl he would want her to be exactly like Courtenay!

The holiday was event free and there were no doctor or hospital visits – this is what usually happens on holiday with Courtenay! The worst that happened was a cut foot!

It took our minds off all of the doctor and hospital visits that we knew we had to come back to. Tyanna has an appointment about her tumours on 8th September, Courtenay a follow-up on 12th and I go down to London on the 28th.

Courtenay has also asked if she could enter Britain’s Got Talent this year. She has a lovely singing voice so I filled the application form and sent it off. I will keep you posted on how she does.

She is due to start Comp tomorrow; she is very excited but very nervous at the same time. She looks very grown up in her uniform and very smart too!

Lastly, thank you so much for all the letters, cards and gifts, which were sent to the children. The stationary came in very handy for them going back to school and Courtenay has her Liverpool set all packed ready for tomorrow. The Dottie letters are a definite hit with Cameron and Tyanna, they love hearing about her adventures and always recognise the envelope that they come in.

Sorry for the delay in thanking for some of the letters as we have had no access to her PO box address for the last 7 weeks. Thank you again, everything you do is so much appreciated by the whole family and we love seeing the smiles on the children’s faces.

Update 9th August 2011

We have received some worrying news about Courtenay’s sister Tyanna this month. She had a scan as there looked to be a lump under her ribs. The scan showed 3 tumours and another on her head. These are causing her a lot of pain, though she rarely complains and uses it to her advantage thinking we can’t tell her off for being naughty! There is a high probability of them being benign and they most probably are. It is just the 10% bit that worries us. I also feel guilty for passing it on.

On the good side though, Courtenay has had a good few months. Her broken fingers have healed well. She is still waiting to see the specialist for bone density scans and tests. She has coped well with the pain and is doing really well. She has been away with my parents to Aberystwyth and wowed the other holiday makers with her singing. We are due to go to Turkey tomorrow for 2 weeks after losing the first holiday when the holiday company went bust.

She is also starting a diet and fitness children’s course in September. It is her own choice because she is being badly bullied due to her weight gain from her medicines. Some children are so cruel and it breaks my heart to have her sobbing in my arms about it. She is looking forward to doing it though. I’m going to do it with her as I could do with losing weight. The rest of the family are going to support her too.

Update 26th June 2011

Courtenay has had a good month or more. She is still in pain but that is usual for her. She enjoyed a lovely week with her Grandparents at their caravan in Aberystwyth. It’s quiet there and the peace does her the world of good.

She had another accident that landed her in A&E with as badly sprained arm. They are on first name terms with her now because she is up there so often! She enjoyed coming from there with a sling as it got her out of writing in school for a few days!

She was gutted that she missed the Post Pal party this year, she was torn between there and going with a trip with the PLG, as it was the last year that she would have been with some of her friends, as she is going to Comp in September. She was chuffed to know that she was missed. Cameron and Tyanna had a wonderful time there and Courtenay thought the caricature of Tyanna was fab and wished she had one herself! She had a lovely time at the PLG though.

She saw her back specialist on 28th and he noticed that she was developing in a bit of a hump on one shoulder. He isn’t too concerned at the moment but wants to keep an eye on it. On the good side though there is an improvement on her neck and she is able to hold her head up straighter than she could. She has been given exercises to do to improve it. It is painful for her to do this but she is getting results so she pushes herself. We have been given other physio exercises to do at home and we’re still waiting to see her physio again.

Thanks to everyone who sent mail to the children as it is always greatly appreciated. Tyanna loved the birthday cards with her name on, she showed everyone as we can’t find things with her name on unless it’s specially made. Cameron and Courtenay loved their personalised things too.

Also, thanks for such a wonderful party, so much work must have gone into it and we were made to feel so welcome.

Update 26th April 2011

Courtenay has had a good month. She hasn’t had many sleepless nights due to pain and it has been really manageable this month. She had an accident a few weeks back though. We had to take her to hospital and at first they were going to operate because they thought that she had broken the eye socket. As they were looking for a bed, another maxio facial doctor examined her again and luckily found that there wasn’t a break there. They could not rule out a hairline fracture until the swelling had gone down and the bruising subsided though. She had to visit the hospital every other day for a week and half.

Sabina Gatland and the girls from Sandwell Academy in West Bromwich arranged for Courtenay and her Dad to go to a Liverpool and West Brom match, along with a overnight stay in a hotel with breakfast included. When they arrived at the hotel there was a prezzie waiting for Courtenay, it was a big signed picture of Steven Gerrard, she was over the moon. Courtenay loved every bit of the match and even though Liverpool lost she couldn’t have cared less!

Last weekend we took the children to Swindon for a weekend meeting of other people who have the same condition (neurofibromatosis). It was really good for her because apart from me and her sisters she had never met anyone else with the same condition. She had a lovely time and made lots of friends, the group meets up every 3-4 months so we will be going back in July.

Thanks to everyone who sent the children cards and prezzies. They had a lot of fun planting the seeds too.

Update 6th March 2011

Sorry that I haven’t updated for a while, we have been rushed off our feet with hospital appointments etc.

Courtenay has had her kidney and bladder scans plus various blood tests that we are waiting for the results of. She’s had her routine appointment with her paediatrician who is referring her for other tests. Firstly to a dietician because Courtenay has put on a lot of weight in a short time even though she is eating healthily and the same amount as her siblings. He thinks that she may be retaining water so he wants to make sure of that also. Personally, I think it is because she can’t be as active as she used to due to the back, neck and leg pain from her scoliosis. It limits her a lot which can be really upsetting for her. He has also referred her back to her physiotherapist for help with exercises that may help her pain wise. He has also suggested that she goes back to see her clinical psychologist that she used to see for her behaviour and ADHD because she has started to get extremely angry again. It isn’t unsurprising with all she has to cope with, as myself and two of her siblings have NF as well and her brother has Aspergers. It’s a lot for her to cope with along with her pain, appointments etc.

Something happened last month that made Courtenay’s year, she had a letter from Sabina G and the year nine pupils at Sandwell Academy. They offered 2 tickets for Courtenay and a parent to the Liverpool and West Bromwich match and they also included overnight accommodation. I was really made up with this as Courtenay’s face was a picture; she hasn’t shut up about it since!

Thanks also to everyone included in the Dottie project – Tyanna and Cameron received their Dalmatian and they decided to call her Poppy.

Thanks to everyone else for their kind words and letters sent to the children. I cannot thank you enough.

Update 21st January 2011

Courtenay has had an ok month; she hasn’t been in too much pain and has only had a handful of sleepless nights.

She took part in her school play and did really well in it. She had a really good school report and the teacher informed us that she is really bright. On the down side though, she finishes her work too quickly and then gets distracted and bored.

She went to her Aunt’s party last week and went up on the stage with the singer and sang solo. We found she has a lovely singing voice and hit all the right notes. She sung Journey, Don’t Stop Believing (her favourite song).

She had her kidney scan earlier today to find out why she keeps getting infections. Her kidneys are fine but they said that her bladder isn’t emptying properly and is retaining urine and that is why she keeps getting infections. She has written to our GP with the results and we will know more then.

She is due to see her paediatrician on 25th February so I will let you know how it goes.

Thanks again to everyone who sends messages etc as they make such a difference.

Update 2nd January 2011

Thanks to everyone who sent post this Christmas, the children are getting around to sending thank you letters to those who left addresses and Tyanna especially loved the reindeer letters. Thank you for everyone who posted, it was so generous of you. The children loved their parcels and Courtenay was so thrilled with all the Liverpool FC items that she was sent. I cannot say thank you enough.

Update 22nd December 2010

Courtenay has been feeling a bit better this month, though she has had yet another infection and has just finished her fourth lot of antibiotics in 5 weeks. She has now been referred for kidney scans and we are unsure how long she will be on the waiting list for.

Her sister Tyanna has had a brilliant recovery from her burns, they looked terrible at first but looking at her now you can hardly tell that she’d had an accident. She has one more appointment now and will then be discharged.

Courtenay is still in pain with her back, neck and legs but all we can do for that is to make her comfortable and give her pain relief.

Courtenay took part in her school Christmas concert and had the part of a rapper, she was so funny and had us all in stitches.

Courtenay has been upset this week as her Great Uncle passed away on Monday. It was a sudden death and not expected because even though he was in his 70’s he was in good health and full of life.
Thank you very much to everyone who sent the children cards, Reindeer letters and Elf parcels, it is so much appreciated by us and the children that you have taken the time and effort to do this. They are all sitting under the Christmas tree ready to open on Christmas morning.

Thank you all again and have a lovely Christmas from Courtenay P and family xxxxxx

Update 21st November 2010

Tyanna, Courtenay’s little sister, had a very nasty accident yesterday. She ran into the kitchen as Andrew was making burgers and he tripped over her and hot fat tipped over Tyanna’s face, chest, arm and shoulder. We are devastated. I managed to treat her in the house until the ambulance came. I put her under the cold shower but she couldn’t tolerate this and was starting to go into shock so I wrapped her in wet towels. She was then transferred from our local hospital to one with a specialist burns unit. They were concerned because the burn on her face was over her left eye and they were worried about damage to it.

At the hospital she was examined and we were told the burns to her chest, shoulder and arm were superficial, but the burn on her face was a little worse. They said that the water and wrapping in wet towels helped the burns from getting worse. They think that the burn on her face is going to leave a scar. We are devastated for her because she has such a pretty little face and her Dad is heartbroken and feels so guilty. We have to take her back to the burns unit on Wednesday where we will know more.

Whew, this has been a horrible month with Courtenay’s illness too and I’ll be glad when it is over, though Courtenay is almost back to normal now.

Update 10th November 2010

Courtenay has had a really bad month this month. Her pain has got to the point where she has it by day now, as well as the sleepless nights. She is sobbing in pain now most days and all our GP will give her is Nurofen medicine because she has a problem swallowing tablets. The medicine is useless and doesn’t relieve her pain at all. She is not due to see her paediatrician for another 2 months or orthopaedic doctor for another 3 months. I have been trying to get them to rush another appointment through for her. Our GP isn’t much help because I don’t think he really understands her condition as ours is the only family with Neurofibromatosis on his books.

Courtenay is still really brave though and tries to carry on as normal and fights against the pain to try and play sports but sadly she pays for it later as she is in agony after.

It was also upsetting for her because I was taken into hospital with complications due to my NF. Courtenay is very close to me and found the separation difficult and worried about me with the drips etc. It was really difficult but I asked her Dad to keep her away because I hated seeing her upset by them.

The children loved making the designs for the Post Pals Christmas Cards and it was a project that they managed to do together without fighting!

On the good side though Courtenay won an award from the teacher for her language skills, and her reading and story writing is about 4 years above her age. She has assured me that she is going to be an author when she grows up. She also came first in her Halloween competition and she was thrilled about that.

Thank you so much again for all the post, parcels etc that are sent to the children. We can’t thank you enough; they make a big difference in the children’s lives.

Also, God bless Jaz. Heaven has gained another angel. My deepest sympathies are with the family; my prayers are with you all. Fly High Jaz xxxxxxx

Update 6th October 2010

Courtenay has had an up and down month both physically and emotionally. She has had a return of the severe back pain and has had some sleepless nights. All we can do is to comfort her and give her pain medication. She has also started to have headaches; I am hoping that her NF isn’t going to affect her the same way as myself because I have severe migraines from it. The GP has told us just to keep an eye on things for now and to go back if things persist or worsen.

Courtenay’s best friend has been critically ill with a bad form of Meningitis and this affected Courtenay a great deal because they spent a lot of time together and Courtenay couldn’t understand why she wasn’t allowed to visit her in intensive care. Luckily she is now making a good recovery.

Courtenay also loved to use her bike when the pain allowed her to, but sadly it was stolen from outside our door and Courtenay was heartbroken over it. We bought Courtenay a new bike for her birthday which she was thrilled about but she hasn’t been well enough to use it yet.

A massive thank you for all the letters, cards and gifts that Courtenay and her siblings received, they love reading the letters and feel so important to receive them.

Update 7th September 2010

Courtenay has had a really good month. We have just come back form a 2 week holiday in Turkey. Courtenay really enjoyed herself; she spent most of the time in the pool which eases her back pain a great deal. She is really becoming a strong swimmer and loves the physio exercises we sneak in also! This is the first holiday in 5 years that she hasn’t ended up at the doctor’s surgery or hospital. It was a close call for me though after a nasty Sea Urchin sting!

Thank you so much everyone for all the lovely gifts and letters – sorry for the late reply but we have been away. The children also LOVED their pillowcases, thank you so much to everyone involved.
Courtenay is pleased to go back to school; it is now her last year in Juniors before Comp next year. Also, we are really proud of her sister Chelsea who passed all of her GCSE’s and has just started 6th form to do her A levels.

Update 10th August 2010

Courtenay has had a good month, she saw her paediatrician who says that everything is ok for now. Courtenay is waiting to be referred for hearing tests because we find that we have to say some things over and over before she answers. Firstly we thought that it maybe stubbornness but her teacher expressed a concern about Courtenay’s hearing.

We are frustrated about the bone density tests because the paediatrician is no longer referring her for them. It’s difficult because that doctor doesn’t specialise in NF and wasn’t taking our concerns seriously. Courtenay has had 4 breaks in 2 years, the last she woke up in bed in the morning with.

Last week I saw my own NF specialist in London and I asked about Courtenay’s breaks and if there could be a link with NF. She says yes definitely because in NF bones are more brittle and thinner. She is now trying to refer Courtenay to a NF paediatrician at Guy’s hospital.

Courtenay had another accident the other day, she caught her finger and ripped the nail off, so she had another visit to hospital. She is very accident prone but the clumsiness is due to NF (or so we have been told).

We are all going to Turkey for 2 weeks on 14th August so we are hoping for our first holiday without a hospital or doctor visit with Courtenay. Our holiday insurance is well used!

I am so glad that fellow Pal Jon Paul is showing signs of improvement. Jon Paul, I think you are an inspiration to us all.

Update 11th July 2010

Courtenay has had a much better month this month than the last. She has still been in a lot of pain some nights but has coped much better. She is still waiting for an appointment to see someone about doing bone density tests to see if her bones are more brittle than usual. She has had 4 broken bones in 2 years which is a lot and they have broken so easily – the last her toe she broke during her sleep and even she doesn’t know how she has done it. Apparently some people with NF can have more brittle bones than usual.

Courtenay is due to see her specialist on 3rd August – she was due on 27th July but the date was postponed by the hospital.

We all loved meeting you at the Post Pal party last month; it was so nice to put faces to names. We all had such a lovely time and we can’t thank you all enough for making us feel so welcome.

Courtenay has had a lovely break with her Grandparents in Aberystwyth and it did her the world of good, she really had a lovely time. We had to collect her a few days early because she was going away with the school the day later, so she came home on the Thursday. I only had one night with her and then she was away again. Thank goodness though this was only for 2 nights!

Thank you so much everyone who sent the children letters – Sarah H, Fleur R, Jodie, Sarah G, Seth, Kate W, and Susan C. Courtenay also had a letter from St Joseph’s Catholic College in Swindon. The teacher, Liz Howell, had heard about Post Pals during a Year 7 assembly. They thought it would be nice to write to a person on Post Pals and said that they chose Courtenay because she didn’t live too far away from them. Lots of the students wrote to Courtenay. So thank you to Liz H, Mileigh L, Mitchell S, Kyle, Megan Louise P, Gaby, Gino, Reagan, Lionel P, Angel L, Sebastiao, Olavo, Aneshka S, Jay, Macvil, Rosalia and everyone else at Post Pals.

Update 22nd June 2010

Thank you everyone for Tyanna’s cards and gifts. To LAURA – Tyanna loved the princess gifts, she’s a little Diva!

Hopefully we will see you all at the Post Pals party on Saturday. We will do our upmost best to get there. It is a long way for us (an 8 hour round trip) and Courtenay has not been well this week, but I’m sure this will cheer her up no end.

Update 8th June 2010

Courtenay had an appointment with her orthopaedic doctor today. She had more x-rays of her spine because he is concerned that she is developing a hump on one side. The x-rays show that the ‘S’ shaped curve is stable and hasn’t got any worse. There is a curve the other way that he wants to keep an eye on, but is happy with at present. There is nothing he can do to help with the pain and he said that we just have to give her paracetemol, which don’t really help.

He is unsure weather the reason for her head tilting is muscular or because of the scoliosis. I just wish they could make their minds up because one doctor is saying one thing and another is saying another thing.

She doesn’t have to go back to see this doctor for another 6 – 12 months. Luckily though, she smiles and jokes through it all.

Thanks for all the parcels and letters sent to Courtenay and her siblings, they really love reading the letters and cards.

Update 11th April 2010

Sorry we haven’t updated for a while – I have been at the Royal Marsden Hospital in Surrey for an operation.

This hasn’t been a good month for Courtenay as she has been in a lot of pain and we are waiting for her to see someone about it. I have also had lots of hospital appointments in London which is a 4 hour drive each way from where we live and I am gone all day for them. This has had an affect on Courtenay because she is aware of something going on. I have also been an inpatient at the Marsden and Courtenay has missed me a great deal and because it is so far away from us she has been unable to visit, but we kept in touch by telephone so that helped a little.

Courtenay has also broken another bone (her little toe) and we are asking for bone density tests or something similar to be done. This is the 4th bone in 2 and a half years. We are unsure weather the NF could have something to do with it as she hadn’t even bumped her foot, she just woke up with it hurting and x-rays showed the break. She loves the crutches though.

Thank you for the letters and gifts that have been sent to the children, you have no idea how much a letter cheers them up. Thanks so much everyone.

Update 12th February 2010

Sorry I’ve not updated for a while but Courtenay has had a really good month. She is coping with the pain a lot better and doing lots of after school activities. She is coming on really well at school and has none of the learning difficulties that can be associated with NF. She still has lots of visits with her physio but is at last seeing an improvement.

Thank you so much for the birthday cards etc for Courtenay’s siblings, Chelsea and Cameron. They loved them. Thanks also the Valentine gifts; they were a lovely idea too.

Thank you very much from us all.

Update 20th December 2009

Courtenay has had an up and down month. She has had another bad episode of tonsillitis and other infections. She has been sick a lot and missed a lot of school.

She has been in a lot of pain with her back but due to other illnesses she has been unable to go to her physio.

She was chosen to be a monkey in the school play and she was very funny doing her monkey dance and had the audience laughing.

She was picked to sing in the school choir and visited churches and nursing homes to sing carols.

She is due to see her specialist on the 23rd December. We will update you on that in the next update.

Also thank you very much for all the cards and parcels that have been sent to Courtenay and her siblings. They loved the elf and reindeer letters, its adding to the Christmas magic and excitement for them.
So a very big thank you to everyone and we wish everyone at Post Pals and all of Courtenay’s friends a very Happy Christmas and a very happy New Year.

Update 4th November 2009

Courtenay hasn’t had a good month. She had her arm put back in plaster due to breaking her thumb and she had the plaster off last Thursday. She has also had tonsillitis as well so she’s had a bad month.
A big thank you to all the gifts and cards that Courtenay has received over the last couple of weeks, especially those from overseas.

Since Courtenay has been back in school she’s been doing really well, although she doesn’t like her new teacher.

Tyanna has gone Micheal Jackson mad. When she gets up in the morning and comes home from school, she switches MTV on and sits patiently in front of the TV until his records come on. When they come on she dances and sings. Last Friday i took her, Cameron and Courtenay to see the new Michael Jackson film “This is it”. The cinema was packed (of empty seats) there were just six of us in the cinema. We as a family are getting a bit fed up now because Tyanna has told us that she wants to marry him as well!

Chelsea is in her GCSE year and says that she’s going to stay on a year, but we’re not sure what she wants to do for a career. Maybe she will decide what she’s going to do before September.
Thanks again for all your support where Courtenay is concerned.

Update 19th August 2009

We hope that everyone is having a great summer holiday and enjoying themselves.

Courtenay’s holiday started with a bang as she finished school on the Friday and broke her arm on the Saturday, so the best part of the Saturday night we were in the local A+E department having her arm set in plaster.

As she was due to go on holiday with her grandparents, she was worried that she wouldn’t be able to go in the swimming pool, but the doctor told her the plaster would only be on her arm for three weeks. She was vey happy about this. Three weeks later, as promised by the doctor, her plaster came off. She was told that it was only slightly broken but she needed to take care with her arm for two weeks.
I took Courtenay and her grandparents (plus their dog) to the caravan park. Courtenay had a fantastic time doing everything that she wanted to do, such as swimming and dancing. She even did kareoke. On the 15th of August i took her eldest sister Chelsea up to the caravan for the night, as we thought it would be a good idea to go up the night before i brought everyone home because of the travelling distance.

Hope everyone enjoys the rest of their holidays.

Update 20th July 2009

Courtenay has had another fall and broken her right arm. She did it on the first day of the school holidays. Sadly she can’t go into any pools etc.

Update 6th July 2009

Courtenay had an accident on the third day of our holiday in Bulgaria. She ran through the patio door as there were no safety stickers on the windows or patio doors. She ended up cutting all her knee and elbow which resulted in her using a wheelchair for the last 10 days of the holiday. Courtenay didn’t enjoy the rest of the holiday at all.

She was rushed to the nearest paramedic station where she had her cuts seen to and glued and bandaged. She would have had them stitched if she hadn’t been so stressed. When she got back to the hotel there was no concern about her injuries. We were presented with a bill for the window (300 levs) which we weren’t happy about and we also had to pay out for the hire of the wheelchair. We are claiming back medical bills from the insurance.

Before this happened Courtenay was a very happy child who was in the pool all day and running around with the friends that she had made. After the accident, she was in a wheelchair for 10 days and she was bored because she couldn’t run around and do what she wanted to do.

On the plane back home we were diverted to Birmingham due to pilot error – he basically overshot the runway. Courtenay was allocated an extra two seats due to her injuries, but ended up having one extra seat. She had to sit with her legs across Sharon which wasn’t comfortable for either of them at all and we finally got in to Cardiff 5 hours later via bus.

Where Courtenay’s back is concerned, she is attending physio to strenghten the musles. She has to go back to Newport to see the specialist at the end of the month, so i will keep you posted.

Last Saturday, Courtenay, Chelsea, Cameron and Tyanna, were involved in the local carnival. Chelsea and Courtenay were lady in waiting and flower girls on the head float. Cameron and Tyanna were dressed up as pirates on the third float and they all looked fabulous in their costumes.

A big thank you to all of the support, letters, etc, that Courtenay and the rest of my children receive from Post Pals.

Update 15th June 2009

We have just arrived back after 2 weeks in Bulgaria with Courtenay and her siblings. We had a horrendous time as Courtenay ran through a glass patio door that she thought was closed because there were no warning stickers on it. She suffered bad cuts to her knee and elbow and she had to be rushed to hospital and then return daily for treatment. She spent the last 11 days of the holiday wheelchair bound and couldn’t enjoy the beach or the pool etc. I felt really bad for Courtenay because she was so looking forward to this, but she is also lucky as it could have been a lot worse.

Update 20th May 2009

Courtenay has had a great deal of pain with her back and neck this month and because of this her behaviour is beginning to deteriate. At her hospital visit we were advised that Courtenay should have a series of physio therapy sessions to try and strenghten her back muscles. If this fails then Courtenay will have to have an MRI scan. After that we will be told what treatment she will be having. Due to this constant pain she has been advised to finish football and she didnt like that news at all.

Courtenay has been very excited the last couple of weeks because we’re going as a family to Bulgeria for 2 weeks. She has been trying to organise the areoplane seeting arrangements.

Courtenay’s mam is very nervous at the moment because she doesn’t like dentists and she has to go to the University Hospital of Wales to have a wisdom tooth removed tomorrow.

A very big thank you to all of Courtenay’s friends on Post Pals for all their support, love and best wishes.

Update 6th May 2009

Courtenay has not been well this week and is home from school because she has had a very bad chest infection and been staying in bed mostly. It has knocked the stuffing out of her leaving her with no energy.

Her doctor has also told her that she can no longer play in football matches. This has greatly upset her because she was so limited as to what she was allowed to participate in. On the good side, he has told her that she can take part in light practices but has to refrain from the match at the end of practice.

Update 13th April 2009

Courtenay has had a good month, although her behaviour is deteriorating due to the pain she is in. Courtenay has to go back to the hospital on the 24th April to have a further check up. Hopefully we will find out what is happening with treatment this time.

We are trying to keep Courtenay as active as possible. If the weather is fine she goes to her friends and plays on the trampoline or Sharon takes her for walks etc. Courtenay’s sister Tyanna has started Brownies too and enjoys it very much. She is only five and gets tired very easy though.

I took Courtenay, Cameron and Tyanna out on Tuesday. They didn’t know where they were going. I told them we were going to get Sharon’s birthday present. They soon changed their attitude when I pulled up outside KFC. The three of them enjoyed it very much and they enjoyed Adventure land even better. Courtenay has had a fairly good school holiday so far and hopefully the rest of the holiday will be just as fine.

Thank you to everyone for their kind support regarding Courtenay and a happy belated Easter to you all.

Update 1st April 2009

Thank you very much to Sarah Gilligan for your lovely letter and activity packs, it was very nice of you to think of us. It will give us lots to do over the Easter holidays.

Update 26th March 2009

Thank you to whoever sent Courtenay the teddy bear. She has been in so much pain this month and having a hard time of it. She’s needed lots of cuddles. The teddy bear really cheered her up.

Luckily, complaining about her postponed appointment did the job for once and they have rushed her an appointment through for the 27th. I will keep you posted with the results.

Update 17th March 2009

Courtenay has had a problematic month which has affected her behaviour. She has been suffering from a lot of pain in her back and neck. The specialist in Newport had to cancel Courtenay’s appointment because of annual leave. This appointment was pushed through as a matter of urgency because of the pain that Courtenay is having. We were told that a new appointment would be sent out as soon as possible. Both Courtenay’s mother and I were very annoyed over the matter and we made a complaint, so hopefully we will hear something soon. The scan that Courtenay had on her tummy went ok and we will know the results when she sees the doctor.

Courtenay’s Nan has bought a new puppy which they’ve called Taffy. Courtenay has spent quite a lot of time at her Nan’s since the new puppy arrived. She loves having the puppy on her lap and stroking it. The puppy was allowed out for the first time last week. It is getting carried more than it is walking at the moment. I think it will be a different story when the puppy gets bigger. Sharon went out and bought it some squeaky toys last week – they will drive Sharon’s father mad. Sharon’s father was also taken into hospital at the weekend which upset Courtenay very much.

Update 3rd February 2009

Courtenay has had a good month considering she is in a great deal of pain with her back. Although she is in pain, Courtenay is trying to keep as active as she can by playing football. She has an ultrasound on 13th February in Caerphilly hospital. We will let you know the results as soon as we receive any feedback from the hospital.

Courtenay, Cameron, Tyanna, Sharon and I, went to see Aladdin with the school to Cardiff’s New Theatre. We had brilliant seats and we all enjoyed it. Peter Barlow from Coronation Street played the part of Jafar the evil Wizard and he did a good job as well. The pantomime was in 3D which was very effective; it made us jump in some parts of the play, but we all enjoyed it just the same. We got home to New Tredegar around 6.00pm and very tired.

Courtenay is doing really well in school, especially with her reading. She is in front of the rest of her class in this subject. She gets on very well with her teacher and he always has good things to say about her. She is also doing really well with her violin class in school and she was very excited when she found out that Sharon and I had bought her a violin of her own. A couple of weeks ago, along with a few of her class mates, she entered a dance competition which was held at her elder sisters Comprehensive school. She did very well and they are supposed to be doing another one shortly.

On 31st January we went to McDonalds and then we went to a local Kids Adventure Land for Cameron’s 7th Birthday. Courtenay, Cameron and Tyanna were very tired when they got home, but they enjoyed themselves very much.

A big thank you to all of Courtenay’s friends at Post Pals for all their support love and letters.

Update 1st January 2009

Courtenay has had a much better few months. The pain has not been so bad and she has handled her emotions much better.

At the beginning of December she had an appointment with her paediatrician. The doctor thinks that it is important for her to have an ultra sound scan on her kidneys. She also needs another type of scan to check for tumours in her tummy. The doctor is also trying to rush her spinal doctor, due to the decline in her condition. She has also recommended that we and Courtenay take another course with Courtenay’s psychologist.

Courtenay has had a very busy and exciting month. She was fantastic in her school play. She had the part of cuddly dog. Courtenay also had another concert with her Brownie troop. She was dressed as Elvis and we all fell about laughing at her in her outfit. She even borrowed her sister Chelsea’s guitar to look the part.

Christmas was a very busy day in our house hold. Courtenay woke the entire family at 4am and would not go back to sleep. We eventually gave in to her nagging at 5:45am. Courtenay was thrilled because she had a laptop and Wii from Santa; we hid the laptop until later on in the day.

For New Years Eve we allowed her to see in the New Year but this backfired as she got wound up and didn’t go to sleep until 3.00 am.

Courtenay’s parents would like to thank all of the Post Pals that sent Christmas cards and gifts to both Courtenay and the rest of her siblings. The children loved the letters from Santa’s reindeers as it helped to keep the magic alive and build up the excitement until Christmas day.

HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all!

Update 22nd December 2008

Thank you everyone so much for the lovely cards, letters and gifts that were sent to Courtenay P and her siblings. They especially loved the letters from Santa’s reindeers. It is keeping them so excited. I’d like to wish everyone a very Happy Christmas and lots of prayers for everyone.

Update 8th November 2008

This month has been both up and down for Courtenay. She has been in a lot of pain this month due to her scoliosis. The pain has been very intense which has caused Courtenay to lose sleep and this has been very difficult for her.

In turn, understandably, this caused her behaviour to deteriorate which has caused her to be very aggressive and bad tempered towards her siblings.

To give Courtenay and her siblings a break she went to stay with her Auntie for a couple of days which she really enjoyed.

This month also has ups. On October 3rd Courtenay celebrated her 9th birthday. She enjoyed reading the letters and cards that she received from Post Pals. She even took them to school to show her friends and teacher.

She had fun at her school Halloween disco. She dressed as a little devil and looked very cute in her outfit.

Thank you once again for your kindness towards Courtenay.

Update 30th September 2008

Courtenay’s had a very good month so far. She came back from her grandmother’s house in Northern Spain to rain drenched Cardiff. Courtenay started back to school and has got a new teacher. She doesn’t like him very much because he tells her off every now and then for getting her numbers the wrong way round (her number 5’s). I had a talk to her teacher this morning about the matter and apparently Courtenay isn’t the only member of her class that is having problems. Apart from that she is doing great. Courtenay is in the top band for spelling and reading and is getting on great with her school mates.

Courtenay is now in Brownies and two weeks ago, along with around fifteen other girls, she enrolled. This was a special enrolment because they had to enrol in sign language. This was a major achievement for Courtenay because of the complexity of sign language alphabet. She accomplished this with flying colours.

Two weeks ago Courtenay got to stay at her cousins on a sleep over. She enjoyed this very much because she got to stay up extremely late – until 3.00am. When she got up on the Saturday morning she had a chocolate breakfast, so she was most probably mental for the majority of the Saturday morning!

In football, her uncle Adrian (her football coach) informed me that Courtenay would make a fantastic winger because she is fast with the ball. She is doing really well in football and this year so far she has won two trophies. The way she is going we will have to have a shelf just for her trophies!

Sharon had to go up to Guys hospital in London on Thursday for her results of her biopsy. Everything was fine; in fact the doctor was very impressed with Sharon’s weight loss. Her weight was causing Sharon a great deal of discomfort, especially where the tumour is situated (in Sharon’s back). Her doctor is that impressed and happy with Sharon that she doesn’t want to see her for another nine months. Good news all round. The only problem that occurred was the transport side of things. Guys hospital would not supply Sharon any transport this time round and told her that she had to provide her own transport. This meant that Sharon had to get up at 4am to be in Cardiff to catch public transport to London. Sharon didn’t get back home until 10.30pm Thursday night which meant she was extremely tired.

Update 10th August 2008

We have just got back from Alcudia. We had a fun packed two weeks and went to lots of different places, such as the beach and hydro park. Sharon went paragliding while we were at the beach. This was my wedding anniversary present because it was something that she wanted to do and she enjoyed it very much. At the end of the first week Sharon and I took Courtenay and Cameron to Hydro Park where there were at least 10 different kinds of slides, a wave pool, and about 6 different pools.

Courtenay had a tough time during the second week because she had blisters on her shoulders. She had to stay out of the pool and sea for a few days until they dried up. We made lots of new friends and the weather was very hot. In the evenings we saw tribute bands to the Jackson Five, Spice Girls and High School Musical. The Jackson Five had Courtenay up on the stage with them and called her the sixth member of the Jackson’s.

On 24th August, Sharon and Courtenay are going back to Spain to spend two weeks with my mother and step father at their home. Courtenay is looking forward to this as she will be able to have one to one attention with Sharon and see my mother.

Thanks for all your support and friendliness towards Courtenay. She would like to thank everyone for their cards, letters and presents. She loves receiving it and reading her mail. She keeps it all in her keep sake box. She was also thrilled when Kim from the Nintendo magazine wrote to her (Kim also has Neurofibromatosis) and told her that if she drew a picture of her favourite Nintendo character she would print it in the magazine. Courtenay drew a picture of SpongeBob SquarePants and Kim kept her promise and printed the picture. We were all very proud of her. This was a brilliant achievement for Courtenay because she has never had anything printed before.

Update 12th July 2008

On 13th June Courtenay went on a school trip to Drayton Manor. She was so brave as she went on all the thrill rides and wasn’t the least bit scared. The only rides she didn’t go on were the ones she was too small for. She had a brilliant time and bought lots of joke gifts to play on people during the journey home, including fake snot and dog poo YUK!!

On 20th June I (Courtenay’s mum) had to go into hospital for surgery on my foot (a removal of a NF tumour). Luckily it was day surgery so I was home the same day. Courtenay was great trying to look after me; she was fetching things for me over the weekend. I was in a lot of pain and I had to go back to the hospital with a blood clot in my leg. Over the next week I was back and forth to the hospital for scans.
It was Tyanna’s birthday on 21st June and so Courtenay’s dad took them to McDonalds in Newport. From there he took Courtenay and her two sisters and cousin to a local adventure play centre. They were gone the majority of the day and Courtenay had a great time and let off a lot of steam.

On 26th June I had to go to the Royal Marsden hospital in London (which is a four hour car journey from New Tredegar) for a biopsy on the tumour in my pelvis. It was difficult for Courtenay as I had to leave her and she is very clingy to me. She had the driver in stitches when he picked me up.

Whilst I was in hospital Courtenay had another football presentation where she was awarded another trophy. It was presented to her by Darcy Blake who plays football for Cardiff City Football Club. He lives in the same town as us. Courtenay was very proud of herself and so were the rest of her family. Courtenay doesn’t let the NF and Scoliosis get her down.

We are hoping the next month will be a better one as currently I have to inject myself with blood thinners on a daily basis. We are awaiting the results of my biopsy from Royal Marsden too. Courtenay has really tried to look after me this month and she has taken it in her stride when she’s had to be left with relatives while I’ve been in hospital. She is excited about the school summer holidays and I’m sure she’ll be keeping everyone entertained and she hasn’t lost her smile.

Thank you to everyone for Courtenay’s post, you have been so kind and she is thrilled to receive it.

Update 4th June 2008

Courtenay has been thrilled with all the kind letters and cards that people have sent her. She has especially loved the handmade ones with her name on. It has been keeping her busy trying to reply to all the letters. She enjoys reading them to me and it’s also helping with her reading. So thank you for accepting Courtenay on the Post Pals site, it has been so lovely to see her face light up every time she has post.

On 7th May Courtenay had an appointment with her psychologist. There isn’t much she can do to help us at the moment because we insisted from the start that we didn’t want Courtenay to have medication unless we had a 100% diagnosis for the ADHD or things worsened.  Now we don’t have to see her for 6 – 12 months because we decided to go along with the behavioural therapy option at home. We strongly believe this is better for Courtenay as she needs consistency.

On 17th May Courtenay’s brother, Cameron, had his official diagnosis for Asperger’s Syndrome. This didn’t come as a shock as his autism specialist already said she was 99% certain he had it and it was just a case of one more person going to see him in a school setting to confirm for sure. In a way it is a relief to get it in writing because we feel we have closure and know why Cameron behaves as he does. He is a lovely little boy just a little different. Rough play as other boys his ages do frightens him as he prefers his own company. It also helps because he can get the extra help at school.

On 19th May Courtenay played in a football tournament although she could only manage 2 minutes of play due to pain. Despite this, her team ‘The Wasps’ won the whole tournament and each child came home with their own trophy. Courtenay came into the house grinning from ear to ear, she was over the moon and we were so proud of her.

On 27th May Courtenay had an appointment with her paediatrician. She informed us that she was still unsure whether Courtenay’s behaviour is due to ADHD. We are frustrated at this as at the end of the day we’d like closure and a diagnosis for Courtenay’s sake. It’s not fair on her being shipped back and forth. Despite this she agrees that Courtenay does have very bad behavioural problems that she says are probably due to the Neurofibromatosis. She wants us to go to child behavioural classes which I refused. I’ve done about 5 so far; they don’t help and are not suitable for Courtenay because her behaviour is not always her fault. We find the behavioural therapy we did with her psychologist is far, far better for her. Courtenay thrives on one to one attention, we try our best with this but it is not always easy because having all 4 children with special needs and having a lot of problems due to NF myself, it is hard to split our time. Courtenay recognises when her behaviour is out of control and when calmed down she always apologises and feels really bad about it.

Courtenay started Brownies on 28th May. They were starting a group near us and she wanted to join although was a little concerned that it may be too girly for her as she is a tom boy! She is already a member of the scouts, football, youth club and after school club, so she is a busy little girl! She loved it though and it all her fears were quashed. Courtenay was the most chatty and energetic but her leaders were brilliant with her. They were trying to organise a summer trip out and asked Courtenay where she wanted them to take her and she said Spain! I’ve taught her well! She enjoyed the whole session and can’t wait to go back next week.

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